General Dought & clear, - * How did the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) braid his hair when it grew long?

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I understand that our prophet braided his hair, is it possible to know how, (for example was it the ponytail that was braided)?
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Praise be to Allah
Al-Bukhaari (3551) and Muslim (2337) narrated that al-Bara’ said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was a man of medium height, broad shouldered with thick hair hanging down to his earlobes.
According to a report narrated by Muslim: I have never seen any man with long hair more handsome in a red suit than the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), with his hair reaching his shoulders. He was broad shouldered …
Al-Bukhaari (5903) and Muslim (2338) narrated from Anas that the hair of the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came down to his shoulders.
Abu Dawood (4187) narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: The hair of the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came between his earlobes and his shoulders.
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
Al-Mannaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Abu Shaamah said: The saheeh reports indicate that his hair came to halfway down his ears; according to one report it reached his earlobes, and according to other reports it came between his earlobes and his shoulders, or it came down to his shoulders. No report has reached us to suggest that it was ever longer than that, and these differences reflect differences in circumstances. These reports reflect different circumstances, and he shaved his head in the case of Hajj or ‘umrah. End quote.
Fayd al-Qadeer(5/74)
Abu Dawood (4191) narrated that Umm Haani’ (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came to Makkah with four braids.
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
What the hadith indicates is that the hair of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was almost shoulder length in most cases, and that sometimes it might become so long that he would braid it. This is to be understood as referring to situations in which a long time passed during which he paid little attention to his hair, such as when he was very busy or travelling and the like.
End quote fromFath al-Baari(10/360)
The hair of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came to above his shoulders and below his earlobes. His hair reached his earlobes, and when it grew long he would wear it in four braids. Umm Haani’ (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) came to us in Makkah with four braids. This is a saheeh hadith. End quote.
Zaad al-Ma‘aad(1/170)
Conclusion:
When his hair grew long because of travel or other reasons, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) would put it into four braids, which was in accordance with the custom of the Arabs. So he would put his hair back, then make it into strands and twist them together, then they would become four braids.
However we should note that letting the hair grow long is not in and of itself part of the Sunnah for which a Muslim will be rewarded, because this comes under the heading of traditions and customs. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) both let his hair grow long and shaved it, and there is no reward in letting it grow long and no sin in shaving it. Rather he enjoined us to take care of the hair, and he did not do anything (with regard to his hair) that was contrary to the custom of the Arabs.
If it so happens that customs change in some time or place, and having long hair becomes something that is only for women, then it is not permissible for men to let their hair grow long in that place. And if that becomes a sign of evildoers or fools, then people of good character and dignity should not do what they do or adopt their ways.
And Allah knows best.:
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PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI

Psychological and Social Problems, Dought & clear, - * How should the family deal with a disobedient son?

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How should a son who is disobedient towards his parents be dealt with? How should they deal with a son who threatens to kill his mother and challenges his parents, and accuses his sister of promiscuity and zina, causes scandal for his family, and always argues with guests, insulting them, reviling them and threatening them?
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Praise be to Allah.
Parents should give their children a good upbringing and take care of them so that they will be in a good state in both religious and worldly affairs.
If a child grows up disobedient and rebellious, then the parents must do more and try harder to guide him and make him righteous, by reminding him and advising him, showing patience towards him, praying for him, choosing good friends for him and choosing righteous acquaintances who can visit him, and advise him and befriend him.
His brothers, friends and neighbours should help his parents with that as much as they can.
See the answer to question no. 106443
But if the son becomes worse and the evil and trouble he causes increases, as mentioned in the question, and admonition and discipline do not succeed with him, then it is obligatory to denounce his evil by all possible means, by threatening to hit him or actually hitting him, or seeking the help of other men in the family against him, or taking the matter to the authorities, if it is not possible to stop his evil by any of the other means mentioned. His evil should not be taken lightly or be overlooked; rather it should be stopped before it goes further and causes greater harm.
So first of all they should follow the steps mentioned above of offering advice and guidance, reminding him of Allah, instilling hope and fear; telling him about the rights that his parents, his sister and his guests have over him; telling him that his committing this evil will make him hateful to his family and neighbours and the people around him, and they should persist with him in that, whilst being gentle and patient, and using wisdom and beautiful preaching.
His brothers should try hard in that regard, and use wisdom and patience with him, exhorting him gently and not being harsh towards him in speech.
But if he persists in what he is doing of severing ties with his parents and his brothers and sisters, and shunning them, then they should not speak to him or interact with him, in the hope that Allah will set him straight, and they should keep praying to Him to guide him.
But if he does not come back to his senses and he persists in his evil ways, then they should report him to the relevant authorities and the security forces who can restrain him from doing evil and deter him from what he is doing.
He should not be left to persist in this transgression, because of the severity of his evil and the harm that he may do to his family and the people around him.
Over and above all that, his parents and family members should turn to Allah, for most such calamities come about because of the sins that bring evil and corruption to the household. Ibn al-Haaj (may Allah have mercy on him) said, when speaking about matters contrary to Islamic teaching that may be done by one or both spouses:
Undoubtedly reconciling between these spouses is very rare, and even if there is harmony between them, it is not free of ills, and if they happen to have a child, he will most likely grow up disobedient and doing all manner of inappropriate things, and all of that is the result of both of them not paying attention to their duties towards Allah, may He be exalted.
End quote fromal-Madkhal(2/170)
And Allah knows best.

