A misunderstanding

Hi myself Viki. I am 25 year old. I am narrating this story with the
message to people who are in love. Its time for me to decide something
in life and move on but not able to.
I joined a college in 2005 for studying a paramedical course. I was a
simple guy who was scared to talk to girls. So spent most of myfirst
year life talking to guys (as its a paramedicalcourse class consisted
of 6 guys and 35 girls). In my second year i met a junior named Shh...
(i dont want to disclose hername). She had a beautiful smile
(althoughshe was not fair, she was so beautiful), and most important
is her dance. She is the best in her dance that she was quite famous
in whole city. Initially I had not given much attention to her. But
one day I just saw her crying and tears rolling out of her eyes with
two of her friends trying to console her. I felt like talking to her
and just convinced her saying the cry wont suit her face. Smile suits
her face far better.
I don knw what happened that night she messaged me saying thanks. How
she got my number and got to knw about me is still unknown. Thus we
started chatting and we became close. They had agroup of 5 ppl (2 guys
and 3 girls)and because of her I too became one of them. Gradually I
felt she might be the best person to share my life. Because she
understands me very well and cares for me. Finally a midnit she
messaged asking for spending her life with me. I agreed.
Life was cool for 2yrs. Weunderstood each other very well. My mother
wasalso happy to have such agirl as her daughter in law. My friends
and whole college were speaking that WE BOTH are the best couples and
made for each other.
But I didnt expect life willturn in reverse. In my final year due to
my mother's health problems, I had to approach a first year junior
girl's father to help me out. As he was inthe same department. To
short the story, she (her name in short B.S)spoke to all her friends
and my friends in a way that we Iam having a relation with her. These
matters were going without knowing to me. Finally my dearest Shhh came
n asked me if its true. I toldShh the truth that :"I loveonly you, and
you are my wife. And my love is true for you".
But her curiosity increased and she startedasking my friends. My great
friends believed B.Sand not me. Everyone suspected my love towards
Shh. And with such good friends and love still I spent my last days of
college lonely. Finally Shh told me "I wont believe you. When so many
ppl say this things, accept the truth that you dated her too". Iwas in
a shock. My love, whom I accepted already as wife was not believingme.
I had to leave the city for my post graduation. During this mean time
I tried talking, convincing Shh about the matter. No improvements. Now
its 2012, and B.S got married to some guy in 2011 and is leading a
happy life. Still I love Shh the same I used to do. One
misunderstanding made us apart. 2012, we are in same college, where
she is doin her post graduation and I m staff in the same college. And
she behaves just as ifI am a unknown person which hurts a lot.
I can never accept any other girl in her place. The love which I had
to give to Shh for throughout my life is left within me. I never
thought her as my girlfriend. Always I took care of her, loved her as
my wife. Life has become so lonely. Friends who ditched me are not
with me, my love lost the trust on me.
I am happy in my life, butjust that its a lonely life. My message to
people who are in love is, "TRUSTand UNDERSTANDING EACHOTHER are
important along with love and care for a relation". This is what life
taught me. Eventhough Shh is far from me, still my love for her
isalive. I can never forget her.

Our last night

For a very first time in mylife I felt so helpless. For afirst time I
couldn't say anything.
I was crying silently and the only thing that made my heart beat was
you. And you seem so sad. Where is that charming smile of yours??
I feel your heart crying, itdoesn't want to be lonely. Two crystal
clear tears run down your cheek. You turn quickly; you don't want me
to seethem. At that very moment I knew you loved me. I am drifting
again in my thoughts...
Time has no meaning when I am with you. I notice no one. When you hug
me the stars get brighter as if they are small candles lit by our
love.
You give me the most passionate nights and the tenderest kisses. When
I cuddle in your arms I feel so secure and powerful. I don't want to
think about the future. No, I don't, not at times like these when I am
so happy.
I love you more and moreeach day. Time is not a bus or a car and it
can't be broken or stopped.
Yes, today is our last night together "Don't cry,dearest, I want to
tell youthat I love you more thananything in the whole world "..! For
a first time in my life I feel numb, for the first time I hate my
fate!
You hugged me in your warm embrace, kissed me, turned and left. My
heart was tearing in parts.
I was standing in front ofthe entrance, seeing the most precious
person in my life leave!
For a first time I was so helpless, I wanted but couldn't stop you.
Today I am here….How quickly life changes.
You were making love to me yesterday passionately, and today awhole
ocean stands between us.
I am lying in the bed alone, and the only thoughts I have are againabout you!

