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ஹஜ் பயணத்துக்கு முஸ்லிம் பெண்கள் ஆண் துணையில்லாமல் தனியாக செல்வதற்கும், குலுக்கல் முறை இல்லாமல் செல்வதற்கும் ஹஜ் கமிட்டி நிர்வாத்தில் பரிந்துரைத்திருப்பதாகவும் மோடி அறிவித்துள்ளார்.
முஸ்லிம்களுக்குஎத்தனையோ பிரச்சனைகள் உள்ளன, கல்வி கற்க முடியாத அளவுக்கு பொருளாதார வசதியின்மை, கடும் கஸ்டபட்டு படித்து முடித்தாலும் வேலைவாயப்புகளுக்கான வழியின்மை, இல்லாத 'லவ்ஜிஹாத்' பெயரால் கொலைபழிகள், போன்ற பல பிரச்சினைகளால் அல்லல் படுகின்றனர்.
இதை எல்லாம் தீர்ப்பதற்கு வழி கண்டறியாத பிரதமர் முஸ்லிம் பெண்கள் விஷயத்தில் அதிக அக்கறை காட்டிக்கொள்வதுஏன் ?.
பல நாடுகளுக்கு சென்றுள்ளாராம் இந்தியாவில் மட்டும் தான் ஆண் துணையுடன் ஹஜ் செல்ல வேண்டும் என்ற தடை இருப்பதாகக் கூறுகிறார்.
வெளி நாடுகளிலிருந்துஹஜ் செய்ய வரும் பெண்கள் ஆண்துணையுடன் தான் வர வேண்டும் என்று சவுதி அரசாங்கம் தான் சட்டம் இயற்றி உள்ளது, இந்தியா அல்ல.
45 வயதுக்கு மேற்பட்ட பெண்களுக்கு ஆண் துணை தேவை இல்லை என்றும் சவுதி அரசாங்கம் சட்டம் இயற்றி உள்ளது. லிங்கை சொடுக்கிப் பார்க்கவும்.
வயதுக்கு கீழ் நிலையில் உள்ள முஸ்லிம் பெண்கள் தங்கள் கணவனோ, மஹரத்திற்கு உட்பட்டவர்களோ இல்லாமல் அடுத்த ஊருக்குக் கூட பாதுகாப்புக் கருதி பயணிக்க மாட்டார்கள்.
யார் மோடியிடம் அழுதது பெண்கள் தனித்து ஹஜ் செய்ய வேண்டும் என்று ?
எதனால் மோடி மன்கிபாத்தில் மனம் திறந்தார்..?
சுச்சார் கமிட்டி பரிந்துரையில் வறுமை கோட்டிற்கு கீழ் முஸ்லிம்கள் வாடுவதாகவும், அரசு அவர்களுடைய துயர் துடைக்க முன்வர வேண்டும் என்று வலியுருத்தப்பட்டுள்ளது. இன்றளவும் தமிழகத்தில் பீடி சுற்றும் வேலையிலும், நூல் நூற்கும் வேலையிலும, பாய்; அடிக்கும் வேலையிலும் இரவு-பகலாக பெண்கள் உழைக்கின்றனர். வடநாட்டு நிலை இதை விட மோசமானதாக உள்ளது. இவர்கள் எங்கே ஹஜ் செய்யச் செல்வது ?
இந்தியாவில் உள்ள பல்வேறு மதத்தவர்களில் முஸ்லிம் பெண்கள் மட்டும் கட்டுப்பாடற்று வெளியில் சுற்றுவது கிடையாது, ஆண் துணை இல்லாமல் வெளியில் இறங்குவது கிடையாது, வெளிஊர் பயணிப்பது அறவே கிடையாது.
மேலும் ஒழுக்கத்தை பேணக் கூடியவர்களாகவும், கொள்கைக்கு கட்டுப்பட்டவர்களாகவும் உள்ளனர் இது மோடி வகையறாக்களுக்குப் பிடிக்கவில்லை. இதை உடைத்து வெளியில் கொண்டு வர வேண்டும் என்பது தான் நோக்கம்.
