Islamic Marriage Articles, - Kindness toward your wife when you wish to enter into her

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1. Kindness toward your wife when you wish to enter into her
It is desirable, when one goes into his wife on his wedding night, to show her kindness, such as presenting her with something to drink, etc. This is found in the hadith narrated by Asmaa' bint Yazid ibn As-Sakan who said: "I beautified 'As'ishah for Allaah's Messenger, then called him to come to see her unveiled. He came, sat next to her, and brought a large cup of milk from which he drank. Then, he offered it to 'Aa'ishah, but she lowered her head and felt shy. I scolded her and said to her: "Take from the hand of the Prophet." She then took it and drank some. Then, the Prophet said to her, "Give some to your companion." At that point, I said: "O Messenger of Allaah, rather take it yourself and drink, and then give it to me from your hand." He took it, drank some, and then offered it to me. I sat down and put it on my kness. Then, I began rotating it and following it with my lips in order that I might hit the spot from which the Prophet had drunk. Then, the Prophet said about some women who were there with me: "Give them some." But, they said: "We don't want it." (ie. we are not hungry). The Prophet said: "Do not combine hunger and fibbing!" [Ahmad and al-Humaidi. Ahmad reports it with 2 isnaads - one of which supports the other, and it is supported...]"

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Personalities, - Excellence and Virtues of the Second Caliph

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All praise is for Allah who ennobled the ability of those who desire to be his servants. I testify that there is no deity except Allah, the King of the distressed and the happy, I testify that our master Muhammad is his beloved Messenger, who establishes the right path, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, his family, his companions and the outstanding leaders.
The excellence and virtues of the second caliph of Islam, Sayyiduna Umar al-Farooq, may Allah be pleased with him, are more than can be counted. Here, I am mentioning the most famous ones. I only wish to bless myself by serving him by this remnant to benefit he who does not know much of his virtues by the ignorance before him. This small collection of Traditions will in sha Allah increase and elevate his rank in our hearts and minds and tell us of his exalted status in the court of Almighty Allah and His beloved Messenger SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam.
1. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with both the father and the son) reports the Holy Prophet, may Allah send greetings and salutations on him, as saying:
اللهم أعز الإسلام بأبى جهل بن هشام أو بعمر. قال فأصبح فغدا عمر على رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- فأسلم
"O Allah, strengthen Islam with Abu Jahl bin Hisham or Umar bin Khattab." In the morning Umar went to the Holy Prophet, may Allah send greetings and salutations on him, and embraced Islam.[Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith 3683]
2. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abbas (may Allah be pleased with both the father and the son) narrates when Sayyiduna Umar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu accepted Islam, Jibraeel Alaihis Salam descent and said:
يا محمد لقد استبشر أهل السماء بإسلام عمر
"O Muhammad – may Allah send greetings and salutations on him – indeed, the residents of the heavens are rejoicing in Umar`s embracing Islam."[Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 103]
3. It is related that Sayyiduna 'Abdullah Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said,
ما زلنا أعزة منذ أسلم عمر
"We have become mighty since 'Umar became Muslim."[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3481]
4. Sayyiduna Uqbah bin Amir (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Holy Prophet, may Allah send greetings and salutations on him, said:
لو كان بعدى نبى لكان عمر بن الخطاب
If there were to be a prophet after me, indeed he would be Umar, son of Khattab.[Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith 3686]
5. It is related that Sayyiduna Jabir ibn 'Abdullah said that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
رأيتنى دخلت الجنة ، فإذا أنا بالرميصاء امرأة أبى طلحة وسمعت خشفة ، فقلت من هذا فقال هذا بلال . ورأيت قصرا بفنائه جارية ، فقلت لمن هذا فقال لعمر . فأردت أن أدخله فأنظر إليه ، فذكرت غيرتك » . فقال عمر بأمى وأبى يا رسول الله أعليك أغار طرفاه
"I dreamt that I entered the Garden and there was ar-Rumaysa', the wife of Abu Talha. I heard a faint sound and said, 'Who is this?' He said, 'This is Bilal.' I saw a palace with a girl in its courtyard and said, 'Who does this belong to?' They said, ''Umar.' I wanted to enter it and look at it but then I remembered your self-esteem.' 'Umar said, 'By my mother and father, Messenger of Allah, would I consider self-esteem on account of you?'"[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3476]
6. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with both the father and the son) narrates that one day the Holy Prophet, may Allah send greetings and salutations on him, went out and entered the mosque with Abu Bakr and Umar, one on his right hand and the other on his left, holding their hands. Then he said:
هكذا نبعث يوم القيامة
"We will be raised thus on the Day of Resurrection."[Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith 3669]
7. Sayyiduna Jabir bin Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with both the father and the son) narrates:
قال عمر لأبى بكر يا خير الناس بعد رسول الله. فقال أبو بكر أما إنك إن قلت ذاك فلقد سمعت رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- يقول ما طلعت الشمس على رجل خير من عمر
Umar said to Abu Bakr, "O best of men after Allah`s Messenger, may Allah send greetings and salutations on him!" Abu Bakr replied, "Seeing that you have that, (I would also tell you that) I heard Allah`s Messenger, may Allah send greetings and salutations on him, say, "The sun has not risen on a better man than Umar.""[Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith 3684]
8. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with both the father and the son) narrates that Allah`s Messenger, may Allah send greetings and salutations on him, said,
إن الله جعل الحق على لسان عمر وقلبه
"Indeed, Allah has placed truth upon Umar`s tongue and heart."[Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith 2682]
9. It is related from Sayyiduna Abu Hamzah that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
بينا أنا نائم شربت - يعنى اللبن - حتى أنظر إلى الرى يجرى فى ظفرى أو فى أظفارى ، ثم ناولت عمر. فقالوا فما أولته قال العلم
"While I was asleep, I dreamt that I drank (milk) until I could feel moisture coming out of my nails and then I gave it to 'Umar ibn al-Khattab." They asked, "How do you interpret it, Messenger of Allah?" He replied, "It means knowledge."[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3478]
10. It is related that Sayyiduna 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar said that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
أريت فى المنام أنى أنزع بدلو بكرة على قليب ، فجاء أبو بكر فنزع ذنوبا أو ذنوبين نزعا ضعيفا ، والله يغفر له ، ثم جاء عمر بن الخطاب فاستحالت غربا ، فلم أر عبقريا يفرى فريه حتى روى الناس وضربوا بعطن
"I dreamt that I was at a well drawing water with a young camel's bucket, Abu Bakr came and drew one or two buckets, but there was some weakness in his drawing. May Allah forgive him. Then 'Umar ibn al-Khattab came and it turned into a large bucket in his hand. I have not seen a leader among the people work so well as he did until the people watered their camels."[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3479]
11. It is related that Sayyiduna Sa'id ibn Abi Waqqas said,
استأذن عمر بن الخطاب على رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - ، وعنده نسوة من قريش يكلمنه ويستكثرنه ، عالية أصواتهن على صوته فلما استأذن عمر بن الخطاب قمن فبادرن الحجاب فأذن له رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - فدخل عمر ورسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - يضحك ، فقال عمر أضحك الله سنك يا رسول الله . فقال النبى - صلى الله عليه وسلم - « عجبت من هؤلاء اللاتى كن عندى فلما سمعن صوتك ابتدرن الحجاب » . فقال عمر فأنت أحق أن يهبن يا رسول الله . ثم قال عمر يا عدوات أنفسهن ، أتهبننى ولا تهبن رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - فقلن نعم ، أنت أفظ وأغلظ من رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - . فقال رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - إيها يا ابن الخطاب والذى نفسى بيده ما لقيك الشيطان سالكا فجا قط إلا سلك فجا غير فجك
"'Umar asked the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, for permission to enter while there were some women of Quraysh with him who speaking to him and asking him for more, raising their voices above his voice. When 'Umar ibn al-Khattab asked for permission to enter, they rushed to screen themselves. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, gave him permission and 'Umar entered while the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was laughing. 'Umar said, 'May Allah make you laugh, Messenger of Allah.' He said, 'I am amazed at those women who were with me. When they heard your voice, they rushed to screen themselves.' 'Umar said, 'But you, Messenger of Allah, are more entitled to be feared.' Then he said, 'O enemies of your selves! Do you fear me and not fear the Messenger of Allah?' They said, 'Yes, you are harsher and more severe than the Messenger of Allah.' The Messenger of Allah said, 'O Ibn al-Khattab! By the One in whose hand my soul is, whenever Shaytan finds you taking a path, he only takes a path other than your path.'"[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3480]
