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According to the Qur'an, it is a religiousobligation for Muslimsto be united

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> In the Qur'an, Allah commands believers to be united, to join
ranks in faith against denial, to regard and love one another as
brothers, to be forgiving and protective abd to strongly avoid
fragmentation, division and dispersal. Allah states:
Hold fast to the rope of Allah all together, and do not separate.
Remember Allah's blessing to you when you were enemies and He joined
your hearts together so that you became brothers by His blessing. You
were on the very brink of a pit of the Fire and He rescued you from
it. In this way Allah makes His Signs clear to you, so that hopefully
you will be guided. (Surah Al 'Imran,103)
The believers are brothers, so make peace between your brothers and
fear [and respect] Allah so that hopefully you will gain mercy. (Surat
al-Hujurat, 10)
Obey Allah and His Messenger and do not quarrel among yourselves lest
you lose heart and your momentum disappear. And be steadfast. Allah is
with the steadfast. (Surat al-Anfal, 46)
Those who are unbelievers are the friends and protectors ofone
another. If you do not act in this way there will be turmoil in the
land and great corruption. (Surat al-Anfal, 73)
Those who, when they are wronged, defend themselves. (Surat ash-Shura, 39)
Allah loves those who struggle in His Way in ranks like well-built
walls. (Surat ass-Saff, 4)
These are just a few verses dealing with Muslims being untited. From
these, and from the Qur'an as a whole, it can be seen that it is a
religious obligation for;
• Muslims to be united,
• To be bound to one another as brothers in love and affection,
• To avoid disputes,
• To be one another's friends and guardians,
• To protect and watchover one another under all circumstances,
• To counsel one another,
• And to engage in an intellectual struggle against denial, bonded
tightly to one another like the bricks of a building.
Therefore, to do the exact opposite, in other words;
• To be divisive insteadof unifying,
• Not to treat one's Muslim brothers with love and affection,
• Not to be forgiving, protective and mindful of one's Muslim brothers,and
• Not to be bonded to Muslims in the intellectual struggle against
denial is a sin.
If the Islamic world wants to erect a powerful, stable, and prosperous
civilization that guides and illuminates the world in every aspect, it
must act in union. The lack of such a union is responsible for the
Islamic world's discord and separation, the absence of a common voice,
and the defenselessness of innocent Muslims. Countless poor women,
children, and elderly people are desperately in need of rescue from
oppression in Palestine, Kashmir, East Turkestan (home of the
Chinese-ruled Muslim Uighur people), the southern Philippines (home of
theMuslim Moro people) and many other regions.The responsibility for
these people belongs to the Islamic world before anyone else. Muslims
must never forget the Prophet's (may Allah bless him and grant him
peace) following words:
"A Muslim is a Muslim's brother. He does not wrong him or abandon him."
The fact that the Muslimshave not been able to create a powerful and
active Islamic Union is a major contributor to many of today's ills.
When a strong Turkish Islamic Union is formed, such problems will
either not arise or will be resolved far quicker than anticipated.
It is perfectly natural for there to be different cultures, traditions
and conceptions in the Islamic world. What really matters is that this
diversity must be united under the umbrella of faith and on the basis
of mutual tolerance and solidarity. Differences of thought, practice,
or point of view are normaland common in all societies. Islamic
morality requires that Muslims never forget that they are all
brothersand sisters, irrespective of their differences. Whatever the
race, language, nation, or branch of Islam one might follow, all
Muslimsare brothers and sisters. Therefore, such differences must be
appreciated as a source of richness instead of as a source of
potential conflict and fragmentation. Such a mistaken view only
diverts one's attention from the real issues and delays urgently
needed and important preventive action.
In their mutual relations,faith and good characterare important, not
race, ethnic origin, language, financial means, status, or office.