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI

Psychological and Social Problems, Dought & clear, - * I did not let my husband read a message from my friend, and he got angry

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I have none to talk to about his.
I come from a non muslim family and my husbands family doesnt live here.
It started with an argument I had with a sister and she sent me text messages that upset me. At first I reacted angry and my Iman got low. I asked my husband for advice. Then he wanted to read the messages but I realised Shaitan was playing a trick with me to make me indulge in backbiting and slander. I messaged a nice message back to the sister which the day after regretted her action and asked to be friends again. Alhamdulillah. Although my husband has turned the home upside down, behaving the worst and calling me all sorts of bad names - eventbolaget front of the children, and he does have a bad temper. All because I regretted involving him and said he does not need to read the sisters messages.
(This is not the first time he behave like this).
Does a husband have the right to read wifes messages, mails and letters from others, if he do, from who and when does he have this right? Was I wrong who did not show the message to him? He have psychically abused me for a week now, in front of the children and I have also had my period the whole time. Now I am so tired and ready to leave this marriage, please is there a solution to our problem and what does Quean and Sunnah mention about this?
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Praise be to Allah.
May Allah bless you for hastening to apologise to your friend, for this is indicative of your good character.
I ask Allah to relieve your distress and reconcile between you and your husband.
I also offer you the following advice:
Firstly:
Undoubtedly the husband has confirmed rights over his wife, so she is enjoined to obey him, treat him well and give precedence to obeying him over everything else. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”
[an-Nisa’ 4:34].
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If a woman offers her five daily prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter Paradise by whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.”
Narrated by Ahmad (1661); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Jaami‘(660)
Secondly:
The husband has no right to enquire into his wife’s private matters or her correspondence or phone conversations with her female friends, so long as everything is normal, praise be to Allah, and there is no cause for doubt or suspicion.
But the fact is that you asked him for advice when your problem with your friend first began, which led to him asking to see the message, according to what you mentioned in your question; he would not have asked to see that message if you had not asked him for advice. Your refusing to show him the message was not appropriate, especially since you were the one who asked him for advice. Moreover he is your husband and he has rights over you.
What you should do now is be kind to him and treat him nicely, and calm his anger with nice words and good treatment. If you know that if he sees this message, it will calm him down and put an end to this matter, then there is no reason why you should not do that. In fact we advise you to let him see it, even if that is contrary to the basic principle (and proper etiquette) and even if that is part of your private matters. The interest of reconciling between you and resolving the crisis takes precedence over protecting this privacy.
Seek reward with Allah for that and seek refuge with Him, so that you may protect your family and your marriage.
Thirdly:
The problem is minor, in sha Allah, and it is not wise or reasonable – or even prescribed in Islam – to let such minor problems lead to turning the home upside down, as you say, or reaching a dead end.
Take care of your household and your family, and be patient with your husband, for this is a storm that will pass quickly, in sha Allah; it is a temporary misunderstanding that will soon end by the grace of Allah.
Be smart and wise in your interactions with him, and do not tell him about your problems with your friends again, so that this problem will not be repeated.
We ask Allah to reconcile between you and to restore your life to normal.
And Allah knows best.

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI