Fathwa, - Her mother-in-law interferes in her..

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Assalamu alaikum! iam really upset with the current situation.i don't know whats right in the eyes of allah.i was married while i was studying and i badly wanted to continue my studies after my marriage and my husband was not against it.But my mother in law never liked me to continue my studies after marriage.Since my husband recommended my father in law gave permission to study i went to college even though i had to hear from my mother in laws sharp words which hurted me and atlast i had to stop my studies because of this.But iam really hurt that i couldnot complete it.My question is whether all mothers have rights over their son in their family matters? a son should obey his mother and forget his wife's wishes and desires to make their mother happy? whether wife should always sacrifice like this for the mother?
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His Slave and Messenger.
Your mother-in-law has no right to interfere in the marital life of her son unless she wants to reconcile ]between the two of you[. If she really provokes you and says hurtful words to you, then she is wrongful in doing that. However, being patient and repelling a bad deed with a good deed is a characteristic of the people of virtue. Allaah says )what means(: }And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel ]evil[ by that ]deed[ which is better; and there upon, the one whom between you and him is enmity ]will become[ as though he was a devoted friend.{]Quran 41:34[
Ibn Katheersaid )about the interpretation of the above verse( in his Tafseer )interpretation of the Quran(: “That is to say that if you do good to someone who mistreats you, then this good that you do will lead him to have a good attitude towards you, like you, and be compassionate with you; until he becomes like an intimate friend to you, who is sympathetic and kind to you.”
For more benefit on the virtue of patience, please refer to Fatwa 83577.
However, patience does not mean that the wife should not request her rights over her husband. For more benefit on how a wife could solve the interference of her in-laws in her marital life, please refer to Fatwa 181485.
On the other hand, the son ]your husband[ should be wise; he should give his mother her right and give his wife her right so as not to wrong either one of them at the expense of the other.
In case a wife stipulates a condition at the time of concluding the marriage contract that does not contradict the purpose of the contract and he accepted it, then he is obliged to fulfill it as clarified in Fataawa 131714and 157809. However, the mere fact that the wife was studying at the time of concluding the marriage contract does not make it a condition that she continues her studies.
As for your husband’s obedience to his mother, it is not an absolute obligation; rather, the jurists stated that a child is to obey his mother in what involves benefit for the mother and no harm for the child, as clarified in 84942.
Finally, we advise you to be wise and cautious so that the problem does not aggravate so as to cause dissension and separation. Also, you should pray to Allaah to set the matter right and grant you stability.
Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M

Fathwa, - Writing Mohammad in shortened form ..

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As salamalekum The name of a person is Ateeq Mohammed khan and if he writes it in a short form Ateeq Mohd. khan . Is it wrong? Bcoz I have heard one should not use short form Mohd.
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His Slave and Messenger.
Apparently – and Allaah knows best – writing the name in that manner is permissible if it does not involve any bad intent, like mockery or the like.Al-Bukhaariwrote a chapter entitled: “Whoever calls on someone and omits a letter from his name”, and he mentioned in it the statement of the Prophetto‘Aa’ishah: “O 'Aa'ish, this is Jibreel )angel Gabriel( sending his greetings to you.” Shereplied: “Peace and Allaah's Mercy be upon him.” Furthermore, the Prophetcalled Anjashah, his servant boy: “O Anjash, pull the camels slowly when there are ladies on their backs.”
But if the name is used in shortened form as an offensive nickname or to say something negative about someone, then it is prohibited as Allaah says )what means(: }….and do not call each other by ]offensive[ nicknames. Wretched is the name ]i.e. mention[ of disobedience after ]one’s[ faith. And whoever does not repent — then it is those who are the wrongdoers.{ ]Quran 49:11[
Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M

Fathwa, - Her husband brought his other wife ..

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Asalam alaikum shaikh iwant to know if this is correct if my husband when i travelled to hajj he brought his other wife in my house i said my house because ipay half rent and half electric bill and the things inside the house all are mine is this fair he gave me permission to go for my first hajj as he had refused to go and i went with my brother when i came back he lied to me as isaw food that were not there before he told me he was given by his friend and in real he had bought for the other wife immediately icame back he took her out and travelled to her country i know that she has right also but she should bring her to another house not mine is this fair he used my car for her and my bed also and every thing in the house when i complained he is telling me he will move out of the house and leave me is this fair
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His Slave and Messenger.
If the matter is based on mere suspicions and not certain facts, then you have no right to harbor doubts against your husband. Allaah, The Exalted, says )what means(: }O you who have believed, avoid much ]negative[ assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin...{ ]Quran 49:12[ If your husband denied, then, in principle, he is to be considered truthful and you should believe him until proven otherwise. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa133309.
Accordingly, if what you are experiencing are mere illusions and obsessive whisperings, then we advise you to discard them, lest this would ruin your relationship with your husband and incur undesirable consequences. You should not allow yourself to indulge in such doubts and whisperings and you should not yield to the urge to investigate the issue any further. Instead, you should express gratitude to your Lord that He blessed you with the grace of performing Hajj that year, for such good deeds are what genuinely matter, whereas the fleeting worldly affairs should not be given such undue weight. Allaah, The Exalted, says )what means(:
· }Whatever you have will end, but what Allaah has is lasting. And We will surely give those who were patient their reward according to the best of what they used to do.{ ]Quran 16:96[
· }...Say, The enjoyment of this world is little, and the Hereafter is better for he who fears Allaah. And injustice will not be done to you, ]even[ as much as a thread ]inside a date seed[."{ ]Quran 4:77[
Generally speaking, it is not the right of a husband to allow his wife to use the personal belongings of his other wife without her permission. The Prophet, said: “A Muslim's property is not lawful )for another Muslim( without the former's own free will.” ]Ahmad[
In this case, it is incumbent on your husband to turn to Allaah, The Exalted, in repentance from that sin and seek your pardon for what he did. Verily, forgiveness has great virtues. We have cited some religious texts highlighting the great virtues of forgiveness....
Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M