Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * She used to sit with him and his wife, and he decided to marry her and divorce his wife!

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My problem is that I am about to marry the husband of my sister’s friend. I used to go to her house and sit with her and her husband, and we would always talk with one another. When my sister tried to advise her that this is haraam, i.e., mixing, she made fun of my sister and told her “you are backward” until her husband came and proposed to me, and he says that he liked me from the first moment he saw me, and he wants to have children because she cannot have any. When she heard about this, she said that I had betrayed her. Should I agree to be his wife or not? He wants to divorce her because they have arguments. Please note that he works in the bank and wants to change his job because he knows that it is haraam; he always prays in the mosque.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Mixing between men and women is haraam. See the answer to question no. 1200.
What you must do is repent to Allaah from what has happened of that, and resolve not to do it again in the future.
Secondly:
It is haraam for a woman to strive for her Muslim sister to be divorced, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “no woman should ask for her sister to be divorced so as to deprive her of what is rightfully hers and take it for herself.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2140) and Muslim (1413). So it is not permissible to encourage or tempt the husband to divorce his wife.
Thirdly:
If the wish to marry came from the husband, and you did not try to separate him from his wife, it is permissible for you to accept, but we do not advise you to do that for several reasons:
(i) There is no guarantee that this man will not like someone else and choose her over you as he did with his first wife.
(ii) Your agreeing to marry him will stir up resentment, hatred and enmity in the heart of his wife, and you will not be safe from her ill-will and harm.
(iii) What you have mentioned about him working in the bank; he may leave it as he said he would, or he may not.
This is what we think. If, after thinking long and hard about the matter, you decide to agree to marry him, then pray istikhaarah and ask Allaah for guidance, and wait until he finds another job that is permissible.
We ask Allaah to help you to do that in which there is goodness, success and guidance.
And Allaah knows best.








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Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * She learned of some faults in her fiancé and prayed istikhaarah about annulling the engagement, but it was not easy for her to do so

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I got engaged recently, but after the engagement I found out about some faults in my fiancé that I cannot put up with, and I felt that he is not suitable for me, in addition to the fact that he does not help me to obey Allaah. Despite all that, every time I think of annulling the engagement and pray istikhaarah, asking Allaah for guidance, something happens to make it difficult to annul it. What should I do? If I annul the engagement will I be disobeying Allaah because my decision is something other than what He has chosen for me? Should I close my mind so that I will be obeying Allaah?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If it has become clear to you that your fiancé has some faults that you cannot put up with, there is nothing wrong with annulling the engagement. This is better than getting married with the possibility of differences and conflicts, then divorce.
If you have thought about that, then pray istikhaarah and ask Allaah for guidance, then tell your wali so that he can apologize to your fiancé. Thus your engagement will be annulled.
Istikhaarah does not mean that you should close your mind, and it is not only focused on material matters that surround man, rather it is complementary to that. A person may be hesitant about some matter, because it involves both good and bad, pros and cons, or because he is uncertain of the consequences, so he asks Allaah to make easy for him the good that He knows.
It may seem to you that a suitor is free of faults, but Allaah knows that he is not suitable for you and that there are faults in him of which you are unaware, or that you are not suitable for him. Or it may seem to you that there are faults in a suitor, but Allaah knows that he is suitable for you and that his faults will disappear, or that they are not actually faults, or that he is suitable for this woman, and other unseen matters that no one knows except Allaah, may He be glorified.
It is well known that no one can succeed except with the help and guidance of Allaah, and that if he were to be left to his own devices he would be an utter loser. So if you have prayed istikhaarah, asking Allaah for guidance, about something, then go ahead with it. If it is good, Allaah will make it easy and facilitate it, and if it is bad, Allaah will divert you from it or divert it from you.
To apply this to your question: because of the faults that you see in your fiancé, you should pray istikhaarah and ask Allaah for guidance about annulling the engagement, and go ahead with it, by speaking to your wali or to someone who will convey news of the annulment of the engagement. If the matter comes to an end and is made easy, that is better for you, in sha Allaah. If it becomes difficult to annul the engagement, then there is nothing good for you in that now; it may be that Allaah knows that your getting married to him is better for you, or that continuing the engagement for a while longer is better for you. There is no reason why you should not repeat istikhaarah several times.
We should point out a number of things:
1. Istikhaarah is not to be used concerning things that are obligatory or forbidden or makrooh, except when the hesitation is about setting a time to do an obligatory action. Based on that, if it has become apparent that your fiancé does not pray or that he commits immoral actions, for example, then you must refuse him, and it is not prescribed to pray istikhaarah in that case.
2. The issue of things being made easy or difficult may involve some doubt and waswasah (whispers from the shaytaan). Perhaps the wali will try to contact the fiancé to tell him of the annulment and will not be able to get in touch with him, so it is said that the matter has become difficult. But that is not the case. Rather he should try again to get in touch with him, or send someone to tell him the news, and so on.
3. If a person goes against what is indicated by istikhaarah, he is not disobeying Allaah or sinning, but he will miss out on much goodness and will regret it if he does not do it, or harm may befall him if he goes ahead with something that Allaah has not made easy for him. Perfect faith and trust in Allaah means delegating one’s affairs to Allaah and accepting His decision, and going ahead with the matter after praying istikhaarah and deciding upon a course of action, and not paying attention to waswasah.
We ask Allaah to make good easy for you wherever it may be.
And Allaah knows best.






