I am suffering from extreme OCD and chemical imbalance. I regularly
consult with the doctor . Along with the medicine he strongly
recommended me some breathing exercises. For example inhale air from
one nostril and exhale from other and like that. It is something like
breathing exercises done by hindu saints. I wanted to know that, is it
permissible for me to do these exercises as an exercise and not relate
it with spirituality or any form of worship.
Praise be to Allah.
Firstly: interest in treating disease by means of relaxation and
breathing exercises only became common amongthe people after the
spread of neuro-linguistic programming and self-development courses.
We have previously highlighted the idolatrous foundations on which
"vital energy", "energy meridians" and "out-of-body experiences" and
so on are based.
What further strengthens the doubts and concerns about suchmatters is
what is mentioned in the question about how these practices are
usually done by some Hindu clerics or "holy men".
For more information please see the answers to questions no. 108996and 180412
Secondly:
If it turns out that there is some proven medical benefit in breathing
in this manner, and that it has a clear physical effect on the body,
which doctors know from their experience and research, then thereis
nothing wrong with the sick person breathing in the mannerdescribed
and using this as a remedy, especially ifthis is a way to treat his
disease.
But if the doctor is advising that without knowing of any physical
benefits based on experience, or he does not know how this kind of
breathing affects the body or how it benefits the person who does it,
then it is not permissible, because it comes under the heading of
imitating thedisbelievers without being certain of any beneficial
effect.
Shaykh Saalih Aal ash-Shaykh (may Allah preserve him) said:
The one who describes something as a means without any scientific or
shar'i evidence and becomes attached to it iscommitting minor shirk.
There are some means that lead to results and others that do not.
If the means leads to scientifically-proven results, in the sense that
it is something that people know, then we have to see whether Islam
allows it or not.
If Islam allows it, then it is permissible to use it,.
If Islam does not allow it,but it is still proven to beeffective, such
as treating disease with haraam things, in this case we say that it is
not permissible.
The third case is that in which there is no shar'i or scientific
evidence forit. In this case, pinning one's hopes on it is a form of
minor shirk. End quote.
Kutub Saalih Aal ash-Shaykh, 37/127.
And Allah knows best.
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Dought & clear, - Breathing exercises to heal the chemical imbalance in the brain
Dought & clear, - A vow to do somethingthat Allah has made obligatory and enjoinedupon people is not valid
I have short question to ask. A few years ago, I promised Allah that
if hewas to relieve me of an ailment that I had, that Iwould do
'jummah' Salah on Fridays for sure. Alhumdulillah the ailment soon
disappeared. The issue is that this promise was made when I was
younger, when I was a less practicing Muslim than I am now, and when I
made the promise to Allah, I remember saying that I would do 'jummah'
namaz. however what I meant is that I would doat least one of the
Salah's (ie either fajr,zuhar,asr,magrib or isha) on Fridays (as I did
not used to pray often). When making the promise, and I did not mean
to promise that I would go to cogregrational prayer (jummah)…I now
know what jummah prayer is, and instead have been praying at least one
salah on Fridays, and I now that women are not required to attend
jummah anyway. So with this promise I made to Allah, because I used
the word jummah does it mean that I have to attend jummah prayers in
congregation, even though I did not mean to promise this?...so by
using a word, does it mean you have to do exactly THAT, or what your
INTENTION was?
Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
We have stated on several occasions that vows connected to conditions
are makrooh,because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (6608) and
Muslim (1639) from Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade making
vows and said: "They do not avert anything, all they do is get
somethingout of a stingy person."
If a person wants to obey Allah and draw close to Him, he should obey
Him without making vows.
See the answers to questions no. 95387and 132579
Secondly:
Oaths and vows depend on the intention of the one who makes them.