Love between sincere believers develops through their fear and
awareness of and true love for Allah, and good deeds and a good
character. If people dedicate themselves to the path of Allah, follow
it in all their actions and behavior, and do good in the hope of
acquiring Allah's good pleasure and mercy, other believers will love
and respect them. As a result,their skin color, race, or financial
status will be irrelevant and have no bearing on the love others feel
for them. Thesame criteria must be true for relations between Muslim
nations,which must be based on the Qur'anic insight.
If situations prevent them from doing so, they should consider
thefollowing questions:
"Is this issue more important than the unityof Islam?"
"Is it beyond resolution?"
"Is it acceptable to dispute with another Muslim community instead of
working against irreligious ideologies?"
Everybody who answers these questions conscientiously will know that
the higher priority is to refrain from endless disputes and to
establish a union based on the Qur'an's values.
The Islamic world must put its various disputes aside and remember
that all Muslims are"brothers" and "sisters" so that it can provide
role models who reflect the true character of Islam and its ideals.
This unity of the believers is agift and grace of Almighty Allah.
Sincere Muslims must thank our Lord for these benefits and obey His
command"not to separate.

Genome Research Is Demolishing the ''FirstCell That Formed by Chance'' Claim

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> The theory of evolution maintains, on the basis of no scientific
foundation whatsoever, that at a time when there was still no life on
Earth, inanimate substances came together to give rise to the first
living organism. According to this evolutionist claim, the first
living organism must have had a sufficiently simple structure to have
been able to form by chance.
The fact is, however, that Darwinists ARE UNABLE TO ACCOUNT FOR HOW
EVEN A SINGLE PROTEIN EMERGED.
The fact that a single protein cannot form spontaneously is one that
in any case totally demolishes the theory ofevolution. But even if
weassume for a moment that this impossibility did actually come about,
we still see that the "primitive cell" claimed by Darwinists
eliminates with absolutely certain proofs the possibility of life
coming into being spontaneously. Data provided by science in the 21st
century shows that even the life form with the very simplest structure
is in fact highlycomplex, and that it is practically impossible forit
to emerge spontaneously and by chance.
Genome research supplies this information. Based on the idea that
living things with the smallest genome (extremophiles and eubacteria)
have the least complexity, scientists have calculatedthe probabilities
of these organisms appearing by chance and spontaneously. Another
point needing clarification here is this: scientists also regard these
organisms as the oldest life forms on Earth.
Genome research revealed that the lowest number of proteins required
for life was between 250 and 450. [1] In other words, the minimum
number of different proteins that would have to combine together at
the same time in order to give riseto the structural featuresof the
cell and performs its basic functions is between 250 and 450.
It also needs to be made clear that this minimum number of 250-450
protein is the number of proteins obtained from microbes living
parasitically. The minimum number of proteins needed in order for an
organism tolive independently of another is around 1500. In other
words, Darwinists have to account for the separate existence of 1500
different proteins needed to give rise to a single functioning cell.
But, to reiterate, Darwinists are unable to account for the emergence
of even a single protein.
It is totally impossible forbetween 250 and 1500 different proteins
required for an organism to be considered as living to form
spontaneously and at the same time. Probability calculations on the
subject are given in the following table:
Minimum Protein Number [2]
Probability of Emerging Simultaneously
250
10 18,750
350
10 26,250
500
10 37,500
1,500
10 112,500
1,900
10 142,500
As the above table shows, the probability ofa living organism with the
least protein forming by chance is 1 in 10 18,750 . (In order to grasp
the vast size of thisnumber, it will be useful to remember that the
total number of atoms inthe universe is 10 78 .) In other words, there
is no chance at all. Despite all these calculations and scientific
data, evolutionists still insist on believing in the impossible. The
sole reason for that insistence is their determination to deny the
existence of Almighty Allah, Who created all things out of nothing.
