Engagment, Dought & clear, - * She has a physical defect that affects the hearing in one ear. Should she tell her fiancé about that?

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I have a friend who has a physical defect in one ear, but it is not noticeable in her day to day dealings unless someone speaks in an unclear voice on the side where that ear is, then she cannot hear it. She has refused numerous marriage proposals for this reason, but now she is engaged to someone but she has not told him about this. She is afraid that if she tells him, he will leave her, and the time for their wedding is drawing close. If that happens it may give her a complex, and she will never agree to get married. Should she tell him and accept whatever happens or should one her relatives tell him, or should she not say anything because he will never notice?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If the matter is as you describe, then your friend has to tell her fiancé about this defect, or one of her relatives must tell him, so that he will have full knowledge of the matter, because not telling him is deceiving him, and whatever Allaah has decreed will happen. No one knows where goodness lies. We ask Allaah to bless her with a righteous husband.
If the husband finds out later on that his wife cannot hear well in one of her ears, and that she was suffering from that before she got married and did not tell him, that may upset him and he may regard it as deceit, and he may hate his wife because of that. So she has to tell him now, hoping that the marriage will last and so as to set things straight and so as to ward off any negative consequences.
The Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked: I have a sister who is affected by the evil eye, and someone has proposed marriage to her. Do I have to tell him that she is affected by the evil eye? If I do not tell him, am I regarded as deceiving him?
They replied:
The guardian (wali) has to explain to the one who is proposing marriage any defects or sicknesses that are present in the woman concerned, if the man is not aware of that, so that he will have full knowledge, because not telling him about that is deceiving him, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever deceives us is not one of us.” End quote.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah(18/62).
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Da'eef (weak) hadeeths, Dought & clear, - * The hadeeth “O ‘Ali,do not sleep until you do five things” is not saheeh

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The prophet (PBUH) said: “Oh Ali!, do not sleep before you do five things: 1- reading the entire Holy Quran, 2-giving 4000 dirham in charity, 3- visiting the holy Ka’aba, 4- preserving your place in paradise 5- reconciling the enemies. Then Ali, May Allah be pleased with him, said: “Oh Allah’s Apostle! How shall I do this?” the prophet (PBUH) said: “Do not you know that 1- if you read Surat “Qul Huwa-allahu Ahad” three times, you will be rewarded as if you read the entire Quran. 2- If you read Surat (Al-Fatiha) four times, you will be rewarded as if you gave 4000 dirham in charity. 3- if you say: “There is None has the right to be worshipped except Allah, alone without associate, to Him belongs sovereignty and praise, He gives life and causes death and He is over all things wholly capable” ten times, you will be rewarded as if you visited the holy Ka’aba. 4- if you say: “there is no power nor might except with Allah, The Most High, The Supreme” ten times, you will be considered as if preserved your place in paradise. 5- if you say: “I seek the forgiveness of Allah who none has the right to be worshipped but Him, the Ever-lasting, the Self-subsisting and supporter of all, and I repent to Him” ten times, you will be rewarded as if you reconciled the enemies”.
I have heard that this Hadeeth is incorrect, and I believe it is correct; I seek your guidance regarding this Hadeeth. May Allah reward you!.
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Praise be to Allaah.
It says in Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz (26/328-330):
A pamphlet which includes false ahaadeeth:
Praise be to Allaah the Lord of the Worlds, and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and all his family and companions. This was answered by the Shaykh on 25/1/1414 AH:
I have studied a pamphlet which says:
“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
‘O ‘Ali, do not sleep until you have done five things: reciting the entire Qur’aan, giving four thousand dirhams in charity, visiting the Ka’bah, safeguarding your place in Paradise and reconciling with your opponent.’ ‘Ali said: How can I do that, O Messenger of Allaah? The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Do you not know that if you recite Soorat al-Ikhlaas –Qul Huwa Allaahu Ahad– three times you have recited the entire Qur’aan? And if you recite al-Faatihah four times you have given four thousand dirhams in charity; and if you say There is no god except Allaah alone with no partner or associate; to Him be dominion and praise, He gives life and causes death, and He is Able to do all things, ten times, you have visited the Ka’bah; and if you say There is no strength and no power except with Allaah, the Most High, the Almighty, ten times, you have safeguarded your place in Paradise; and if you say I seek forgiveness from Allaah, besides Whom there is no other god, the Ever-Living, the Eternal), ten times you have reconciled with your opponent.’
What this pamphlet contains was not narrated in any of the reliable books of hadeeth, rather it is a mawdoo’ (fabricated) hadeeth which was falsely attributed to the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
Hence I warn my Muslim brothers against being deceived by this hadeeth and other fabricated reports, or printing and distributing them among the Muslims, because that is misguiding the common folk and confusing them, and telling lies about the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who issued a stern warning to the one who does that deliberately, as he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in the saheeh hadeeth: “Telling lies about me is not like telling lies about anyone else. Whoever tells a lie about me deliberately, let him take his place in Hell.”Saheeh al-Bukhaari(1229); Introduction toSaheeh Muslim(4). And he said: “Whoever narrates a hadeeth from me thinking that it is false is a liar.” Introduction toSaheeh Muslim(1).
In the saheeh reports narrated from the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and compiled in the reliable books of Saheeh, Sunan and Musnads there is sufficient information and the one whom Allaah guides to goodness has no need to turn to the reports of liars and fabricators. I ask Allaah to bless us all with beneficial knowledge and to enable us to do good deeds and to avoid all the paths of misguidance and deviance, for He is All-Hearing and Ever Near. And peace be upon you and the mercy of Allaah and His Blessings.
Grand Mufti of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, Head of the Council of Senior Scholars and the Council for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas.
This hadeeth has also been dealt with in the answer to question no. 30765 in which Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen and the Standing Committee are quoted as saying that this hadeeth is da’eef (weak).
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General Dought & clear, - * He said to his wife: If you do not do such and such, then you can go, or I don’t need you

