The Dayyooth is deprived of Paradise

The purifiedSharee'ahof Islam encourages good manners and forbids bad
ones owing to the harm that affects individuals and societies when bad
manners prevail.
The IslamicSharee'ahcame to guard the purity of progenies and to
protect people's honor against anything that would soil or transgress
them. Therefore, it sets the severest forms of punishment for anyone
who thinks of violating the honor of others. Allaah The Almighty Says
)what means(:}The ]unmarried[ woman or ]unmarried[ man found guilty of
sexual intercourse - lash each one of them with a hundred lashes, and
do not be taken by pity for them in the religion of Allaah...{]Quran
24:2[
This punishment is applied to unmarried persons. Married adulterers,
however, receive the punishment of stoning to death under
theSharee'ah. The IslamicSharee'ahalso prohibits marrying a person who
is known for practicing illegal sexual intercourse. Allaah The
Almighty Says )what means(:}The fornicator does not marry except a
]female[ fornicator or polytheist, and none marries her except a
fornicator or a polytheist, and that has been made unlawful to the
believers.{]Quran 24:3[
Not only does theSharee'ahdo so, but it also raises the status of
guarding honor so high that a person who is killed in defense of his
honor will gain the degree of a martyr. The Prophet,sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, said:"A person who is killed in defense of his
honor is a martyr."
Moreover, theSharee'ahbrings up its adherents on being protectively
jealous about their honor: The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
said about this attribute in a Companion of his:"Do you wonder at
Sa'd's jealousy? By Allaah, I am more jealous than him, and Allaah Is
more jealous than me..."
Indeed, there is no good in a person who has no protective jealousy,
for such a person moves towards Hell and distances himself from
Paradise. He also makes his honor vulnerable to assault from anybody.
This is theDayyooth, who is he who does not feel jealous when his
honor is violated and who overlooks the indecency and immoral behavior
of his family while he knows that it is wrong to do so. By doing this,
he exposes himself to disgrace and humiliation.
Arabs and especially Muslims still venerate matters of honor. They
respect the person who defends his honor and female family members,
even if this means that he sacrifices his life and wealth. They guard
their honor with whatever wealth they may have, for there is no value
of any wealth when honor is lost. Moreover, if a person disregards
this, he will be worthless in this world and in the Hereafter, and
will be away from Allaah The Almighty. The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi
wa sallam, said:"Allaah The Almighty will not look at three persons on
the Day of Resurrection: a person who is undutiful to his parents; a
masculine woman; and the Dayyooth."]Saheeh[
This incurable disease does not afflict anyone but the person who
lacks a sense of honor and jealousy and whose faith is weak. He does
not care about non-Mahram)i.e., marriageable( men visiting his
womenfolk, intermixing with them, or them appearing unveiled before
them.
In fact, a person would be utterly shocked at seeing such "men" buying
clothes for their women that reveal more than they cover, or clothes
that are transparent and display the charms of the body. They are
happy that people look at the 'Awrah)nakedness( of their wives or the
women whom Allaah has made them responsible for. They boast of their
liberation from decency and virtue, and behave immorally and
indecently. Such a man is a corpse in the guise of a living person.
Al-Ghazaali, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said,"If a person lacks
proper manly fervor, he is unlikely to react appropriately towards any
assault against his womenfolk or wife. He will submissively bear
humiliation from evil people and will have low self-esteem. This may
cause such a person to lack any feeling of protective jealousy
regarding his womenfolk. In this case, his offspring may become
adulterated. Therefore it is said: 'Once protective jealousy dies down
in the men of a particular nation, the chastity of its women will be
weakened.'"
Ath-Thahabi, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said,"A man who realizes
immorality in his wife and ignores it because he loves her, or because
he owes her money that he is unable to pay back, or because he owes
her a large dowry, or because he has young children from her, then
there will be no good in him for he lacks jealousy. A person who
possesses this attitude is the Dayyooth."
The Mass Media Encourages theDayyooth
People may think that the mass media shape the Muslim's personality in
an upright manner, but the reality is the opposite. It is in fact one
of the greatest encouragers of theDayyoothand a destroyer of
protective jealousy. It broadcasts immoral pornographic scenes,
obscene advertisements and lewd songs. It beautifies such dissolute
men and women and presents them as examples. Women even chant their
love of a specific actor or singer in front of their husbands, fathers
and brothers, who have no reaction at all. In some media programs, a
married woman or a girl may call to express her love and adoration of
the actor, paying no attention to the reaction of her male relatives,
perhaps, because she is certain they will not object.

