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(Surah Al-Baqarah ,verse 201)
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Assalam o Alaikum brother I would like to ask sumthing from you asyou
have better knowledge. When I got married to my husband he said that I
could ask for separation or divorce whenever i wanted. Doesthat mean
he has given me right to divorce myself whenever i want? We had some
issues in our marriage and I didnt want to be with him anymore. I am
not with him for last 3 months now. M I divorced already? He doesnt
want to leave me and want meto go back to him. But as i had intended
to leave him and not been with him for last 3 months. I am not sure if
I am divorced already or not? Can you please help me with this. If I
go back to him is there a nikkah to be done again or we can just start
living together again? Wasalam Sister
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad
, is His Slave and Messenger.
The saying of the husband to his wife that she could ask for
separation or divorce whenever she wants is not an authorization for
the wife to divorce herself. Rather, the wife has the right to seek
divorce if there is a sound reason for that. We have pointed out the
valid reasons for seeking divorce in Fatwa 131953 . For more benefit,
kindly refer to Fataawa 85390 and 86307 .
The principle state is that the marriage is still valid and the wife
is still married to her husband until her husband, the Islamic judge,
or whatever acts on his behalf dissolves her marriage, like the
Islamic centers. Accordingly, you know that you are still in marriage
with your husband and what you have stated that you have intended to
leave him and the like does nothave any effect. If marriage is still
valid, then there is no need for what was stated of renewing the
contract. Each of you should deal with the other kindly andeach of you
should know his duties and fulfill themproperly. In that way,
thefamily will be stable and happy. Please refer to Fataawa 85308 and
85167 about the rights of the husband and wife upon each other.
As for divorce, its ends are mostly bad and it leads to the break-up
of the family and the loss of children, if the couple areblessed with
children. So,both husband and wife should observe patience towards one
another, both of them should overlook the minor mistakes of the other,
and mutual understanding and respect should prevail among them.
If the situation reaches a dead end and life between them becomes
miserable and the woman hates her husband and fears not to fulfill his
rights, then she has the right to seek divorce from him, even inreturn
for compensation to be paid for the husband. That is what the
scholars call Khul'. Formore information, pleaserefer to Fatwa 89039 .
We should draw attention to the following two matters:
Firstly, separation between the husband and wife is not deemed divorce
no matter how long it lasts as we have pointed out in Fataawa 82732
and 89825 .
Secondly, the wife shouldnot leave the marital house or go out of her
husband's house withouthis permission except with a sound reason;
otherwise, she will be disobedient to her husband and to her Lord.For
more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 99860 .
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