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If a man tell to his wife , that you should always listen to me and liv with me on the way i want, and if you do,nt do it or if you are not happy to live with me, then you can go. and I don,t need you.
So my question is... ( Is this talaq?) and if it is, then what should the man do?
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Praise be to Allah
If a man says to his wife: If you do not do that, or if you’re not happy to live with me, then you can go, and I don’t need you, this is not an explicit divorce (talaaq); rather it comes under the heading of metaphors for divorce, and metaphors for divorce do not count as such unless they are accompanied by the intention of divorce.
Please see:al-‘Inaayah Sharh al-Hidaayah(4/64);at-Taaj wa’l-Ikleel(5/329); Asna al-Mataalib (3/271);al-Furoo‘(5/387);al-Insaaf(8/476).
The view of the Hanafis and Hanbalis is that a metaphor for divorce counts as a divorce if there is circumstantial evidence to support that, such as if he said that in anger, or she asked him for a divorce and he said to her, for example, Go and join your family, or I don’t need you.
See:al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah(29/27).
It says inZaad al-Mustaqni‘: Words that may be understood as a metaphor for divorce do not count as a divorce unless the intention accompanies the words, except in the case of a dispute or anger, or answering her request. End quote.
The more correct view is that a metaphor does not count as a divorce unless it is accompanied by the intention;, dispute or anger alone is not sufficient.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his commentaryash-Sharh al-Mumti‘,:
These are three situations in which a metaphor for divorce counts as such without the intention. Dispute means a dispute with his wife, whereupon he says: Go to your family. In this case it counts as a divorce even if he did not intend it as such, because we have circumstantial evidence to indicate that what he intended was to divorce her.
In the event of anger, even if there is no dispute, such as if he tells her to do something and she does not do it, so he gets angry and says: Go to your family. This counts as a divorce even if he did not intend it as such.
Answering her request means that she said: Divorce me, and he said: Go to your family. This counts as a divorce.
But the correct view is that a metaphor does not count as a divorce unless it is accompanied by the intention, even in these situations, because a person may say in anger Get out and the like, without having the intention of divorce at all.
End quote fromash-Sharh al-Mumti‘(13/75).
So if the husband did not intend to issue a divorce thereby, then it does not count as such, if the wife did not do what he wanted her to do. If he did intend to issue a divorce thereby, then it counts as a divorce if the wife went against what he wanted when he said that.
If he does not know what his intention was, or he forgot what it was, then it does not count as a divorce, because the basic principle is that the marriage remains valid.
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