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Rulings on Marriage, - * Advice to someone who had a bad experience of marriage which has put them off the idea of ever getting married again

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- i am a muslim man .i was married first in 2005 and divorced after 6 months. and again in 2008.i had sexual relations with both. my first wife had a boy friend who was her classmate which i did not know did not like my telling her not to talk to an indecent man and also my trying to be more islamic and she left me and asked for a divorce after a fight and i was forced to pronounce talaq 3 times at once with the demand being made by her to do so. subsequently i married for the second time and my father was seriously ill and i had to quit my job so as to look after him.he died 1.5 yrs later.my mother was in iddath and my second wife took all her jewellery and was not traceable for 10 days.after 10 days her father calls up and abuses me and my mother and says that if i wanted her i should leave my old mother and live with my wife separately. or else i should divorce her and that she was not willing to stay together. she and her father threatened to jail me and my mother and beat us up if we went to her house. i had no choice but to give talaq again.what troubles me is that i was forced on both occasions to give three talaaq at one go by both women.was i right? now i am single and hate the thought of marriage ever.
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Praise be to Allah.
We ask Allah, may He be glorified, to help you cope with what has been decreed for you, and to help you to think straight and mend your ways, and to relieve you of your distress and sorrow, and to bestow upon you a great reward for having honoured your parents, for He, may He be glorified, is Most Generous. We advise you to not to be hasty with regard to the matter of divorce, as it should be the last resort, not the first option, because divorce is something that is disliked in and of itself, and nothing changes that fact except in cases where it is justified to resort to it.
You should understand that it is essential for the Muslim, from the outset, to choose a wife who meets the requirements that prescribed in Islam, and not hasten to get married without thorough checking and consideration. Rather he should think long and hard, research the matter and ask questions, so that he can find one who is religiously committed and of good character. Failing to look for one who is religiously committed and of good character, in pursuit of transient worldly standards that will fade and diminish, such as lineage, wealth and beauty, is what usually leads to separation and dissent first of all, then ultimately to divorce.
The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) encouraged us to look for a righteous wife. Al-Bukhaari (5090), Muslim (1466) and others narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Women may be married for four things: their wealth, their lineage, their beauty and their religious commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”
It was narrated by Ibn Abi Shaybah in hisMusannaf(17149) and Abu Ya‘la al-Mawsili in hisMusnad(1012) that Abu Sa‘eed said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A woman may be married for one of three characteristics: a woman may be married for her wealth, or for her beauty, or she may be married for her religious commitment. You should look for the one who is religiously committed and of good character, may your right hand be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”
Classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh at-Targheeb wa’t-Tarheeb, no. 1919
With regard to divorcing your wife who used to talk to her male friend, you had the right to divorce her, especially after it became clear that she was persisting in doing that and she refused to accept advice, and she asked for divorce.
With regard to your wife who left the house because she objected to your honouring your parents and looking after them, although she was wrong to do that, you could have been patient with her and with her father’s offensive attitude, and you could have advised her and informed her of parents’ rights, and exhorted her in general with regard to this and other matters of religion, especially since you had neglected her rights. You should have examined the matter further, and tried to give each person his or her due rights.
But whatever the case, this is something that has passed, and perhaps it will be a lesson to you for the future. Whatever Allah wills happens and whatever He does not will does not happen. What matters is that you learn from this experience for the future.
Finally, we advise you not to let this previous experience influence your attitude towards marriage and make you prefer to remain single, because that is a mistake. Marriage is part of the way of the Prophets and Messengers. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):“And indeed We sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad SAW), and made for them wives and offspring” [ar-Ra‘d 13:38].
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen said, discussing what we learn from the verse (interpretation of the meaning):“And We said: ‘O Adam! Dwell you and your wife in Paradise” [al-Baqarah 2:35]:
… Marriage is an ancient practice, since the time Allah created Adam, and it continued among his descendants, the Messengers and Prophets, and others, as Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):“And indeed We sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad SAW), and made for them wives and offspring” [ar-Ra‘d 13:38].
End quote fromTafseer Soorat al-Baqarah, 1/130
Because of that, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to a group of the Sahaabah who wanted to go to extremes in worship and strive hard in it:
“By Allah, I am the most pious among you and I fear Allah the most, but I fast and do not fast, I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5063) and Muslim (1401).
However we should point out that the divorces did count as such at all times, if you agreed to it and meant it. If what you mean when you say that you were forced to do it is that you were compelled to do that in order to rid yourself of these wives and their defiant attitudes, then this is correct. But if what you mean by being forced to do it is that you were compelled in the shar‘i sense, i.e., that you are forced to do it in such a way that the divorce does not count as such, then this is not correct. Rather the divorce counts such because you decided and chose to do it, therefore it counts as such.
For more information on the rulings on the threefold talaaq,
And Allah knows best.