12. It is related that Sayyiduna Ibn 'Abbas said,
وضع عمر على سريره ، فتكنفه الناس يدعون ويصلون قبل أن يرفع ، وأنا فيهم ، فلم يرعنى إلا رجل آخذ منكبى ، فإذا على فترحم على عمر ، وقال ما خلفت أحدا أحب إلى أن ألقى الله بمثل عمله منك ، وايم الله ، إن كنت لأظن أن يجعلك الله مع صاحبيك ، وحسبت أنى كنت كثيرا أسمع النبى - صلى الله عليه وسلم - يقول ذهبت أنا وأبو بكر وعمر ، ودخلت أنا وأبو بكر وعمر ، وخرجت أنا وأبو بكر وعمر
"'Umar ibn al-Khattab who had been placed on his bed, and the people gathered around him to make supplication and pray before he was removed. I was among them. I was startled when a man took hold of my shoulders, and it was 'Ali ibn Abi Talib. He asked for mercy for 'Umar and said, 'You have not left behind anyone I would prefer to encounter with the like of your actions. By Allah, I used to think that Allah would put you with your two companions. I reckoned this as I often heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, "I and Abu Bakr and 'Umar went..." and "I and Abu Bakr and 'Umar entered..." and "I and Abu Bakr and 'Umar left."'"[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3482]
13. It is added that Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra said that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
لقد كان فيمن كان قبلكم من بنى إسرائيل رجال يكلمون من غير أن يكونوا أنبياء ، فإن يكن من أمتى منهم أحد فعمر
"Among the tribe of Israel before you were men who were spoken to without being Prophets. If there are any of them among my community, then it is 'Umar."[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3486]
14. It is related that Sayyiduna Abu Sa'id al-Khudri said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say,
بينا أنا نائم رأيت الناس عرضوا على وعليهم قمص ، فمنها ما يبلغ الثدى ، ومنها ما يبلغ دون ذلك ، وعرض على عمر وعليه قميص اجتره . قالوا فما أولته يا رسول الله قال الدين
'While I was asleep, I dreamed I saw some people who were shown to me and who were wearing shirts some of which reached to their breasts and some of which were shorter than that. 'Umar ibn al-Khattab was shown to me wearing a shirt that was trailing on the ground.' They asked, 'How do you interpret that, Messenger of Allah?' He answered, 'The Religion.'"[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3488]
15. The son of Sayyiduna Ali Radi Allahu Allahu Ta'ala Anhu, Imam Muhammad bin Hanafiyya Radi Allahu Allahu Ta'ala Anhu narrates:
قلت لأبى أى الناس خير بعد رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - قال أبو بكر . قلت ثم من قال ثم عمر
'I asked my father who was the best of people after the Holy Prophet and he answered "Abu Bakr". I asked him who is the best of people after Abu Bakr and he replied, "Umar"'[Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of the Virtues of the Companions, Hadith 3468]
16. Hadrat Abdullah bin Salma Radi Allahu Allahu Ta'ala Anhu reports from Sayyiduna Ali Radi Allahu Allahu Ta'ala Anhu ,
خیر الناس بعد رسول الله صلی الله تعالی علیه وسلم ابوبكر وخیر الناس بعد ابوبكر عمر
'After the Noble Messenger, the best of people is Abu Bakr, then the best of people is Umar'[Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 111]
17. Narrated by Sayyiduna Hudhaifa Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu, He said: Beloved Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam said,
اقتدوا باللذين من بعدي أبي بكر و عمر
“Follow after me from my companions Abu-Bakr and 'Umar.”[Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith 3742]
18. Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibn Mas'ood Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said:
لو وضع علم عمر في كفة ميزان و وضع علم الناس في كفة لرجح علم عمر
"If the knowledge of 'Umar was put on one side of a scale, and the knowledge of the people on the other side of the scale, 'Umar's knowledge would weigh more."[Al-Mustadrak 'ala al-Sahîhayn‎, Vol. 3, Page 92, Hadith 4497]
19. Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal records a hadith narrated upon the authority of Sayyiduna Qabisah ibn Jaabir who said:
ما رأيت رجلا أعلم بالله ولا أقرأ لكتاب الله ولا أفقه في دين الله من عمر
I haven't seen anyone more knowledgeable about the book of Allah and His religion, nor anyone more upholding of the limits imposed by Allah, nor anyone more feared and respected in the breasts of men than 'Umar ibn Al-Khattaab.[Fadail al-Sahaba, Vol. 1, Page 330, Hadith 472]
20. Sayyiduna Ali (may Allah ennoble his face) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
أبوبكر وعمر سيدا كهول أهل الجنة من الأولين والآخرين، ما خلا النبيين والمرسلين
“Abu Bakr and `Umar are the leaders of the mature inhabitants of Paradise, of the first and the last with the exception of the Prophets and the Messengers.”[Jami' al-Ahadith, Hadith 233]
21. Sayyiduna Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
أبو بكر وعمر من هذا الدين كمنزلة السمع والبصر من الرأس
“Abu Bakr and Umar are to the religion like the station of the hearing and the sight to the head.”[Al-Khattib in Tarikh, Vol. 8, Page 459 from Jabir]
22. Sayyiduna Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
أبو بكر وعمر مني بمنزلة هارون من موسى
“Abu Bakr and Umar are to me in the station of Haroon from Musa.”[Al-Khattib in Tarikh, Vol. 5, Page 194]
23. Sayyiduna Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
عمر مني وأنا من عمر، والحق بعدي مع عمر حيث كان
“I am from Umar and Umar is from me. The truth, after me, is with Umar wherever he is.”[Al-Tabrani in Awsat, Vol. 3, Page 104, Hadith 2629]
24. Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) struck the chest of Umar with his hand when he became Muslim and said,
اللهم أخرج ما في صدر عمر من غل وداء، وأبدله إيمانا - ثلاثا
“O Allah take out from the heart of Umar rancour and disease in exchange for faith.” (Three times)[Jami' al-Ahadith, Hadith 4812]
25. Sayyiduna Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
أتاني جبريل عليه السلام فقال: أقرىء عمر السلام وقل له: إن رضاه حكم، وإن غضبه عزّ
“Jibril, upon him peace, came to me and said, Convey greeting to Umar and say to him his satisfaction is wisdom and his anger might.”[Al-Tabrani in Kabir, Vol. 10, Page 207, Hadith 12302]
26. A freed bondswoman of Sayyidah Hafsah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
إن الشيطان لم يلق عمر منذ أسلم إلا خر لوجهه
“Satan has not meet Umar since he became Muslim except murmur in his face.”[Al-Tabarani in Al-Kabir, Vol. 18, Page 42, Hadith 20230]
27. Sayyiduna Abu Dhar (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) saw Umar and said,
لا تصيبنكم فتنة ما دام هذا فيكم
“You shall not be afflicted with tribulation as long as he is amongst you.”[Al-Tabarani in Awsat, Vol. 4, Page 478, Hadith 2019]
28. Sayyiduna Abu Sa’id Al-Khudari (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
من أبغض عمر فقد أبغضني، ومن أحب عمر فقد أحبني
“Whoever hates Umar hates me. Whoever loves Umar loves me.”[Al-Tabarani in Awsat, Vol. 14, Page 493, Hadith 6915]
29. Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (may Allah be pleased with him) said,
إن كان إسلام عمر لفتحاً وهجرته لنصراً، وإمارته رحمة، والله ما استطعنا أن نصلي عند البيت الكعبة ظاهرين
“If the Islam of Umar was an opening his migration was a victory and his leadership mercy. I swear by Allah that we were unable to pray at the Ka’aba publically until Umar became Muslim.”[Al-Mustadrak 'ala al-Sahîhayn‎, Vol. 3, Page 90 Hadith 4487]
30. Sayyiduna Ammar ibn Yasir (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bestow peace and blessings upon him) said,
يا عمار أتاني جبريل آنفاً فقلت: يا جبريل حدثني بفضائل عمر بن الخطاب في السماء فقال: يا محمد لو حدثتك بفضائل عمر منذ ما لبث نوح في قومه ألف سنة إلا خمسين عاما ما نفدت فضائل عمر
“O Ammar, Jibril came to me and I asked, “O Jibril narrate to me the virtues of Umar ibn Al-Khattab in the heavens.” He said, “O Muhammad, if I was to narrate the virtues of Umar from the time that Nuh remained with his people, nine hundred and fifty years, I would not exhaust the virtues of Umar.”[Abu Y’alla in Musnad, Vol. 4, Page 173, Hadith 1568]
And Allah is the giver of success; Allah is sufficient for us and a blessed protector. All praise belongs to Allah, the first, the last, the internal, the external and may Allah bless his Messenger, his prophet, our master Muhammad, his family, his companions, his group and his party; O Allah please accept. All praise belongs to Allah master of the universe.

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Personalities, - Golden Words Hazrat Umar Farooq RadiAllahAnho

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*.To eat less is healthy, to speak less is wisdom, and to sleep less is worship.
*.To speak less is wisdom, to eat less is healthy and to mingle less with the people is safe and serene.
*.The one who steps back will not progress.
*.Nothing is worst than avarice that destroys the mind, not even Alcohol.
*.It is unbecoming of that person who sits with his hands folded and prays to ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala for sustenance. ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala does not rain down gold and silver from the heavens.
*.To earn a suspicious living is worse than begging.
*.The biggest gift after Iman (Faith) is your wives.
*.Attain knowledge before old age settles in.
*.Extravagance is also when a person eats whatever he wishes.
*.Whosoever hides his secret keeps his safety, safeguarded with himself.
*.The person who calls himself learned, indeed he is ignorant, and the one who calls himself from the dwellers of Paradise surely he is from the dwellers of Hell.
*.Tawbatun-NasooHa (Accepted forgiveness) is the name of that forgiveness that is asked for a bad deed committed, in such a manner that he never returns to or commits that bad deed again.
*.The Strength in action is, never to put of what you can do today for tomorrow.
