Engagment, Dought & clear, – * Is it permissible to refuse a good Muslim for personal reasons?

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Is it considered a sin to refuse to marry a good muslim man for personal reasons, i.e. doesn't like him?
What are the bad consequences of such an action, on a personal level and in general, if there are any?
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Praise be to Allaah.
No, this is not considered to be a sin, because Islamic says that personal conviction has its role to play in marriage. (A woman may not like a man because of something in his appearance, and she is not sinning if she refuses his offer of marriage), but if you fear that you may miss the boat or that you may not receive a similar offer, then put your feelings aside, use your common sense and hasten to get married.
From the answer of Shaykh Ibraaheem al-Khudayri.
If a woman follows her whims and desires by rejecting a man who is religiously-committed and has a good attitude, she may be punished by remaining a spinster (i.e., unmarried).
May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

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Engagment, Dought & clear, – * Intercourse and masturbation with one's fiancee

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I have a young friend who had excepted the Islamic faith some time ago. Prior to excepting his new Faith he was sexually active with his girlfriend. After excepting his new Faith he would masterbate to relieve him of his sexual tensions. I advised him that masturbating was forbidden as well. Now he is engaged to be married in a couple of years and him and his Fiance have sex and masterbate for each other. The reason for the delay in the marriage is that they are financially unstable at this point. He wants to know if masterbation and intercourse is permisble under these circumstances and if they are not what can he do to remedy this?
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Praise be to Allaah.
We praise Allaah for having blessed your friend and guided him to Islam, as we ask Allaah to make him steadfast in adhering to it until death. He has succeeded in attaining the greatest achievement in life, which is coming forth from the darkness of kufr and shirk to the light of Islam and guidance, and the worship of Allaah alone with no partner or associate. Whatever blameworthy former customs are left, it will be easy for him to give them up in sha Allaah, if he seeks the help of Allaah, because whoever gives up the religion that he grew up in and enters the true religion, it will become easy for him to give up the habits that he was accustomed to during his jaahiliyyah. The secret habit (i.e. masturbation) is a disease which harms the one who does it. See question no. 329, 12277.
So he has to give up this bad habit and follow the advice of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who said, “ Young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, for it is more effective in lowering one’s gaze and guarding one’s chastity. Whoever cannot afford that, then let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5065; Muslim, 1400).
With regard to his question about having sex with his fiancée – if what he means by fiancée is the woman with whom he has made a marriage contract according to sharee’ah, then whatever sexual activities he does with her are correct, good and halaal. But if he is referring to a woman to whom he has proposed marriage but has not yet made a marriage contract, then what they are doing is haraam and is a kind of zina (fornication or adultery) and evil action, and both of them have exposed themselves to the wrath and punishment of Allaah.
The fact that he is financially unable to get married does not justify doing the things that he has done with his fiancée, if he had not made a proper marriage contract with her. It should be noted that the fiancée is considered to be a stranger (non-mahram) to the fiancé, like any other non-mahram woman, so it is not permissible for him to be alone with her, or for her to masturbate him with her hand, or for him to kiss her, or for him to speak to her unless that is for a specific purpose and from behind a screen and without any feelings of desire. See question no. 8994.
The solution in this case is for him to do the marriage contract with her, because if he does the marriage contract with a woman it is then permissible for him to do everything with her, as she has now become his wife, even if the wedding party has not yet taken place.
If he is not able to get married, then he has to be patient, as stated above. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

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Speciality of jumma day, Dought & clear, - * Why is Friday singled out for great importance? , * Virtues of Surah al-Jumu'ah

