* We divorced in anger two years ago,can we remarry now?

Salaam brothers/sisters.
I was married to my ex wife from 2008 to 2010. We then got divorced;
we have two children together.
We both never remarried and we have both been thinking about giving it
another go. We still feel the same about each otherand we have two
kids together and we wanted to give it another go for the sake of them
too.
The divorce was done in anger and was said 3 times in one sentence. I
then went to a divorce specialist who authorized the divorce with two
witnesses and signed divorce paper.
What must we both do now in order to remarry again? I am really
stressedand just want my family back. Please help.
Thank you.
W/salaam,
~
One responded :
YOU NEED TO DO ONE MORE NIKAH LIKE THE 1ST ONE -BCOZ YOU DID 3 TALAQ
IN ONE SITTING AND THEN YOU WERE MISGUIDED BY SOME DEVAITED UN
AUTHORISED IGNORANT SELF APPOINTED PERSON WHO FOLLOWS SOME SECT[ALL
SECTS ARE ILLEGAL]BCOZ THEY ARE MADE ON SOME ONE WHIMSAND FANCIES [A
BLIND FOLLOWING WITHOUT EVIDENCE] AND DUE TO THAT HIS VERSION IS
ILLEGAL AND HIS PRACTICE ILLEGAL AND HIS AUTHORITY NUL AND VOID..[I
then went to a divorce specialist who authorized the divorce with two
witnesses and signed divorce paper.]
Then on a single occasion, in a burst of temper, he utters the word
"divorce" three times in a row, "talaq, talaq, talaq!" Such incidents,
which took place in the Prophet's lifetime, still take place even
today. Now the question arises as to how the would-be divorcer should
be treated. Should his three utterances of talaq be treated as only
one, and should he then be asked to extend his decision over a
three-month period? Or should his three utterances of talaq on a
single occasion be equated with the three utterances of talaq made
separately over a three-month period? There is a Hadith recorded by
Imam Abu Dawud and several other traditionists which can give us
guidance in this matter: Rukana ibn Abu Yazid said"talaq" to his wife
three times on a single occasion. Then he was extremely sad at the
step he had taken. The Prophet asked him exactlyhow he had divorced
her. He replied that he had said"talaq" to her three times in a row.
The Prophet thenobserved, "All three count as only one. If you want,
you may revoke it." Fath al-Bari, 9/275
PL NOTE STRONGLY THE 3 TALAQS IN ONE SITTING IS HARAAM AND EVEN IF
PERSON GIVES TALAQ 50 TIMES OR 100 TIMES ALSO IN ONE BREATH IT IS
EQUALTO ONE TALAQ[DIVORCE]
PL SPREAD THIS MESSAGE TO THE WORLD THAT ISLAMDOES NOT RECOGNISE
DEVIATED SCHOLARS EXCEPT THE HOLY PROPHETSALAHAUALAHAIWASLALAM- O
Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them for their
waiting-period, *1 and compute the waiting period accurately, *2 and
hold Allah, your Lord, in awe. Do not turn them out of their homes
(during the waiting period) â nor should they go away (from their
homes) *3â unless they have committed a manifestly evil deed. *4 Such
are the bounds set by Allah; and he who transgresses the bounds set by
Allah commits a wrong against himself. You do not know: maybe Allah
will cause something to happen to pave the way (for reconciliation).
*5"If you have to divorce your wives, you should divorce them till the
expiry of their waiting-period".
The intention of this verse is further explained by a few other
Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be
Allah's peace) ai d some of the major Companions. Nasa'i has related
that
The Holy Prophet was infomed that a person hadpronounced three
divorceson his wife in One sitting. HE STOOD UP IN NAGER AND SAID-:'
`Are the people playing with the Book of Allah, although I am present
among you?"Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased withthem, reported: I
divorced my wife while she was menstruating during the lifetime of
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him).
'Umar bin Al-Khattab (mayAllah be pleased with him)asked Allah's
Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's
Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin
'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she
is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is
again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so
desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before
touching her (without having an intercourse withher), for that is the
period of waiting ('Iddah) which Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, has
commanded for the divorce of women-
RE MARRIAGE EXAMPLE-
There is a common misconception that a man can say Talaq, Talaq, Talaq
to his wife in a row and it will lead to Talaq. This is totally an
unIslamic practice.

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How Many Angels Visited Mary?

Mr. Jochen Katz, in one of his articles titled: " How many angels were
talking to Mary? " has stated that the two narratives in the Qur'an
regarding the incident when the angels of Allah visited Mary to give
her the news of the birth of Jesus -- the Christ --are in
contradiction with one another. In the first instance, the Qur'an says
that "angels" (i.e. the word in its plural form, implying, in Arabic
language, that there were at least three) visited Mary. While in the
second instance, it says that there was only one.
Writes Mr. Katz:
There are (at least) two passages in the Qur'an relating the
annunciation of Jesus' birth to Mary.
Behold! the angels said: "O Mary! Allah has chosen thee ...
Behold! the angels said: "O Mary! Allah gives thee glad tidings ...
-- Sura 3:42 & 45
Then we sent to her Our angel, and he appeared before he as a man in
all respects. She said: "I seek refuge from thee to (Allah) Most
Gracious: (Come not near) If thou dost fear Allah."
-- Sura 19:17-18
How many angels came to Mary? One or three or more? [Correct me if the
word for "angel" is in the dual, but if it is plural then there have
to be at least three.]
The object of this article is to give answers to the objections raised
by Mr. Katz in this respect.
Let us first of all consider the related verses of the Qur'an. In
Surah Aal Imraan , the Qur'an says:
And bring to mind when the angels said: "Mary, God has chosen you; He
has purified you and has exalted you above all otherwomen of the
world"."Mary, be obedient to your Lord, bow down and submit [to Him]
with those that submit". This is an account of a hidden event. We
reveal it to you. You were not present when they cast lots to see
which of them shall have charge of Mary; nor were you present when
they argued about her.
Bring to mind when the angels said: "Mary, God gives you glad tidings
of a" word " from Him; his name shall be the Messiah, Jesus son of
Mary; he shall be noble in this world as well as in the hereafter; and
he shall be amongst those who are close [to God]; he shall preach to
people, while in his cradle and while in the prime of manhood; and he
shall be a righteous man." She said:"Lord, how can I bear a child,
when no man has [even] touched me?" He replied: "Even so it shall
happen as told. God createswhat He wills; when He decides a thing, He
needs only say 'Be' , and it is." (3: 43 - 47)
In Surah Maryam , the Qur'an says:
And recount in the book, the story of Mary. [The time] when she left
her people and took for herselfa place to the eastern side and hid
herself from them. We sent to her Our spirit,which appeared to her as
aperfect man. She said: "I give myself to the protection of the All
Mercy (i.e. Al-Rahmaan ) from you,if you fear Him." He replied:"I am
but a messenger of your Lord and have come to gift you a boy, pure
[from sin]". She asked:"How can I bear a child, when a man has never
even touched me and neither have I ever been unchaste?" He said: "Thus
shall it happen; your Lord says: It is easy for me." (19:16 - 21)
Before explaining my pointof view regarding these verses, I would
first like to clarify that we can call two phenomena " contradictory "
when there is no possibleexplanation that can, in any way resolve or
removethe apparent contradiction.If, on the other hand, an explanation
can be given for the apparently contradicting phenomenon, then these
phenomena cannot be called "contradictory". I do submit that everyone
has aright to criticize the explanation given. In such a case, if the
explanation cannot face the criticism, it may then be rejected, and
subsequently, due to lack of satisfactory explanation, the apparently
contradictory phenomena may then be termed as a proven
"contradiction". But, on the other hand, if the explanation
adequatelyexplains the phenomena, then unless the explanation is
logically andconvincingly rejected, the phenomena cannot be termed as
"contradictory".
By close examination of the stated verses of the Qur'an, I think there
can be two very acceptable explanations for the objections raised by
Mr. Katz. Either of these two explanations, if acceptable, remove the
objection raised by Mr. Katz in this respect. In case Mr. Katz or
anyone of my readers believes that neither of theexplanations is
acceptable, he should then present his criticism on these
explanations. Without rejecting both the explanations given, I really
do not think that the referred verses of the Qur'an can in any way be
called "contradictory".

