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Thursday, March 6, 2014

Personal, - Etiquettes of Seeking Knowledge - I













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Abu Rifaa‘ah, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, came to the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, while he was delivering a Khutbah )sermon( and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I am a stranger who came to ask about matters of his religion because he does not know about his religion.” The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, looked at him, stopped delivering the Khutbah and went to him to teach him the religion until he knew and understood. After that, the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, continued his Khutbah.
After the death of the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, Ibn ‘Abbaas was keen on asking the Companions, May Allaah Be Pleased with them, about the sayings of the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. Whenever he learned that there was a man who knew any Hadeeth of the Messenger, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, he would go to him and if he found that man sleeping at noon, he would sit at the door. He would wait for him until he woke up to the extent that he would be covered by the sand of the desert because of the wind.
When the companion would go out to meet Ibn ‘Abbaas, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, he would say to him: “O cousin of the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, why did you come? You should have sent someone for me and I would come to you.” Ibn ‘Abbaas, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, would say: “No. I am the one who should come to you to ask you about the Hadeeth.” ]Al-Haakim[
Knowledge has a great status in Islam as the first verse that was revealed called for learning. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}Recite in the name of your Lord who created-{]Quran 96:1[
Allaah The Almighty Swore by the very tool of writing, the pen, as He The Almighty Says )what means(:}Nun. By the pen and what they inscribe,{]Quran 68:1[
The Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, confirms the lofty status of knowledge and this is why it made the way of seeking knowledge one way of entering Paradise. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“Whoever follows a way to seek knowledge, Allaah will make easy for him a way to Paradise.”]Al-Bukhaari, Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi[
Moreover, the reward of knowledge reaches the deceased and it never stops. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“When a person dies, his deeds will all come to an end except for three: continuous charity, knowledge from which people derive benefit, and a righteous child who would supplicate Allaah for him.”]Muslim[
The angels surround the seeker of knowledge with their wings as Safwaan Ibn ‘Assaal Al-Muraadi, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, said:“I came to the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, while he was in the mosque reclining on a red cloak of his and I said to him, ‘I came to seek knowledge.’ He said, ‘Welcome seeker of knowledge. Indeed, the angels surround the seeker of knowledge with their wings.”]Ahmad and At-Tabaraani[
Knowledge is divided into communal and individual obligation. There are some aspects that every Muslim should know such as what Muslims should know about their Lord, religion and Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. Communal obligations relate to knowledge of scientific specializations that some Muslims should learn in order to meet the needs of the society such as industry, agriculture, medicine and other fields of everyday life.
Knowledge is the path that Muslims take to know Allaah The Exalted as He should be known. For this reason, those who have knowledge are those who fear Allaah The Almighty the most. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}Only those fear Allaah, from among His servants, who have knowledge.{]Quran 35:28[
There are etiquettes for seeking knowledge that one should adhere to and they are:
•Sincerity: The one who seeks knowledge should have a sincere intention and should not do so for the love of fame or dominance. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“Actions are based on intentions and every person will be rewarded according to what he has intended.”]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, also informed us that“Among the first category of people who will enter Hellfire on the Day of Resurrection is a man who acquired knowledge and taught it )to others( and recited the Quran. He will be brought to Allaah Who Will Make him recount His Blessings and he will recount them. Then Allaah Will Ask him, ‘What did you do with these blessings?’ He will say, ‘I acquired knowledge and taught others, and recited the Quran seeking Your Pleasure.’ Allaah The Almighty Will Say, ‘You have told a lie for you only acquired knowledge so that you may be called a scholar and you recited the Quran so that people would say ;He is a reciter’ and such has been said.’ Then orders will be passed against him and he will be dragged with his face downward and cast into Hellfire.”]Muslim[
•Seeking beneficial knowledge: The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to say in his supplications:“Allaahumma innee a‘oothu bika min ‘Ilmin la-yanfa‘, wa ‘amalin laa yurfa‘, wa-min du‘aa’in laa yusma‘ )O Allaah, I seek refuge with You from knowledge that does not benefit, deeds that are not accepted and a supplication that is not answered.(”]Ahmad, Ibn Hibbaan and Al-Haakim[
•Devoting one’s time for seeking knowledge: It was said, “You cannot gain some knowledge until you devote all your time.” The righteous predecessors used to appreciate knowledge and devote their time to it. This is because knowledge is vast and life is short. It was said, “Seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave.”
