Comedy

" மன்னா இந்த முறை போர்களத்துலயிருந்து புறமுதுகிட்டு ஓடிவந்து தப்பிக்க முடியாது!"
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" ஏன் முடியாது?"
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" எதிரி மன்னன் இந்த முறை நம் அரண்மனை முன்பு போர்க்களம் அமைக்க திட்டமிட்டுள்ளானாம்"

Rulings on Marriage, - * She was raped when she was small; should she tell her fiancé?

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I am a young woman aged twenty-six. I was raped when I was eight years old and when I reached puberty I began to do the secret habit. After I found out that it is haraam, I tried hard to give it up but I did not succeed until, when I was completing my graduate studies, I was expelled from the university, and I began to feel that this is a warning from Allah so that I will give up this sin. And in fact I have repented to Allah, praise be to Allah. Since puberty I have had acne on my body and my face, and it has left marks on all parts of my body. Young men have started to come to propose marriage to me because I come from a good family and they know that I am religiously committed and well mannered, but they were not suitable and I found reasons to reject them. But now a young man has proposed marriage to me; he is religiously committed and of good character, and there is no reason to reject him. But I am confused about my situation and I do not know whether my hymen is intact? Is it permissible for me to conceal this matter from this young man, given that my family do not know about me being raped and I accept what my Lord decreed for me, praise be to Allah? Is it permissible for me to reject this young man? My family are strongly opposed to the idea of me rejecting him and they are saying that I have gotten old and will not always have such opportunities. I am confused; should I accept? How can I tell him about the situation? I am very shy and my family are putting pressure on me and they do not see any reason to reject him. Please advise me.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If the young man who has proposed to you is pleasing in terms of religious commitment and character, then you should accept to marry him. You do not have to tell him about the matter of the hymen – if it is proven that it was broken – because there is no interest to be served by telling him, and because of the negative consequences that may result from telling him.
If he asks you after you get married, you can pretend that you did not know and you can use double entrendres. The hymen may be broken by many things, such as jumping, riding a bike, heavy menstruation, insertion of a finger, and so on. If you are forced to lie and you are afraid that if he finds out the truth he will divorce you, it is permissible to you to do that.
The scholars said concerning someone who fell into zina then repented, that she does not have to tell her husband and that it is permissible for her to lie in order to conceal herself. Undoubtedly one who was raped and did not approach sin by her own choice, or one to whom that happened before the age of accountability, is more deserving of being covered.
And Allah knows best.

Comedy

" திருட வந்த என் கால்ல விழுந்து பீரோ சாவி தர்றீயே ஏன்?"
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" நீங்க தானே மரியாதையா பீரோ சாவிய குடுன்னு கேட்டீங்க!!

Rulings on Marriage, - * Ruling on a girl’s relationship with a boy if they have decided to get married but their customs will not allow them to get married at present

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i had a affair with one boy and informed to my parents and in both side all are agree.but i have a sister to marry and now i am talking with that boy, but it is something doing for me.so in this situation what can i do?before my sisters marrage my marrage wont take by parents.so what can i do now?
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Praise be to Allah.
If customs and traditions are contrary to Islam, it is not permissible to follow them. That includes preventing a younger daughter from getting married until the older daughter is married, because that is unfair to the younger daughter, in addition to what may result from that of problems and corruption, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1967; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani inSaheehSunan Ibn Maajah.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: It is not permissible for the father or anyone else to prevent the one over whom Allah has given him guardianship from accepting the proposal of one who proposes to her, if he is acceptable on terms of religious commitment and character, on the grounds that he will not arrange the marriage of the younger daughter before the older. This argument will be to no avail before Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):“O you who believe! Betray not Allah and His Messenger, nor betray knowingly your Amanat (things entrusted to you, and all the duties which Allah has ordained for you)” [al-Anfaal 8:27]. And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.”
End quote fromFataawaNoor ‘ala ad-Darb
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (may Allah preserve him) was asked: Is it obligatory for the father to refuse to arrange a marriage for the younger daughter until the older daughter is married?
He replied:
It is not permissible for the father to refuse to arrange a marriage for the younger daughter, if she receives a proposal, on the grounds that he has to arrange a marriage for the older daughter before that. Rather this is one of the customs of the common folk for which there is no basis in Islam, which is because they think that it is harmful for the older daughter. If that is true, it is also harmful for the younger daughter, and two wrongs don’t make a right.
End quote fromal-Muntaqa min Fataawa ash-Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan, 3/152
What guardians should do is not let these customs form a barrier to achieving the aims of sharee‘ah. If you can work something out with your family concerning this matter, that will be good. Otherwise, ask some sincere religiously-committed and trustworthy people to intervene.
Whatever the case, it is not permissible for you to continue in this relationship with a man who is not your mahram. Rather he should either do a legitimate shar‘i marriage contract with you, with the approval of your guardian, even if consummation is delayed until your sister gets married, or you should cut off all communication between you until the decree of Allah comes to pass.
As for remaining in contact, this is something reprehensible, and the negative consequences to which it may lead and obvious to anyone with common sense and religious commitment; how many calamities and great troubles have resulted from such things.
And Allah knows best.