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Muslims, Christians and Jews believe in the same Allah

The three revealed faiths sent down as a blessing byour Lord through
true prophets and true scriptures, Islam and the uncorrupted, genuine
forms of Christianity and Judaism, share many common beliefs. Although
the Torah and the Injil were gradually corrupted over the course of
time, the essence and moral values of the true faith arestill to a
large extent preserved in these books sent down from the Presence of
Allah. These uncorrupted parts can clearly be seen when looked at
using the Qur'anand the hadith as a guide. These three revealed faiths
all believe in the absolute existence of Allah, that He is eternal,
that He created the universe from nothing andthat He rules all matter
with His almighty power. Muslims, Christians and Jews also oppose the
same intellectual errors. They share the same intellectual struggle
against atheism, irreligion,racism, fascism and moral degeneration.
All three faiths strive to preach the existence of Allah in the same
way. Members of all three faiths aim for a world full of justice in
which everyone will knowAllah, sincerely believe in and submit to Him,
and live in peace and compassion. Members of all three faiths act out
of a fear and love of Allah, follow in the path of His messengers and
abide by His revelation.
In essence, the members of these three faiths believe in and worship
thesame, one Allah. Our Almighty Lord has revealed His power and
might, His creative artistry,His sublimity, that He is the Lord of the
worlds, that He is All-Powerful andthe sole Creator of all things in
all three faiths. He is the Lord of the heavens and the earth andall
things belong to Him, He knows all, is Almighty and is the Possessor
of all. His might, sublime power and majesty pervade all things and
all places. He is unfettered by any flaw or deficiency, though He is
needed by all beings.
Our Almighty Lord revealed His faith with thereligion of the Prophet
Abraham (peace be upon him):
We revealed to you: "Follow the religion of Abraham, a man of pure
natural belief. He was not one of the idolaters."(Surat an-Nahl, 123)
The word "haneef" means "someone who believes inand serves only
Allah." This is the attribute of the Prophet Abraham (pbuh) that is
emphasized in the Qur'an as being "haneef," for he believed in and
submitted to Allah as the one and only. This devout servant of Allah
distanced himself from his tribe's superstitious beliefs and turned
solely to Him. He also called on his tribe to abandon their pagan
beliefs and idolatry, and tobelieve in Allah.
The true religion revealed by Allah to the Prophet Abraham (pbuh) was
kept alive by other prophets from his line and by true believers. This
is revealed in the Qur'an as follows:
Who would deliberately renounce the religion of Abraham except someone
who reveals himself to be a fool? We chose him in the world and in the
Hereafter he will be one of the righteous. When his Lordsaid to him,
"Become a Muslim!" he said, "I am aMuslim who has submitted to the
Lord of all the worlds." Abrahamdirected his sons to this, as did
Jacob: "My sons! Allah has chosen this religion for you, so do not die
except as Muslims." Or were you present when death came to Jacob and
he said to his sons, "What will you worship when I have gone?" They
said, " We will worship your God, the God of your forefathers,
Abraham, Ishmael and Isaac – one God. We are Muslims submitted to Him.
" (Surat al-Baqara, 130-133)
The Prophet Abraham's (pbuh) "haneef" religion is common to Muslims,
Jews and Christians. He was a sincere prophet who believed in one God
alone,Allah, who praised Him, and who served Him genuinely and with
all his heart. Our Lord praises those who follow the purefaith of the
Prophet Abraham (pbuh) in the Qur'an:
Who could have a betterreligion than someone who submits himself
completely to Allah and is a good-doer, and follows the religion of
Abraham, a man of pure natural belief? Allah tookAbraham as an
intimate friend. (Surat an-Nisa', 125)
The pure faith of the Prophet Abraham (pbuh), whom Allah praised and
sent as a guide for mankind, and the belief in the one Allah that
forms the basis of that faith are common values shared by true faiths
that were sent down later—Islam, Judaism and Christianity. Therefore,
the members ofall three faiths have a responsibility to worship Allah,
the one Lord of all, He Whose All-Powerful might pervades all things
and all places, the Creator of all things.
This common value requires the members of all three revealed faiths to
come together in a single monotheistic belief and to act together for
a commonpurpose.

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The Top 10 Fruit Juices

Pomegranate would have to be the healthiest juice you can drink, due
to it containing almost every type of antioxidant, along with the
highest levels of each. It is also linked to protecting against
certain types of cancer and can help to keep your heart healthy.
Concord Grape Juice
Concord Grapes are another great source of very powerful
antioxidantsand are a great source of fiber. There is also
researchthat suggests they can helpkeep your heart healthy and
contribute in reducing blood pressure so this is well worthy of a
place on this top 10 fruit juices list.
Blueberry Juice
Blueberries are another type of fruit that contain a lot of
antioxidants. They also hold lots of fiber and are a great source of
Vitamin C. The antioxidantsfound in blueberries can help to lower
inflammation, which indicates that they may have a positive effect on
age-related declines in cognitive abilities.
Black Cherry Juice
Black cherries contain...yep,you guessed it, antioxidants! Once again,
ahigh amount are found in black cherry juice. Along with this benefit
however, there has also been research that has suggested that they can
help to reduce muscle injuries caused by exercising, which would of
course be of great benefit to those of us who exerciseregularly.
Acai Berry Juice
Acai berries are yet anothersource of powerful antioxidants. There are
some reports that say this berry could be the greatest but more
research will need to be done on this relatively newly discovered"
superfood ". Other research also links Acai berries to increased
cancer protection.
Cranberry Juice
Cranberries are, like the rest of these fruit juices, very high in
antioxidants. They are also another goodsource of Vitamin C. A
slightly more unique benefit of cranberries however, is that they've
been shown to help slow the build-up of bacteria in the bladder, which
can help to protect against urinary tract infections.
Orange Juice
Orange Juice is the most widely consumed fruit juice, and for good
reason. It's another juice with high levels of antioxidants and as
everybody knows, is packed full of Vitamin C, which is good for your
ligaments, tendons, skin, blood vessels and bones. Good old OJ also
contains 500mg of potassium in every glass, which helps to maintain
your body's water and acid balance.
Apple Juice
The benefits of Apple Juice are only now beginning to be fully
understood. Recentstudies show a glass a day can help heart health due
to a high concentration of phytonutrients, which slowthe break down of
"bad" LDL cholesterol. Apple Juiceis also high in fiber and Vitamin C.
When buying Apple Juice it's best to go for the cloudiest you can
find.
Tomato Juice
Tomato Juice contains phytonutrients including lycopene,
beta-carotene, Vitamin E and more. In addition to reducing
inflammation, regular consumption of Tomato Juice has been linked to
helping to lower blood pressure, and it may even bolster immune
function.
Carrot Juice
Carrot Juice has one of the highest concentrations of vitamin A of any
food, which can help strengthen defective eyesight. It's a good source
of B vitamins and contains minerals including calcium, chlorine,
copper, iron, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, sodium and sulphur.

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Boycott junk food in schools - California mandates set a healthy eating example

(NaturalNews) Legislation in California has set limits on what foods
can be sold as competitive foods in their public schools. Competitive
food sales include snack bars and kiosks, a la carte cafeteria
purchases, and vending machines.
The restrictions deal with lowering added sugars andfat contents and
even excluding artificial sweeteners. The calorie amounts are limited
while nutritional values are required to meet federal guidelines. For
example, fruit juices are required to contain 50% natural nectarwhile
restricting added sugar contents.
A recent study shows California teens are consuming 158 less calories
per day than teens in 14 other states since thevending machine mandate
was put into effect in California a few years ago.
One-hundred California teens were compared to 560 kids in other states
in early 2010. The study was published in the Archives ofPediatrics
and Adolescent Medicine , May 2012. Healthconditions were not
considered with any of the subjects studied, only calorie content that
could influence obesity. Less obesity is good, as obesity alone can
promote a plethora of negative healthconditions. But there was no hint
of teens switching to healthier diets as a result of placing
relatively decent snack food options in the California schools.
MSG and GMOs are probably in some of those calorie-restricted snack
items since all of them are either processed or derivedfrom Big Ag and
Big Dairy farming methods. Those shiny apples are heavily sprayed with
chemicals, unless they're organic. Throw in even a small amount of
HFCS, colorings, flavorings and preservatives, and the toxicloads are
dramatically increased. In other words, calorie restrictions alone
don't guarantee good health.
Daniel Taber, University of Illinois-Chicago professor and the
California study's lead author stated, "They should definitely be
applauded for their actions.All states could focus on providing more
healthy foods in schools, in addition to banning high-fat, high-sugar,
high-calorie foods and beverages. But I think the lesson is that even
their laws were only a starting point."
Although the nutritional standards applied help somewhat, they are
federalgovernment standards set by dieticians from the old-school. You
know, the type who prepares hospitalmenus. So there is much more to do
before completely healthy foods can be provided by school cafeterias
and competitive food vendors.
Private, underfunded and under-reported groups are promoting
farm-fresh foods for school cafeterias Meanwhile, NGOs (non-government
organizations) are hard at work trying to get organic fresh foods from
area farms into school lunch programs. Vermont and Oregon have taken
the lead in the United States. California has also made inroads in the
effort to feed kids better schools and encourage small organic farming
with increased profits to family run organic farms.
There has been a massive UN study and additional regional studies that
have concluded the best way to feed the world would be from small
scale regional organic farming.
Each region would becomeself-sufficient with less large scale
distributors, such as Cargill, brokering foods to chain retailers
everywhere, and less commodity brokers gambling futures and affecting
food prices because the food growingand distribution would be greatly
decentralized.
Farm to school efforts could be a first step towardthis planetary
downsized sustainable end. Rome, Italy provides a successful example.
Seventy percent of the foods in their schools are organic.