•Purifying the soul from bad morals: Beneficial knowledge is a light Granted by Allaah The Exalted in the hearts of His pious slaves and He Does not Grant it to those who have bad behavior and corrupt morals. Thus, a Muslim who seeks knowledge should avoid envy, showing off, and all other reprehensible acts and bad morals.
•Seeking knowledge at an early age:It was narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“Any young child who seeks knowledge and worships Allaah until he grows up, Allaah Will Grant him on the Day of Resurrection the reward of seventy-two steadfast affirmers of truth.”]At-Tabaraani[
It was said, “Learning at an early age is like carving on stones.” The elders should not be shy in seeking knowledge. It was narrated that Qubaysah ibn Al Mukhaariq, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, said:“I came to the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and he asked me, ‘What has brought you here?’ I said, “I have grown old and my bones have weakened so I have come to you to teach me something that Allaah Will Beneficent me with.” The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said, ‘You have not come upon a stone, a tree or even dirt except it has asked Allaah for forgiveness for you O Qubaysah. If you pray the Fajr prayer, then say three times, ‘Subhaanallaah Al-‘atheem wa bihamdih )Glory be to Allaah The Great, and with His Praise(, you will be healthy from blindness, leprosy, and paralysis. O Qubaysah, say: 'O Allaah, I ask You for what You Have, Be Generous with Your Favors upon me, Spread Your Mercy over me, and Descend Your Blessings upon me.’”]Ahmad[
•Working does not prevent seeking knowledge: Many of the Companions, May Allaah Be Pleased with them, used to work. They would seek knowledge for the remainder of the day after returning from their work. They used to stay up late at night to study the Quran and Hadeeth.
It was narrated that Abu Sa‘eed, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, said: “We used to go to battles and leave one or two men to listen to the Hadeeths of the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. When we would return, they would tell us the Hadeeths that they learned from the Messenger or Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, then we would narrate these Hadeeths. ]Ibn ‘Asaakir[ Hence, it is permissible to combine seeking knowledge and working and seeking sustenance from the Bounties of Allaah The Exalted.
•Having patience and tolerance: A Muslim should be patient when facing difficulties and seeking knowledge as patience is the provision of the believers and it helps them endure the hardships and pain that they face. It was said, “The one who does not endure the humiliation of seeking knowledge for an hour, will remain in the humiliation of ignorance until the Hour )i.e. Day of Resurrection(.”
•Seeking knowledge gradually: The one who seeks knowledge should start with the basics and preliminary sciences before diving into it. And this should be according to the directions of his teachers. One should be diligent to know all sciences and not to leave any of them.
Yahya ibn Khaalid, May Allaah Have mercy upon him, said to his son: “You should learn some of each branch of knowledge as man is the enemy of anything that he is ignorant of and I would hate for you to be an enemy of any branch of knowledge.”
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•Specialization: If a Muslim wants to specialize in one science, he should choose the most honorable branch of science and the most beneficent one that suits his abilities. It was said, “If you want to be a scholar, you should know everything about one thing, but if you want to be cultured, then know something about everything.”
•Memorizing with understanding and reflection: The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“May Allaah Brighten the face of the person who hears something from us and memorizes it until he transmits it to others. Perhaps the one whom it reaches comprehends it better than the one who heard it. Or perhaps the one who heard it never comprehended it”]At-Tirmidhi[ This indicates the importance of memorization.
•Documenting: It was said, “Write down knowledge.” It was also said, “Knowledge is like game that is hunted and writing catches it.” Hence, we should write down knowledge in order not to forget it and carefully choose what we write. It was said, “There are three categories of people who listen to the scholar; the first one writes down all that he hears; the second does not write but only hears, while the third selects and he is the best among the three”.