*.It is not becoming of a Muslim to sit down and start praying for sustenance without attempting to earn it, he is well aware that gold and silver does not rain from the skies.
*.If it wasn’t for the claim of knowledge of the unknown then I would say five people are from the dwellers of Paradise:
1.That family man who is poverty stricken but is patient
2.That women with whom her husband is happy and accepting.
3.That woman who forgives he husband’s duty of Mehr (Dowry approved by Muslim law)
4.That person with whom his parents are Happy
5.And that person who honestly repents from his sins
*.Once a sheep was slaughtered and Syeduna 'Umar al-Farooq Radi ALLAHu Ta'ala Anho persistently asked his servant if he had first sent meat to his neighbor who was a Jew. The slave asked why you are asking the same question persistently. He answered that ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala and his Rasūl Sallallaho Alaihi wa Sallam had constantly stressed the importance of neighbors therefore I too am persistent in stressing the same.
*.Three things build love:
1.To make Salam (greeting)
2.To make space for a person in a gathering
3.To address a person in a respectable and good manner
*.There are four types of Regrets:
1.Regret that spans over a day e.g. When a person leaves his home without eating.
2.Regret that spans over a year, just like the negligence shown when cultivating.
3.Regret that spans over a lifetime, when a man and his wife are unsuited to each other.
4.Regret that is eternal, which is when your Creator is unhappy with you.
*.There are three types of people:
1.Successful: he who listens to the advice of people and ponders over it.
2.Lazy or Lethargic: he who does what he wants without consultation or advice of people.
3.Corpse: who neither gives nor listens to advice and consolation.
*.Sayyiduna 'Umar Radi ALLAHu Ta'ala Anho on many an occasion asked this du'a (supplication) to ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala so that certain situations should always remain with him and some things should be removed, the Du'a is: “O ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala! Make me such that I may speak with intellect or reap tolerance with silent. O! ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala do not bestow upon me too many favours, so that I may not be confused by it, not too little that I may forget You. Hence, little yet sufficient in comparison to having plenty thereby becoming indulgent and committing sin.”
*.If ever you see a learned person ('Aalim) leaning towards this World, then know this he is blameworthy for his Religion, because the universal harm is that if a person desires something then he is constantly engrossed in its quest.
*.Faith (Iman) is to regard the Oneness of ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala in ones heart proclaim it with your tongue and to obey the fundamental Islamic Instructions.
*.The relationship of true humility and genuine fear of ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala is with the heart and not by a show of outward actions.
*.Why have you made slaves of those whose mothers had given birth to them free?
*.Judgments or Settlements in any cases should be done quickly, so that the accused, due to a prolonged period of time are not compelled to withdraw their accusation.
*.It is absolutely necessary not to associate with a beast for though he wishes or means well, yet he would still be accused of committing a crime.
*.ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala, shower your Blessings of Mercy on that person who informs me of my faults.
*.When a learned man takes a false step then he ensnares himself in a World of wrongdoings.
*.One day a man was praising Hadrat 'Umar Radi ALLAHu Ta'ala Anho, he replied by saying why are you destroying me even more with my desires (Nafs).
*.I am not a fool, but I pretend to be a fool, in order to fool the fool. And just when the fool thinks I am a fool, I will expose the fool and show to him that he is the fool.
*.I do not look at anything, except, that I see everything with ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala.
*.If I die in this condition that I have strived to earn an honest living then it is more beloved to me than even dying as a Martyr.
*.Good behavior towards people is equivalent to wisdom, to request politely is half of knowledge, and to ascribe to sound policies is half of one’s livelihood.
*.To educate a material person is like placing a sword in the hands of a robber.
*.Do not have Faith in a person’s compassion and politeness when he cannot keep his anger under control.
*.Do not have Faith in a religious person who is not tested during temptation.
*.He is a friend who brings to your attention your faults and to sing praises of a person in his presence is similar to slaughtering him.
*.Laughing decreases ones age, while politeness, glamor, pomp and show which ease living standards are indications of people who are unaware of death.
*.To show greed and avarice is impoverishing, to be unselfish is enriching and to wish compensation in patience.
*.Good deeds are the fulfillment of one’s rights and to do good deeds is a substitute for bad deeds.
*.To speak less is wisdom, to eat less is healthy, to sleep less is a prayer and there is peace in solitude.
*.Youth before old age and old age before death is a blessing of life.
*.A generous person is the beloved of Almighty ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala even though he is a transgressor. A miser is the enemy of Almighty ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala although he may pray and remember Almighty ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala excessively.
*.To forgive an oppressor is oppression upon the oppressed.
*.When you combine lawful with unlawful gains then the unlawful contaminates the lawful gains though it may be little.
*.A Mu'min does not keep as his friend one who is opposed to Almighty ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala and his Prophet Sallallaho Alaihi wa Sallam even though that person may be his mother or father.
*.The sound of music and that of a mourner are two of the worst sounds.
*.There is tranquility and peace in anonymity and confidentiality.
*.We should leave the other nine portions out for the fear of Haram (unlawful). (i.e. if in ten portions one is Haram a Muslim would leave the other nine portions out meaning anything unlawful would be completely left out).
*.Desire is never achieved without fear, nor manners and etiquette without formality, or happiness without peace or wealth without gifts or poverty without contentment, or dignity without politeness or Jihad (holy war) without diving guidance and assistance.
*.Respite before preoccupation and old age before death is a blessing of life.
*.Honour and dignity in this World is measured by wealth while honour and dignity in the Hereafter is measured by good deeds.
*.Save yourself from the Fires of Hell even if it means by doing a favour with half a date (fruit). If this too is not possible then with sweet words.
*.After Iman (Faith), there is no greater gift than a pious wife.
*.Not to postpone is strength in action.
*.Whosoever shows you your faults, he is your friend. Those that pay you lip service in praise are your executioners.
*.One who guards his secrets is surely safe.
*.The person who constantly discloses my faults to me is dearest to me.
*.Fear that person who you dislike.
*.When Sayyiduna 'Umar Radi ALLAHu Ta'ala Anho camped on the outskirts of Jerusalem to conquer Bait al-Maqdas, the Christian Crusaders were terrified of his presence and requested a meeting with him before handing over the keys of the city. The Crusaders met him whilst he wore a patched garb. They asked him the reason as to why his name generated such immense awe and fear that captured the hearts of his enemies. He replied; “Your kings taught you to love the World (Duniyah) and its wealth and our Prophet Sallallaho Alaihi wa Sallam taught us to fear ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala and love death.
*.He is an intelligent person who can translate his actions into good.
*.Never put off for tomorrow what you can do today.
*.There is never a chance of pain in the neck if one does not raise his head too high in the air.
*.Do not forget about yourself whilst being concerned for others.
*.To stop sinning is easier than to bear the burden of seeking repentance.
*.Remove your gaze from the splendor of the World. Do not let the love of this World enter your heart. Beware! The love of this World does not perhaps destroy you, just as it had destroyed previous nations.
*.Victory is gained through strategy and trust in ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala, not by wishful thinking.
*.The most intelligent amongst you is he who fears ALLAH SubHanuhu wa Ta'ala the most.
*.Be sympathetic towards the poor so that they may be able to speak and build courage.
*.Extend a hand of friendship to a foreigner because if his stay is extended then he would leave his valuable possessions to return to his own country and leave that person responsible for his valuables who had been most worthy of his attention
*.Do not taunt and curse anyone for this gives rise to collective evils in a person.
*.One should not judge a person by the number of Salaat (prayer) or Roza (fasting) but by his wisdom and honesty.
*.To die for the right is better than to live for falsehood. Courage is recommend, cowardice is detestable, and falsehood is vulnerable to vanish!
*.Prayer is connected to the heart not by mere apparent actions.
*.To educate a seeker of materialism is to place a sword in the hands of a highway robber.
*.Do not trust the character of one who cannot control his temper.
*.To laugh excessively is a sign of no remorse for death.
*.To side with the oppressor is oppression on the oppressed.
*.Death is the best teacher.
*.The dearest of you as long as you have not met us are the best in names. But after we had seen you, the best of you to us are the best of you in character. When we scrutinize you, the dearest of you to us are the most truthful of you in speech.
*.People were (sometimes) judged by the revealing of a Divine Inspiration during the lifetime of Allah’s Apostle (SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam) but now there are no longer any new revelations. Now we judge you by the deeds you practice publicly, so we will trust and favor the one who does good deeds in front of us, and we will not call him to account about what he is really doing in secret, for Allah will judge him for that; but we will not trust or believe the one who presents to us with an evil deed even if he claims that his intentions were good.
*.The best days we ever lived were by virtue of patience, and if patience were to take the shape of a man, he would be a noble and generous man.
*.Take yourself to account before you are taken to account, weigh your actions before they are weighed, and beautify yourself for the ultimate presentation. On that day not the slightest secret will be hidden.
*.It was Sayyiduna Umar’s daily routine to visit the homes of soldiers who were on the battlefield and ask their womenfolk if they had to make any purchases from the market, and he would do it for them. They would send their maids and Sayyiduna Umar would make the purchases and hand over to them. When a messenger came from the battlefield, bringing letters from soldiers, the Caliph would himself deliver them at their homes and tell them the messenger would return on such and such date, and they should keep their letters ready by that time, He would himself supply paper, pen, and ink, and when there was no literate person in a family, he would himself sit outside the door and write to their dictation.
