Plural marriage and fair treatment of co-wives, Dought & clear, - * His wife is pregnant and he wants to marry a second wife; should he delay the marriage contract?

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I am married and have a wonderful family. I was contacted by a sister whom I was intended to marry prior to this current situation. The question of polygamy was raised and thru futher conversation began plans to expand my family. We have coorespond for sometime by way of the internet and phone. Sometime as pasted an due to the fact that my current wife is pregnant. I delayed any chance of actually marring. I want to write a marriage contract in order to not sin. What would you advise? She wishes to marry and not wait. I pray that I am asking my question in the best manner. Can we write the contract and delay consumating after the arrival of the child. Or should I wait and repent to Allah.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is permissible for a man to marry a second wife and as many as four wives, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one”
[al-Nisa 4:3]
This is subject to the condition that he be financially and physically able for it, and able to treat them fairly.
Secondly:
You can do the marriage contract now, and delay consummation until your first wife gives birth, or you can do the marriage contract and consummate the marriage straight away, because there is no connection between your wife’s pregnancy and your taking a second wife.
Undoubtedly in a case such as yours it is better to do the marriage contract so that you will not do anything haraam. By doing the marriage contract, the woman will become your wife and it will be permissible for you to talk to her, be alone with her and touch her, and everything that it is permissible for a man to do with his wife.
But you have to fear Allaah and treat your wives fairly, and it is not permissible for you to favour one of them at the expense of the other.
And it is not permissible for you to form a relationship with a non-mahram woman. If any such thing has happened then what you must do is repent to Allaah and put an end to this relationship until the marriage contract is done.
And Allaah knows best.

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Plural marriage and fair treatment of co-wives, Dought & clear, - * She is very anxious because the second wife may inherit the same as her

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My father took a second wife a while ago, after being married to my mother for twenty-five years. Since that time my mother has been depressed because this woman may inherit the same as her, and she says: I have been suffering all these years, then this woman comes and gets the same inheritance as I will get; I will never accept that. When I asked a Shaykh about this matter, he said that in his country there is a custom in inheritance whereby the second wife does not inherit from the property that was present during the man’s first marriage and during the second marriage, both wives inherit from whatever extra property there is. Is this correct? Is there any other solution?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Allaah has permitted a man to be married to one or two, up to four, at any one time, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice”
[al-Nisa’ 4:3]
If a man takes a second wife then he dies, both wives share the inheritance, and one does not get more than the other. They are both included in the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“their (your wives) share is a fourth if you leave no child; but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”
[al-Nisa’ 4:12]
This is the ruling of Allaah, Who is the wisest of Judges and the most Merciful of those who show mercy. Every believing man and woman must submit to this and humble themselves, and not feel resentment towards the ruling of Allaah and what He has prescribed in sharee’ah, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”
[al-Ahzaab 33:36]
“But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad ) judge in all disputes between them, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept (them) with full submission”
[al-Nisa’ 4:36]
Our advice to your respected mother is to fear Allaah and to accept what He has decreed, and to have certain faith that the ruling of Allaah is just, merciful, good and right.“And who is better in judgement than Allaah for a people who have firm Faith?” [al-Maa'idah 5:50].
She should be very wary of turning away from the ruling of Allaah or rejecting it, or feeling anxious because of it, because that is a serious matter.
No one knows whether he will be an heir or the one from whom others inherit, so why should he become so attached to worldly things and feel content with them whilst losing his religious commitment by turning away and not accepting what Allaah has decreed?
Secondly:
The property that was present during the first marriage falls into two categories:
1 – That which has passed from the husband’s possession to the wife’s by being given as a gift or because it is part of her dowry etc. This is the property of the wife and does not form part of the husband’s estate if he dies. For example, if the husband gives his wife a house, gold or furniture, or if the gold or furniture was part of the dowry, as is the custom in some countries.
2 – That which belonged to the husband and still belonged to him until he died. This is included in his estate and it should be divided among all his heirs according to their shares. For example, if the husband had real estate or money, which he took possession of before his first marriage, or after that, or after his second marriage, and it did not cease to be his property by being given as a gift, etc. This is included in his estate after he dies.
Perhaps what the Shaykh you refer to said applied to the furnishings of the house etc, which in some countries people regard as being part of the wife’s dowry, so it belongs to her and is not included in the husband’s estate.
Similarly, the delayed portion of the dowry belongs to the wife and she may take it from the estate before it is divided, because it comes under the same ruling as a debt.
Some husbands give the first wife some money or property that is to belong to her. If this is done before the second marriage takes place, there is nothing wrong with it, but if it is done after that it is not permissible unless he gives the second wife something similar. The Standing Committee for Research and Issuing Fatwas was asked: I have two wives and I want to buy gold for one of them as a gift. Is it permissible for me to do that? Or is this regarded as not treating co-wives fairly? Please note that I am not falling short with regard to the rights of the other wife.
They replied: Whoever has two or more wives must treat them fairly. It is not permissible for him to single out one of his wives in any way to the exclusion of the other(s) with regard to spending, accommodation and spending time with them. There is a stern warning issued to the one who has two wives and does not treat them equally. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other will come on the Day of Resurrection with half of his body leaning.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad inal-Musnad(2/295, 347, 471). Al-Nasaa’i and Ibn Maajah narrated something similar in theirSunans.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and inclines more towards one of them will come on the Day of Resurrection with half his body leaning.” Narrated by Abu Dawood in hisSunan(2/601). Al-Tirmidhi narrated a similar report in hisJaami’.
This evidence indicates that it is essential to treat co-wives fairly and that it is haraam for the husband to favour one of them more than the other, apart from the inclination of the heart, for the inclination of the heart cannot be controlled. Hence the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say: “O Allaah, this is my division in that over which I have control, so do not call me to account for that over which I have no control” (i.e., the love of the heart).
Based on that, it is not permissible for this husband to give things that he owns to one wife and not to the other. If he gives a house etc to one of his wives then he must treat all his wives equally and also give the same to all of his wives, or something of equal value, unless the second wife lets him off.
And Allaah knows best.