Morowitz's probability calculation
The probability calculations cited above are in agreement with a
calculation by the biophysicist Harold Morowitz. He assumed he had
broken all the chemical bonds in the E. coli bacterium and released
all the atoms comprising it, and then calculated the probability of
these atoms spontaneously recombining to give rise to the E. coli once
again. In this theoretical experiment, all the atoms required are
present in all the appropriate quantities, and it is assumed that
noother atom can become involved from the outside. Nonetheless, he
calculated that the chances of all the atoms coming together
spontaneously in a specific order, despite their being in the
appropriate numbers and in an appropriate environment, in such a way
as to produce an E. coli bacterium was 1 in 10 100,000,000,000 . [3]
This goes far beyond being merely impossible.Such a number reveals the
impossibility of even the least complex organism in the
universeforming by chance, evenif all the conditions and materials are
brought together.
A sufficient number of proteins combining together is not
sufficientfor life to emerge
Let us imagine we have all the proteins necessary for life ready to
hand. The existence ofthese proteins, which cannot come about in this
way, IS NOT ENOUGH FOR EVEN A SINGLE CELL TOFORM. Microbiologists and
biochemists explicitly say that the organization of these proteins
within the cell is also highly important, otherwise the proteins will
serve no purpose. Moreover, as Darwinist scientists know full well,
the cell possesses organelles that manufacture proteins and a glorious
DNA data bank far more complex than proteins. A living cell is made
possible by all these structures possessing the same function and
organization at the sametime, and acting with the same consciousness.
This is a fact that demolishes Darwinism.
The fact that bacteria possess an extraordinaryinternal organization
was unknown until the 1990s. The fact is, however, that the complex
cells (eukaryotic) comprising single-cell protozoans are known to be
made up of a nucleus, organelles, membrane systems, a cytoskeleton,
several internal sections and other contents organizing the content of
the cell on the molecular level. [4] All these systems are
extraordinarily complex. One cannot function independently of the
others.
Conclusion
As the information provided here shows, microbiology, biochemistry and
genome research, all themain scientific advances in the second half of
the 20th century and the 21st century in short, have eradicated all
the claims of the theory of evolution. These scientific conclusions
have revealed that Darwinism is totally unscientific and consists of
claims that are far removed from science. Science has refuted
evolutionist claims regarding "a very simplefist living organism."
Aside from the minimumnumber of proteins and minimum complexity needed
for it to be alive,an organism is too complex to be explained by
evolutionist claims of chance and possesses a perfect organization. In
addition to all this complexity, the existence of a single cell brings
the theory of evolution to a complete halt.
It is an evident fact that life came into being from nothing with the
infinite intelligence, knowledge and might ofAllah. This fact, obvious
to reason and good conscience, is also corroborated by countless
scientific data today.
The following is revealed in the Qur'an about our Lord's matchless Creation:
[Allah is] the Originator of the heavens and earth. When He decides on
something, He just says to it, "Be!" and it is. (Surat al-Baqara, 117)
[1]Jack Maniloff, "The Minimal Cell Genome:'On Being the Right Size',"
Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, USA 93 81996), pp.
10004-10006; Mitsuhiro Itaya, "An Estimation of Minimal Genome Size
Required for Life," FEBS Letters 362(1995), pp 257-260; Ranaand Ross ,
Origins of Life ,p. 163
[2]Rana and Ross, Originsof Life , p. 163
[3]Robert Shapiro, Origins: A Skeptic's Guideto Creation of Life on
Earth (New York:Bantam Books, 1986), p. 128; Rana and Ross, Origins
ofLife , p. 164
[4]Lucy Shapiro and Richard Losick, "Protein Localization and Cell
Fatein Bacteria," Science 276 (1997), pp.712-718; Ranaand Ross,
Origins of Life, p. 166

'Stones and trees calling out 'kill the Jews',' as revealed in the hadiths, is meant in a figurative sense. A believer will notact according to a voice coming from stones and trees and will not kill an innocent person. A Muslim acts solely according to the moral values of the Qur'an

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Abu Huraira (ra) reported Allah's Messenger (saas) as saying:
"The Last Hour would not come unless the Muslims will fight against
the Jews. The Jews would hide themselves behind a stone or a tree and
a stone or a tree would say: 'Muslim, or the servant of Allah, there
is a Jew behind me; come and kill him;' but the tree Gharqad would not
say, for it is the tree of the Jews."
