Comedy

" இளவரசர் அந்தப்புரம் நுழையிறப்போ புது சினிமா பாட்டு பாடிகிட்டு போறாரே என்ன பாட்டு?"
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" டாடி மம்மி வீட்டில் இல்ல, தட போட யாருமில்லங்கற பாட்டுத்தான்!"

Marriage Contract, - * If the husband is the woman’s wali, can he get himself married to her?

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I want to marry my cousin. She is my paternal cousin. I am her wali according to a shar’ee guardianship. I want to marry her but we do not have close relatives or brothers. There is no one else apart from me who can be her wali. Is it permissible that I say to her: “I give you myself in marriage” then she says: “I accept” in witnesses’ presence? Or shall I ask the marriage contractor to be her wali? What shall I do?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If a woman’s guardian (wali) with regard to marriage is her cousin (son of her paternal uncle) and he wants to marry her, there is nothing wrong with that if she agrees.
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The wali of a woman for whom it is permissible to marry her may be her cousin, her master, the judge or the ruler. If she gives him permission to marry her then he may do that. End quote.
Al-Mughni(7/360).
In that case he may do the marriage contract on behalf of himself and the woman, because he is her wali. So he says: I marry you, or I marry myself to So and so, and so on. He does not need to say I accept, because his acceptance is implied. And she does not need to say I accept either, because a woman cannot do the marriage contract for herself or for anyone else, rather her wali does the marriage contract for her.
Or he may appoint another man to do his marriage contract on his behalf, whether this wakeel is a state official or someone else. In that case his deputy (wakeel) says: I give you So and so in marriage, and he says: I accept. Thus the marriage contract is done. Both ways are narrated from the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them).
Imam al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Chapter: If the wali is the suitor. Al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah proposed marriage to a woman when he was her next of kin (her guardian), so he told another man to do the marriage contract for him.
‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf said to Umm Hakeem bint Qaarit: Will you put me in charge of your affairs? She said: Yes. He said: Then I offer to marry you.
‘Ata’ said: Let him bring witnesses, or let him order a man among her family. End quote.
Al-Albaani classed the reports of al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah and ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allaah be pleased with them) as saheeh inIrwa’ al-Ghaleel, 1845 and 1855.
It should be noted that it is essential to have the marriage contract witnessed in both cases.
And Allaah knows best.

Comedy

" மன்னா இந்த முறை போர்களத்துலயிருந்து புறமுதுகிட்டு ஓடிவந்து தப்பிக்க முடியாது!"
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" ஏன் முடியாது?"
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" எதிரி மன்னன் இந்த முறை நம் அரண்மனை முன்பு போர்க்களம் அமைக்க திட்டமிட்டுள்ளானாம்"

Rulings on Marriage, - * She was raped when she was small; should she tell her fiancé?

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I am a young woman aged twenty-six. I was raped when I was eight years old and when I reached puberty I began to do the secret habit. After I found out that it is haraam, I tried hard to give it up but I did not succeed until, when I was completing my graduate studies, I was expelled from the university, and I began to feel that this is a warning from Allah so that I will give up this sin. And in fact I have repented to Allah, praise be to Allah. Since puberty I have had acne on my body and my face, and it has left marks on all parts of my body. Young men have started to come to propose marriage to me because I come from a good family and they know that I am religiously committed and well mannered, but they were not suitable and I found reasons to reject them. But now a young man has proposed marriage to me; he is religiously committed and of good character, and there is no reason to reject him. But I am confused about my situation and I do not know whether my hymen is intact? Is it permissible for me to conceal this matter from this young man, given that my family do not know about me being raped and I accept what my Lord decreed for me, praise be to Allah? Is it permissible for me to reject this young man? My family are strongly opposed to the idea of me rejecting him and they are saying that I have gotten old and will not always have such opportunities. I am confused; should I accept? How can I tell him about the situation? I am very shy and my family are putting pressure on me and they do not see any reason to reject him. Please advise me.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If the young man who has proposed to you is pleasing in terms of religious commitment and character, then you should accept to marry him. You do not have to tell him about the matter of the hymen – if it is proven that it was broken – because there is no interest to be served by telling him, and because of the negative consequences that may result from telling him.
If he asks you after you get married, you can pretend that you did not know and you can use double entrendres. The hymen may be broken by many things, such as jumping, riding a bike, heavy menstruation, insertion of a finger, and so on. If you are forced to lie and you are afraid that if he finds out the truth he will divorce you, it is permissible to you to do that.
The scholars said concerning someone who fell into zina then repented, that she does not have to tell her husband and that it is permissible for her to lie in order to conceal herself. Undoubtedly one who was raped and did not approach sin by her own choice, or one to whom that happened before the age of accountability, is more deserving of being covered.
And Allah knows best.