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HADEES :- ~

'Aa'ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: "I heard the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saying•►'Souls are like
conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with,
and those whom they do not recognize, theywill not get along with.'"
(Saheeh al-Bukhaari)
The hadeeth was also narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh, 4773. Al-Nawawi
said: "With regard to the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him), 'Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom
they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not
recognize, theywill not get along with', the scholars said that the
meaning is•► groups gathered together, or different types. As for
themgetting along, this happensbecause of something in common between
them that Allaah has created. It was said that they are similar
attributes that Allaah has created in them, or that they were created
in a group and then dispersed in their bodies, so people who have
similarcharacteristics will like one another, and those who donot have
similar characteristics will not like one another.
Al-Khattaabi and others said•► this getting along with one another has
to dowith what Allaah decreed from the outset about the ultimate
destiny of souls, whether they will be among the blessed [in Paradise]
or the doomed [in Hell]. Souls are of two opposing kinds, and when
they meet in this physical world, they will either love or hate one
another depending on the way they were created. Good souls will be
inclined towards other good souls, and evil souls will be inclined
towards other evil souls. And Allaah knows best.
We have narrated a mawsool report in Sunan Abi Ya'laa, at the
beginningof which is the story narrated from 'Amrah bint 'Abd
al-Rahmaan, who said: "There was a woman in Makkah who liked to joke,
and she came and stayed with a woman in Madeenah who was like her.
When 'Aa'ishah heard about this, she said•► 'My beloved spoke the
truth. I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessingsof Allaah
be upon him) saying…' and mentioned a similar hadeeth like the one
above."
And Allaah knows best. ♥

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Egypt's military 'grants itself sweeping powers'

Egypt's ruling military has issued a declaration apparently granting
itselfsweeping powers, as the country awaits results of presidential
elections.
The document by the Supreme Council of Armed Forces (Scaf) reportedly
says new general elections can not be held until a permanent
constitution is drawn up.
It also allegedly gives the Scaf legislative control.
Meanwhile, the Muslim Brotherhood says its candidate, Mohammed Mursi,
has won Sunday's presidential election.
Mr Mursi, an Islamist, is competing against Ahmed Shafiq, who served
as prime minister under former President Hosni Mubarak.
Mr Mursi's Muslim Brotherhood said he was holding a 52%-48% lead over
Mr Shafiq with almost all the vote counted after Sunday's second-round
run-off election.
Speaking at his party headquarters, Mr Mursi pledged to be a president
for all Egyptians, adding that he would not "seek revenge or settle
scores".
"Thanks be to God who hasguided Egypt's people to the path of freedom
and democracy, uniting the Egyptians to a better future," he said.
But Mr Shafiq's campaign said it rejected"completely" the victory
claim by Mr Mursi.
"We are astonished by this bizarre behaviour which amounts to a
hijacking of the election results," Shafiqcampaign official Mahmud
Barakeh was quoted as saying by the AFP news agency.
Official results have yet to be announced.
The election - the first sinceHosni Mubarak was forced from office in
2011 - also comes amid a bitter row over the dissolution of parliament
following a court ruling on Thursday.
The Brotherhood has denounced the step as unlawful and a coup against democracy.

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Good Morning tips

The tree does not with draw its shade from the woodcutter, so Forgive
theone who hurt u..They will realise Ur worth One day.. GUD MG
@
Success is the ability to go From One failure to another With no loss
of enthusiasm... Gud Morning N Have A Great Sunday =)
@
Between a 100 yesterdaysN a 100 2morrows,There is only 1 2day N I
would not let ths pass without saying thx 4 being such a lovely frnd
@
What is Trust?Trust is a feeling that a one year oldchild has, when u
throw him up in the air N catch him again..he still laughs nenjy
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Hi..rght now i m coming near 2 u..in the form of Sunlight. in the form
of sweet breze.in the form ofgud wishes 2 greet u a great mrng

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FiveWords That Changed My Life

Today, while out with my family at the Ashby Flea Market in Berkeley
California, I ran into a man who changed the entire course of my life
fifteen years ago. And he did it with a smile and one simple question.
I have no doubt in my mind that hadI not met this man on that cold day
in February, that I would either be dead or in prison.
Fifteen years ago while on my way to a college class, Iran into a
familiar looking guy who pointed at my shirt and said "good looking
out" and stood up and shook my hand. I was sporting dread locks,
wearing a Haile Selassie shirt, baggy jeans, suede Pumas, sunglasses
and a Sessions snowboarder jacket. I was the quintessential hard to
labelCalifornia Bay Area pseudo hip hop hippie skater. Happy because
of my rasta shirt he guy said to me "Hey I think I know you dude, we
met at such and such a place. My name is Whitney Canon (who we now
know as USAMA CANON)." I answered in the affirmative and we struck up
a conversation and realized we had several mutual friends. This
"chance" meeting would prove to be "one of two" ofthe most important
random occurrences in my life.
Strangely it ended up that we had the same Spanish class together and
ended up sitting next to one another. Over the course ofa few days we
learned thatwe were both musicians / artists. Usama had the codeto the
piano room in the music hall so we'd sneak into the room and sit and
play music for hours and talk about spirituality. We did this just
about every day for an entire semester.
One day while eating sushi at a popular Japanese restaurant near
campus I confided in Usama and toldhim I was burnt out and tired of my
life and that I had decided to get things back on track. I was living
by myself in downtown San Jose, working nights waiting tables and
going to school during the day. There were many things about my
lifestyle (that I won't go into detail about here) that were
preventingme from success. I also hadthe burden of past demonsthat
would sneak up to torment me from time to time. So, the only real
solution I knew of to deal with problems of this magnitude was to get
religious and go back to church.
I told Usama that I was considering going back to the Catholicism to
get my life in order. He asked me ifI'd ever thought about Islam. I
told him that I hadn't thought of it for myself because I felt it was
either an Arab religion or a separatist black movement(which I
couldn't join because my mother is white) and that I felt the only
Muslims I had ever met were hypocrites and that I'd never seen a good
practicing Muslim.
He told me about his older brother (ANAS CANON) converting to orthodox
Islam after a short time in the Nation Of Islam and that it wasn't
just for Arabsbut that from what he knew it was a pretty universal
religion. (NOTE: Usama wasn't Muslim yet when he was telling me this).
He asked me if I knewabout Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon Him) and I
told him that I just knew ofElijah Muhammad but that even Malcolm X
said he wasn't a real prophet. He then explained to me that there was
a different man named Muhammad that was a real Prophet from Arabia and
that I should look into him. At this point I started to get turned off
as I usually did whenever anybody spoke to me overtly about religion.
Plus once he said "Arab Prophet" I knew that Islamwasn't for me. We
ended the conversation and I headed to work. This was aWednesday.
That night after work I went to the bookstore to buy a Bible and I
walked past the "Eastern Philosophy" section and looked up and saw a
greenbook that had the name 'MUHAMMAD' written downthe entire spine in
gold letters. I stopped and thought for a moment and then reached up
and grabbed the book. The cover said 'MUHAMMAD – His Life Based On The
Earliest Sources" by Martin Lings. This phrase "earliest sources"
intrigued me because although I was there to purchase a bible, I was
aware of the theological debate about the number of mistakes found in
the bible and it was something that troubled me greatly. So, I opened
up the book and tried to read it but the Arabic names were really
difficult for me to pronounce and so I was struggling to get through
even a couple sentences. The four or five sentences I did read
mentioned the "QUR'AN" several times. The Arabic names solidifiedthe
reality that this was an Arab religion and not something I would want
tobe a part of so I put the book back up on the shelf.
As I began to walk away the gold letters "MUHAMMAD" caught my eye
again and looked back up at the book. This time, I noticed another
book titled"THE QU'RAN." I was going to keep walking but I remembered
that I saw that word a few times in the Martin Lings book so I reached
up and pulled it offthe shelf.

