For children, - Hazrat Owais Qarni or Sahabi-e-Rasool Uwais al-Qarni (ra): Status and Honor of Mother in Islam

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Love is the only melody welcomed by its sufferer, who never desires to recover from it. All the sick hope to be cured, but this sick one sobs, crying "Increase my Sickness." - Maulana Rumi
Hazrat Owais Qarni was born in the village of Qarn in Yemen. His father passed away leaving Hazrat Owais Qarni an orphan at a very young age. Hazrat Owais Qarni was a very pious and noble person. He had embraced Islam while Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam was still alive. He naturally had a very strong desire to see Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) but since his mother was too old and she needed his help and care, he could not visit Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam in Madinah. As a reward of his service to his mother, he was given the title and status of a Sahabi- e-Rasool (Companion of Prophet)even though he could not see Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) personally in his life time.
A famous story regarding Hazrat Uwais al-Qarni: After the second battle of Islam called as Battle of Uhud, when Hazrat Owais Qarni came to know that Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam had lost a few teeth during the encounter, he himself broke all his teeth one by one till none was left - as he did not know exactly how many or which ones were lost by Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam. His extreme love for Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam made him question why he should have teeth when Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam had lost his own.
Many times in the company of his Companions, Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) stated, "I can smell the beauty of my friend from the land of Yemen." This statement is in direct reference to the spiritual greatness of Hazrat Uwais al-Qarni.
One day, Hazrat Owais Qarni had asked his mother's permission to visit Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam and she said: "You have my permission to go, see him once, and come straight back without staying over night in Madinah. If our Beloved Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam is at home, you may meet with him; if not, come straight back here." Hazrat Owais Qarni then completed a journey of three months on foot, from Yemen to Madinah. When he reached Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam's house, he knocked on the door and Ummul Momineen Hazrat Umme Salma opened the door. She told him that Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam was not in home and he (saw) was out of station. Hazrat Owais Qarni remembered his promise to his mother and replied, "Please convey my Salaams to my Beloved Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam. Kindly inform him that Owais came from Yemen, did not find him at home and is now returning back to Yemen, since he does not have permission from his mother to stay over night in Madinah."
When Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam returned home from the journey, he (pbuh) found the radiance of Hazrat Uwais al-Qarni in his house. Ummul Momineen Hazrat Umme Salmatold him what had happened and conveyed Hazrat Owais Qarni's salutations. His blessed eyes looked towards Yemen and our Beloved Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam said, "The fragrance of our friend is reaching us."
Noble Companions then enquired: "Ya Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam, if Owais is your friend, for what reason did he not stay to meet you?" To this, Rasulallah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam replied, "He complied with a promise given to his mother and he is serving her."
As reported by the renowned historical scholar Ibn Batutah, Hazrat Owais Qarni's tomb is found in Ar-Raqqah, Syria, where he was martyred in the Battle of Siffin. He fought for Imam Ali (as) against Muawiyah ibn Abu Sufyan in the Battle of Siffinin 657 CE.

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * Ruling on washing menstrual padsbefore throwing themaway

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Does a woman have to wash the towels she uses during her period before throwing them into the bin?.
Praise be to Allaah.
None of the scholars – as far as we know – stated that women should wash menstrual pads on which there is some blood before throwing them away. Rather it seems that the Sahaabiyaat did not wash these rags, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) knew of that but there is no report that he told them not to do that. Al-Tirmidhi (64) narrated that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: It was said: O Messenger of Allaah, should we do wudoo’ from Bi’r Budaa’ah [a well]? It is a well in which menstrual rags, the flesh of dogs and rotten things are thrown. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Water is a means of purification and nothing makes it impure.” It is a saheeh hadeeth; it was classed as saheeh by Ahmad, Yahya ibn Ma’een, Ibn Khuzaymah, Ibn Taymiyah and others (may Allaah have mercy on them).
It seems that they used to throw them away when they were stained with blood, otherwise the Sahaabah would not have asked about the purity of the water in which these rags were found.
The hadeeth does not mean that they used to throw these things into the well deliberately, because the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them) were greater and better than that. Rather what is meant is that the well was in the bed of some wadi, and when the rain came the flood would carry these things and throw them in the well.
And Allaah knows best.

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * The reason why it is forbidden to have intercourse with one's wife when she is menstruating or bleeding following childbirth