See the answer to question no. 147340
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked about an
elderly woman who said that fifty-five years ago she became very sick,
then one day she recovered and she said out of joy, I shall offer
charity and make avow, and she said that she would fast for two
consecutive months. She says: At that time I did not know what a vow
meant and what the consequences would be for me. What should she do
about her vow to fastfor two consecutive months without knowing what a
vow means and what its consequences are?
He replied:
What appears to be to be the case is that this woman does not have
todo anything, because so long as she did not know what a vow was, she
is not obliged to do something that she did not understand the meaning
of. But I think that she must have had something in mind, otherwise
her words were just idle talk. So wesay that if she had something in
mind at that time, then what she had in mind is what she must do,
because what counts is the intention. But if she did not have anything
in mind and she did not know what it meant at all or what a vow meant,
then it seems to me that she does not have to do anything. But if she
doesfast that will be more on the safe side and more certain that she
will be absolved of responsibility. End quote.
Jalasaat Ramadaaniyyah, 21/17
Thirdly:
There should not be any vow to do something that Allah has enjoined
upon people. al-Mirdaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said
inal-Insaaf(11/118) (see alsoBadaa'i' as-Sanaa'i', 5/90):
"It is not valid with regard to something impossible or
somethingobligatory. If he says, "I promise Allah that I will fast
yesterday or that I will fast Ramadan," it does not count. It is not
valid to make a vow concerning something impossible or
obligatory,according to the correct opinion. This is the view of our
companions. End quote.
Based on the above:
If you did not know that what is meant by the word jamaa'ah is praying
in the mosque with the congregation (jamaa'ah) of worshippers, and you
did not intend that in your vow, then you do not have to do anything.
If your aim was to force yourself to offer one of the prayers on
Friday, and you used not to prayat that time, then in fact what you
have to do is offer all the five daily prayers on Fridays and on all
other days, because Allah has enjoined that upon His slaves, and your
vow does not imply anything in addition to that.
You should also strive hard to offer a lot of supererogatory (naafil)
and voluntary prayers tomake up for the shortfalland your prior
negligence towards the obligatory prayers.
And Allah knows best.
if hewas to relieve me of an ailment that I had, that Iwould do
'jummah' Salah on Fridays for sure. Alhumdulillah the ailment soon
disappeared. The issue is that this promise was made when I was
younger, when I was a less practicing Muslim than I am now, and when I
made the promise to Allah, I remember saying that I would do 'jummah'
namaz. however what I meant is that I would doat least one of the
Salah's (ie either fajr,zuhar,asr,magrib or isha) on Fridays (as I did
not used to pray often). When making the promise, and I did not mean
to promise that I would go to cogregrational prayer (jummah)…I now
know what jummah prayer is, and instead have been praying at least one
salah on Fridays, and I now that women are not required to attend
jummah anyway. So with this promise I made to Allah, because I used
the word jummah does it mean that I have to attend jummah prayers in
congregation, even though I did not mean to promise this?...so by
using a word, does it mean you have to do exactly THAT, or what your
INTENTION was?
Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
We have stated on several occasions that vows connected to conditions
are makrooh,because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (6608) and
Muslim (1639) from Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade making
vows and said: "They do not avert anything, all they do is get
somethingout of a stingy person."
If a person wants to obey Allah and draw close to Him, he should obey
Him without making vows.
See the answers to questions no. 95387and 132579
Secondly:
Oaths and vows depend on the intention of the one who makes them.
See the answer to question no. 147340
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked about an
elderly woman who said that fifty-five years ago she became very sick,
then one day she recovered and she said out of joy, I shall offer
charity and make avow, and she said that she would fast for two
consecutive months. She says: At that time I did not know what a vow
meant and what the consequences would be for me. What should she do
about her vow to fastfor two consecutive months without knowing what a
vow means and what its consequences are?
