Close the Open Doors

On our journey towards handling the ‎problem of sexual desires that
embitter the life of many Muslim ‎young men, let us discuss an
important issue that will help you ‎release yourself from the
captivity of sexual desires, namely, ‎"closing the open doors".‎
Here, the words "open doors" stand for everything that is related to
sexual‎ desire and sins, and for the things that can lure you to
return to them once more. Hence, your sincere repentance and honest
determination to abandon such sins requires making haste to close
these doors, which include the satellite dish, internet, magazines,
and other remnants of that past.
Taking this important decision requires a moment of truthfulness with
yourself, because you must get rid of all that can take you back to
your past, just as you have got rid of your past itself.
You must take the decision to leave the swamps of sin for the gardens
of obedience and closeness to Allaah The Exalted, like the one who
killed a hundredpeople and then Allaah The Exalted admitted him to
Paradise due to his sincere repentance.
Take the decision to get rid of everything that reminds you of the
dismal past, and that supports and gives power to yourdevil over you.
These decisions require taking the following steps:
1- Tear up all the immoral magazines that you keep. Then remove the
pictures that are hung on the walls of your room and replace them with
posters ofHadeeths (narrations) and things that remind you of Allaah
The Almighty. You could also put up pictures of natural scenery.
2- Destroy video tapes, CDs or films that you keep on your PC by
deleting them, and replace them with religious or scientific lectures
and materials.
3- Purify your PC from any pornographic sites and then force yourself
not to return to these sites by installing anti-pornsoftware on your
PC to block any pornographic sites.
4- You must immediately sever your relationship/s, if you have any,
with girls, and you must erase their phone numbers that you keep.
These steps will not be hard to take as long as you have a good
intention and strong determination, as Ibn Al-Qayyim said in
Al-Fawaa'id,
"Whoever abandons habits for the sake of ‎other than Allaah The
Almighty, will surely face difficulty. However, ‎whoever abandons
habits for the sake of Allaah The Almighty sincerely from his ‎heart;
he will not find any difficulty in abandoning it except at first.
(This initial difficulty) is to test if ‎one is sincere and truthful.
If he endures this difficulty for a short time, it will turn ‎into
pleasure. Ibn Seereen said, 'I heard Shurayhswear by Allaah; no slave
of Allaah abandons something for the sake of Allaah and feels a sense
of loss.' It is said, 'Whoeverabandons anything for ‎the ‎sake of
Allaah, He will compensate him with what is better.' ‎Of course,
‎compensation is of different kinds and the best is to ‎be
‎compensated by Allaah with His love, and the heart's tranquility,
satisfaction, strength, activity, happiness, and contentment."
Thus, be patient, because the sweetness of good health enables one to
endure the bitterness of medicine. - - ▓███▓ Translator:->
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