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Protective Jealousy is the Characteristic of the Noble

The Protective Jealousy of the Husband over his Wife
As stated previously, it was narrated that Sa'd ibn 'Ubaadah said, "If
Iwere to see a man with my wife, I would strike him with a sword, and
not with the flat side of it." When the Messenger of Allaah heard
this, hesaid: "Are you surprised at Sa'd's jealousy over hishonor? By
Allaah, I am more jealous over my honor than he is over his,and Allaah
is more jealous than I am." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
It was narrated that when the rebels entered into the presence of
'Uthmaan ibn 'Affaan his wife Naa'ilah, spread her hair out as she was
entreating the chivalry ofthe rebels. Thereupon 'Uthmaan shouted at
her, and said, "Cover yourself! By Allaah, death is easier for me than
the violation of the sanctity of your hair." Therefore, the husband's
protective jealousy over his wife motivates him to protect and
safeguard her from anything that might harm her honor or disrespect
her dignity.
The Protective Jealousy of the Wife over her Husband
One day the Prophet asked 'Aa'ishah : "Are you jealous?" She replied
in astonishment, "And how could someone like me not become jealous
over someone like you?" [Muslim] It was narrated on the authority of
Anas that he said,
While the Prophet wasin the house of one of hiswives, one of the
Mothersof the Believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife at whose house
the Prophet was, struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to
fall and break. The Prophet gathered the broken pieces of the dish and
then started collecting the food on them which had been in the dish,
andsaid: "Your mother [my wife] felt jealous." Then he detained the
servant until an [unbroken] dish was brought from the wife at whose
house he was. He gave the unbroken dish to the wife whose dish had
been broken and kept the broken one at the house where it had been
broken. [Al-Bukhaari]
Incidents that Were Motivated by Manly Zeal
Narrating the events of the 286th Hirji year, Al-Haafith Ibn Katheer
quoted what was mentioned in Al-Muntathim,
From the wonders that occurred during that year, a woman sued her
husband before the judge of Ar-Rayy [a city inmodern day Iran]. She
claimed that she had 500 Dinars as her deferred portion of her dowry,
buther husband denied this. She managed to get proof to support her
plea. She was then told that she had to uncover her face in order to
makesure that she was the wife. When this was insisted upon, the
husband became jealous and said, "Do not uncover her face. She is
truthful in her claim." He confessed that her claim was true in order
to avoid other people seeing his wife's face. When the wife realized
what had happened and that he had confessed so that others would not
seeher face, she said: "I absolve him of the deferred portion of my
dowry in this world and in the Hereafter."
Al-Haafith As-Sam'aani added in Al-Ansaab, "Having admired their
jealousy, the judge said: 'This incident is to be added to the
historical record of noble manners.'"
Some historians mentioned the following incident as one of the good
deeds of Al-Hajjaaj ibn Yoosuf Ath-Thaqafi: Itwas narrated that a
Muslim woman was taken captive in India and she pleaded for the help
of Al-Hajjaaj, and said, "O Hajjaaj!" When the news reached him, he
replied, "At your call!" He spent seven million Dirhams to be able to
rescue her.
Then there is the story of a noble Muslim woman who was captured by
theRomans. The only relation between her andthe Caliph,
Al-Mu'tasim-billaah, was the brotherhood of Islam. When she was
tortured by the prince of 'Amooriyah, she cried for his help and
released a shout that was so huge that its echo was recorded in
history. She cried, "O Mu'tasim!" He received the news of her cry
while he was resting. He immediately responded, saying, "At your
call!" He mobilized ahuge army of Muslim soldiers, who set off
withhim. Each one of them was filled with pride and enthusiasm due to
the manly zeal over the honor of this woman. They defeated the enemies
and marched closer and closer to their country, breaking into their
fortresses until they reached 'Amooriyah and destroyed its fortresses.
They marched until they reached the captured woman and, thereupon,
Al-Mu'tasim said to her, "Iask you to testify before your great
grand-father, the Messenger of Allaah on the Day of Judgment that I
came to rescue you."
In the seventh century after Hijrah, disunity struck the Muslims such
that they became weak. Therefore, the crusaders conquered parts of
their countries and aspired forfurther occupation. They sought the
help of one group of Muslims against the other until they almost
conquered Egypt. The Fatimide ruler of Egypt during that time,
Al-'Aadhid lideen-illaah, thought to seek the help of the governor of
Ash-Shaam, Noor Ad-Deen Zinki, but how could he accept when theking of
Ash-Shaam himself did not recognizethe caliphate of the Fatimide ruler
in Egypt and denied the legitimacy of his governance and rule? He was
an affiliate to the caliphate of the Abbasids in Baghdad, who were
struggling with the Fatimides. Al-'Aadhid decided to use manly
zealover Muslim women and their honor in order to solve the problem:
He sent a message to Noor Ad-Deen Zinki seeking hisaid and accompanied
it with the most influential summons: the locks of hair of his
womenfolk in the caliphate in Cairo. This had a strong impact on Noor
Ad-Deens's heart. It aroused feelings of jealousy and chivalry in the
hearts of the soldiers of Ash-Shaam as well as its people. To rescue
Egypt from the crusaders, they sacrificed the best of their soldiers
under the leadership of Asad Ad-Deen Shirkooh and Yoosuf ibn Ayyoob
(Salaah Ad-Deen Al-'Ayyoobi). That was theinfluence that a lock of a
woman's hair had, whichchanged the course of history. This was
followed by the battle of Hitteen during which the sacred land
(Palestine) was cleansed from disgrace and the crusaders were forced
to leave.
While Muslims live by andenjoy these feelings of jealousy and manly
zeal in their societies, which elevates their ranks way above the
stars and raises them to the most sublime of ranks in virtueand
purity, the non-Muslim societies in the East and the West experience
the life of weak men (Dayyooths) and procurers, filth and impurities,
indecency and disgrace, humiliationand shame. Indeed, someanimals
would refuse to experience such a life: Some male animals get jealous
over their females, and in order to protect her, the male fights
others until the strongest one of them finally wins. How truthfulour
prominent scholars were when they said, "Every nation whose menhave
weak manly zeal, itswomen do not properly maintain their chastity."