He replied:
What appears to be to be the case is that this woman does not have
todo anything, because so long as she did not know what a vow was, she
is not obliged to do something that she did not understand the meaning
of. But I think that she must have had something in mind, otherwise
her words were just idle talk. So wesay that if she had something in
mind at that time, then what she had in mind is what she must do,
because what counts is the intention. But if she did not have anything
in mind and she did not know what it meant at all or what a vow meant,
then it seems to me that she does not have to do anything. But if she
doesfast that will be more on the safe side and more certain that she
will be absolved of responsibility. End quote.
Jalasaat Ramadaaniyyah, 21/17
Thirdly:
There should not be any vow to do something that Allah has enjoined
upon people. al-Mirdaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said
inal-Insaaf(11/118) (see alsoBadaa'i' as-Sanaa'i', 5/90):
"It is not valid with regard to something impossible or
somethingobligatory. If he says, "I promise Allah that I will fast
yesterday or that I will fast Ramadan," it does not count. It is not
valid to make a vow concerning something impossible or
obligatory,according to the correct opinion. This is the view of our
companions. End quote.
Based on the above:
If you did not know that what is meant by the word jamaa'ah is praying
in the mosque with the congregation (jamaa'ah) of worshippers, and you
did not intend that in your vow, then you do not have to do anything.
If your aim was to force yourself to offer one of the prayers on
Friday, and you used not to prayat that time, then in fact what you
have to do is offer all the five daily prayers on Fridays and on all
other days, because Allah has enjoined that upon His slaves, and your
vow does not imply anything in addition to that.
You should also strive hard to offer a lot of supererogatory (naafil)
and voluntary prayers tomake up for the shortfalland your prior
negligence towards the obligatory prayers.
And Allah knows best.
Dought & clear, - Employee compensating his company for what is owed to it by waiving some of his dues
I was working for a foreign company via theInternet. I did marketing
for this company and brought regular customers to it, and I receive
commission so long as the customers continue to buy from this company.
The problem began when I brought two customers in a way that is not
Islamically acceptable, and I continued to receive commission for
several months. After that I repented to Allah, praisebe to Allah, and
I wanted to set things straight. So I started to bring new customers
but did not register them under my name, so that the matter between me
and the company would be settled.
Is this regarded as an Islamically acceptable solution? I brought new
customers to the company to compensate for the two customers for whom
I had receivedcommission. Can I continue to receive this payment in
return for working with the company, or do I have toleave it? Please
note that I have put a great deal of effort into correcting my
mistake. In fact I am confused about my situation and I cannot tell
the people in charge because I will be dismissed.
What more can I do in order to compensate for what has passed? Is this
regarded as sufficient?
Praise be to Allah.
The money that is acquired as a result of deceit, lying or forgery
isharaam wealth, and it is not permissible to consume it or benefit
from it; rather what you must do is return it to its owner and ask for
forgiveness from him, sothat you will have discharged your duty
forsure. (This applies) whether its owner is a Muslim or not, because
the sanctity of the wealth of a non-Muslim (dhimmi or mu'aahid, i.e.,
non-Muslims living under Muslim rule, or who have a treaty with the
Muslims) is the same as the sanctity of a Muslim's wealth. Our Prophet
Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) disavowed those
who transgressed against the wealth of non-Muslims and said: "As for
the wealth… [that was seized unlawfully from a non-Muslim), I want
nothing to do with it." Narrated by al-Bukhaari (no. 2731). Al-Haafiz
ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said: From this (hadeeth) we
learn that it is not permissible to take the wealth of the kuffaar by
treachery when they have been granted security.
End quote fromFath al-Baari, 5/341
Sincere repentance requires you to speak frankly to your company,if
that is possible, or at least to stop that haraamincome that is coming
toyou, and do not continue to take it from the company unlawfully.The
first condition of sincere repentance is giving up the sin
immediately. So long as you still receiving that haraam wealth, we
fear that you may come under the ruling on one who persists in his
sin.
With regard to what yousaid about compensating the company by bringing
some new customers and not taking the commission to which you are
entitled in return, that is appropriate if you are unable to return
the money that you had taken unlawfully to the company or tell them
what really happened sothat they can decide as they see fit.
