Confused...

I don't knw how to strt.. 2 yrs bck a boy used to lyk me.. I don't
even knew him.. wen I came toknw abt him.. I saw d boy.. his name was
chinmay.. I dint lyk him atdat tym.. but just becoz of my frndz I got
in a relationship with him.. but 2nd day I broke up wid him.. becoz it
was soo in a hurry I dint gt even tym to thnk abt him.. soo I broke
up.. but we became frndz on fb.. vry gud frndz.. days passed he
proposed me again 3 tymes.. but at dattym I lyked sum1 else..his name
ws yash.. so I neversaid yes to him... After 2 yrs one. day my frnd
told me dat I lyk yash but I will nvr get him.. its better if I say
yes to chinmay.. I told dem dat Im not desperate to get yash its just
ok with me ifhe was my crush.. but they dint listen to me.. nddey told
me to get in a relationship with chinmay.. becoz he still lyked me...
My frnd told me to.gve him one chance.. I too gave him dat one
chance.. I said him about yash.. nd evrythng still hesaid if I m
comfortable wd him he have no problem..I live in hostel.. nd I dint
have ny cellphn. We used to talk.only in skul.. again he nvr
complained abt me anythng.. the best part ofhim was his nature.. he
was awsm.. He look cute..:)) slowly I strd falling for him.. but as
said good tymes never last for long.. as d same wd me.. it ws almost 3
ndhalf months of our relation.. wen I came on outing I used to talk to
him on phone.. we used to fight every day.. I don't want anyone to
restrict me.. or ask me to change.. if u feel I need to change for
anyone I will change myself.. he always asked me to Chnge.. he always
said me I don't knoe d.meaning of relationship..!!
What is relationship..?? A boy nd a gal get commuted.. dey share some
feelings for each other.. whether it is fake or genuine.. saying I luv
uh to each other.. doing some promises to each other.. dey knoe dat
dose. Promises dey will not fullfill.. huh..:/ And I finally I was fed
up I broke up once again.. at dat tym I was happy..:)) I was.lyk
finally I got my space.. my freedom.. but frankly speaking
chinmaynever bounded me fem anything..:)) Infct I dint give him d
reason for break up.. as I knw I should. But I dint... Wt reason I
would have given.. wen I too don't knoe d exact reason fr break up..:/
finally I tried to frgt him..den again yash came to my lyf.. I strd
chatng wth.him.. I even get commited with yash for ten days.. after
break up I realized.Wt a dumbhead I was.. the person who don't even
care abt me..I lyked him the whole one year..I wasted my precious.tym
thnking abt him.. after dis matter I thought I willnvr lyk anyone lyk
this.. but my promise to myself not.lasted for long.. I strtd tolkng
to chinmay once again.. he had changed d skul aftr breakup.. just
becoz of me.. ( atleast dat wat I thnk.) ndnow I tolkd.to him nd
with.his talks I can feel he lykes me vry much..now I dunnoe Wt to
do.. I hv also discover some feelings for him.. but I dun wanna be in
a relation again..!! Nd I cnt avoid himm.. Plzz.help me what should I
doo..??? ):)

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Should he interrupt his prayer in order to answer one of his parents if they call him?

