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Sunday, December 22, 2013

Islamic Marriage Articles, - Reviving Our Sense of Gheerah









We live in societies in which most men and women have lost their sense of modesty, women are obsessed with their appearances and wear clothes to be seen by others and to attract the attention of other men even if they are married! They have lost their sense of shame. Marriage is often looked upon as old-fashioned and short term affairs and frivolous relationships are the norm, everyone waiting to attract a better partner and feeling totally justified to dump one partner for another at the drop of a hat. Feminism too has reached its peak and men and women are told to suppress their natural emotions. Men are not even embarrassed when their wives are dressed up and attract the attention of other men, they don’t mind if another man sees, chats, laughs and even dances with their womenfolk and if they do mind, they are told not to be so possessive!
In Islam we have a concept of Gheerah. Gheerah is an Arabic word which means protectiveness or jealousy. It is a good type of jealousy, like when a man feels jealous or protective over his wife or sisters and other-womenfolk and doesn’t like other men to look at them. It is a natural inbuilt feeling Allah has given men and women. The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) had the most Gheerah for his wives and all of the companions were known for their Gheerah.
All Muslim men should have a collective sense of protectiveness for Muslim women as Allah says in the Qur’an, the meaning of which is:“The Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…”(Surah An-Nisaa, Ayah 34).
Men who do not care about how their women behave and appear in front of other men and don’t enforce hijaab upon their wives or women-folk are calledDayyooth. Being a Dayyooth is a major sin and a detailed discription of this evil characteristic can be found in adh-Dhahabee’s book of Major Sins (Kitaab ul-Kabaa’ir).
A Story of Gheerah
To further understand the quality of Gheerah, we can look at an incident that Asmaa’ radiallahu 'anhaa) the daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq (radiallahu 'anhu) and sister of Aisha (radiallaahu 'anhaa), relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a wealthy merchant and he married his daughter Asmaa’ to the great companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-‘Awwam (radiallahu 'anhu) who was a very poor man but a man of great piety and one of the companions who were promised Paradise.
Asmaa’ relates: “When az-Zubayr married me, he had neither land nor wealth nor slave…”, so Asmaa’ had to work very hard kneading dough, going far off to get water. “And I used to carry on my head,” she continues, “the date stones from the land of az-Zubair which Allah’s Messenger (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) had endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One day, as I was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allah’s Messenger (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), along with a group of his Companions. He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair and his Gheerah and he was a man having the most Gheerah. The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) understood my shyness and left. I came to az-Zubair and said: “The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) met me as I was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it, but I felt shy and I remembered your Gheerah.” So Asmaa’ declined the offer made by the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam). Upon this az-Zubair said: “By Allah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe a burden on me than you riding with him.” (related in Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa’! See how she felt shy in front of men? See how careful she was about her husband’s feelings? She knew that her husband had a lot of Gheerah so she didn’t want to upset him by accepting the Prophet’s (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) help even though the Prophet was the purest of men and even though it meant bringing hardship on herself! And look at Az-Zubair (radiallahu 'anhu), even though he had a lot of Gheerah, he didn’t want to inconvenience his wife. What a beautiful relationship they had!
Nurturing Our Sense of Gheerah
Sometimes Muslim women don’t understand if their menfolk want them to cover their faces or if they ask them to change something about the way they dress or speak in public, thinking that the men are being over-protective. But my dear sisters! If your husband asks you not to wear a certain colour of khimaar because it brings out the beauty of your eyes, or if he wants you to cover your face – by Allah, be thankful! Be proud of the fact that your husband has a sense of Gheerah for you and that he values you and cares for your hereafter. He knows what men can be like more than you do and so never try and suppress his Gheerah in these types of matters. And his concern for you should incite your own sense of honor! Why should any man be able to see your beauty and think indecent thoughts about you? We must nurture our own and our menfolk’s sense of Gheerah by behaving and dressing modestly ourselves and paying attention to their valid opinions. We expect certain behavior from them and they expect it of us. And besides, if our husband asks us to do something that it not haraam, we must do it.
And Brothers! How can you allow your wife or sister to walk around attracting the attentions and evil-thoughts of other men? How can you not mind if she smiles as she talks to other men. Nobody has the right to enjoy her and her company but you and her Maharim men. You are not being overbearing if you first encourage and then enforce the hijaab on your womenfolk because YOU will be asked about it on the Day of Judgement and it is also a major sin upon YOU! It is upon the men to enforce these things in their homes and you cannot use the excuse that your wife didn’t want to. Women need a firm, balanced, guiding hand from their men, so with wisdom you must enforce hijaab in your home. You are a shepherd and are responsible for your flock! Allah reminds us all in the Qur’an, the meaning of which is:“Oh you who believe, Protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones.”(At-Tahreem, Aayah 6)
There is a big difference between how Islam values and protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of Islam! As Muslims we have to be careful that our Hayaa’ (sense of modesty and shame) and Gheerah don’t wear out in a society in which people have lost it.










Dought & clear, - (Women Who are Forbidden for Marriage) - Your father’s wife’smother is not a mahram for you.









My father took a second wife and it is known that she has become a mahram for me, but my question is: Has her mother also become a mahram for me?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The mahrams through marriage fall into four categories:
1.The ascendants of the husband [his father and grandfathers] become mahrams to the wife.
2.The descendents of the husband [his sons and grandsons] become mahrams to the wife.
3.The ascendants of the wife [her mother and grandmothers] become mahrams to the husband.
These three categories become mahrams as soon as the marriage contract is done.
4.The descendants of the wife [her daughters and granddaughters] become mahrams to the husband. In this case there must be consummation. Once consummation takes place, then her daughters from a previous or subsequent husband become mahrams to him forever.
End quote fromal-Sharh al-Mumti’(12/128).
Thus it is clear that the mother of the father’s wife does not become a mahram for his sons.
It is permissible for a man to marry a woman, and for his son to marry her mother, or her daughter, because that is included in the words of Allaah, after mentioning the women who are mahrams (interpretation of the meaning):
“All others are lawful”
[al-Nisa’ 4:24]
And Allaah knows best.










Dought & clear, - (Women Who are Forbidden for Marriage) - He was breastfed by the wife of his paternal uncle; are the daughters of his paternal uncle from his other wifeforbidden to him for marriage?.








I have a paternal uncle who is married to two wives, one of whom breastfed me. Is it possible for me to marry the daughters of the other wife?.
Praise be to Allaah.
If you were breastfed five times in the first two years of life by your uncle’s wife, then she is your mother through breastfeeding and your uncle is your father, and all his sons and daughters from this wife and from all his wives are brothers and sisters to you.
Based on that, the daughters you asked about, if they are your uncle’s daughters, are mahrams to you; if they were from another husband, someone other than your uncle, then there is nothing wrong with you marrying one of them.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: If a woman breastfeeds a child five times within the first two years, or more than five times, the infant becomes a son to her and her husband, who is the “owner of the milk”, and all the children of the woman from the husband who is “the owner of the milk” or another husband become brothers and sisters of the infant, and the children of the husband who is the “owner of the milk”, from the wife who breastfeeds and other wives, become brothers and sisters of the infant who is nursed. End quote fromMajmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz(22/274).
He was also asked (may Allaah have mercy on him): I was breastfed by a woman, then her husband took another wife and that wife had children; are they brothers to me?
He replied: If you were breastfed five or more times and the milk was attributed to the husband because it resulted from a pregnancy that occurred due to him, then they are your brothers through your father and your mother through breastfeeding. As for the children from his second wife, they are brothers to you through your father through breastfeeding. End quote fromFataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz(22/305).
And Allaah knows best.