மும்பை மற்றும் கொல்கத்தா போன்ற பெருநகரங்களில் இந்தியாவின் மூளை முடுக்களிலிருந்து ஏமாற்றி கடத்தி வரப்பட்டு சிவப்புவிளக்கு பகுதிகளில் விபச்சாரத்திற்கு பயன்படுத்தப்பட்டு வரும் அப்பாவி இந்து பெண்களுக்காக என்றாவது மன்கி பாத்தில் மோடி மனம் திறந்ததுண்டா ?
பிரசித்திப் பெற்ற கோயில்களில் இன்று வரை தேவதாசி முறை ஒழிக்கப்படாமல் அப்பாவி ஹிந்து பெண்கள் பக்தர்களுக்கு பயன்படுத்தப்படுவது பற்றி என்றாவது மன்கி பாத்தில் மோடி மனம் திறந்ததுண்டா ?
ரோபோக்களைப் போல், மெஷின்களைப்போல்பல வருடங்களாக பப்ளிக் விபச்சாரத்தில் சித்ரவதை படுத்தப்பட்டுவரும் ஹிந்து பெண்களின் துயர்துடைப்பதற்கு மன்கிபாத்தில் முதலில் மனம் திறக்கட்டும் மோடி, பிறகு முஸ்லிம் பெண்கள் முன்னேற்றத்திற்காக பேச வரட்டும்.
அதற்குள் வாக்குச் சீட்டு முறை அமுல் படுத்தப்பட்டு விட்டால் இருக்கும் இடம் காணாமல் போய் விடுவார் மோடி.
எது தேவை என்று முஸ்லிம் கேட்கிறோமோ அதை தடுக்கிறார், எதை வேண்டாம் என்கிறோமோ அதை திணிக்க நினைக்கிறார்...?

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டாக்டர் : குழந்தைக்கு தண்ணீர் கொடுக்கறதுக்கு முன்னாடி நல்லா கொதிக்க வெச்சுக் குடுங்க.
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ஜோ : ஏன் டாக்டர், குழந்தைகளை அடுப்பில கொதிக்க வைக்கிறது தப்பில்லையா?

Rulings on Marriage, - * If a woman commits zina,then she is forced to marry a chaste man, is that marriage valid?

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I want to know that, in Quran Allah the almighty says a fornicator shall not marry anyone but another fornicator. I also heard that in hadith and sunnah a man guilty and punished for zina was not allowed to marry any virgin but to some woman similarly punished. So, what if a woman who gets married to a man who is not a fornicator but she is unfortunately one. She couldnt help but get married to this man because of the situation. What can she do about this problem. She feels scared of having intercourse because the marriage is not halal as per the ruling of the Quran and it is wrecking havoc in the lives of everyone. What is the islamic ruling in her case? No body can help her and the families are in terrible danger due to this.
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Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
The verse (interpretation of the meaning)“The adulterer marries not but an adulteress...” [an-Noor 24:3]does not mean that the fornicator or adulterer cannot marry anybody but a fornicatress or an adulteress, or that the fornicatress or adulteress cannot marry anybody but a fornicator or adulterer. Rather what the verse means is that it is haraam for a man or woman who has committed zina to marry one who is chaste, unless they repent.
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (may Allah have mercy on him) was of the view that the marriage of a chaste man to an unchaste woman is not valid so long as she remains like that, unless she is asked to repent. If she repents, the marriage contract will be valid, otherwise it will not. Similarly, it is not valid for a free, chaste woman to be given in marriage to a man who is immoral and unchaste, unless he repents sincerely, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):“Such a thing is forbidden to the believers” [an-Noor 24:3]. End quote.