Is it true that if one is praying and ones parentcalls for them they
are toimmidiately leave prayergo their parent and thenafter go and
restart the prayer. I was told this when i was a lot younger is there
any truth to it?.
Praise be to Allaah.
If a Muslim is offering anobligatory prayer, he should not interrupt
it inorder to answer the call of his father or mother. But he can
alert the one who is calling him to let him know that he is busywith
the prayer, either by saying tasbeeh ("Subhaan Allah") or by raising
his voice in recitation and the like.
And it is prescribed for him to make the prayer brief, then when he
has finished he can answer the call.
Al-Bukhaari (707) narrated from Abu Qataadah (may Allah be pleased
with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
said: "Sometimes I stand in prayer, intending to make it lengthy, then
I hear a child crying, so I make my prayer brief because I do not want
tocause hardship to his mother."
This indicates that it is prescribed to make the prayer brief if there
is something that is distracting the worshipper.
If it is a naafil prayer, if he knows that his father or mother will
not objectto him completing the prayer, he may completeit and then
answer themonce he is free. But if he knows that they will object to
him completing the prayer he may interrupt his prayer and answer them,
and there will be no blame on him for that. Then he can go back and
start praying again.
Al-Bukhaari (3436) and Muslim (2550) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may
Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: "Jurayj used to worship in his cell, and his
mother came to him. Shesaid: 'O Jurayj! I am your mother, speak to
me.' She found him praying and he said: 'O Allaah, my mother or my
prayer?' And he chose his prayer. She went away, then she came back a
second time and said: 'O Jurayj! I am your mother, speak to me.'
Hesaid: 'O Allaah, my mother or my prayer?' And he chose his prayer.
She said: 'O Allaah, this isJurayj and he is my son, and I spoke to
him but he refused to speak to me. O Allaah, do not let him die until
he has seenprostitutes.'" He said: "If she had prayed that he be
tempted, he would have fallen prey to temptation."
Al-Nawawi gave this report the title: Honouring one's parentstakes
precedence over voluntary prayer and other actions.
Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The scholars said: What would have been correctin this case is
answering her, because he was offering a naafil prayer and continuing
with it isvoluntary and not obligatory, whereas answering one's mother
and honouring her is obligatory, and disobeying her is haraam. He
could have shortened his prayer and answered her, then gone back to
his prayer… End quote.
See: Fath al-Baari by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on
him), al-Mawsoo'ah al-Fiqhiyyah, 20/342
It says in al-Durr al-Mukhtaar (2/54) - which is a Hanafi book:
If either of his parents calls him during an obligatory prayer, he
should not answer unless his parent is urging him to come and help.
End quote.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
If your parents call you when you are praying, itis obligatory to
answer them, on condition that the prayer is not an obligatory one. If
it is an obligatory prayer, it is not permissible to answer them, but
if it is a naafil prayer, you should answer them.
But if they are people who give things their due measure and if, when
they realise that you are praying, they will excuse you, then in this
case you should indicate to them that you are praying – either by
clearing your throat or saying "Subhaan Allah" or raising your voice
in the verse or du'aa' you are reciting – so that the one who is
calling will realise that you are praying.
But if they are otherwise, and they are people who will not make
excuses or who want an immediate response, then you should interrupt
your prayer and speak to them.
But in the case of an obligatory prayer, you should not interrupt it
for anyone except in the case of necessity, such asif you see someone
who you fear will fall into mortal danger, such as falling into a well
or intothe sea or into a fire. In that case, you should interrupt your
prayer because it is a case of necessity. Otherwise, it isnot
permissible to interrupt an obligatory prayer. End quote.
Sharh Riyaad al-Saaliheen, p. 302
And Allah knows best.

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Hajj

Hajj is one of the pillars of Islam and for many Muslims it is the
journey of a lifetime. It is therefore absolutely essential that a
Muslim be prepared for this obligation in all ways. Below we provide
resources, audio and articles to help you understand all about this
pillar of Islam , its history and significance and Insha'Allah prepare
you for your journey to the Holy lands. Please remember us in your
du'as during your journey also.

Accepting an Invitation

Hadhrat Abdullah ibn Umar (Radiyallahu anhu) narrates that the Holy
Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
"The person who is invited amongst you by his brother should acceptthe
invitation whether it is a wedding invitation or anything similar to
it." [Muslim]
Hadhrat Jabir ibn Abdullah (radiallahu anhu) narrates that the Holy
Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
"If anyone of you is invited to partake of meals, he should at least
accept the invitation. Thereafter he may partake of it if he desires
or he may totally abstain from it." [Muslim]
Hadhrat Abu Hurairah (radiallahu anhu) narrates that the Holy Prophet
(صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
"If anyone of you is invited for meals, he should accept the
invitation. If he is fasting,he should make Duaa (of goodness and
blessing) for the inviter (some maintain that he should set out and
perform salaah at the host's house), and if he is not fastin he should
partake of the meal." [Muslim]
No excuse will be entertained in declining an invitation. However,
ifwine and other intoxicants are provided at the invitation or food
will be eaten out of gold and silver utensils or there is a fear of
any other evil, one should on no account accept the invitation.
If uninvited people accompany one who is invited, he should firstly
seek the host's consent sothat he is not annoyed and disheartened (by
thearrival of an uninvited guest).
Hadhrat Abu Masood Badri (radiallahu anhu) narrates: A certain
personinvited the Holy Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم over for meals.
Including the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, food was prepared for 5
people. On the way to the invitation, a sixth person joined them. When
the group arrived at the doorof the host, the Holy Prophet صلى الله
عليهوسلم said:
"This person has also joined us. if you wish to, you may permit him or
else he will return."
He (the host) said:
"O Prophet of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم, I don't mind him partaking of
the meal." [Muslim]
Hadhrat Abdullah ibn Masood (radiallahu anhu)says that the Holy
Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
"Accept the invitation of he who invites you. Avoiddeclining a gift
and refrain from annoying the Muslims." [Muslim]

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