(Sahih Muslim, Kitab al-Fitan wa Ashrat as-Sa'ah, Book 41, 6985)
"So that Jews will hide behind trees and the tree will say "Muslim!
The servant of Allah! Come, look there is a Jewbehind me, he hid here,
behind me, come and punish him". Only the tree Gharqad will not say,
for it is the tree of the Jews."
(Kitab al-Fitan, hadith. 2239)
One statement by Mr. Adnan Oktar concerning hadiths in which our
Prophet (saas) refers to "stones and trees in the End Times telling
Muslims the location of Jews hiding behind them and saying 'Come and
kill them'," reads:
"We look at events in thelight of the Qur'an and the hadiths. But one
cannot issue a pronouncement on the basis of one single verse in the
Qur'an. One must look at the verses as a whole. The same applies to
the hadiths. The otherhadiths complement oneanother. Therefore, if
someone comes and tellsus, 'There is a Jew here, come and kill him,'
we will not kill him. Why should we? That person would have to commit
a crime. And if he commits a crime he will have to be tried. And the
judge will pronounce sentenceat the end of the trial. There is a whole
system and legal procedure involved. It does not mean that anyone who
sees him can kill him andtry him himself. We can see what this hadith
means by looking at others. Otherwise, it is a sin to kill an innocent
Jew, a person, a child, standing there, and heed a voice from a stone
telling us to kill them. That is unacceptable. We must grasp what our
Prophet (saas) really means. It would appear the hadithmeans this:
Jews who are atheists or enemies of religion cannot hide. Those who
hide among wood or stones will be located using all kinds ofelectrical
devices and equipment, and the evil and activities of these people
will thus be prevented, and that will be a punishment for them. That
is what the hadith may be implying. (From Mr. Adnan Oktar's interview
on Adiyaman Asu TV and Kackar TV on June 3, 2010)
http://tr.harunyahya.tv/videoDetail/Product/27114/WHAT_IS_THE_EXPLANATION_OF_THE_GHARGAD_TREE_MENTIONED_IN_THE_HADITH?
Mr. Oktar interprets this clearly figurative hadith in a very wise
fashion. The content of the hadith is obviously figurative because the
verses of the Qur'an regarding killing are quite explicit. It is clear
that no decision to kill can be taken on the basis of producing a
pronouncement on the basis of a voice from stone, trees or wood. There
is no verse to that effect in the Qur'an. According to the Qur'an, a
Muslim learns from the Qur'an, not from tree or wood. Nowhere in the
Qur'an is it revealed that a tree or wood can bear witness for a
Muslim. According to the Qur'an, it is what Muslims bear witness to
that matters.
Allah compares hypocrites to "blocks of wood" in the Qur'an (Surat
al-Munafiqun, 4). Allah also compares unbelievers to rock, "your
hearts became as hard as rocks." (Surat al-Baqara, 74) A Muslim does
not behave according to rocks and wood. He acts according to what
other Muslims say.
It is incompatible with the Qur'an and unlawful for an innocent person
to be killed according to a statement issued from a stone. To say that
such a ruling can be given without trying that person would mean to
say that the voice from the stone was revelation(Surely Allah is
beyond that). It would therefore be insanity, murder, to say, "I
killed a man because of a voice from a stone" or "A rock told me, and
I killed him." A Muslim would never act in such a way toward anyone
without trying them as the law demands.
If rulings were to be extracted from rock or wood, then what the rock
or wood said wouldbe regarded as Divine revelation. Since no other
book apart from the Qur'an will come, to say such a thing would be to
claim that rock or wood would reign over us (Surely Allah is beyond
that). A Muslim acts by the light of the Qur'an and the hadiths of our
Prophet (saas), not rock and wood. If a person regards stone and wood
as issuing revelation, if he says, "what a rock says is revelation,
rock bestows revelation on me, stone and wood rule me," thenhe is
departing from the religion. Under that belief, the rock might tell
him other things, too. It will say anything and cause the person to do
other things. There are no verses in the Qur'an concerning a Muslim
obeying rock andwood.