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Question One: Should Istikhara be prayed once or multiple times?

Question One: Should Istikhara be prayed once or multiple times?

Answer:
Assalamu alaikum. When one is not clear about the result of the
istikhara , the fuqaha mention that it is recommended to repeat it, up
to seven times if necessary (usually done on separate occasions).

Getting a Dream After Istikhara?
It is not necessary that you get a dream or even a "feeling". Rather,
the istikhara is a prayer that Allah guide you towards that which is
best (khayr) for you. If you do the prayer of guidance (istikhara)
with the propermanners, the most important of which is to truly
consign the matter to Allah and suspend your own inclinations, then
Allah will make events unfold in the direction that is the best for
your worldly and next-worldly affairs.
In general, when it is not possible to perform the istikhara prayer
itself (suchas when one is out on the road, or in one's
menstrualperiod), it is recommendedto simply read the dua itself.
[Radd al-Muhtar]
The istikhara prayer may be made for a specific matter or be made for
a general seeking of all that is best. Some scholars, including Imam
Abd al-Wahhab al-Sha`rani andIbn `Arafah before him saw this kind of
(specific) istikhara prayer as being superior.
Others, including Shaykh Ibn al-Arabi, recommended performinga general
istikhara prayer for all that is good every day, ideally at the time
of the Duha prayer (after sunrise).
Before Istikhara Prayer
Imam al-Nawawi mentioned that before theistikhara prayer, one should
seek advice (istishara) from those whose knowledge, wisdom, and
concern one is confident.
Ibn Hajar al-Haytami and others mentioned that one of the benefits of
this is to further distance oneself from the desires ofone's own
egotistical inclinations.
Opening the Prayer
It is recommended to open the dua of istikhara [below], with praise of
Allah and sending blessings on the Prophet (Allah bless him & give him
peace), and to close it in this manner, too.

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Muhammad Ali’s daughter arrived at his home

Muhammad Ali's daughter arrived at his home wearing revealing clothes.
He said to her: 'Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world
is covered and hard to get to.Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in
the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down
at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful
shell. Where do you find gold? Way down and in... the mine, covered
over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get
them.'
He looked at her with serious eyes and then said 'Your body is sacred.
You'refar more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be
covered too.'

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My husband relies on me financially, so I have to work. I am not loved for who I am.

Dear Sisters/brothers,

What I have to say today to you I have not said before to anyone.
I have ran these thoughts in my head several times and have only said
it to ALLAH. I have been married for 14 years now. From the beginning,
I hadto work although I hated working life. I so much wanted to be a
good housewife and good mother-to-be. This was a love marriage. I
married my husband because the truth is I was never liked by anybody
else but him. My cousins my age were getting married and the truth is
I didn't think anyone like him would like me as I am not fair and not
very beautiful. Anyway, when we marriedhe made it very clear I hadto
work as he didn't earn agood salary and also we were going to live on
our own. I agreed, thinking that after my first son wasborn I could
leave, but then he also said that he didn't like a woman to sit at
home and get fat. Because he is very handsome, I didn't want him to
lose interest in me so I worked.
I always earned a better salary then him. He had an affair and I
caught him. He was very sorry and promised never to do it again. He
lost my trust completely up to today. By then I also wanted to be the
woman he wanted, so I continued to work even after I had my two kids,
which family looked after, and I sometimes think it killed a bit of
the mother in me that I could have been. I changed jobsand always
earned better than him. He used to be very happy with me whenI
worked and if I was out of a job it caused tension. When I brought it
up he would he told me he liked a working woman. I eventually stuck
at a very good job for about 8 yearsand earned very well in this time.
He lost his job and with the help of my family and me he set up his
own business. He promised that when it gotbetter I could leave but I
had to put the pressure onto eventually leave my joband stay home.
The business took care of us for a couple of good years,and then all
of a sudden last year, things began to go bad , and even worse this
year.
I don't have a good relationship with a certain family member on his
sideof the family and noticed that at times my husband is off me when
something comes up about this person. ALLAH alone is mywitness that I
have done no wrong to this person. Also my brother has helped us out
with some money and my husband needs more, gives me the guilt trip
that when my brother cannot help us again. He somehow takes out all
of this on me. I have always been the one to make things happen
forus. My personality is like that. I'm not afraid to make the calls
and pull thestrings. When I get thingsright he is so happy with me
but when things are bad he holds me responsible. I've realised itso
now if ever things do come right I don't feel anyhonesty in his love
because I feel like I spoil him with my personality of making things
happen for us.
Now when I am sitting back and he can't make it, he is taking it out
on me. I am hating my life and myself right now. I've done alot of
good for people who have turned on me and I wonder why. I have prayed
and begged ALLAH but to no avail. Please just listen to me. Maybe I
just needed to tellsomeone and I don't have the guts to bad-mouth
myhusband to anyone -- not even my own family. And now I have no one
to talk to or share my feelings with. I've always been loyal to a
lot of people butI feel like no one genuinely likes me for whom I am
-- not even my husband. I am liked for what I can do for them,not for
who I am, and thatREALLY hurts!
~Razeena

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Abused by my father, and now by my husband, and I am almost insane

assalaam alaikum to all
i am a 26 year old girl who's been married past 15 months. I am a girl
with a mental disorder because my father used toabuse me when I was
younger.
But it is only my husband now, and he does it very rarely, but when he
does, he hurts me very badly. Hepunches me, pulls my hair,but this has
been going onsince I came here. And because of this, I am, in a way,
quite twisted.
Ever since i got married my inlaws gave me a tough time. As a child
growing, I had a tough lifeas my sister got divorced when i was still
in school, my brother had heart attacks... dad is a very violent
person very strict with us... i used to obey my father always but he
isunnecessarily strict... and orders all the time.. everyone in my
family andoutside the family is scared of my dad. but i know he's the
best when he cares..
But because of my dad's excessively violent nature and restrictions i
fell into an immature and stubborn state of emotions where i got
involved with my husbandin an affair before marriage and then
forciblyconvinced my parents to allow me to marry the guyi want...
also my dad had given up on life 10 years ago when my sister got
divorced so he was not bothered if i am going to the right house...
Therefore i felt the need toget independent and the best way out was
to get married... but unfortunately i got married into a very very
very bad family.. to a guy who's lying 24x7.. as he thinks my family
is gonna shower him with money and houses... but reality is that my
dad has no money now.. we had a huge list of troubles in ourlives... i
discontinued my bds 2nd year since i got married... as i hate my
college atmosphere which has religious differences... iuse to do hijab
and they dnt like it so i was boycotted by the staff... i thought i
will be free oncei get married to the guy who loves me... but he never
loved me he loved the money which he thought we had... and when he
found no money he along with his family started to torture me.
My husband has just finished his mis(mba) fromusa... n i live with him
alone now... earlier when icame to USA as a dependent i stayed at my
husband's sister's house for a month , god... she showed me hell in 15
days... as i didnt know cooking at all... i learned cooking as fast as
i can to keep my husband happy and healthy.. we moved from her house
after a month of fights n torture.. she is 39 years ald n compares
herself with me... i hate her and alwayslaugh at her immaturity...
anyway.. now the only way out of this trouble i thought would be to
earn money myself so that i wont be a burden on my husband as he was
counting the money whichhe spends on groceries.. my husband fights
with me all the time and warns me that he will divorce men asked me to
leave and he's creating a scene each time so that i should leavehim
myself. he's been repeating about divorce for many times now.. as he
is looking for a citizen girl who has a green card...n till then he is
using me as a slave to cook for him and earn money for him and satisfy
his needs ... ya ALLAH help me... i am in such pain...
i also was forced to have an abortion after 3 months of marriage... n
my husband is not planning to keep me as hiswife as i dnt have a green
card...
imagine, i cook, i earn money, i clean the house, iwash his clothes, i
never made anything more than a cup of tea b4 marriage nnow he made me
a servant in one year of married life.. plzz give me advice on what to
do?? i am alone in USA with my husband suffering beyond tolerance..
any advice is appreciated.. may ALLAH have mercy on
all..ameen..otherwise i will commit suicide....
I am anti-social, paranoid, angry, depressed, and I have the darkest
thoughts.I involuntarily think of ways to kill people. And they're
very imaginative... Because of my parents, I believe that there is no
good in this world, and because of my husband, I hate humans. I
honestly do.
When I am severely angry or severely upset, I am dangerous. I can
seriously hurt someone. But I reach the limit of my insanity, and I'm
someone I can't even recognize. I am suicidal. I want to drug, smoke
and drink myself todeath (but I have never done any of this).i tried
it though, I harm myself, harm others, attempt suicide, scream,
shout,abuse everyone or anyone i see but inside mybrain not on their
face,slapmyself, break things, and worst of all, I i insult ALLAH and
islam.