*.There is no goodness in you if you do not say ‘Fear Allah’ and there is no goodness in us if we do not listen.
*.When Sayyiduna Umar appointed anyone as a governor, he wrote down for him a covenant to which a group of muhajirs (up to ten in number) bore witness. The conditions and terms were: He would not ride a workhorse, not eat luxurious food, not wear fine garment and not shut his door to the needy. If he did any of these things then he was liable to punishment.
*.Lower your gaze from the world and turn your heart away from it.
*.I will inform you about what is lawful for me from the wealth of Allah: An outfit for the winter, an outfit for the summer, mount that I can ride upon for Hajj and Umrah, and food for my family, such as given to a man from the Quraish who is neither the richest nor the poorest among them. I am simply a man among the Muslim; I go through what they go through.
*.Allah never obliterates evil with evil, but He erases evil with goodness.
*.O Allah, you indeed know that I eat only my food, that I wear only my own clothing, and that I take only what is rightfully mine.
*.The death of a thousand worshipers is easier to bear than the death of a scholar who has knowledge of what Allah has permitted and forbidden.
*.Lo! By Allah, if I remain alive to help the widows from the people of Iraq, I will leave so much for them that they will never need to ask for help from any ruler who comes after me.
*.Beware of bribery, and of ruling based on your desires.
*.Do not be fooled by one who recites the Qur’an. His recitation is but speech, but look to those who act according to it.
*.Once Sayyiduna Umar was in his garden, when coming back, he found that the people had performed the Asr Prayer. Thereby, he said, ‘We will surely return to Allah! I missed the Asr Prayer in congregation. May you witness that I gave my garden in charity to the needy so as to expiate what Umar had done.
*.The most beloved of people to me is he that points out my flaws to me.
*.Learn knowledge and teach it to the people. Learn how to have yourselves an aura of dignity and peace. Be humble to those that have taught you knowledge, and be humble to those that you have taught knowledge. And do not be haughty scholars; otherwise, your knowledge will not rise due to your ignorance.
*.O Allah, if You have written me down as being someone who is miserable, then erase that for me; and instead write me down as being happy. For indeed, You erase whatever You wish, and You write down and uphold .
*.The Islam of Sayyiduna Umar was a victory , his migration [to Madinah] was a triumph, and his caliphate was a mercy . I remember the time when we were not able to pray or perform tawaf around the Ka’bah. That was before Sayyiduna Umar embraced Islam. After he embraced Islam, we fought against them until they left us alone; and thus we began to be able to pray .
*.Know that every habit comes by getting used to it. Get used to being patient and doing good. Be patient against whatever befalls you. It will make you fear Allah.
*.Never think ill of the word that comes out of your believing brother’s mouth, as long as you can find a good excuse for it.
*.Dedicate yourself to remembering Allah, for remembering Allah is a cure. And beware of remembering people, for the act of remembering people is a disease.
*.By Allah! If I had gold equal to the earth, I would have ransomed myself with it from the punishment of Allah.
*.Each day is proclaimed, ‘So and so has died!’ And with no doubt it will be said one day, ‘Umar died.’
*.The one who laughs too much loses dignity; one who jokes too much loses respect; whoever does something a great deal, becomes known for it; one who speaks a great deal makes mistakes; one who makes many mistakes loses his sense of dignity. Whoever loses his sense of dignity loses his God-fearing and whoever loses his God-fearing is spiritually dead.
*.Beware of filling your stomachs with food and drink, for it is harmful to the body and causes sickness and laziness in performing prayers. Be moderate in both food and drink, for that is healthier for your bodies and furthest removed from extravagance. Allah will hate the fat man (one who revels in a life of luxury), and a man will not be condemned until he favours his desires over his religion.
*.During the year of the Ashes (drought and famine), Sayyiduna Umar ibn Al-Khattab’s stomach would make rumbling sound. He forbade himself from eating Ghee, and so he would eat olive oil. And he would poke his stomach with his fingers and say, ‘Rumble as much as you want, for indeed, I will feed you nothing other than this until the situation of the people improves.
*.Strive to listen to what comes out of the mouth of people who are obedient to Allah. Listen to what they have to say, for indeed, truth things are made manifest to them.
*.On one particular Friday, Sayyiduna Umar did not come out to Friday prayer on time; and since he was to deliver the Friday sermon the people had to wait until he came out to them. When Sayyiduna Umar finally did come out to them, he came out to them, he apologized, explaining that, ‘I was prevented from coming out because this garment I am wearing was being washed; and I own no other outfit.’