Shaykh ‘Abd ar-Rahmaan as-Sa‘di (may Allah have mercy on him) said: What this verse means is that if a person commits zina, man or woman, and has not repented from that, then the one who wants to marry him or her even though Allah has forbidden that, must be:
- either one who does not adhere to the rulings of Allah and His Messenger, and such a person cannot be anything other than a mushrik;
- or if he does adhere to the rulings of Allah and His Messenger, but he wants to marry this person even though he is aware of her zina, then this marriage itself is zina, and the one who wants to get married is an adulterer and unchaste. If he truly believed in Allah, he would not want to do that.
This clearly indicates that it is haraam to marry a fornicatress or adulteress unless she repents, and it is haraam to marry a fornicator or adulterer unless he repents.
End quote fromTayseer al-Kareem ar-Rahmaan fi Tafseer Kalaam al-Mannaan(p. 561).
Therefore, it is not permissible for a chaste man to marry a fornicatress, and by the same token it is not permissible for a chaste woman to marry a fornicator, unless the one who has committed zina repents. Similarly, it is not permissible for the man or woman who has committed zina to get married unless they repent.
Secondly:
If a person repents from zina, he is no longer described as a fornicator or adulterer, therefore the prohibition on marriage of a fornicator or adulterer no longer applies to him; in that case it is permissible for him to marry a chaste woman, i.e., one who never committed zina; it is also permissible for him to marry a woman who committed zina previously but has now repented.
The same applies to the woman who has committed zina. She does not have the right to marry a chaste Muslim man unless she repents. But if she repents, it is valid for her to marry him.
With regard to what you have mentioned about the fornicator who has been given a hadd punishment not being allowed to marry anyone but a woman who is like him, who committed zina and has been subjected to the hadd punishment, this is a view that was narrated from some of the early generations, for which they quoted as evidence the report narrated by Abu Dawood (2052) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The fornicator who has been flogged may not marry anyone but a woman who is like him.”
It was classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani inSaheeh Sunan Abi Dawood.
Al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: az-Zajjaaj and others narrated from al-Hasan that he said: What is meant is the fornicator and fornicatress on whom the hadd punishment has been carried out. He said: This is the ruling from Allah, so it is not permissible for the fornicator on whom the hadd punishment has been carried out to marry any but a woman on whom the hadd punishment has been carried out. Ibraaheem an-Nakha‘i said something similar.
InMusannaf Abi Dawoodit is narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No fornicator on whom the hadd punishment has been carried out should marry anyone but one who is like him.” And it was narrated that one on whom the hadd punishment had been carried out (because of fornication) married one on whom it has not been carried out (i.e., one who was chaste), and ‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) separated them.
The correct view is that the description “one who has been flogged” in the hadeeth refers to one who is known to have committed zina and it has been proven against him, and that can only apply to one on whom the hadd punishment has been carried out. Therefore what the hadeeth means is: it is not permissible for a chaste woman to marry one who is known to have committed zina, and it is not permissible for a man to marry a woman who is known to have committed zina. So the meaning of the hadeeth is in accordance with the meaning of the verse (interpretation of the meaning)“The adulterer marries not but an adulteress...” [an-Noor 24:3],and reinforces that meaning.
Ash-Shawkaani (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The words “the fornicator who has been flogged” refer to one who is known to have committed zina. This indicates that it is not permissible for a woman to marry a man who is known to have committed zina; similarly, it is not permissible for a man to marry a woman who is known to have committed zina. This is indicated by the verse mentioned in the book, because at the end of it it says“Such a thing is forbidden to the believers” [an-Noor 24:3]. End quote fromNayl al-Awtaar, 6/201
Based on the above, if the woman regrets what she fell into of fornication and repented from it before that man married her, then the marriage contract is valid. But she has to conceal her (past misconduct) and not tell anyone about what she did previously.
But if the marriage contract was done before she repented from zina, then the opinion on which fatwas on this website are based is that the marriage is not valid and the marriage contract must be re-done.