The Quran and community

Virtually every human language has a word for 'community.' Howcould it
be otherwise when community is of the core essenceof the human
experience? We arecreatures of community. To live as part of one
fulfills the most natural inclination to society thatthrives in every
one of us. This is the reason that the notion of community—simple,
innate, intuitively understood—never didcall for much discussion. It
was that fundamental.
Not so since the cesarean birth ofthe modern, when man was untimely
ripped from his natural social womb and delivered disoriented into
moral distortion,unmanageable materialism, greed, injustice and
arrogance. This has steadily led us to a grossreverence of
individualism and a near total disregard for the common weal of man.
The result has been much more than the mere loss of an abstract
communal sense among us (and its attendant avalanche of ugly ills). We
have been forced to endure the degradation and, in some cases, the
complete destruction, of the most essentialhumanizing component in
life: The family.
Still, 'community' remains in wide use among all people. We invoke it
at every turn because it is deep in our Fitrah (the natural
predisposition upon which AllaahAlmighty created mankind), our
inherent tendency toward virtue. For community alone holds all earthly
hope for our shared happiness and brotherhood.
It is a strange thing that something as ancient as community—a given
for the pre-moderns, despite their technological and
informational"deficiencies"—has become a cause of primary challenge in
our time and at what price?
This points up another importantnote on community: The lack of proper
understanding of what community means. This is the chief reason it is
so hard today toestablish and maintain one.
In this, there is, indeed, a sign forour confused times. It exposes a
certain unawareness among our Muslim leadership, which has shown
itself at a loss for identifying the wellsprings of community, though
the Quran is utterly unambiguous about this.
The first thing about community in the Quran that rivets you is its
massive emphasis. Aside from the topics of faith and Tawheed, Ummah
(in its various forms) is the most widely mentioned concept in it. It
establishes community as the standard by which we are to understand
and reflect upon man. Allaah Almighty Says (what means): "O mankind,
indeed We have createdyou from a male and a female and made you
peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most
noble of you in the sight of Allaah is the most righteous of you.
Indeed, Allaah is Knowing and Acquainted." [Quran 49:13]
This is the most essential form ofcommunity intended by God Almighty
for man—a single fellowship commanded to come together for the common
good on the basis of monotheism. The Quran grants that material means
may allow man gain in worldly matters. Yet only one criterion (God's
reverence and worship—which the Quran refers to as Taqwa ) forms the
basis upon which man is to be judged. This makes Taqwa , reverencing
only One God, the sole guidance worth living by. This is no mere
abstraction. So let there be no ambiguity about it. Taqwa is entirely
concrete.
If people find it difficult to grasp the rope of God Almighty by which
Taqwa is represented, let's be frank, it is wholly due to one failing:
The fact that establishing a community based on exclusive reverence
for God Almighty alone means that some men cannot be lords over
others. All are equal and must, therefore, render unto others what
they expect from them in return. That is the reasonwhy Taqwa is the
only logical criterion of a just community. It is a direct measure of
our willingness to believe in Allaah The Most High and obey His
commands.
Strikingly, the Quran tells us that the most important ingredient
inestablishing a community depends not on space, time, matter, or any
other "chance" trait or relationship in the world. It is a bond of the
human heart. The naked truth is no amount of human will or earthly
means can bring it about. It is purely and explicitly an act of Divine
Grace. Allaah Says (what means): "…And remember the favor of Allaah
upon you – when you were enemies and He brought your hearts together
and you became, by His favor, brothers…" [Quran 3:103] Thus, it is
Allah, and Allah alone, who brings the hearts of a community together
and binds them.
We need to appreciate that this isnot an act of pure destiny but also
a function of whether a people consciously chooses to internalize and
live by the sterlingstandard of Taqwa , namely this: God is God. Man
is Man. The First is to be worshiped. The latter is His servant,
serving all others at His divine pleasure.

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