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General Dought & clear, - * Ruling on blotting out images in books and magazines; what are the images that prevent the angels from entering a house?

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Is it necessary to blot out images on the covers of books so that they will not prevent angels from entering the house? Do images in recycling bins prevent the angels from entering the house, even if we allocate a specific place in the house for that?
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Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
The use of images in books, magazines, packaging and so on is something that has become a widespread problem and the Muslim is not required to seek them out and erase them, because of the great hardship involved in that.
Shaykh ‘Abd ar-Rahmaan as-Sa‘di (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
With regard to necessary items (containing images) that have becomes part of people’s daily lives and have become widespread, such as images on currency, matches and the like, what appears to me to be the case is that this comes under the heading of matters concerning which one has no choice, and with regard to matters concerning which one has no choice and which are very widespread, there is the hope that Allah will pardon them and the ruling is leniency concerning them.
End quote fromal-Ajwibah an-Naafi‘ah ‘an al-Masaa’il al-Waaqi‘ah(p. 83)
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:
The individual is not required to blot out everything that he finds in magazines and newspapers, because of the hardship entailed. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):“and has not laid upon you in religion any hardship” [al-Hajj 22:78]. He does not buy these magazines and newspapers because of the images and pictures; rather he buys them because of what they contain of news and information.
End quote fromJalasaat Ramadaaniyyah, p. 103. See also:ash-Sharh al-Mumti‘(2/92).
Secondly:
The images that prevent the angels from entering the house are images of animate beings that are not handled in a disrespectful manner.
As for permissible images, such as images of natural scenery and other inanimate things, and images that are handled in a disrespectful manner, they do not prevent the angels from entering the place where they are.
The fact that images that are handled in a disrespectful manner do not prevent the angels from entering is indicated by the report narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Jibreel came to me and said: ‘I came to you yesterday, and nothing prevented me from entering upon you in the house where you were, except that at the door of the house there were a statue in the images of a man, and in the house there was a curtain on which there were images, and in the house there was a dog. So issue instructions that the head of the statue at the door be cut off, so that it will resemble a tree, and issue instructions that the curtain be cut up and made into two cushions that may be left on the floor to be stepped on, and issue instructions that the dog be put outside.’”
So the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) did that.
Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (2806); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inas-Silsilahas-Saheehah(256).
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said: This hadith supports the view of those who say that the kind of image that prevents the angels from entering the place where it is is that which remains in its original form, and is put in a high place and is not handled in a disrespectful manner. But if it is subject to being handled in a disrespectful manner, or it is not subject to handled in a disrespectful manner but its appearance is altered, either by cutting it in half or cutting off its head, then there is no problem.
End quote fromFath al-Baari(10/392)
Al-Khattaabi said: Rather the angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog or an image, of the type of dogs or images that it is prohibited to keep. But if it is not haraam, such as a dog for hunting, farming or herding livestock, or it is the kind of image that is subject to disrespectful treatment, such as images on carpets, cushions and the like, then the angels are not prevented from entering because of it.
Quoted from him inTuhfat al-Ahwadhi(8/72)
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: If an image is subject to being handled in a disrespectful manner, such as if it is on a rug or cushion, then the majority of scholars are of the view that it is permissible. Based on that, it does not prevent the angels from entering that place, because if it did prevent them from doing so, then it would be forbidden.
End quote fromLiqa’ al-Baab al-Maftooh(85/6)
Imam Ahmad (6290) narrated that Layth said: I entered upon Saalim ibn ‘Abdullah when he was reclining on a cushion on which there were images of birds and wild animals.
I said: Isn’t this disapproved of in sharee‘ah?
He said: No, it is only images that are set up in a high places that are disapproved of in sharee‘ah.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz was asked about the ruling on images on blankets, milk cartons and other household necessities.
He replied:
Such things are overlooked because they are subject to being handled in a disrespectful manner. Bedding is are subject to being handled in a disrespectful manner, cushions are subject to being handled in a disrespectful manner, and ketchup bottles are thrown in the trash, so the images on them do not matter, in sha Allah, because they are all subject to being handled in a disrespectful manner.
End quote fromFataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb(1/310)
so images that are found in recycling bins are subject to being handled in a disrespectful manner, and do not prevent the angels from entering the house.
And Allah knows best.








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