If you cannot do that, then we hope that what you have mentioned
willcompensate for what you did of trickery to take what you are not
entitled to, and that this will be an expiation for the haraam wealth
that you took from them, by means of which you will compensate the
company and restore people's dues, on condition that the money that
which you had taken unlawfully will be equaled by the money that you
are entitled to for the customers you brought but did not register
under your name. If what you took is more than that, then you haveto
strive to return the additional amount in an acceptable manner, or by
bringing more customers for it, until the two amounts are equal and
you know that you have restored people's rights or the equivalent.
The fuqaha' (may Allah have mercy on them) have outlined numerous ways
that make it easier for the one who wants to get rid of haraam wealth
to do so. For example, Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him)
said: This is based on an important Islamic principle having to do
with the one who has taken something to which he is not entitled
according to sharee'ah, then decides to get rid of it: if the item in
question was taken without the consent of its owner and he did notgive
him something to compensate him, then he must return it to him. If he
is not able to returnit to him, then he should pay off a debt that the
person owes on his behalf. If that is not possible, then he must
return it to his heirs. If that is not possible, then he must give it
in charityon his behalf. If the rightful owner chooses to take the
reward for that charity on the Day of Resurrection, then he may do so,
but if he insists on taking from the good deeds of the one who took it
unlawfully, he will be able to do so in return for the wealth (that
was taken), and the reward for the charity will go to the one who gave
it, as was proven from the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them).
If the money was paid with the consent of the giver in return for
something haraam, such as one who paid for alcohol or pork, or for
adultery or immoral deeds, in that case the money is not to be
returned to the one whopaid it, because he paid it willingly and took
something haraam in return for it. So it is not permissible for him to
have both the money and the thing he paid for, because that is helping
in sin and transgression, and making it easy for sinners to commit
sin.
What else could the adulterer or the one who commits immoral actions
want, if he knows that he will get what he wants and havehis money
back?! Sharee'ah is far above prescribing such a thing,and it makes no
sense. But the one who receives the money should not consume it;
rather it is evil and impure, as ruled by the Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). But it is evil and impure
because of the way in which it was acquired, not because of wrongdoing
to the one from whom it was taken.The way to get rid of it and
complete one's repentance is to give it in charity. If he is in need
of it, he may take as much as he needs andgive the rest in charity.
This is the ruling on all impure earnings that areimpure because of
the way in which they are acquired, whether that was in return for
something that is haraam, whether it was an item or a service. The
fact that it is deemed to be impure does not mean that it must be
returned to the one whogave it, because the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) ruled that the earnings of a cupper
areimpure, but it is not obligatory to return them to the one who paid
them.
End quote fromZaad al-Ma'aad, 5/690-691
On our website, in a number of questions, wehave previously discussed
these matters. See, for example, questions no. 98723, 178442and 179432
However, what we advise you to do is follow the path of piety and
admit to the company what has reallyhappened, or, at the very least,
ask them to stop giving you this haraam commission
You should understand that honesty is the best policy. If we assume
thatwhat you fear of being dismissed happens, it may be that Allah
will replace it with something better than that for you. Allah, may He
be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"O Prophet! Say to the captives that are in your hands: 'If Allah
knows any good in your hearts, He will give you something better than
what has been taken from you, and He will forgive you, and Allah is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'
But if they intend to betray you (O Muhammad SAW), they have already
betrayed Allah before. So He gave (you) power over them. And Allah is
All-Knower, All-Wise"
[al-Anfaal 7:70-71]
"And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a
way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
3. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine"
[al-Talaaq 65:2-3].
And Allah knows best.
for this company and brought regular customers to it, and I receive
commission so long as the customers continue to buy from this company.