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Trust (amaanah) in Islam, Dought & clear, - * What are the daily, weekly and monthly acts of worship?

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What are the daily, weekly and monthly acts of worship?
Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
The topic of acts of worship and obedience is very broad, and there is not room to discuss it in full here.
The questioner may refer to the following books for details on this matter:
· At-Targheeb wa’t-Tarheebby Imam al-Mundhiri, along withSaheeh at-Targheeb wa’t-TarheebandDa‘eef at-Targheeb wa’t-Tarheebby Shaykh al-Albaani, for information on the verdict on the soundness and weakness of the hadiths.
· Riyaadh as-Saaliheenby Imam an-Nawawi, especially the section entitledKitaab al-Fadaa’il.
Secondly:
The daily acts of worship include the five daily prayers and doing wudoo’ for them; using the miswaak when doing wudoo’ and praying; praying in congregation (jamaa‘ah); the regular Sunnah prayers, Duha prayer, qiyaam al-layl (voluntary prayers at night); Witr prayer; the adhkaar for morning and evening; adhkaar to be recited by day and by night (when entering and leaving the home, when entering and leaving the mosque, when entering and leaving the washroom, when eating and drinking, following the prescribed prayers, and so on); repeating after the mu’adhdhin.
The weekly acts of worship include Jumu‘ah prayer; reading Soorat al-Kahf on the night before Friday and on Friday; sending a lot of blessings upon the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) on the night before Friday and on Friday; fasting on Mondays and Thursdays.
Monthly acts of worship include fasting three days of every month (and it is preferable for that to be onal-ayaam al-beed, i.e., the 13th, 14thand 15thof the Hijri month).
Annual or occasional acts of worship include: fasting Ramadan; praying Taraweeh in congregation in the mosque; offering the Eid prayers; Hajj for those who are able to do so; giving zakaah for those for whom the conditions of it being obligatory are fulfilled; spending the last ten days of Ramadan in i‘tikaaf; fasting six days of Shawwaal; fasting ‘Ashoora’ and a day before it or after it; fasting the day of ‘Arafah; doing a lot of good deeds in the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah.
There are also deeds that are not connected to a particular time, so they are prescribed at all times, including deeds of the heart as well as physical actions. These include: offering voluntary prayers at times other than the times when praying is disallowed; observing voluntary fasts; ‘umrah; remembering Allah (dhikr); reading Qur’an; sending blessings upon the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him); supplication (du‘aa’); praying for forgiveness (istighfaar); honouring one’s parents; upholding ties of kinship; giving charity; spreading the greeting of salaam (peace) among the Muslims; having a good attitude; controlling one’s tongue; loving Allah, fearing Him and putting one’s hopes in Him; putting one’s trust in Him; contentment; certainty of faith; seeking His help, may He be glorified and exalted.
And there are good deeds that are done for a reason, in which case it is prescribed to do them when that reason is present. These include: visiting the sick; attending funerals; offering the funeral prayer; offering condolences; sayingYarhamuk Allah(may Allah bless you) to one who sneezes; returning greetings of salaam; accepting invitations; praying istikhaarah; offering the prayer of repentance (salaat at-tawbah); the eclipse prayer; prayers for rain; reconciling between disputing parties; lowering the gaze; refraining from harming others; bearing annoyance and calamity with patience; and so on.
The salaf (early generations) liked to combine four acts of worship on one day, namely: fasting, feeding the poor (charity), attending funerals and visiting the sick. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said concerning these actions: “These qualities are not combined in a man but he will enter Paradise.”Narrated by Muslim (1028).
And Allah knows best.

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