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What is the wisdom behind the prohibition on having intercourse with one's wife when she is menstruating or bleeding following childbirth? If the reason for the prohibition is the blood because it is impure, then is it permissible to have intercourse using a barrier like a condom?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah has forbidden men to have intercourse with their wives in the vagina at the time of menstruation.
The Qur’aan clearly stated the reason for this prohibition, which is that menstruation isadha(a harmful thing). Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses”
[al-Baqarah 2:222]
Scientific studies in this field have disclosed to us some of the harm that is referred to in this verse, but they have not managed to describe all the harms that are referred to in the Qur’aanic text.
Dr. Muhiy al-Deen al-‘Alabi said: “It is essential to refrain from having intercourse with a menstruating women because doing so leads to an increase in the flow of menstrual blood, because the veins of the uterus are congested and prone to rupture, and get damaged easily; and the wall of the vagina is also susceptible to injury, so the likelihood of inflammation is increased, which leads to inflammation in the uterus and in the man’s penis, because of the irritation that occurs during intercourse. Having intercourse with a menstruating woman may also be off-putting to both the man and his wife, because of the presence and smell of blood, which may make the man impotent (i.e., uninterested in sex).
Dr. Muhammad al-Baar said, speaking of the harm that may be caused to the menstruating woman: The lining of the uterus is shed during menstruation, and the uterus is scarred as a result, just like when the skin is flayed. So it is vulnerable to bacteria and the introduction of the bacteria that are to be found at the tip of the penis poses a great danger to the uterus.
Hence the penetration of the penis into the vagina at the time of menstruation is no more than the introduction of germs at a time when the body is unable to fight them.
Dr. al-Baar thinks that the harm is not limited to what he describes of the introduction of germs into the uterus and vagina which is difficult to treat, rather it also extends to other things, namely:
1. The spread of infection to the fallopian tubes, which may then become blocked, which in turn may lead to infertility or ectopic pregnancy, which is the most dangerous kind of pregnancy.
2. The spread of infection to the urethra, bladder and kidneys; diseases of the urinary tract are usually serious and chronic.
3. Increase of germs in the menstrual blood, especially gonorrhea germs.
The menstruating woman is also in a physical and psychological state that is not conducive to intercourse, so if it takes place it will harm her a great deal and cause her pains during her period, as Dr. al-Baar said:
1. Menstruation is accompanied by pains, the severity of which varies from one woman to another. Most women experience pains in the back and lower abdomen. For some women the pain is unbearable and has to be treated with medication and painkillers.
2. Many woman suffer depression and stress during their period, especially at the beginning, and their mental and intellectual state is at the lowest level during menstruation.
3. Some women suffer migraines just before their period starts, and the pain is severe and causes visual disturbances and vomiting.
4. Women’s sexual desire decreases, and many woman have no interest at all in sex during their periods. The entire reproductive system is in a state that is akin to sickness, so intercourse at this time is not natural and serves no purpose, rather it can cause a great deal of harm.
5. A woman’s temperature drops during menstruation, as does her pulse and blood pressure, which makes her feel dizzy, exhausted and lethargic.
Dr. al-Baar also mentions that the harm is not only caused to the woman by having intercourse with her, rather the man is also affected by this action, which may cause infection in his reproductive system which may lead to sterility as a result. The severe pains suffered as a result of this infection may be even worse than the sterility it causes.
And there are many other harmful effects, some of which have not yet been discovered, but Allaah has referred to them when He said (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath)”
[al-Baqarah 2:222]
Allaah has described it as adha, a harmful thing both for the wife and for the husband, and other harmful effects about which Allaah knows best.
Thus it becomes clear that the prohibition on intercourse at the time of menstruation is not just because of the blood, rather it is for many reasons as stated above.
The Muslim must also obey the command of Allaah, for He is the Creator and He knows best what is good for His slaves and what is harmful to them. He is the One Who says “keep away from women during menses”, so even if the reason behind this is not clear, we must still submit to the command of Allaah Who has commanded that a man should not have intercourse with his wife during this time.
Seeal-Hayd wa’l-Nifaas wa’l-Haml bayna al-Fiqh wa’l-Tibbby Dr. ‘Umar al-Ashqar.
Tawdeeh al-Ahkaamby al-Bassaam, 1/362.
However it is permissible for a man to be intimate with his wife, without having intercourse (at the time of menstruation).

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * Purification and prayer for one who has urinary incontinence