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My husband is taking drugs, lying and not providing for us.

Salam everyone,
I have been married for 12years with two kids. I havebeen happy in my
marriage until now. Between the last few years my husband has not been
employed after he sold his business. He lost a lot of money and was
verydepressed due to this. We are both working and have been for the
last 12 years.
I have supported him in every aspect of his life, financially and
emotionally. I have alwayssaid to think of my moneyas his money. I
have helped his family numerous amounts of time with substancial
amounts of money and also I have given him money to open his business
and paid for all the household bills while he was setting himself up
and when the business was making a loss. Basically I have not saved a
penny of my money as all these years I have beenpaying all the
household bills and supporting my husband and his family financially
as I thought that was the right thing inorder to be a good wife and
daughter in law and also I love my husband very much and wanted to
help him in any way I can. Now I feel that I have made the biggest
mistake of my life by doing this.
My husband made losses in his businesses and borrowed money on
interest to recoup the losses. I have also sinned and borrowed money
to help him. We got into a lotof financial problems and in the end
lost the business and owed a lot ofmoney. He was not working for the
last three years and I was paying off all the loans and the household
bills. I did not pressure him much to get a job as I knew he was very
depressed. I allowed him to take time to get a good job. Eventually
whenhe did get a job as a self employed person he was not earning
much. He keptmaking excuses as to why he wasn't making money and kept
promising that things will get better. I amvery eager to pay off his
credit card bills as it has interest and we are comiting a grave sin.
One year later we are still in the same situation he is working day
and night and earning little or no money. I am having to payfor 90% of
the bills.
Until now he has always been a kind loving and gentle person who is
striving to be a good muslim. He always prays and read the quran and
promises that he is striving to be a better muslim and stop stop haram
things. I have been patient with him and believed him all this time
and did not pressure him about the job. Recently I have noticed that
he has become very angry and tired and does not pray allthe time and
stopped reading the quran. All he does is eat sleep and go towork.
We have no family life. I am stressed with doing allthe housework
looking after the kids and providing financially for the family. I
have told himto leave this job and get another job so that he can have
time to spend with his family. He argued with me that he will not
leave this job even if he has to do long hours and earn peanuts! He
has also insulted me and is blaming me for all his misfortunes even
though Ihave given all my money to him! He has always praised me in
the past andnow he keeps finding faults in me.
I have got his parents and my parents involved but ithas not changed
anything.Recently I have found out that he is taking drugs, but I do
not know to whatextent. I have confronted him about it but he
deniesit. I am really distressed having to do both the husband and
wife's role! I know islam teaches us to be patient. In this case am I
supposed to keep payingthe bills and wait for him to change? My family
and friends are advising me to divorce him as he will never change but
I don't want to break my marriage. I just want him to change and be a
responsible father and husband as he was a few years ago.
I am always praying day and night that he comes to his senses and
realizes his fault. I don't want my children to grow up without a
father. I would be very grateful for any advice on this and the
islamic ruling regarding this.
Thank you.
-sumaira

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My husband wants the mahr back, but he owes me the same amount!

"O you who have believed,it is not lawful for you to inherit women by
compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take
[back part of what you gave them unless they commit a
clearimmorality." (Surah Nisa, Ayah 19)
Assalam alikum,
I am a female who lives in the United States. I got married to a
gentleman last year on March 2011.
After few months, my husband was not taking care of me financially.
He was also very stubbornand was creating a lot of havoc in the house,
which was very hard for me and my kids from previous relationship. My
husband was accusing me of a lot things which were not true including
cheating on him. My husband would like to fight as soon as he comes
home and sometimes every night at 2am or even 4am.
I tried to do what he wanted but he was alwaysmaking up new stories.
After many fights, I tried to convince him to leave me and divorce me,
he would say he would but the next day he would apologize and say he
will try to do better.
I got him out of the house after many attempts of fixing our
relationship after 5 months or less (endof june) of marriage because
my kids were having nightmares and wecouldn't sleep when he was home
because of his aggressiveness! More attempts were made on my part to
get back together but he would always promise and fight after we start
talking again.
Please advise me how to get divorced from him since its been almost a
year since our seperation and he doesn't take care of me and give me
my rights. Please note that he insisted that he will never divorce me!
The other thing is that we got married in the mosqueonly and there are
no documents between us! We met with the sheikh who did our nikah to
get divorced and I agreed to give him back the dowry but when I
recalled that my husband owes me the same amount of money, the sheikh
didn't accept that and said I would haveto pay him back as agreed
upon.
How is it right that I give that money that he owes me on other
matter? Please help thank you!

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I love my husband but he wont find a job and I’m having trouble conceiving

I am a 29 year old Muslim sister facing difficulties in my marriage
life. I really love and care for my husband and I am always trying to
make him happy but a lot of times I feel that he isn't trying hard
enough to make me happy. First of all, I know that marriage is a
commitment between husband and wife, where each person listens and
respects each other's thoughts and feelings. A lot of times, I try out
of my way to give my husband all the support heneeds, but I admit,
some times out of frustration I have said hurtful things tohim because
of his behavior.
I feel a lot of times he triesto order me around and he even said that
if I did everything he says immediately, he would know that I really
love him. I feel that his thinking of what love is, isn't correct. He
has to understand that ordering me around isn't the way to talk to
one's spouse, and if he needs something, it should be said kindly and
sincerely. I am not his slave, but his wife. If he needs anything,I
would gladly do it for him, but I will not be talked down to like I am
under him or something.
My therapist (who is American) believes that what he is thinking is
cultural since I was born inAmerica and he was born in South Asia, but
I feel it is not really Islamic thinking. Even though I was born in
America, I have maintained my Islamic identity, and have avoided a lot
of things I feel in America are not in tune with Islam.
In addition, my husband puts his relatives and friends way above me. I
have no problem with himcalling his relatives and friends because it
is good to keep in contact with others, but he seems to put them WAY
above me. Ifeel like he ignores me and is more interested in being
with other people inhis life.
Also, I feel I cannot share any of my feelings with him without him
getting angry. One time, I was crying about how hurt I felt when one
of my cousins did something wrong with me, and he immediately got
angry with me and said that I always find fault with others and that I
don't likeanyone. What he is saying isn't true. I like to maintain my
family relations, but they are not more important to me than my
husband. I felt that I would get some emotional support from him, but
instead, it leads to a BIG fight and then we both say bad things to
each other.
I feel like he feels very strongly about family relations more than he
feels strongly about me. He gets mad when anything is said against
other people, like they are so important to him. I really don't
understand this thinking. He even tried to pack his suit case and
leave from the house when I tried to express myfeelings about
something that was troubling me about someone else. He said that if he
had any relatives living nearby, he would go and live with them and
leave me and this hurt me so much because he feels like they are more
important than me.
I don't know what to do. I understand he is new to America (he's only
been in this country for 7 months),but we are constantly arguing and
fighting about little things. In terms of him finding a job,that has
been a source of great difficultly in our marriage. I am doing
everything for him, but he is doing nothing. He speaks English very
well and even Americans compliment his English, but he has no
confidence in his abilities. He speaks so many languages too and he
had a good job before. However, it seems like he is scared to take the
initiative to apply for ajob. I am filling out all his job
applications and doingeverything for him! He even said to me that I am
responsible for him finding a job because he isnew to this country and
doesn't know anything. Is that fair what he is saying? I don't think
any wife has the responsibility to find a job for her husband. He has
to do thathimself!
Then he constantly gets depressed because he isn'tgetting any job
offers, but he is scared to talk on the phone to the manager or
whoever is hiring for the jobs he applies to, to market himself. He
seems to have absolutely no confidence. In fact, he received a
voicemail on hiscell phone for a job interview, and I had to callthe
company for him. Then when I gave him the phone and told him to leave
a message stating that he received their message and would be
interested in setting up aninterview, he got mad at me and hung up the
phone and started yelling at me about why I gave him the phone to
leave a message. How will anyonegive him a job if he is afraid to
speak for himself?