Helping yourself help others

Most Muslim women understand the meaning of the Hollywood-popularized
saying, "Pay it forward," doing kindness to others in need because
someone did good to you when you were in straits. Long before Benjamin
Franklin explained the concept to Benjamin Webb in an April 1784
letter, apparently having given him a no-pay loan, the Qur'an
enshrined an even higher charitable spirit in the wonderfully lofty
notion of "giving for the Sake of God":
Allaah Almighty Says what means:}And ]know that[ whatever good you
]believers[ spend, it is for ]the good of[ your own souls. So whatever
you spend ]in charity[, do so seeking only the Face of God. Thus
whatever good spend shall be rendered to you in full and never shall
you be wronged ]in the least[.... Those who spend their wealth ]for
the sake of God[, by night and by day, secretly and openly they shall
have their reward with their Lord. And there shall be no fear upon
them ]when they assemble for Judgment[. Nor shall they ever grieve
]over the life of the world[{]Quran 2:272-274[.
Many Muslim women practice this daily. We know some who virtually live
to do good for others volunteering at their children's school,
visiting the sick and new horn, carpooling and cooking for friends in
need. We all know them because at one time or another we all become
one of them. We are women who care for others while managing to look
after ourselves and the sacred trusts that are ours. But how do we
find that gentle balance between caring for others and ourselves
without going to an extreme on either end? How do we toe that tender
line between bestowing unto others and ourselves, between giving and
getting?
Balancing between others and ourselves
Women, I think, find particular happiness in doing for others. We bake
a cake for someone who just had a baby and feel good. We pick up the
children of a morn busier than ourselves with a sense of pleasure. We
offer an attentive ear to a sad friend and grow comforted ourselves.
There is so much we can do for our friends and family in every day,
little favors and extras that make someone else's life a little
lighter.
Most of us are overwhelmed with our own work, school, children and
family, but still make the time and put the energy into a considerable
amount of thinking about vet others. We know what it means to go above
and beyond what we consider our simple duty. It is our Muslim
obligation to be good to our neighbors, for instance. But so many of
us go further and knock on our neighbor's door every few days to be
sure she is well and to see if she has a need we might help out with.
Islam binds us to due civic responsibility. But many Muslim women take
considerable time out to volunteer for community service in programs
at the local masjid or school, cleaning up the neighborhood, or
working on charitable drives for the poor. Many among us donate toys
and gifts to local hospitals to cheer up children. And how many of us
wear a perpetual smile, making everyone who sees us happier and
calmer.
But what happens when we have to decide between doing for ourselves
and someone else? The answer might seem easy: Do first yourself and
then your sister. Airline attendants tell us to apply our own oxygen
masks in an emergency before assisting anyone else. This makes perfect
sense. We cannot be much help to others if we cannot breathe
ourselves. This can be true in our day-to-day lives, as well. If we
are not fair to ourselves with proper care, we won't be able to
adequately meet the needs of others for very long. And that's bad all
the way around.
So it makes sense to take time out to tend to our own emotional,
intellectual, spiritual, physical, and even imaginative needs—if for
no other reason than to recuperate to better serve others!
Here are eight things you can do, sister, to give you that
replenishing cognitive, affective, or devotional pick-me-up. When we
are pressed for time )meaning always(, take a little relieving time
out, comfort yourself, and depressurize.
Nurturing "Me-Time"
1. Do something just for you: Take a long, hot bath. Read a good book.
Take a walk by yourself )no strollers!(.
2. Get physical: Do something that's going to make von feel good
because it's making you look better!: Exercise. Get a massage or
facial. Get your haircut. Take time to make a knock-outsalatalunch.
Then sit down and dig in.
3. Visit a friend: Go see someone you Jove to be with, not have to attend.
4. Halaal indulge! No excess, just get some good, wholesome pleasure.
Sometimes, the smallest delights bring on the biggest smiles. So, next
time you're to the market, detour to( the candy store and get that
piece of chocolate you've been dreaming of )and don't feel guilty(. Or
stop at the coffee shop between the dry cleaners and the grocery store
and grab your favorite bean, It's okay to treat yourself now and then
to a small luxury that usually don't feel you have the time or money
for, It'll remind von of your own worth—and everyone else's.
Calm your life – calm your spirit
The prior four commandments are quick and easy pick-me-ups. But if
want more durable elevation, you need to modify your life a bit,
"de-stress" for the long haul. These changes will actually make it
easier for you to get on with your personal mission of helping others.
Try this:
1. Rest well. Get the sleep you need at night. If you are not well
rested, you'll feel moody and sluggish in the day. That makes you less
likely to be effective in your efforts to aid others. But most of us
require less sleep than we think. Too much makes you groggy. When you
surface in the dark, don't just sink back. Remember Allah. Get up.
Makewudhu, and offer a fewrak'ahs.
2. Eat right. Don't charge so hard that you forget to eat healthy.
Many moms snack because they don't have time to eat daily, balanced
meals. Change this and find yourself more energetic, healthier, and
better role models.
3. Be comfortable. Wear comfortable clothing that makes you feel good
not slouchy. This'll give you that spring in your step that you just
can't get if you're off in a mad dash, haphazard and unkempt.
4. Organize your good deeds. Don't let life overwhelm you. Be
methodical and strategic about what needs to get done. Then check it
off. Accomplishment is rewarding in itself. It creates a natural high
that motivates moving on to the next task. This is the secret big "mo"
that keeps most women giving and giving. It's a "circle of life kind
of thing."
5. Schedule devotional rememberance. At the end of the day )or in the
beginning or middle( show Allaah gratitude for the opportunities He's
afforded you. He gave you the chance to do good unto someone. Now
remember He will reward you for it, to hoot! So show thankfulness to
Him for the health, wealth, strength, will, energy, and time that
Allaah gave you that helps you to be able to do all that you do—and,
for His Sake alone.
Sister, nothing pays it forward likehasanat)good deeds(!