•Studying and reviewing: Mu’aath ibn Jabal, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, said:“Seek knowledge as seeking it for the Sake of Allaah leads to fearing Him, and seeking it is an act of worship, studying it is Tasbeeh )glorification of Allaah(, searching for it is Jihaad )a difficult struggle(, teaching it is charity to those who do not have it, and conveying it to those who deserve to learn it is a good deed.”
•Arranging learning hours: A Muslim should always be well organized in all his affairs and should be keen on organizing his time and spend it in gaining knowledge and know-how.
•Avoiding shyness in seeking knowledge: Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}So ask the people of the message if you do not know.{]Quran 16:43[ ‘Aa’ishah, May Allaah be Pleased with her, said:“The best women are the women of the Ansaar, shyness did not prevent them from comprehending their religion.”So the Muslim should ask about that which he desires to know more of and shyness should not prevent him from asking. For knowledge is a treasure kept in chests and the keys are questions.
•Traveling to seek knowledge. Jabir ibn ‘Abdullaah, May Allaah Be Pleased with them, said,“It reached me that a man heard a Hadeeth from the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, so I purchased a camel and rode it for a month until I reached Ash-Shaam. I knew that this man was ‘Abdullaah ibn Unays. I told his gate keeper to say to him, ‘Jabir is at the door.’ The gate keeper said, ‘Jabir ibn ‘Abdullaah?’ ‘Yes,’ I replied. So ‘Abdullaah rushed out and embraced me and I embraced him. I said, ‘It reached me that you heard a Hadeeth from the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, concerning Qisaas )retribution( and I feared that one of us might die before I get it. So Abdullaah ibn Unays mentioned to him the Hadeeth.”]Ahmad and At-Tabaraani[
‘Ubaydullaah ibn ‘Adiyy, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, said: “I knew about a Hadeeth that was heard by ‘Ali, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, and I feared that I might not find it with anyone else if he died, so I travelled to him and found him in Iraq.” ]Al-Khateeb[
Ibn Mas‘ood, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, said: “If I knew of someone who I can reach by riding my camel and who is more knowledgeable than me with what was revealed to the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, I would go to him to increase my knowledge.” ]Ibn ‘Asaakir[
Ash-Sha‘bi, May Allaah Have mercy upon him, said, “A man travelled from the furthest reaches of Ash-Shaam to the furthest reaches of Yemen to listen to words of wisdom. I do not perceive this travel as a loss.”
•Applying what one learned; Allaah The Almighty Disapproved of those who do not apply what they know and likened them to donkeys that carry )heavy loads of( books, but do not understand what they carry. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}The example of those who were entrusted with the Torah and then did not take it on is like that of a donkey who carries volumes ]of books[.{]Quran 62:5[
Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}Do you order righteousness of the people and forget yourselves while you recite the Scripture? Then will you not reason?{]Quran 2:44[ So a Muslim should know with certainty that he will be asked about what he put forth for himself during his life. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“The slave will not step forward on the Day of Resurrection until he is asked about his age and how he spent it, his knowledge and what he did with it, his wealth and how he acquired it and spent it, and about his body and how he used it.”]At-Tirmithi[
•Respecting the teacher: a teacher has a great virtue upon his students.
•Listening attentively: Al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali, May Allaah Be Pleased with him, said to his son: “O son, when you sit with scholars, be more diligent to listen than to speak and learn to listen attentively just as you learn to be quiet. When you ask, your questions should be for the purpose of understanding and realizing, not for arguing or showing deficiency.”
•Observing etiquettes during learning sessions: A Muslim should sit with his teacher politely and calmly. He should not keep turning his head, pointing or laughing. He should present himself in a pleasant manner, be clean and avoid speaking or asking questions until taking permission. One should not belittle his colleagues or mock them, rather he should know that they are his brothers in knowledge so they should be shown mercy and respect.