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Confused about my position in a happy marriage with a stingy husband

I am a completely devotedhousewife and stay at home mum of 2 kids. My
husband works 8-10 hoursa day, and when he comeshome I make sure he
has all the comforts and peaceof mind available plus hot food and a
cheerful atmosphere.
He earns roughly$3500-$4000 per month mashAllah, and we have a
comfortable house we are renting, and maintaining our own cars. From
his salary, he gives me $600 to run the household expenses which
includes all the energy bills, utilities, groceries and childrens
school dinners/sandwiches.
By the end of the month, every single penny has been used up for milk
and bread etc. I never get a single cent to spend on myself. My
parents give me $100 every month, and that too is spent on the bills
and groceries. I never ever have money to buy myself anything. Even to
buy things for the children I have to ask him over and over again to
either give me money or take us shopping on his days off, for even
basic things like school uniforms.
I have been shivering in the cold and do not have decent coat. he does
not give it any importance. I do not even have the stamina left to
tell him things I need. I buy the most economical clothes and shoes
for the children.More often it is my parentswho are buying things for
me and my children like clothes on Eid and children's seasonal
clothes.
He says we are saving up to buy a house, which I totally agree with as
we are renting at the moment. But when it comes to him spending, there
are no limits. He will book foreign trips for us, hold lavish dinners
for friends, spend whole heartedly on anything he wants to buy for the
house. But in my case, I have been constantly reminding him we need
curtains for the house, even cheap flimsy ones would do but the sun is
very disturbing sometimes, and there is no privacy even though our
house is in quite an isolated place.
I started working to fulfill my own desires, such as buying books for
my children which they love reading, sometimes my niece too who I love
dearly. My sister is not well to do, and I like to treat her to nice
things sometimes.
But unfortunately, when I started working, even though part time, my
whole household system got disturbed. Every evening I was totally
tired by the time I got home, lacking energy to give my family any
quality time at all, as I was always burdened with responsibilities ie
cooking, washing up, laundry, ironing, preparing for nextday.
Sometimes I had to stay back a bit longer due to work committments (I
am a teacher), late parents, or talking to parents, or after school
meetings and plannings , which angered my husband. He thought I
wastaking my job too seriously, whereas I was brought up in an
environment where we were taught to do everything we did with full
committment and sincerity.
As a wife, do I deserve some pocket money for myself from my husband,
knowing full well he can afford it. He hates spending money on me.
In15 years of marriage he has never bought me any presents, clothes or
Eid clothes.
My parents, God bless them end up taking care of everything. I have
told them very clearly that they should not do it anymore. He needs to
realize. But he does not give such things any importance. If I want to
buy a coat, he will say to me, Summer is approaching, you are only
wasting money. I am a hypothyroid patient, and cannot tolerate cold,
so I go out with 3-4 layers of clothes and the a skimpy jacket which I
ordered online because I seemed so odd in the cold wind standing there
in the childrens school without a coat.
I know he loves me in many other ways, he is very very dependant on me
emotionally, wants meto be around all the time, and worries if I get
angry, or cry. I just dont know how to deal with this. Our intimate
relations are perfect, we have a fabulous life Alhamdolillah, just
that I dont know if I should be getting more money from him
I have even told him the other day that I dont wantus to buy a house.
We will live in rented accomodation for as long as we have to.
His family is quite caring, and used to look after me well when they
took me as a daughter in law. My husband seperated me from them as he
wanted complete control over me and brought me to the states.
Sometimes I think he is punishing me. His parents, just like mine are
comfortably well off, but we do not recieve any help from them, which
to be honest we don't need as Alhamdolillah my husband is earning well
enough. But where do I stand?
PS: I have sat down with him on numerous occassions to explain how
much I spend and how much I need.

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Could I take off my hijab when I am around my relatives?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half now,
he is from Saudi Arabia and he is Muslim. I have been reading up on
the Muslim religion and I think when women wear hijaab that its to
keep other men away from temptation. Its stated " women should cover
the specified areas of their bodies which may arouse sexual desire in
others (see Qur'an {7:26;} 33:59). I also found that indeed, many
Muslim women consider the head scarf a form of feminist expression,
because it forces people to judge them by their character rather than
their looks.
This is true I have had many Muslim women as friends, anyways back to
my point, my boyfriend has brought it up a couple times that he would
like me to convert to Muslim. The religion is not too much different
from my Christian religion and I think possibly converting and wearing
hijaab is a great idea. Now converting would be my choice but would
other Muslim people judge me for wearing hijaab or thinkI am mocking
them? The other issue is my family they like my boyfriend butdo not
want me to cover, they do not believe in it soI want to wear it but
not around them. Could I wearhijab and just not wear it when with
them?(I do notsee them that much). or would that be bad and against
religious or cultural beliefs of Muslims?
Renee.

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Stuck in my marriage, want a divorce from my emotional abusive husband

"Husband should feed his wife whenever he eats and cloth her, whenever
he cloths himself, that he not hit her in face, that he not call her
ugly and that he not boycott her except within the house" (Ibn Majah)
Assalam O Alaikum,
I have noone and nowhere to tell and ask for advices. I feel terribly
lonely and helpless. I am aconvert and married an Arab husband about
13 years ago. I do not know where to start my problem as it seems it
has been embedded for years.
We have 3 children and live in America right now. My husband is a
highly educated person but with anger issues. He is so goodin using
logic and language, there is no way that one can reason with him. He
weighs everythingon the benefit of his side. His motto is: what is in
it for me? For him, everything can be measured and there is nothing
called altruism. His assumption is people are selfish and lazy.
Everything people do has a hidden agenda and motive. His religious is
the one who can save the human from being in the stage of selfishness.
His fear of Allah is out of being sent to hell.
He did everything "right" –prays five times a day, fasts not only in
Ramadan,donate the portion that heneeds to (never more, never less),
give money to his mother monthly (out of fear that his mother willnot
pray for him). He is just so robotic and binds to the law and rules of
Islam. One thing he alwaysmentions is if he were not a Muslim, he
would have indulged in sex, drug and alcohol. He praises his religion
so much for stopping him doing such athing. I do not understand why it
has to be extreme that either he has to choose be a bad guy or good
guy.
I have so many friends from my country that theydo not have religion
but live their life fully by volunteering in the societyand living in
a happy and productive life. They surelyknow what is right or wrong
out of their consciousness and their moral/ education background.
Sometimes, I think Islam may be fit to those people who may go to an
extreme astray life, I wonder?
He belittles women in general, calling them lots of name. I do not
feel respect and love from him anymore. I feel disgusted by sleeping
next to him. I feel suffocated.
One thing I want to do is adivorce. I want to breath, Iwant freedom. I
am sorry to say that, I am reaching to the point that I hate being
married to a Muslim man and being a Muslim. I know Islam is the right
religion but I just hate seeing so many men usingit as a means to
control women mentally and physically. When my teenager daughter said
to me that she would never going to choose a Muslim man or at least
not an Arab Muslim or a "religiousone".
I know my relationship with my husband is affecting her unconsciously
already. Shewould even suggest that we should leave him behind as he
does not deserve respect from us. Unfortunately, it appears to me that
my husband's character is not an uncommon around the Arab community
where I live. But most Arab women choose to toleratethis kind of
disrespectful behavior (shouting in bad language, being confined at
home, not allowed to mingle with friends.) I cannot share with those
sisters about my situation as they will look at me as a "rebellious
one" or not religious enough to depend to Allah. Their endurance level
is so high that I do not have.
Sure, he provides food andshelter in the family. According to him,
love is abstract and cannot be measured but food and shelter can.
Other than that, he will play with the children whenever he wants and
he feels like. If he has a bad mood, he willshout and shut the
children out. He will never take the children to a parkor just walk
outside. Whenever the children do something wrong, he will shout and
say some harsh comments, like f**king idiot. He watched TV a lot and
some of them are not appropriate even for Muslim. He will just hush
the children to their room.He watched pornographic movie on the
computer. Ironically, he prays, fasts twice a week and in Ramadan. He
robotic-ally follows every steps of a Muslim should do. I have to
admit, I cannot bear seeing him praying. Even my daughter would say
that Allah would turn his face away from him.
Unfortunately, my husband thinks he makes no mistakes. He measures it
by his acts, such as he pays the bills, he does not fool around, he
does not drink or gamble, he pays his mom on time even though they
have a very bad relationship. He blamed his parents for things in the
past. He shouted at his mother in front of the children. I sawhis
mother crying all the time. He knows he cannot go to heaven if he does
not get his mom's prayer. He will suspect his own shadow. He does not
trust anyone and he is so arrogant that he thinks everyone is idiate.

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They say New York city never sleep.

Question: Have you ever seen Makkah???
INDEED There is No comparison;
New York is a Sin city,
while Makkah is a Soul City..!!
New York never sleeps intopleasing shaitan,
Makkah never sleeps into pleasing ALLAH (sw)t .
Ya ALLAH! give us all a chance to visit the holy MAKKAH & MADINAH ♥
Ameen

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Advice

How can I believe when"lie" just lies in the
centre of "believe"
How can I Love when thereis "over" in "Lover"
How can I be friends with anyone when we
know "end" is there in"friend"
How can I trust anyone when there is "rust" in
"Trust"
How can I live a life when there is "if" in "life"?
ALLAH has "ALL" in Him, therefore, I trust, love
& believe in ALLAH being the best of ALL!

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Milk fats may alter gut bacteria causing bowel diseases

The rise of inflammatory bowel diseases could be down to our shifting
diets causing a "boom in bad bacteria", according to US researchers.
Mouse experiments detailed in the journal Nature linked certain fats,
bacteria in the gut and the onset of inflammatory diseases.
The researchers said the high-fat diet changed the way food was
digested andencouraged harmful bacteria.
Microbiologists said modifying gut bacteria might treat the disease.
Inflammatory bowel diseases (IBDs), such as Crohn's and ulcerative
colitis, affect one in every 350 people in the UK. When the gut
becomes inflamed it can lead to abdominal pain and diarrhoea.
The researchers at the University of Chicago said the incidence of the
diseases was increasing rapidly.
They used genetically modified mice which were more likely to develop
IBDs. One in three developed colitis when fed either low-fat diets or
meals high in polyunsaturated fats. This jumped to nearly two in three
in those fed a diet high in saturated milk fats, which are in many
processed foods.
They also suggest an effective means of dealing with such diseases, by
simply reshaping the microbial balance of the gut"
Dr Roy Sleator
Cork Institute of Technology
These saturated fats are hard for the body to digest and it responds
by pumping more bile into the gut. This changes the gut environment
and leadsto a change in the bacteria growing there, the researchers
said.
Treatments
One bacterium in particular, Bilophila wadsworthia, was identified. It
thrives in the extra bile produced to break down the fats. It went
from being incrediblyrare to nearly 6% of all bacteria in the gut in
the high-fat diet.
Prof Eugene Chang, of the University of Chicago, said:"Unfortunately,
these can be harmful bacteria. Presented with a rich source of
sulphur, they bloom, and when they do, they are capable of activating
the immune system of genetically proneindividuals."
However, he said this couldlead to possible treatmentsas the gut
bacteria could be "reshaped" without"significantly affecting the
lifestyles of individuals who are genetically prone to these
diseases".
Commenting on the research, Dr Roy Sleator, from the Cork Institute of
Technology, said: "Not onlydo the authors provide, what is in my
opinion, the first credible explanation asto how Western diet
contributes to the unusually high incidence ininflammatory bowel
disease; they also suggest an effective means of dealing with such
diseases, by simply reshaping the microbial balance of the gut."

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Verses in the Qur’an denoting the end times, Prophet Jesus (as) and Hazrat Mahdi (as) and their numerological analysis

WE SAID, 'HAVE NO FEAR. YOU WILL HAVE THE UPPER HAND. (Surah Taha, 68)
Numerological analysis: GREGORIAN CALENDAR: 1956
Remember when Allah made a covenant with the Prophets: 'Now that We
have given you a share of the Book and Wisdom, and then a messenger
comes to youconfirming what is with you (1) , you must have faith in
him and help him.' He asked, 'Do you agree and undertake my commission
on that condition?' They replied,'We agree.' He said, ' Bear witness,
then. I am with you as one of the witnesses.' (2) (Surah Al 'Imran,
81)
Numerological analysis (1): 1956
Numerological analysis (2): Islamic Calendar: 1416, Gregorian Calendar: 1994
We desired to show kindness to those who were oppressed (1) in the
land and to make them leaders and make them inheritors (2) (Surat
Al-Qasas, 5)
Numerological analysis (1): 1996
Numerological analysis (2): ... leaders ... and make them inheritors: 2021
We sent you only to bring good news and to give warning. (Surat Al-Furqan, 56)
Numerological analysis: 1981
(Besides: The number of the surah (25)x the number of the verse (56)=
1400 (Gregorian Calendar: 1981)
And thus We established Yusuf in the land so he could live in any
place he pleased. We grant Our grace to anyone We will and We do not
allowto go to waste the wage of any people who do good. (Surah Yusuf,
56)
Numerologic al analysis: 2017
He said, 'Go down from it, all of you, as enemies to one another! But
when guidance comes to you from Me, all those who follow My guidance
will not go astray and will not be miserable. (Surah Ta Ha, 123)
Numerological analysis: 1982
Say: 'Everyone is waitingexpectantly so wait expectantly. You will
soon know who are the Companions of the RightPath and who is is
guided.' (Surah Ta Ha, 135)
Numerological analysis: 2023
We made them leaders, guiding by Our command, and revealed to them how
to do goodactions and establish prayer and pay alms , and they
worshipped Us.(Surat Al-Anbiya, 73)
Numerological analysis: 1984
Alif Lam Mim. The Romans have been defeated. (Surat Ar-Rum, 1-2)
Numerological analysis: 1980
…in a few years' time. The affair is Allah's from beginning to end. On
that day, the believers will rejoice… (Surat Ar-Rum, 4)
Numerological analysis: 2010
We wrote down in the Zabur, after the Reminder came: 'It is My
servants who are righteous who will inherit the earth.' (Surat
Al-Anbiya, 105)
Numerological analysis: 2051
If We wished We could send down a Sign to them from heaven, before
which their headswould be bowed low in subjection. (Surat Ash-Shu'ara,
4)
Numerological analysis: 2022
This is a warning like thewarnings of old. (Surat An-Najm, 56)
Numerological analysis: 2031
Allah and His angels call down blessings on the Prophet. You who
believe! call down blessings on him and ask for complete peace and
safety for him. (SuratAl-Ahzab, 56)
Numerological analysis: 1986
We have sent you with the truth bringing good news and giving warning.
There is no community to which a warner has not come. (Surah Fatir,
24)
Numerological analysis: 1983
We placed between them and the cities We had blessed other
clearlyconspicuous cities, making them measured stages on the way:
'Travel between them in safety by night and day.' (Surah Saba, 18)
Numerological analysis: 2023
Those We have given theBook recognize it as theyrecognize their own
sons. Yet a group of them knowingly conceal the truth. (Surat
Al-Baqara, 146)
Numerological analysis: 1959
We will show them Our Signs on the horizon andwithin themselves until
it is clear to them that it is the truth. Is it not enough for your
Lord that He is a witness of everything? (Surah Fussilat, 53)
Numerological analysis: 1990
And you have seen people entering Allah's religion in droves, then
glorify your Lord's praise and ask His forgiveness. He is the
Ever-Returning.(Surat An-Nasr, 2-3)
Numerological analysis: 2016
Did We not raise your renown high? (Surat Al-Inshirah, 4)
Numerological analysis: 2009
IT IS OUR ARMY WHICH WILL BE VICTORIOUS. (Surat As-Saffat, 173)
Numerological analysis: 1994
It is He Who sent His Messenger with guidance and the religion of
Truth to exalt it over every other religion , though the associaters
hate it. (Surat As-Saff, 9)
Numerological analysis: the gemination mark is excluded 2021
The Egyptian who had bought him told his wife, 'Look after him with
honor and respect. It's possible he will be ofuse to us or perhaps we
might adopt him as a son.' And thus We established Yusuf in the land
to teach him the true meaning of events. ALLAH IS IN CONTROL OF HIS
AFFAIR . However, most of mankind do not know. (Surah Yusuf, 21)
Numerological analysis: GREGORIAN CALENDAR: 2014

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Allah is everywhere

Some people imagine thatthey themselves, matter and the world they see
all around them are all absolute beings. But they regard Allah (surely
He is beyond that) as an imagination pervading that absolute matter.
Or else, since they cannot see Him with their own eyes, they say:
"Allah must be somewhere we cannot see, in space or far away from
human eyes." (SurelyAllah is beyond that.) But these are all grave
errors.
Because Allah is everywhere, not just in the sky. As the sole absolute
being, Allah enfolds the whole universe, all people and places, the
heavens and everywhere. And Allah is manifested in the whole universe.
According to the hadith, our Prophet (saas) said that someone who said
that Allah was in the sky was telling the truth. But this account in
no wayconflicts with the fact that Allah is everywhere. Because if
someone at your location on Earth raises his hands and prays to Allah
and thinks that Allah is in the sky, while someone at the South Pole
turns to Allah in the same way, while someoneelse at the North Pole
raises his hands and yet another individual in Japan, or America or
Ecuador raises his hands tothe sky in the same way and turns to Allah,
then it is impossible to speak of any fixed direction. In the same
way, if djinn, angels and demons at various points in space and the
universe also pray toward the skies, it will again be impossible to
speak of anyfixed direction, and the situation will be one that covers
the entire universe.
We must not also forget that Allah is unfettered by time and space.
Allah's selfis something different. Butthe manifestations of Allahare
everywhere. If someone enters a room and says Allah is not there,he is
denying Allah. The manifestations of Allah arein that room and
everywhere. Wherever you may turn, manifestations of Allah arethere.
Several verses of theQur'an state that Allah pervades all places, that
He is closer to us than our own jugular veins, and that we will see
His face wherever we look. For example, in verse 255 of Surat
al-Baqara Allah says"... His Footstool encompasses the heavens and the
earth...." Verse 92 of Surah Hud says, "...But my Lord encompasses
everything that you do" meaning that Allah also pervades what people
do.
The truth revealed in the Qur'an is clear: Allah is not only in the
skies. Allah is He Who enfolds and pervades all places. This knowledge
is provided to us by way of the Qur'an. Describing the reality of the
secret behind matter will enable people to better understand these
verses. People who realizethat matter is not an absolute entity will
realizewith complete clarity that Allah is everywhere at anymoment,
that He sees and hears them at all moments, that He witnesses all
things and is closer to them than their own jugular veins, and that He
hears the prayers of those who pray.
Some verses of the Qur'an on the subject
Both East and West belong to Allah, so wherever you turn, the Face of
Allah is there. Allah is All-Encompassing, All-Knowing. (Surat
al-Baqara, 115)
Allah, there is no god but Him, the Living, the Self-Sustaining. He is
notsubject to drowsiness or sleep. Everything in the heavens and the
earth belongs to Him. Who canintercede with Him except by His
permission? He knows what is before them andwhat is behind them
butthey cannot grasp any ofHis knowledge save what He wills. His
Footstool encompasses the heavens and the earth and their preservation
does not tire Him. He is the Most High, the Magnificent. (Surat
al-Baqara, 255)
When We said to you, 'Surely your Lord encompasses the peoplewith His
knowledge.' Weonly appointed the vision We showed you and the Accursed
Tree inthe Qur'an as a trial and temptation for the people. We
frighten them, but it only increases them in their excessive
insolence. (Surat al-Isra', 60)
There is no one in the heavens and earth who will not come to the
All-Merciful as a slave. Hehas counted them and numbered them
precisely. (Surah Maryam, 93-94)
And other booty you do not yet have the power to take –Allah has
already encompassed it.Allah has power over all things. (Surat al-
Fath,21)
While Allah is encircling them from behind. (Surat al-Buruj, 20)
We created man and We know what his own self whispers to him. We are
nearer to him than his jugular vein. (Surah Qaf, 16)
If something good happens to you, it galls them. If something bad
strikes you, they rejoice at it. But if you are steadfast and have
fear of Allah, their scheming will not harm you in any way. Allah
encompasses what they do. (Surah Al 'Imran, 120)

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Secrets intended for believers alone are hidden in the Qur’an

When we read the Qur'an we see that the most fundamental matters that
Muslims have to know and understand are set out quite explicitly.
Allah describes His creation in the Qur'an. He describes satan,
reveals what is lawful and unlawful and tells us of the lives of the
prophets. It is revealed how the life of this world is a test and how
our true homes are inthe Hereafter. Paradise and Hell are described in
the Qur'an and people are warned against the torments in the latter.
In addition to all these basic issues, the Qur'an also contains
special signs that Allah has deliberately concealed in it for
believers. Through these signs, our Lord tells believers how they
shouldbehave toward deniers, the best way of preaching the word and
what they must do if the moral values of the Qur'an are torule the
world. These signsare only, of course, comprehensible to those
servants who can look at the Qur'an with the eyes of the heart and
good conscience, who can grasp the radiance and message of the Qur'an,
and with whom Allah is well pleased. This is just one of the hundreds
of miracles of the Qur'an.
Our Almighty Lord Makes Science Obligatory for Believers in the Qur'an
The presence in the Qur'anof scientific and mathematical miracles is
itself a miracle that confirms the sublime nature of the Qur'an, its
miraculous aspect and the fact that it is a divine scripture. But in
addition to that specific miracle, when we look at the verses of the
Qur'an we see that Allah makes science obligatory for believers. Allah
advises believers to reflect on the extraordinary creation they
witness and to learn the knowledge of the creation of the Earth and
sky. In Surah Al 'Imran our Lord says:
Those who remember Allah, standing, sitting and lying on their sides,
and reflect on the creation of the heavens and the Earth: "Our Lord,
You have not created this for nothing. Glory beto You! So safeguard us
from the punishment of the Fire." (Surah Al 'Imran, 191)
Scientific development and progress proves the sublime and
extraordinarynature of Allah's creation in the most perfect way. The
more that people of good conscience possessed of this knowledge deepen
in science, the more amazed they are by Allah's sublimeartistry. Just
a single cell, the glorious DNA within a single cell or a single
protein is enough to see the power and might of Allah. Almighty Allah
is powerful enough to createworlds within worlds, to create all things
from nothing, and gloriously shows His sublime omniscience by creating
atoms in tiny specks of space and making atoms, which themselves
consist of 99% empty space, the natural causes of matter itself.
Almighty Allah is powerful enough to bring the Earth and sky into
being through a single explosion, out of nothing, out of emptiness.
Almighty Allah reveals thissublime creation, the Big Bang miracle in
other words, in this verse:
As for heaven – We built it with great power and gave it its vast
expanse. (Surat adh-Dhariyat, 47)
Almighty Allah has made scienceessential for Muslims in order for them
to comprehend andsee His matchlessartistry and the glories in the
entities He creates. Those who deepen in science with the knowledge of
the Qur'an will also grow in faith since they will witness His
omniscience. Allah tells us in another verse:
But those of them who are firmly rooted in knowledge, and the
believers, believe in what has been sent down to you and what was sent
down before you: those who establishprayer and pay alms, and believe
in Allah and the Last Day – We will pay such people an immense wage.
(Surat an-Nisa', 162)
For that reason, Allah advises true Muslims to learn and research the
scientific facts and to become aware of what is all around them:
Have they not looked at the sky above them: how We structured it and
made it beautiful and how there are no fissures in it? And the
Earth: how We stretched it out and cast firmly embedded mountains onto
it and caused luxuriant plants of every kind to grow in it, an
instruction and a reminder for every penitent human being. (Surah Qaf,
6-8)
Have they not looked at the camel – how it was created? And at the sky
–how it was raised up? And at the mountains – how they were embedded?
And at the Earth – how it was smoothed out? So remind them! You are
only a reminder. (Surat al-Ghashiyya, 17-21)
Do they not see the things Allah has created, casting their shadows
tothe right and to the left, prostrating themselves before Allah in
complete humility? (Surat an-Nahl,48)

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Why do arabs hate Israelites so much?

Q : Is it because they occupy there homeland, the land given to them
by God? If it is Gods will then what can you do. If it is notGods will
then they will be gone. Why all the hate?
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A: even if you think jerusalem belongs to them where in the world does
haffa come in or yaffa or gaza and why are they trying to build near
my citya whole two hours away from jeruslam why do theykill people to
force them out of homes why do they kill children which have no say in
what they do where they are they kill women that cant even defend
themselves even if you do belive jerusalem belongs to them trying to
occupy every other city in palestine isnt within their rights i dont
belive it belongs to them im just making a point but you have never
seen real footage or in real life them killing somone so you cant
really understand how violent it gets at least the palestinians wage a
fair war ad refuse to kill civillians and like men theyattack real
soilders but they are dirty cheaters thatkill civillians and put kids
throwing rocks in jail my uncle was 15 when he wasin jail for throwing
a rock at least he wasent from those who were killed for sleeping in
their house at night you only see what the media puts out their when
you see it and expirence it in real life you will understand.
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