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I feel that some drops of urine come out. I asked about prayer and I was told to do wudoo’ at the time of each prayer and then pray as much as I want, then when the time for the next prayer comes, I should do wudoo’ again. My question is: is it permissible for me to do wudoo’ before the time for prayer begins, for example so that I can pray in congregation in the mosque. When I am away from home, is it permissible for me to pray with wudoo’ for the prayers whose time comes. If that is not permissible, what should I do to purify my underwear so that I can do wudoo’ and pray in them? Is it permissible for me to offer a lengthy prayer with one wudoo’, such as ‘Isha’ prayer then Taraaweeh? May Allaah reward you with all good.
Praise be to Allaah.
1 – Whoever has a problem that constantly breaks his wudoo’, such as one who suffers from urinary incontinence and constant wind, should do wudoo’ at the time of each prayer, and pray as much as he likes of obligatory and naafil prayers with that wudoo’, until the time for the next prayer begins.
That is because of the report narrated inal-Saheehaynfrom ‘Aa’ishah who said: Faatimah bint Abi Hubaysh came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, I am a woman who suffers from constant non-menstrual bleeding (istihaadah), and I never become pure. Should I give up prayer?” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “No, rather that is from a vein, and it is not menstruation. When your regular time of menstruation comes, then stop praying, and when that time is over, then wash the blood off yourself and pray, then do wudoo’ for every prayer until that time comes.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 226 – this version was narrated by him; and Muslim, 333.
The scholars regarded the one who suffers urinary incontinence as coming under the same rulings as the woman who suffers from istihaadah (irregular non-menstrual bleeding).
But if he knows that the urine will stop within the time when he will be able to purify himself and pray, then he has to delay the prayer until that time.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:
When a person suffers from urinary incontinence, one of two scenarios must apply:
(i) If it is constant and does not stop, and every time any amount collects in the bladder it comes out, then when the time for prayer comes, he should cover his private part with something and pray, and it will not matter if something comes out.
(ii) If it will stop after he urinates, or ten minutes or a quarter of an hour after that, then he should wait until it stops, then do wudoo’ and pray, even if he misses prayer in congregation.
As’ilah al-Baab al-Maftooh, Q. 17, no. 67.
The scholars differed with regard to the tahaarah (putification) of the woman who suffers from istihaadah and others like her – is the tahaarah invalidated when the time for prayer ends or when the time for the next prayer begins? For example, one who does wudoo’ for Fajr prayer – can she pray Duha prayer or Eid prayer with this wudoo’ or not?
Those who say that her wudoo’ is invalidated when the time for (Fajr) prayer ends say that she is not allowed to do that, because when the sun rises, her wudoo’ comes to an end.
Those who say that her wudoo’ is invalidated when the time for the next prayer begins, say that it is permissible for her to pray Duha or Eid prayer with the wudoo’ for Fajr, because her wudoo’ lasts until the time for Zuhr begins.
Both views are narrated in the madhhab of Imam Ahmad and others (al-Insaaf, 1/378;al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah, 3/212)
To be on the safe side, she should do wudoo’ again for Duha and Eid prayer; this was stated in a fatwa by Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him). See question no. 22843.
2 – Based on the above, you cannot do wudoo’ before the time for prayer, whether that is so that you can pray in congregation or for some other reason, because your wudoo’ will be invalidated when the time for the next prayer begins.
But we would like to point out that this ruling applies only when the impurity is ongoing. But if we assume that the person who has incontinence does wudoo’, then nothing comes out of him until the time for the next prayer begins, he does not have to do wudoo’, and his first wudoo’ is still valid.
The words of the fuqaha’ – let him do wudoo’ for each prayer – apply if something comes out of him.
Al-Bahooti said inal-Rawd al-Murabba’(p. 57): For the woman who is suffering istihaadah and those who suffer incontinence or continual emission of madhiy (prostatic fluid) or wind… should do wudoo’ when the time for each prayer begins, if something comes out, and should offer obligatory and naafil prayers so long as that time lasts. If nothing comes out then they do not have to do wudoo’.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The woman who is suffering from istihaadah has to do wudoo’ at the time for each prayer, if something comes out; if nothing comes out of her then her first wudoo’ remains valid.
Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 1/438.
3 – If you are outside the home and your wudoo’ is invalidated because the time for the next prayer begins, and you want to pray, then you have to repeat your wudoo’, after washing the private part and covering it with something that will prevent the emission coming out as much as possible.
Underwear is purified by washing it. If you single out a clean garment for prayer which you can carry with you, that will be easier for you. If it is too difficult to wash your clothes or change them, then pray as you are.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The sick person who is suffering with urinary incontinence and cannot be cured with treatment has to do wudoo’ for each prayer after the time for prayer begins. He should wash off whatever has gotten onto his body and set aside clean clothes for prayer, if that is not too difficult for him. If he cannot do that then he is excused, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“and has not laid upon you in religion any hardship”
[al-Hajj 22:78]
“Allaah intends for you ease, and He does not want to make things difficult for you”
[al-Baqarah 2:185]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If I command you to do a thing, then do as much of it as you can.” He should take precautions to prevent urine spreading on his body or clothes or the place where he prays.
End quote. FromFataawa Islamiyyah, 1/192
If it is too hard for you to do wudoo’ and wash your clothes for every prayer, then it is permissible for you to join Zuhr and ‘Asr and pray them with one wudoo’ at the time of either of them, and to join Maghrib and ‘Isha’ likewise, whether that is in your house or elsewhere.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said inMajmoo’ al-Fataawa, 24/14:
Those who are sick or suffering from istihaadah may join their prayers.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said inal-Sharh al-Mumti’, 4/559:
It is permissible for the woman who is suffering from istihaadah to join Zuhr and ‘Asr, and Maghrib and ‘Ishah’, because it is difficult for her to do wudoo’ for every prayer.
4 – You can pray Taraaweeh with the wudoo’ you did for ‘Isha’, even if the Taraaweeh prayers last until after midnight.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
Is it permissible for a woman who is suffering from istihaadah to pray qiyaam al-layl if it will end at midnight, with the wudoo’ of ‘Isha’?
He replied:
This is an area concerning which there is a difference of scholarly opinion. Some of the scholars said that when midnight comes she has to repeat her wudoo’, and some said that she does not have to repeat her wudoo’ – this is the more correct opinion.
Fataawa al-Tahaarah, p. 286.
And Allaah knows best.

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