The problem began when I brought two customers in a way that is not
Islamically acceptable, and I continued to receive commission for
several months. After that I repented to Allah, praisebe to Allah, and
I wanted to set things straight. So I started to bring new customers
but did not register them under my name, so that the matter between me
and the company would be settled.
Is this regarded as an Islamically acceptable solution? I brought new
customers to the company to compensate for the two customers for whom
I had receivedcommission. Can I continue to receive this payment in
return for working with the company, or do I have toleave it? Please
note that I have put a great deal of effort into correcting my
mistake. In fact I am confused about my situation and I cannot tell
the people in charge because I will be dismissed.
What more can I do in order to compensate for what has passed? Is this
regarded as sufficient?
Praise be to Allah.
The money that is acquired as a result of deceit, lying or forgery
isharaam wealth, and it is not permissible to consume it or benefit
from it; rather what you must do is return it to its owner and ask for
forgiveness from him, sothat you will have discharged your duty
forsure. (This applies) whether its owner is a Muslim or not, because
the sanctity of the wealth of a non-Muslim (dhimmi or mu'aahid, i.e.,
non-Muslims living under Muslim rule, or who have a treaty with the
Muslims) is the same as the sanctity of a Muslim's wealth. Our Prophet
Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) disavowed those
who transgressed against the wealth of non-Muslims and said: "As for
the wealth… [that was seized unlawfully from a non-Muslim), I want
nothing to do with it." Narrated by al-Bukhaari (no. 2731). Al-Haafiz
ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said: From this (hadeeth) we
learn that it is not permissible to take the wealth of the kuffaar by
treachery when they have been granted security.
End quote fromFath al-Baari, 5/341
Sincere repentance requires you to speak frankly to your company,if
that is possible, or at least to stop that haraamincome that is coming
toyou, and do not continue to take it from the company unlawfully.The
first condition of sincere repentance is giving up the sin
immediately. So long as you still receiving that haraam wealth, we
fear that you may come under the ruling on one who persists in his
sin.
With regard to what yousaid about compensating the company by bringing
some new customers and not taking the commission to which you are
entitled in return, that is appropriate if you are unable to return
the money that you had taken unlawfully to the company or tell them
what really happened sothat they can decide as they see fit.
If you cannot do that, then we hope that what you have mentioned
willcompensate for what you did of trickery to take what you are not
entitled to, and that this will be an expiation for the haraam wealth
that you took from them, by means of which you will compensate the
company and restore people's dues, on condition that the money that
which you had taken unlawfully will be equaled by the money that you
are entitled to for the customers you brought but did not register
under your name. If what you took is more than that, then you haveto
strive to return the additional amount in an acceptable manner, or by
bringing more customers for it, until the two amounts are equal and
you know that you have restored people's rights or the equivalent.
The fuqaha' (may Allah have mercy on them) have outlined numerous ways
that make it easier for the one who wants to get rid of haraam wealth
to do so. For example, Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him)
said: This is based on an important Islamic principle having to do
with the one who has taken something to which he is not entitled
according to sharee'ah, then decides to get rid of it: if the item in
question was taken without the consent of its owner and he did notgive
him something to compensate him, then he must return it to him. If he
is not able to returnit to him, then he should pay off a debt that the
person owes on his behalf. If that is not possible, then he must
return it to his heirs. If that is not possible, then he must give it
in charityon his behalf. If the rightful owner chooses to take the
reward for that charity on the Day of Resurrection, then he may do so,
but if he insists on taking from the good deeds of the one who took it
unlawfully, he will be able to do so in return for the wealth (that
was taken), and the reward for the charity will go to the one who gave
it, as was proven from the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them).
If the money was paid with the consent of the giver in return for
something haraam, such as one who paid for alcohol or pork, or for
adultery or immoral deeds, in that case the money is not to be
returned to the one whopaid it, because he paid it willingly and took
something haraam in return for it. So it is not permissible for him to
have both the money and the thing he paid for, because that is helping
in sin and transgression, and making it easy for sinners to commit
sin.
