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''கோயிலுக்குப் போய் வந்த பிறகு வெங்கடாசலம் தன் பெயரை 'வெங்சலம்'னு மாத்திக்கிட்டானா….
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ஏன்?''
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கோயில்லே 'கடா'வை வெட்டிட்டானாம்…!''

Marriage Contract, - * If the husband is the woman’s wali, can he get himself married to her?

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I want to marry my cousin. She is my paternal cousin. I am her wali according to a shar’ee guardianship. I want to marry her but we do not have close relatives or brothers. There is no one else apart from me who can be her wali. Is it permissible that I say to her: “I give you myself in marriage” then she says: “I accept” in witnesses’ presence? Or shall I ask the marriage contractor to be her wali? What shall I do?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If a woman’s guardian (wali) with regard to marriage is her cousin (son of her paternal uncle) and he wants to marry her, there is nothing wrong with that if she agrees.
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The wali of a woman for whom it is permissible to marry her may be her cousin, her master, the judge or the ruler. If she gives him permission to marry her then he may do that. End quote.
Al-Mughni(7/360).
In that case he may do the marriage contract on behalf of himself and the woman, because he is her wali. So he says: I marry you, or I marry myself to So and so, and so on. He does not need to say I accept, because his acceptance is implied. And she does not need to say I accept either, because a woman cannot do the marriage contract for herself or for anyone else, rather her wali does the marriage contract for her.
Or he may appoint another man to do his marriage contract on his behalf, whether this wakeel is a state official or someone else. In that case his deputy (wakeel) says: I give you So and so in marriage, and he says: I accept. Thus the marriage contract is done. Both ways are narrated from the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them).
Imam al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Chapter: If the wali is the suitor. Al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah proposed marriage to a woman when he was her next of kin (her guardian), so he told another man to do the marriage contract for him.
‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf said to Umm Hakeem bint Qaarit: Will you put me in charge of your affairs? She said: Yes. He said: Then I offer to marry you.
‘Ata’ said: Let him bring witnesses, or let him order a man among her family. End quote.
Al-Albaani classed the reports of al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah and ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allaah be pleased with them) as saheeh inIrwa’ al-Ghaleel, 1845 and 1855.
It should be noted that it is essential to have the marriage contract witnessed in both cases.
And Allaah knows best.

Comedy

'' இருமலுக்கு டாக்டர் ஊசி போட்டப்போ லொக்கு லொக்குன்னு இருமுன தாத்தா
நர்ஸ் நமீதா ஊசி போட்டதும் வேற மாதிரி இருமுறாரு!''
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'' எப்பிடி?''
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'' லக்கு லக்குன்னு இருமுறாரு"?!

Rulings on Marriage, - * He married a woman who suffers from epilepsy and they did not tell him before the marriage contract was done; what should he do?

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I have just been married few weeks back and I found out that my wife is suffering from epilepsy/fits.She starts shivering and gets unconcious for a while.
She or her family did not inform us with the situation.
What should I do?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Epilepsy is one of the faults that affect marriage and prevent some of its aims being fulfilled. If one of the spouses has this problem and conceals it, and the other both does not know of it until after the marriage has been consummated, then he or she has the choice of either continuing with the marriage or annulling it .
It says inMataalib Ooli al-Nuha, 5/147:
Among the faults that confirm the option (of annulling) is insanity, even if he has seizures sometimes, because one cannot feel at ease with someone who has this condition; this also applies in the case of epilepsy. End quote.
al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said inal-Minhaaj, inBaab al-Khiyaar fi’l-Nikaah: if one of the spouses finds that the other has a kind of mental illness…
al-Haytami said inal-Tuhfah(7/345): the phrase mental illness includes epilepsy. End quote.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If he has lost his mind, even for a short time, i.e., if it is proven that he has been insane even for a short period, that is regarded as a fault, whether it is in the woman or the man, and that includes epilepsy. End quote.
Al-Sharh al-Mumti‘, 12/215
The husband should return the mahr to the one who deceived him – if he consummated the marriage with her.
Al-Hajaawi said inal-Zaad, p. 167:
If it is before consummation, there is no mahr, but after that she is entitled to what was agreed upon, and the one who was the cause of this deceit is responsible for paying it, if applicable. End quote.
This applies if it is not possible to treat it, but if it is possible to treat it and it has been treated, then there is no option (of annulment).
See:al-Sharh al-Mumti‘, 12/218-219
If the fault becomes apparent after consummation of the marriage and the other partner accepts it or shows signs of accepting it, then he or she does not have the option of annulment either.
It says inZaad al-Mustaqni‘, p. 166
Whoever accepts a fault or gives indications of accepting it when he finds out about it, he does not have the option (of annulment). End quote.
To sum up:
If you did not know about the fault until after consummation of the marriage with her, and this fault cannot be treated, then you have the choice: either you can accept it and put up with your wife’s sickness, or you can annul your marriage to her, and the woman is entitled to the mahr because of the intimacy that she allowed. But the one who should be responsible for paying the mahr is the one who deceived you and concealed from you this sickness that she has.
Seeal-Sharh al-Mumti‘, 12/229-230
What we advise you to do is not to be hasty regarding this matter; put up with it and bear it with patience, and try to find treatment for her by all possible means. Putting up with this problem will bring an abundant reward if you seek reward with Allah, especially if she is of good character and religiously committed. Perhaps if you do that for the sake of Allah, Allah will relieve her of this harm and hardship, and you will be rewarded for your patience.
And Allah knows best.