Among the reasons that help in gaining knowledge and studying is to study in a location that has adequate light, quiet and freedom from distracting noises. One should avoid studying in bed as this makes one feel sleepy. Moreover, books should be arranged well and organized. And one should give his body its right by resting occasionally. He should choose the right time for studying and divide this time appropriately to study all branches of science.







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Dought & clear, - The punishment for zina (fornication, adultery) and how to keep oneself from going back to it













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The problem is that I am a young man of thirty years of age. I got to know a girl who is nineteen years old who used all kinds of means to get to know me and get close to me. Without much talk or discussion, she went with me to my flat and I had intercourse with her dozens of times. There was a moment when I felt that I was about to die and I wanted to repent. I went to my father and asked him to get me married, and in fact I got married to a righteous girl from a respectable family. My main aim in marriage was to seek a woman who was religiously-committed, and this is what happened, for she is religious and is the daughter of a respected shaykh.
But my problem has become worse. Despite the fact that I have been successfully married – in everyone else’s eyes – for over a year and a half, I suddenly realized that I still feel love for the first girl with whom I had intercourse, and I am not able to leave her. Since I got married, I have not touched her or gone near her, but not a day goes by without me getting in touch with her by phone, and I do not want to hide from you the fact that I masturbate with my hand while I am speaking to her on the phone. I feel as if I am trapped by this girl and now she is not after me as much as I am after her. When we meet I feel scared to touch her, because I fear going back to zina.
My problem is simply psychological, which is how to discipline [?] myself and convince myself to keep away from this girl for once and for all, even though my wife is more beautiful than her and is better and she does everything she can to keep me chaste. Hence I despair of myself and I do not know how to sort myself out, despite the fact that everyone around me describes me as being good-hearted, loving good for people, shedding tears for the calamities and needs that befall people; they say that I try harder to do good for people than they do themselves, happily and willingly, and without them knowing about that, following the words of the Messenger of Allaah, “A man who gives in charity and conceals it so that his left hand does not know what his right hand is giving.”
Please help me to that I can be content with myself and be a righteous person.
Praise be to Allaah.
We ask Allaah to relieve your distress and that of everyone who is distressed. From your question we may note the following:
1 – The fact that you have cut off the route to the Shaytaan, and are preventing him from continuing to tempt you, by getting married is something commendable, which points – in sha Allaah – to the goodness in your heart.
2 – In order for you to be sincere towards your Lord in your repentance, and so that Allaah may change your bad deeds (sayi’aat) into good deeds (hasanaat), you have to stop thinking about the first woman. Do not follow in the footsteps of the Shaytaan, and do not get carried away thinking about her, let alone speaking to her on the telephone, let alone meeting her, let alone doing anything that is more serious than that.
3 – Since it was thinking of death that led you to leave the first woman and get married, you should never stop thinking of it. This is the best advice a person may be given, whether he is falling short in obeying Allaah, or he is doing something that earns the wrath of Allaah. This is what gives the one who is falling short the motive to strive, because when death comes, good deeds are no longer recorded. It also gives the one who is doing evil actions the motive to stop and give them up, because a person’s deeds are judged according to his last deeds. It is sufficient for you to think of one thing: what if Allaah were to take your soul when you were masturbating while talking to this woman? What if Allaah were to take your soul when you were having unlawful intercourse with her?
My brother, think about it. Do you want to come out of your grave on the day when mankind is resurrected, holding onto your private part? Do you not see the great difference between this and between being resurrected prostrating or reciting the Talbiyah (as on Hajj or ‘Umrah) or remembering Allaah?
4 – The way in which you describe yourself makes us feel that there is much that is good in you, so beware of losing the reward for this goodness by having a bad end. Beware of depriving yourself of the reward for these virtues by committing such a major sin that will bring the wrath of your Lord upon you.
5 – You have no excuse for this relationship, for you are married to a woman who – as you say – is more beautiful and is better than the first one, so why not thank Allaah for giving you a halaal means of satisfying your desires? Why are you not content with that which Allaah has decreed for you of permissible things?
