How 2 manage yourself, - * How to become a bad boy without being bad?

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- Why do women get attracted to bad boys
In my previous article Reaons why women get attracted to bad boysi said that women associate the traits of a typical bad boy with masculinity and confidence.
Just like men are biologically wired to get attracted to beauty women are biologically wired to get attracted to masculinity and confidence. (see also What attracts men)
The question now is, how to become a bad boy without really being bad?
How to be more attractive to women without being abusive?
This is the question i am going to answer in this article.
how to become a bad boy without being really bad
*.1) Be cocky in a funny way:Contrary to common beliefs being cocky will make you more attractive to women however its important to have some sense of humor not to turn them off. Talk about yourself , be proud of who you are and dare to tell women about your great achievements.
*.2) Don't be needy:Women like bad boys because they represent a challenge. They are usually hard to get and that's why many women who seek a self esteemboost go for them. When you become needy you spoil the game and end all of the excitement the woman previously had. Be mysteriousand don't be pushy. If a woman ignored you don't ever chase her but just ignore her as well.
*.3) Break the rules in a good way:Most people live according to the rules others created without daring to question them. Dare to break the rules that imprison people as long as breaking them results in harming no body. Dare to be different and to follow your own rules
*.4) Don't give any weight to the opinion of others:Again this doesn't mean that you should offend people or violate their rights but instead you must do whatever you want without being afraid of criticism (see Why criticism is so hard to take)
*.5) Be Assertive and say no:Don't agree with your woman on everything. Disagree when you believe that you are right. Say no without giving explanations when you don't feel like doing something. Stand up for your rights and be clear when you ask for them (see also Assertiveness explained)
*.6) Lead the way:Women hate followers and they prefer leaders. This is another reason why nice guys turn women off. If you want to become a real bad boy then you must be a leader. Don't keep asking your woman about the place she prefers to go to or the day she would like to see you at but instead take the lead (see What turns women on)
*.7) Be confident:Get over your shyness, get rid of your worries and become confident. Talk confidently, walk confidently and let every action that you do reflect your confidence. Self confidence makes men irresistible to women.
Why nice guys finish last
Women interpret the actions of nice guys as signs of weakness. They believe that being needy, shy and not in control are all signs of weaknesses. (see also How to be strong in life)
You don't have to treat women badly in order not to be considered a nice guy but you just need to stick to the 7 points listed above and you will be regarded as a bad boy even if you are a real nice guy.

Comedy

ஒரு முறை நியூட்டன் அவருக்கு 17 வயதில் வகுப்பறையில் படித்துக் கொண்டிருக்கும் போது
ஒரு பாம்பு அவருடைய கால் விரலில் கடித்துவிட்டது.
அப்போதும் அவர் அதை கண்டு கொள்ளாமல் தொடர்ந்து படித்துக் கொண்டிருக்கிறார்.
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ஆசிரியர் இது பற்றி கேட்கும்போது,
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" பாம்பு என் காலில்தான் கடித்தது, என்னுடைய Mind 'ல் அல்ல" என்கிறார்.
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இதைத்தான் நாம் "வெட்டி ஸீன்" போடுவது என்கிறோம்….!!??

Depression is a Loaded Gun

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Depression is a Loaded Gun
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"I cannot keep doing the things I always have done. I can’t let depression define me, I can’t fight it, I can’t pretend it away. I have choose to do something else."

Invalid Marriages, - * They committed zina then they got married, and they are asking whether the marriage is valid

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Two people got married in accordance with sharee’ah and as enjoined by Allaah, but before marriage they used to get together and be intimate with one another like man and wife. What is the ruling on their marriage; is it valid or invalid? What is the expiation for what they used to do?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Zina (fornication, adultery) is a serious crime and a major sin which takes away the quality of faith from a person, and exposes him to punishment and humiliation unless he repents. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”
[al-Isra’ 17:32]
and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing adultery” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2475) and Muslim (57).
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man commits zina, faith comes out of him and hovers over him like a cloud, then when he stops, faith returns to him.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (4960) and al-Tirmidhi (2625); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) has told us of the punishment that those who commit zina will receive in their graves before the Hour begins, and that they will be punished with fire. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1320).
Because of the abhorrent nature of this crime, Allaah has decreed that the punishment for it should be stoning to death if the person is married and flogging if he was not married.
The one who is faced with any such thing should hasten to repent to Allaah and do a lot of good deeds, in the hope that Allaah will forgive him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse ___ and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Furqaan 25:68-70]
“And verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them (till his death)”
[Ta-Ha 20:82]
They must also conceal themselves with the concealment of Allaah, and not tell anyone about that, The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Avoid these filthy things that Allaah has forbidden. Whoever has done any of them, let him conceal himself with the concealment of Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted.” Narrated by al-Bayhaqi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inal-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 663.
Secondly:
It is not permissible for a man or woman who has committed zina to get married until after he or she has repented, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“The adulterer — fornicator marries not but an adulteress — fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and the adulteress –fornicatress, none marries her except an adulterer — fornicater or a Mushrik [and that means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is either an adulterer — fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer — fornicator, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islamic Monotheism)”
[al-Noor 24:3]
If they had both repented to Allaah before getting married, and they regretted the haraam things that they had done, then their marriage is valid. But if they did the marriage contract before they repented, then the marriage is not valid and they have to repent to Allaah and regret what they have done, and resolve not to do such a thing again, then they should make a new marriage contract.
And Allaah knows best.