In addition, Jews are people given protection in the time of our
Prophet (saas) and who followed Muslims. The compassion and justice
shown by the Prophet (saas) in the light of the Qur'an, acted as a
role model for subsequent Muslim rulers. Allah says in the Qur'an,
"... Do not let hatred for a people incite you into not beingjust. Be
just. That is closer to taqwa" (Surat al-Ma'ida, 8). Allah also
commands Muslims to ensure the safety even of the idolaters (pagans
who do not heed Allah's revelation): "If any of theidolaters ask you
for protection, give them protection until they have heard the words
ofAllah. Then convey them to a place where they are safe...." (Surat
at-Tawba, 6) A Muslim will therefore uphold justice, for Allah's sake,
in the face of anyone and everyone and will only seek solutions to all
matters as revealed in the Qur'an.

Milestones on the path ofdutifulness to parents

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> There is no doubt that parents play an effective role in
preventing their children from being undutiful. As it is known that
prevention is better than cure, we advise noble parents who play the
greatest role in this important process, to prepare youth and prevent
them from beingundutiful.
The family is the first incubator where the adolescent grows up and
receives an upbringing. Hence, it has a far-reaching effect on the
upbringing of children. It is sufficient toknow that children act in a
way that conforms to their environment. So, the environment forms the
way in which the child learns his behavior. If adolescents grow up
with a sense of righteousness and gratitude, undoubtedly, this would
greatly affect them.
The following are some of the important means that parents should use
while building the wall to prevent undutifulness:
1- Extreme warning: An extreme warning lies in bringing up the
children to be undutiful. Perhaps some people wonder about this
warning. Yes, there are parents who plant the bomb which soon
explodes. For example, some families express happiness when the child
grows and is able to speak and move. Consequently, they tell him to
beat or insult one of the parents. They mix jest with seriousness
causing the disruption of the child's moral standards. They are not
aware that they are implanting in the innocent little child, at a very
young age, disrespect to parents. This is the way it has always been,
and always will be.
2- Keenness on teaching the child the parents' favors: It is a key
step on the way of preventing undutifulness. It is to raise the
children to be accustomed to respectingand realizing the status and
favor of their parents. Ignorance of thestatus of parents and
consequent punishment for being undutiful to them will lead the
children to be undutiful.
3- To be equally dutiful toyou: Some parents are trapped in
discriminationby favoring some of theirchildren to others. This is
plain injustice. Therefore, Sharee'ah (Islamic legislation) strongly
forbids this matter and warns of its bad consequences. When Basheer
ibn Sa'd cameto the Prophet, , to give his son An-Nu'maan a gift; the
Prophet, , asked: "'Did you give all your children gifts like
An-Nu'maan?' He said, 'No.' The Prophet said: 'So, look for another
witness. Do you not like them (your children) to be equally dutiful to
you?'" [Al-Albaani: Saheeh [
Steps of treatment
After dealing with the gravity of undutifulness and suggesting some
methods to prevent it, we should talk about the steps of treatment,
whichare:
1- Virtues and punishments: This is one of the foremost steps which
the person who seeks dutifulness should have in mind and realize.One
could change from one state to another if hefinds a strong motive.
Undoubtedly, knowing and remembering the fruits of dutifulness will be
one of the best incentives to practice it. Similarly, contemplating
the bad consequences of undutifulness and the resulting distress and
grief in the worldly life before the Hereafter will help one be
dutiful and keep away from undutifulness.