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Bad behaviour

Bad behaviour, - * The filthy act of bestiality did not occur at the
time of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them)
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In a religious discussion with some secular friends about the
sex/intercourse of a human with animals,a hadith of Musnad Ahmed was
come in discussion in which the Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) ordered to kill
both the object and subject involved in such a bitter and big sin.My
colleagues claimed that such brutal incidents were present at the time
of Prophet Muhammad(PBUH),so that is why He ordered such punishments.I
was not agree with their claim because I have firm believe that the
people present at that time were the best in the entire mankind till
the qay'amah.Please help out me in this matter
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Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
What you mentioned about your belief in the purity of the generation
of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them) and that they were
the best of humanity until the onset of the Hour, is true.
The Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them) were the purest and most
refined of people, and those who feared Allah, may He be exalted, the
most, after the Prophets and Messengers. There was never and there
will never be any like them in virtue. Allah, may He be exalted,
praised them in many verses (of the Qur'an), and the Messenger
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) also praised them in many
hadeeths, some of which were quoted in fatwa no. 83121
The Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them) were not infallible and
free of sin; some of them committed a few sins, on rare occasions, but
they were quick to repent and turn back to Allah, may He be exalted,
like a summer cloud that passed over the heart and overshadowed the
realities of faith for a few moments, so it became weak and was
overwhelmed by desires, but once that cloud had passed, the heart was
filled with light once again and hastened to repent to Allah. That
generation was uniquely ideal, even the sinners among them. Read the
story of Maa'iz and the Ghaamidi woman who committed zina, then when
they came to their senses after committing that sin, they were not
content until they came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him) and insisted that he should purify them by carrying out
the hadd punishment on them. May Allah be pleased with them.
But Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, protected that generation
from those sins which are indicative of depravity and corruption of
human nature, such as the filthy acts of homosexuality, lesbianism and
bestiality. Such acts were definitely not done by the companions of
the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him).
There is no known report of anyone being brought to the Prophet
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) because of having committed
sins such as these.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
There is no proven report from the Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) to say that he passed judgement concerning any case
of homosexuality, because this was not known among the Arabs, and no
such case was brought to him (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him). But it is proven that he said: "Execute the one who does it and
the one to whom it is done." This was narrated by the authors of the
fourSunans, and its isnaad is saheeh. At-Tirmidhi said: It is a hasan
hadeeth. End quote fromZaad al-Ma'aad(5/36-37)
A similar example is that of bestiality. There is no known case of
anyone being brought to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) for having done such an act. The hadeeth that mentions it
does not mean that it happened at the time of the Prophet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him).
It was narrated that Ibn 'Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) said:
The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
said: "If you find that someone has had intercourse with an animal,
kill him and kill the animal too." Narrated by Abu Dawood (4464) and
at-Tirmidhi (1455) – this version was narrated by him. The scholars
differed as to the soundness of this report; some of them classed it
as saheeh and others classed it as da'eef.
Even if we assume that it is saheeh, there is nothing in the hadeeth
to suggest that this obscene deed occurred at the time of the Prophet
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) for the following reasons:
1. There is nothing in the wording of this hadeeth to suggest that
any particular person had done this act.
2. The hadeeth says "If you find that someone has…" Here the
Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was stating and
affirming the shar'i ruling, and it is addressed to the entire ummah.
It was not addressed specifically to the Sahaabah (may Allah be
pleased with them).
To sum up:
The claim of this secular man – we ask Allah to guide him – is a false
claim which cannot be true. This filthy act of bestiality did not
occur among the pure Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them).
Secondly:
Secularism is a corrupt school of thought and it poses a danger to the
religious commitment of the Muslim because the secularist is not
looking for truth; rather he is looking for whatever is in harmony
with his whims and desires. Hence you will find that the secularist is
always looking for specious arguments that he can stir up, but at the
same time he blocks his ears and averts his eyes from the evidence and
the texts of the revelation.
You should strive to guide this man by explaining what is wrong with
this school of thought (secularism) and how it is deviant.
And Allah knows best.