What else could the adulterer or the one who commits immoral actions
want, if he knows that he will get what he wants and havehis money
back?! Sharee'ah is far above prescribing such a thing,and it makes no
sense. But the one who receives the money should not consume it;
rather it is evil and impure, as ruled by the Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). But it is evil and impure
because of the way in which it was acquired, not because of wrongdoing
to the one from whom it was taken.The way to get rid of it and
complete one's repentance is to give it in charity. If he is in need
of it, he may take as much as he needs andgive the rest in charity.
This is the ruling on all impure earnings that areimpure because of
the way in which they are acquired, whether that was in return for
something that is haraam, whether it was an item or a service. The
fact that it is deemed to be impure does not mean that it must be
returned to the one whogave it, because the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) ruled that the earnings of a cupper
areimpure, but it is not obligatory to return them to the one who paid
them.
End quote fromZaad al-Ma'aad, 5/690-691
On our website, in a number of questions, wehave previously discussed
these matters. See, for example, questions no. 98723, 178442and 179432
However, what we advise you to do is follow the path of piety and
admit to the company what has reallyhappened, or, at the very least,
ask them to stop giving you this haraam commission
You should understand that honesty is the best policy. If we assume
thatwhat you fear of being dismissed happens, it may be that Allah
will replace it with something better than that for you. Allah, may He
be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"O Prophet! Say to the captives that are in your hands: 'If Allah
knows any good in your hearts, He will give you something better than
what has been taken from you, and He will forgive you, and Allah is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'
But if they intend to betray you (O Muhammad SAW), they have already
betrayed Allah before. So He gave (you) power over them. And Allah is
All-Knower, All-Wise"
[al-Anfaal 7:70-71]
"And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a
way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
3. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine"
[al-Talaaq 65:2-3].
And Allah knows best.
Moral stories, - Wonderful Stories of Islam: Four Wives Story(Anecdote Illustrating Real Life)
Once upon a time. There was a rich merchant whohad four (4) wives.
He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and
treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her
nothing butthe best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's veryproud of her and always
wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always
ingreat fear that she might run away with some other men.
He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always
patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the
merchant faced someproblems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she
would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.
Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made
great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as
taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the
first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of
her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going
to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I
have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll
be!" Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with
the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm
dying, will you follow meand keep me company?"
"No way!" replied the 4thwife and she walked away without another word.
The answer cut like a sharp knife right into themerchant's heart.
The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much
for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you followme and keep me
company?"
"No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to
remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and
you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die,
will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry,I can't help you
out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only
send you to yourgrave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder andthe
merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out:"I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no
matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first
wife. She was so skinny, almostlike she suffered from malnutrition.
Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better
care of you while I could have!"
Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives. The 4th wife is our body.
No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good,
it'll leave us when we die.
Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they
all go to others.
The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had
been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us
is up to the grave.
The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of
material wealth and sensual pleasure.
Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we
go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather
than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament.
He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and
treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her
nothing butthe best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's veryproud of her and always
wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always
ingreat fear that she might run away with some other men.
He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always
patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the
merchant faced someproblems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she
would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.
Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made
great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as
taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the
first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of
her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going
to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I
have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll
be!" Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with
the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm
dying, will you follow meand keep me company?"
"No way!" replied the 4thwife and she walked away without another word.
The answer cut like a sharp knife right into themerchant's heart.
The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much
for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you followme and keep me
company?"
"No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to
remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and
you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die,
will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry,I can't help you
out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only
send you to yourgrave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder andthe
merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out:"I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no
matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first
wife. She was so skinny, almostlike she suffered from malnutrition.
Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better
care of you while I could have!"
Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives. The 4th wife is our body.
No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good,
it'll leave us when we die.
Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they
all go to others.
The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had
been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us
is up to the grave.
The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of
material wealth and sensual pleasure.
Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we
go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather
than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament.
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