2- Good friends: You should have good friendswho correct your mistakes
and inform you about the consequences of your actions. If good company
is sought in the course of worldly journeys and travel, whatshould be
the case in the travel of the Hereafter where the believer is in
greater need to have a righteous helper and an agreeable companion who
would be, in relation to his friend, liketwo hands that wash the
other.
They are righteous people who guide you tothe way of righteousness and
direct you with their kind words if you commitan undutiful or a
semi-undutiful act.
Hence, it becomes mandatory to get rid of bad friends who are the
reason behind every catastrophe. You should know, especially in this
stage of adolescence, that friends are chosen by the adolescent
according to his desire and inclination. The grave problem is that
thistest often comes spontaneously where thechild grows up with a
neighbor at school or university. This friend may become the reason
behind his undutifulness through absorbing behavior due to
frequentinteraction over a period of time. So, you should select your
friends cautiously and deliberately.
3- O people of the faith: here, you should ask yourself: Are you
faithful?Perhaps, you would quickly answer in the affirmative. This is
a good reply; however, to reach such a degree of faithfulness you
should read some questions, if your answer is in the affirmative,
then, enjoy your faithfulness. Otherwise, you should doyour best to
make your answers in the affirmative.
- Do you frequently remember your parents' favors?
- Do you frequently thankthem for their care and upbringing?
- Do you supplicate AllaahThe Almighty for them in your prayers,
going, coming, with your friends and alone?
- Did you ever think about doing something for them and expressing
your love and faithfulness?
- Do you quickly blame yourself and rush to serve them whenever you
feel that you have fallen short to fulfill their rights?
This is the tip of the iceberg of questions which are well known to
faithful people. Subhaan Allaah (Glory be to Allaah!), when a friend
does us a favor, we remember it, keep treating him kindly and speaking
well of him in his absence by remembering his good qualities. How come
that we do not adopt this attitude— which we adopt towards our
friends— towards our parents who sacrifice their time so that we can
enjoy our times? They spent their money so thatwe become rich. They
spent many nights crying because of our illness. Many times they were
preoccupied from life with our needs. There are many of their
supplications for us which were answered. How many times do kind
parents sit watching their children dreaming of the day on which they
become successful Muslimyouth, with people delighting in them? By
Allaah, these are only a few matters to remember. Is it not time for
us to become faithful?
Family role
1- Understanding the stage: first, I would like to ask why do
adolescents clash with their parents. What are the reasons which drive
him to argue after he was tractable during his childhood? Why does he
tend to independence and individuality in taking decisions?
It seems that the answer is summarized in the fact that the adolescent
is living through a new stage. The more parents are able to understand
this, the more dutifulnessthey will get and vice versa. Missing
understanding between parents and children is the gravest matter that
culminates in undutifulness to parents. Children want to build their
own life according to their style and that of their friends. On the
other hand, parents look from their own point of view and through
their own perspectives of theircustoms. Hence, each party is on a
different wavelength. The deeper understanding of this stage the
parents have, the more capable they will be of dealing according to
methodology and awareness. By the permission of Allaah, it will result
in dutifulness to parents and in having good manners.
We previously clarified that the adolescent in this stage wants to
fulfill some needs such as security, acceptance, feeling responsible,
and so on. The more the parents are aware of these needs, the
strongerand more successful the relation will be. Undoubtedly, such
success is topped by dutifulness to parents. Hence, we need to read
alot on the needs of adolescents and how to deal with them.
2- Stop the conflict: it is important that parents understand that
their children during this stageneed to feel that their parents value
them highly and know that they have moved from childhood to youth. In
many cases, we find that the family's stance towards the child, which
may degrade or mock him, increases the child's tendency to resort to
his friends and compound their influence and effecton him.
3- Feeling rejected followed by loss: It is noteworthy that whenever
the adolescentfeels acceptance and esteem, he loves his parents more
and more. Therefore, the more we accept the basic personal traits of
our adolescents, the more they feel at ease with us and their desire
to spend time at home increases. Undoubtedly, such a feeling of
acceptance and esteem leads to a similar result with the children.