Therefore, if it is possible to repeat the marriage contract – if the marriage contract was done before repentance – even if that is with any acceptable excuse, then this is what should be done and is more on the safe side, so as to avoid a matter concerning which the scholars (may Allah have mercy on them) differed, and it is more on the safe side for the marriage contract.
But it is not possible to do that except by stating clearly that zina occurred, and if doing so will lead to negative consequences, such as if the husband will divorce the wife if he finds out about her past, or at least it would create mistrust and doubt on the part of the husband if he agrees to keep his wife with him, or it will disclose her fault among the people or cause her shame, and other negative consequences, then there is no blame on her, in sha Allah, if she continues with this marriage contract. Undoubtedly this opinion carries weight and has a valid foundation; in fact it is the view of the majority of scholars, especially with regard to one who entered into that marriage contract believing that it was valid.
In fact some of the Hanbalis themselves even stated clearly that marriage in the case mentioned is valid.
Al-Mirdaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Some of our companions said: it is not haraam for her to get married before repentance if someone other than the fornicator marries her. This was stated by Abu Ya‘la as-Sagheer.
End quote fromal-Insaaf, 8/133
To sum up:
If it is not possible to renew the marriage contract between the two families except by causing greater negative consequences, or creating a scandal and exposing the woman to shame, there is nothing wrong with her remaining in this marriage and letting her husband be intimate with her, and living her life in a normal manner.
And Allah knows best.

How 2 manage yourself, - * What causes the fear of being alone

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Are you unable to stay alone?
I can't stand being alone
I always want people around me
I Don't know why i feel uncomfortable when i am alone
Do those statements sound familiar to you? Then you might be having a problem with Monophobia or the fear of being alone.
We humans are social beings. We should enjoy the company of others and feel good when we are surrounded by people. However any normal human must also be able to spend time alone without feeling uncomfortable, unhappy or anxious.
The fear of being alone is all about getting intense feelings of discomfort when you believe that you are about to be left alone even for a short period of time. See also 5 ways social support reduces stress and benefits your health
What causes the fear of being alone
*.1) Fear of facing your thoughts:The human mind can do lots of tricks in order to help a person escape from a problem or an unwanted thought. Once your brain realizes that you want to run away from a certain thought it can actually help you do that in various ways. One of the ways your brain can help you escape an unwanted thought is to prevent you from being alone by making you feel uncomfortable. In such a case because you are too afraid to face your problems your brain decided to use this trick to prevent you from facing them. See also The Psychology of self deception
*.2) Fear of being abandoned:If you felt that you were abandoned by your parents or your significant others during your childhood then you might develop Monophobia in your adulthood. In such a case the childhood wound that happened to you in the past became the primary source of your fear. In this case you might be too afraid that the past repeats itself and that people abandon you. See also How your past affects your present
*.3) Wrong understanding of closeness:Many people ,especially women, give a wrong meaning to closeness. Those people assume that love means that a person must be next to them 24/7. Those people also believe that if someone went away for sometime then this means that this person doesn't like them. This wrong understanding of the dynamics of love and of the individual differences between people can result in the fear of being alone. See also Why is love not like in the movies
*.4) Serious self esteem issues:If the person has serious doubts about themselves or their own worth then they might become extremely sensitive to being left alone. In such a case the person interprets the event of being left alone as if they are not worthy of being loved. This perception problem feeds the fear of being alone for the person does their best to avoid that situation not to feel unworthy. See also How perception affects the behaviour
*.5) Intense need for approval:The need for approval can become so intense that the person might feel bad whenever they are left alone. In such a case the person fears being alone because for them it means that others are not approving them. See also I need to be loved too much, i want to feel loved
How to get over that type of fear
In order to get over that type of fear you need to understand it's cause for the cause differs from one case to another. The key to ending any kind of fear is knowing exactly what your mind is trying to tell you when it sends you this type of message.
In my article Emotions are just messagesi explained how your mind always tries to communicate with you using emotions. When you truly understand the purpose of the message you will be able to best respond to it.