Your sin in doing these haraam deeds is worse than if you were not married. You are not single, rather Allaah has blessed you with the means of satisfying your desires in a permissible way. So whenever the Shaytaan makes you think of her (the first woman), go to your wife and seek refuge with Allaah from the Shaytaan.
6 – We give you the best advice, which is to make du’aa’. Get up in the latter part of the night and beseech your Lord, submitting yourself to Him and humbling yourself before His Majesty, asking Him to rid you of the problem. Turn to your Lord and call upon Him, for He is the best One to be asked – may He be glorified – and He does not turn away His slaves if they are sincere.
7 – Do you know that by thinking of this girl, getting in touch with her and meeting her, the Shaytaan may cause you to fall into that which you did before? I hope that you will not be over-confident and think that you will be able to resist, for the one who is ruled by his desires is weak, and whoever walks for a few steps with the Shaytaan will walk with him to the end. But you should know that you are incurring the wrath of the Compeller (al-Jabbaar) and that you are committing one of the gravest acts of disobedience against Allaah aftershirk.
Imaam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: I do not know of any sin after murder that is worse than zina, and he quoted as evidence the hadeeth of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood who said: “O Messenger of Allaah, which sin is the worst?” He said, “Setting up a rival to Allaah when He is the One Who created you.” [‘Abd-Allaah] said: “Then what?” He said, “Killing your child for fear that he may eat with you.” [‘Abd-Allaah] said, “Then what?” He said, “Committing adultery with your neighbour’s wife.” And confirmation of that was revealed in the Qur’aan:
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment”
[al-Furqaan 25:68]
You must also understand the effects that zina has on the soul (or on one’s psyche). Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Zina encompasses all the characteristics of evil: lack of religious commitment, loss of piety, loss of chivalry, lack of protective jealousy (gheerah). You will not find any adulterer who is pious, or keeps his promises, or speaks truthfully, or is a good friend, or has complete protective jealousy towards his family. Treachery, lying, betrayal, lack of modesty, lack of awareness that Allaah is always watching, lack of chivalry, loss of protective jealousy from the heart – these are the effects and implications of zina.
One of the effects of zina is that it earns the wrath of Allaah because His sacred limits are transgressed. If a man were to do such a thing to any king, he would meet the direst consequences. Another effect of zina is the darkening of the face, and the grimness and misert of face that are apparent to other people. Another effect of zina is darkness of the heart and the extinguishing of its light, which is what causes the extinguishing of light in the face and the darkening thereof. Another effect of zina is the poverty that it leads to. Another effect of zina is the loss of respect towards the one who does it, and the lowering of his status in the eyes of his Lord and in the eyes of His slaves. Another effect of zina is that is causes him to lose the best of attributes, namely chastity, goodness and righteousness, and it earns him their opposites, namely immorality, evildoing, adultery and betrayal. Another effect of zina is that it causes him to lose the title of believer, as it was narrated inal-Saheehaynthat the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the moment when he is committing adultery.” Another of the effects of zina is that it exposes one to the possibility of being one of the inhabitants of the oven (tannoor) in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw the adulterers and adulteresses. Another of the effects of zina is that it takes away the goodness which Allaah described as the attribute of those who are chaste, and replaces it with the evil which Allaah described as the attribute of the adulterers, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women)”
[al-Noor 24:26]
Allaah has forbidden Paradise to every evil person, and He has made Paradise the abode of the good, and no one will enter it but those who are good. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Those whose lives the angels take while they are in a pious state (i.e. pure from all evil, and worshipping none but Allaah Alone) saying (to them): Salaamun ‘Alaykum (peace be on you) enter you Paradise, because of that (the good) which you used to do (in the world)”
[al-Nahl 16:32]
“and its keepers will say: Salaamun ‘Alaykum (peace be upon you)! You have done well, so enter here to abide therein”
[al-Zumar 39:73]
So they will deserve the greeting of the angels and admission to Paradise because of their goodness. But the adulterers are among the most evil of creation, and Allaah has made Hell the abode of evil and its people. When the Day of Resurrection comes, the evil will be distinct from the good, and the evil will be piled up together, then it and its people will be thrown into Hell. No one who is good will enter Hell and no one who is evil will enter Paradise. Another of the effects of zina is the sense of alienation which Allaah instills in the heart of the adulterer, and this is like the alienation that shows on his face. For the one who is chaste has sweetness in his face and contentment in his heart, and whoever sits with him feels at ease with him. But the adulterer has signs of alienation in his face and whoever sits with him will feel uneasy. Another of the effects of zina is lack of respect, as his family, friends and others lose respect for him, and he becomes the most despicable thing in their sight; this is in contrast to the chaste person, who is blessed with dignity and sweetness. Another of the effects of zina is that people will regard him as a traitor and no one will trust him with regard to his wife or child. Another of the effects of zina is the foul odour that will emanate from him and be detected by everyone who has a sound heart; it will emanate from his mouth and body, and were it not for the fact that there are all the people have a similar odour, that smell would spread far and wide.
Another of the effects of zina is that he will feel uneasy and distressed, for adulterers are doing the opposite of what they are seeking. Whoever seeks the enjoyment and good things of life by means of that which Allaah has forbidden, Allaah will punish him by letting him get the opposite of that which he is trying to achieve. For that which is with Allaah can only be attained by obeying Him, and Allaah never makes disobedience towards Him the means of attaining anything good. If the immoral person only knew what delight, happiness, ease and good living there is in chastity, he would realize that the delights that he has missed out on are many times greater than those which he may have enjoyed, let alone the consequences in the Hereafter, when the chaste person will attain the reward of Allaah and will be honoured by Him. Another of the effects of zina is that he has exposed himself to missing out on the delights of al-hoor al-‘iyn in the beautiful abodes of the Garden of Eden (Jannaat ‘Adan). We have stated above that Allaah will punish those who wear silk in this world by depriving them of it on the Day of Resurrection, and He will punish those who drink wine in this world by depriving them of it on the Day of Resurrection. Similarly, those who enjoy forbidden images in this world will also be deprived of such in the Hereafter. Indeed, everything that a person gets in this world, if he indulges in it by permissible means, his share of it on the Day of Resurrection will be reduced to the extent that he indulged in it. And if he got it from haraam sources, he will lose out on it altogether on the Day of Resurrection. Another of the effects of zina is that zina leads to cutting the ties of kinship, disobedience towards parents, haraam earnings, mistreating others, neglect of one's wife and children, and it may even lead a person to shed blood unlawfully. He may seek help to commit zina by means of sihr (witchcraft) and shirk, and he may or not know that this sin inevitably includes other sins committed beforehand or alongside it, and that it leads to other kinds of sins that come after it. It is surrounded by a host of other sins that come before and after. It is the thing that is most likely to bring about evil in this world and the Hereafter, and the most likely to prevent good in this world and in the Hereafter. If a person falls into its traps and snares, it will be hard for sincere people to save him and for doctors to treat him; its prisoner cannot easily be ransomed, and its victim cannot be rescued. It also leads to the loss of blessings. If a person falls into this trap, let him bid farewell to the blessings of Allaah, for blessings may easily depart from a person and vanish. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“That is so because Allaah will never change a grace which He has bestowed on a people until they change what is in their ownselves. And verily, Allaah is All-Hearer, All‑Knower”
[al-Anfaal 8:53]
“But when Allaah wills a people’s punishment, there can be no turning back of it, and they will find besides Him no protector”
[al-Ra’d 13:10]
These are some of the harmful effects of this action.
Rawdat al-Muhibbeen, p. 360-363
We advise you to read a book by Ibn al-Qayyim which is very useful with regard to this topic. It isal-Jawaab al-Kaafi li man sa’ala ‘ala al-Dawaa’ al-Shaafi.
Finally, we ask Allaah to keep you safe and sound with regard to your religious commitment and your worldly affairs, and to help you put your affairs in order before you meet your Lord. And Allaah is the Guide to the Straight Path.








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