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* Why is Friday singled out for great importance?
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I want to know why Friday Prayer is important and Different then other ?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, chose Friday to be the best of days before Him, and He singled it out for major events and great qualities, which are the reason why Muslims are obliged to venerate this day and take it as one of their Eids or festivals in which Allah has prescribed rituals that He has not prescribed for other days.
On our website we have previously quoted a great deal of evidence to support this view, which you can see in the answers to the following questions: 9211, 12309and 13692
Secondly:
Moreover, Jumu‘ah prayer has a particular virtue and great qualities through the barakah (blessing) of this great day.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Jumu‘ah prayer is singled out from among all the other obligatory prayers for having particular characteristics that are not found in other prayers, including the fact that it is offered in congregation, has a minimum number of worshippers required in order for it to be valid, the iqaamah is a condition of its being valid, one must not be travelling in order for it to be obligatory, and the recitation is done out loud.
There is an emphasis on its imortance the like of which is not mentioned for other prayers except ‘Asr prayer. In the fourSunansit is narrated in the hadeeth of Abu’l-Ja‘d ad-Dumari – who was a Companion – that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever misses three Jumu‘ahs out of heedlessness, Allah will place a seal on his heart.”
End quote fromZaad al-Ma‘aad, 1/384-385.
The Prophet’s Sunnah also singles out Jumu‘ah prayer by encouraging believers to do ghusl for it and to wear perfume (for men only). It is also strongly encouraged to come early for the prayer and there is a great deal of reward for walking to the prayer. Concerning these special characteristics, Sa‘eed ibn Mansoor narrated from Na‘eem ibn ‘Abdullah al-Mujammir that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) issued instructions that the mosque of Madinah be perfumed with incense every Friday at midday, as was narrated by Ibn al-Qayyim inZaad al-Ma‘aad, 1/370.
Thirdly:
The main reason for venerating Friday prayer is because of the divine decree that singled out this prayer and this day for special virtues. This is one of the manifestations of Allah’s Lordship (ruboobiyyah), as He alone singles out for veneration whatever He Wills of His creation and whatever times and places He chooses. He is the One Who does whatever He wills for reasons that He, may He be glorified, knows.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is the only One Who has the power to create and to choose from among His creation. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):“And your Lord creates whatsoever He wills and chooses” [al-Qasas 28:68]. If you ponder this creation, you will realize that this choosing and singling out are proof of His Lordship and Oneness, and of the perfection of His wisdom, knowledge and might; that He is Allah, besides Whom there is no other god, and He has no partner who can create as He creates, or choose as He chooses, or control as He controls. This choice, control and singling out, the effects of which are evident in this world, are among the greatest signs of His Lordship and the greatest testimony to His Oneness, the perfection of His attributes and the truthfulness of His Messengers.
End quote fromZaad al-Ma‘aad, 1/40-43
Al-‘Allaamah Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) also stated that this singling out and choice are indicative of the inherent virtue of the thing chosen, for which Allah blessed this time. By His knowledge and wisdom, Allah may grant to a certain place, time or person that which qualifies it to be chosen by Allah and favoured above others.
He (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
This concept may not be understood by the one who regards all individuals, deeds, times and places as equal, and claims that there is nothing inherent that makes one thing better than another, and that precedence is given to some things over others for no reason. This view is invalid for more than forty reasons that I have listed elsewhere. It is sufficient, in order to understand the falseness of this view and how corrupt it is, to note that Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, refuted this false view when He said (interpretation of the meaning):
“And when there comes to them a sign (from Allah) they say: ‘We shall not believe until we receive the like of that which the Messengers of Allah had received.’ Allah knows best with whom to place His Message”
[al-An‘aam 6:124].
“Allah knows best with whom to place His Message” means: not everyone is qualified or fit to convey His Message; rather the Message has those who are suited to conveying it and it cannot befit any but these people; Allah knows better than you who these people are. If all individuals were equal -- as these people claim -- there could have been no argument against them in this verse.
Similarly, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Thus We have tried some of them with others, that they might say: ‘Is it these (poor believers) that Allah has favoured from amongst us?’ Does not Allah know best those who are grateful?”
[al-An‘aam 6:53].
What is meant is: Allah knows best who will give thanks for His blessings, so He singles them out for His bounty from among those who will not be grateful to Him. Not everyone is fit to thank Him or to receive His blessings and be singled out for this honour. Those individuals and places and so on that Allah chooses have some inherent qualities that are not found in other people and places, and it is for that reason that Allah chose them, gave them precedence because of those virtues and selected them. This is His creation and His choice.“And your Lord creates whatsoever He wills and chooses” [al-Qasas 28:68]. Allah does not choose anything and give it precedence except for a reason that led to it being singled out and given precedence. Yes, He is the One Who created this reason, as He is the One Who created it then chose it after creating it.
End quote fromZaad al-Ma‘aad, 1/53-54
To sum up, all the characteristics of this great prayer are by the grace of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, to His slaves. He chose it by His decree and singled it out for His bounty and blessings, thus it attained this great importance in this world and in the Hereafter.
And Allah knows best.
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* Virtues of Surah al-Jumu'ah
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Could you please tell me the importance of Surah al-Jumu’ah and is it preferred to be read on the day of Jumu’ah like reading Surah al-Kahf on the day of Jumu’ah.
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Praise be to Allah.
There is no particular saheeh (authentic) text which speaks of the virtues of Surah al-Jumu’ah, rather it was narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to recite it in the first rak’ah (unit) of the Jumu’ah prayer. It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to recite al-Jumu’ah and al-Munafiqoon in the Jumu’ah prayer. Narrated by Muslim (879).
It says in al-Saheeh wa’l-Saqeem min Fadail al-Quran al-Kareem by Amal Sa’di (p.81): There is no saheeh report from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) about the virtues of Surah al-Jumu’ah. There are da’eef (weak) and mawdoo’ (fabricated) reports about its virtues, such as, “The one who recites Surah al-Jumu’ah will be given hasanat (good) in reward equal to the number of those who come to Jumu’ah and those who do not in the Muslim regions” – narrated by al-Tha’labi in al-Kashf wa’l-Bayan (9/305), via Abu ‘Asmah ibn Abi Maryam, the well known fabricator and liar. Hence al-Manawi said in al-Fath al-Samawi: it is mawdoo’. End quote.
But Surah al-Jumu’ah is one of the mufassal surahs (those in the latter part of the Quran) which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said he was favoured with above all other Books and Prophets. It was narrated from Wathilah ibn al-Asqa’ that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I have been favoured with al-Mufassal.”
Narrated by Ahmad (4/107); classed as saheeh by al-Albani in Bidayat al-Sool, p.59. He said: The reviewers of al-Musnad under the supervision of al-Shaykh Shu’ayb al-Arnaoot said that its isnad (chain of transmission) is hasan (good).
And Allah knows best.

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