Tranquility: A characteristic of the Prophets and the righteous – II

Tranquility is a characteristic of the Prophets
-Tranquility was a characteristic of Ibraaheem )Abraham(, may Allaah
exalt his mention, in his confrontation with his father, his people
and An-Namrooth )Nimrod( the tyrant. Tranquility was also his
characteristic when he left his wife Haajar, may Allaah be pleased
with her, and his only son Ismaa'eel )Ishmael(, may Allaah exalt his
mention, in Makkah. It was also his characteristic when he was about
to slaughter Ismaa'eel, may Allaah exalt his mention. Ibraaheem, may
Allaah exalt his mention, was indeed composed and assured during all
incidents and affairs in his life.
-Tranquility was also the characteristic of Moosa )Moses(, may Allaah
exalt his mention, in his confrontation with Pharaoh. Likewise, he
showed tranquility when he was encouraging the children of Israel to
be firm. He said )what means(:}"Seek help through Allaah and be
patient. Indeed, the earth belongs to Allaah. He causes to inherit it
whom He wills of His servants. And the ]best[ outcome is for the
righteous."{]Quran 7:128[ He was also tranquil when he was facing
certain destruction; the sea was before him and Pharaoh was behind
him. Thereupon, the Children of Israel said what is mentioned in the
verse )what means(:}Indeed, we are to be overtaken.{]Quran 26:61[
However, Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, replied saying what is
mentioned in the verse )what means(:}No! Indeed, with me is my Lord;
He will guide me.{]Quran 26:62[
-Tranquility was the characteristic of Yoosuf )Joseph(, may Allaah
exalt his mention, in his confrontation with his brothers and the
woman who tried to seduce him. He was also tranquil when he was
imprisoned, and after assuming a position of leadership in Egypt and
when he supplicated to Allaah The Exalted saying what is mentioned in
the verse )what means(:}"My Lord, You have given me ]something[ of
sovereignty and taught me of the interpretation of dreams. Creator of
the heavens and earth, You are my Protector in this world and in the
Hereafter. Cause me to die a Muslim and join me with the
righteous."{]Quran 12:101[
-Tranquility was one of the attributes of the Prophet,sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, that were mentioned in the previous scriptures,
such as where it is stated:"I ]Allaah The Almighty[ will send an
illiterate messenger; he will be neither impolite, rough nor noisy in
the markets. He will not be obscene or vulgar. I will make him
tranquil and good."
Assurance of the heart and consoling those who are distressed
Tranquility is a delicate feeling created by Allaah The Almighty. It
descended upon the heart of the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
and the hearts of the believers. Tranquility implies spirit and power;
hence, it reassures those who are frightened and consoles those who
are distressed. Ibn 'Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, said,"We
would say that tranquility was materialized in 'Umar's, may Allaah be
pleased with him, tongue ]speech[ and heart."
Ibn Mas'ood, may Allaah be pleased with him, said,"Tranquility is
gain, and forsaking it is loss."
Ibn 'Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, said,"Every occurrence of
the word Sakeenah in the Quran refers to tranquility, except the one
that is in Soorat Al-Baqarah."He was referring to the Quranic verse
where Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And their prophet said to
them, "Indeed, a sign of his kingship is that the chest will come to
you in which is Sakeenah ]assurance[ from your Lord and a remnant of
what the family of Moosa ]Moses[ and the family of Haaroon ]Aaron[ had
left, carried by the angels. Indeed in that is a sign for you, if you
are believers."{]Quran 2:248[
Sharee'ahtexts enjoin us to adopt tranquility
-In aHadeethon the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased
with him, he said,"Iheard the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
saying:'When the Iqaamah is pronounced, do not go to prayer running;
you should walk calmly with tranquility. Pray what you catch in
congregation and complete what you miss."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
-The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, also said:"When the
Iqaamah is pronounced, do not get up until you see me. Then get up
with tranquility."]Al-Bukhaari[
-The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, also said:"Make things
easy for people, and do not make things difficult for them, and make
them tranquil ]with glad tidings[ and do not repulse
]them[."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
-The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said to the people on the
evening of 'Arafah during the Farewell Pilgrimage:"O people! Proceed
with tranquility."
-Tranquility is from Allaah The Almighty, and like all the blessings
of Allaah The Almighty, it can never be obtained except though our
obedience to Him. Supplication is one the greatest causes of being
endowed with tranquility. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:
·}But Allaah sent down His tranquility upon His Messenger and upon the
believers and imposed upon them the word of righteousness, and they
were more deserving of it and worthy of it. And ever is Allaah, of all
things, Knowing.{]Quran 48:26[
·}It is He who sent down tranquility into the hearts of the believers
that they would increase in faith along with their ]present[ faith.
And to Allaah belong the soldiers of the heavens and the earth, and
ever is Allaah Knowing and Wise.{]Quran 48:4[
-The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"That was
tranquility, which descended as a result of the recitation of the
Quran."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
-The Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, also said:"Any group of
people who assemble in one of the Houses of Allaah to recite and study
the Quran, tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will overwhelm
them, angels will surround them, and Allaah will make mention of them
]to the angels[."]Muslim[
-In aHadeethon the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased
with him, the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"Pride and
arrogance are the characteristics of camel owners, whereas,
tranquility and dignity are characteristics of sheep
owners."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
Some of the most revered scholars would recite the Quranic verses that
speak about tranquility during times of disturbance, and this proved
to have a great effect. Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allaah have mercy upon him,
said in his bookMadaarij As-Saalikeen,"Whenever Shaykhul-Islam Ibn
Taymiyyah, may Allaah have mercy upon him, found things difficult, he
would recite the verses mentioning tranquility. I heard him say about
a difficult situation that happened to him during his sickness, 'When
I got very sick, I asked those who were around me to recite on me the
verses that speak about tranquility. Once they did, I recovered
completely.'"
Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allaah have mercy upon him, also said,"I read these
verses and I found that they had a great influence on the assurance
and tranquility of the heart."
Finally, we supplicate Allaah The Exalted to bless us with tranquility
and make our feet firm when we meet our enemies. We also ask You, O
Allaah, for everything that is good in this world and in the
Hereafter, whether or not we know it; and we seek Your protection from
everything that is evil, both in this world and in the Hereafter,
whether or not we know it.

Dought & clear, - Sacrifices, - Should he take out a loan in order to buy the udhiyah (sacrificial animal)?.

Is it obligatory to take out a loan in order to buy the udhiyah?.
Praise be to Allaah.
In the answer to question no. 36432we stated that the scholars
differed concerning the ruling on udhiyah and whether it is obligatory
or mustahabb.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
There is nothing in the shar'i evidence to indicate that it is
obligatory. The view that it is obligatory is a weak view. End quote.
Majmoo' Fataawa Ibn Baaz, 18/36
Moreover, those who say that it is obligatory state that being rich is
a condition of it being obligatory.
SeeHaashiyat Ibn 'Aabideen, 9/452.
According to both opinions – the view that it is obligatory and the
view that it is mustahabb – there is no need to take out a loan in
order to buy the sacrificial animal, because it is not obligatory for
one who is not rich, according to scholarly consensus.
Then there remains the question: is it mustahabb to take out a loan or not?
The answer is that it is mustahabb to take out a loan if there is the
hope that one can pay it back, such as if a person has a job and takes
out a loan until he gets his salary at the end of the month. But if
there is no hope of paying it off, then it is better not to take out a
loan, because then he is taking on a commitment for something that he
is not obliged to do.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked
about a person who is not able to offer the udhiyah – should he take
out a loan?
He replied:
If he can repay and he takes out a loan so that he can offer a
sacrifice, that is good, but he is not obliged to do that. End quote.
Majmoo' al-Fataawa, 26/305.
However, Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was of the view
that it is obligatory.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: Is the
sacrifice obligatory for one who cannot afford it? Is it permissible
to buy the sacrifice on credit until a person gets his salary?
He replied:
The sacrifice (udhiyah) is Sunnah and is not obligatory… there is no
sin on a Muslim taking out a loan to offer the sacrifice if he is able
to repay it.