*.After Sayyiduna Umar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu became Khalifah of the Muslim Nation, he was once seen delivering a sermon while wearing a lower garden that was patched in 12 different places.
*.Help me against myself by enjoining good, forbidding evil, and sincerely advising me.
*.O Allah, I am indeed harsh, so make me gentle; I am weak, so make me strong; and I am miserly, so make me generous.

Published By, NajimudeeN M- INDIA

Women site, - Rulings on Divorce - I

Allaah The Almighty has made marriage a source of tranquility,
affection and mercy. However, disputes may arise between the spouses
which spoil a good relationship. The causes of dispute between spouses
might be trivial and thus, remediable or avoidable. The wife should
behave wisely and not be hasty to ask for divorce for the slightest
causes. The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa salam,
said:"Any woman who asks her husband to divorce her without a
compelling reason, will not find the smell of Paradise."]Ahmad, Abu
Daawood, At-Tirmithi and Ibn Maajah[
But, sometimes the causes of dispute might be too strong to solve by
any endeavor to make reconciliation between the spouses. At that
point, the only solution is to terminate the marital relationship,
where the couple leave each other:}But if they separate ]by divorce[,
Allaah will enrich each ]of them[ from His abundance.{]Quran 4:130[
divorce is the best way to terminate the marital relationship when it
becomes too difficult to continue. It entails detaching the sound
marital bond on the part of the husband with a specific expression.
Allaah The Almighty gave the husband the right of effectuating divorce
for reasons that include:
- Being keen on keeping the marital home from collapsing. Had the
right of effectuating divorce been in the hand of the wife, who is
known for being emotional, which sometimes makes her reckless, the
family safety would have more likely been vulnerable to risk, but the
man is wiser and less liable to becoming irritated.
- Divorce brings about such financial obligations on the husband like
the postponed dowry, maintenance during the term of 'Iddah )waiting
period(, and a gift of compensation: and these things force the man to
reconsider divorcing his wife, that is if the more significant reasons
do not prevent him. Furthermore, the woman is entitled to put a
condition that the right of effectuating divorce is in her hand. She
also has the right to terminate her marriage if her marital life with
her husband has become difficult, through other means such as Khul'
and separation by the court if the cause is reasonable.
The Islamic Sharee'ah )Islamic legislation( restricted the man's right
of divorce by limits, which include:
1- Divorce should not occur for a trivial cause inconsiderable under
the Sharee'ah. The man has to know that he is responsible before
Allaah The Almighty for his indulgence in using that right. This is
not an easy matter; and the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi
wa salam, said:"Of all the lawful acts the most detestable in the
sight of Allaah is divorce."]Abu Daawood[
2- Divorce should be during the woman's period of Tuhr )state of
purity from menses(, in which the man has not had sexual intercourse
with his wife. But, if he divorces his wife during the period of her
menstruation, or during the period of her Tuhr in which he has had
sexual intercourse with her, divorce would become effectuated and the
divorcing husband would carry a sin according to a group of scholars.
However, other scholars had a different opinion, seeing that divorce
in such a state would not become effectuated.
3- The three pronouncements of divorce should not be uttered
simultaneously in the sense that only one pronouncement of divorce
should be uttered. If one divorces thrice at one time, or in one
session, it would be regarded as three divorces according to many
scholars, and considered as only one divorce according to other
scholars.
Kinds of divorce:
There are two kind of divorce:
• Revocable divorce:
This is when the first or second divorce is pronounced by the husband
on his wife with whom he has consummated the marriage, on the
condition that it is not in return for compensation )as in the case of
Khul'(. This divorce entails no separation consequences so long as the
wife is in the period of 'Iddah, during which the husband has the
right to take her back and she becomes lawful for him. However, if the
period of 'Iddah is over without taking her back she then becomes
divorced from him and she is unlawful for him except with a new
contract and dowry.
• Irrevocable divorce:
Irrevocability is divided into: minor irrevocability and major irrevocability.
Minor irrevocability: This applies to the first and second divorce,
after the period of 'Iddah is over. It is called so because the
husband has the right to remarry his wife but with a new contract and
dowry; and he only has the right to the remaining number of divorces
upon her. If he has divorced her once, two divorces remain; and if he
has divorced her twice, only one final divorce remains.
Minor irrevocable divorce applies in the following cases: Divorce
before consummation of marriage, divorce in return for compensation
)i.e. Khul'( according to the scholars who consider Khul' as divorce,
and divorce because of a defect in case of being the first or second
time.
Major irrevocability: This applies to the divorce for the third time,
after which it is impermissible for the man to remarry his wife unless
she marries another and he consummates the marriage with her and then
divorces her, and she fulfills the term of 'Iddah. In this case, if
the first husband wants to re-marry her, a new contract and dowry are
necessary.