Story, - Unconditional love

I have always believed in love...I waited it to happen naturally. I
met aman in my graduation 1st year. We both used to notice each other
in class and smile...soon we became friends and within five months he
said he loves me...I found out that he had a reputation of flirt and
my friends warned me to stay away from him...I tried to do that but my
heart Wudnt stop thinking about him....one luk of his and I melted...I
wanted to just forget about his past flirts nd girlfriends all the
rumors and just love him....he was smart humorous handsome caring
realistic focused and hardworking guy. I finally confessed to him that
I love him irrespective of his reputation.... Soon it was d talk of
the town....within a month I was scared to lose my gud reputation I
broke up.....and I broke into tears as well...I thought he would come
and ask me why did I broke up.....he didn't and that reassured that he
wasn't serious....soon I got myself busy wid studies and career and
met an ideal good boy for marriage and within two years we got married
to Amit ....a focused hardworking guy....but I couldn't love him the
way I have always wanted to....coz he is different...he is loyal to me
loves me but only until I live according to his standards....career
kids home family friends etc....after a year of marriage I met aman
again at a friends place ....one luk into his eyes and I was gone
flat....there has always bin a strange love in his eyes I felt
whenever he Luk at me....again we started seeing each other this time
we couldn't stop ourself from making love but we did not have
sex.....suddenly within four months I started feeling guilty nd
decided to stop everything....I broke up again! After two years he got
married....I came to know....I called up nd congratulated and v spoke
very formerly though he was very happy to talk to me.....I realized
that I should stop bothering him....after next 3 years I got his
contact on Facebook.....just Luke at his 6m old daughter and I cud see
the same eyes and smile which aman had....I was preg wid my second
child then....yet I called aman and we spoke like v had never
parted,....we spoke like very close friends sharing the lovely life v
both had as parents....our jobs...our kids....everything....a year
went by....almost after 8years of my marriage ..2 kids...I still felt
I love aman....how much ever friends talk about his reputation yet I
couldn't stop thinking about him the moment I hear a love song......he
came in my dreams and I used to run after him but before I cud hug
him....I used to wake up startled and panting ....I used to wonder y I
dream so much about him.....never thought about sex....never thought
about kissing him.....we were jus very gud friends yet those dreams
wud make me mad....
One day he called up and told me about his dreams.....I was shocked
how he had similar dreams about me.....that day we spoke for hours
together and realised that inspire of time distance ...coz v live in
different countries now ....inspire of being happy wid our own ill
family career spouse etc we both miss each other....and he told me
ships.....I still love you....like I always did....and to my surprise
I couldn't stop myself from saying the same....
Our spouse obviously know that v r jus close friends....v make sure
that v don't hurt them coz v don't want trouble in each others married
ly....v chat daily talk occasionally....met once 10 years after
college ....we were soo emotional that our hug soon turned into smooch
followed by love making....but again we didn't have sex....we jus
couldn't ...
Both of us believed that our relation doesn't need sex to xpress
love.....and that was such a bful moment.....
We hv loved each other since a decade wideout having to have each
others body....
I realised how wrong I was wen in college I doubted his intentions,,,,
Even today he is very nervous wen I sit close to him.....even if we r
at his home....
This speaks of his unconditional love....
I respect him ....his love for me and I respect myself too....coz I
know that even though its an emotional extra marital affair....we both
fulfill our duties....love our family....discharge our
responsibilities happily wid our spouses.....
Today I don't feel guilty...i don't doubt him.....I jus simply love
him.....want him to be happy always....so does he
We talk on phone share our crazes thoughts very frankly....talk bat
anything....yet v r totally in blissful love.....
Miles apart....yet in love....
Love you aman!!

Fathwa, - She gets mini periods after hysterectomy

Question
Aoa, my name is Sadia Erfan and Im from UK. I had A surgery called "
Subtotal abdominal hysterectomy ) of uterus (". I had a prolapsed
uterus since my first daughter was born 13 years ago. So uterus was
taken out and the neck of the uterus was repaired via
"Sacrocolpopexy". At the time of the surgery doctors told me my
periods would stop. But after 2 months I got very weak periods like
bleedings every month. I went back to the doctor and he said that
because the neck of the uterus is still there and that has some
tissues, light bleeding can occur monthly. It is called mini period.
Im concerned about my salah and fasting. Technically I dont have a
uterus, but still the ovaries. What shall I do? Continue praying while
bleedeing or treating this as normal periods and not pray? Please help
me! Jazak-illah
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
According to the view of most scholars, the minimum period of menses
is one day and one night. So, if this bleeding which you see is less
than one day and one night, then it is not considered as menses
according to the view of most scholars and this is the view we adopt
here in Islamweb.
However, some scholars are of the view that there is no minimum period
for menses, so according to this view, you should consider the
bleeding that you see as menses even if it is little. Based on this,
to be on the safe side, it is better to perform Ghusl after this
bleeding stops even if its period is less than one day and one night
in order to avoid the difference of opinion.
Allaah Knows best.

Fathwa, - Ruling on the Muslim who apostates then repents several times

Question
WHAT ISLAM SUGGESTS ABOUT A PERSON WHO BECOMES APOSTATE ,THEN REPENTS
AND AFTER REPENTING ONCE AGAIN COMMITS APOSTASY.DOES HE CAN ESCAPE
AGAIN FROM SEVERE PUNISHMENT BY REPENTING OR BE PUNISHED AS AN
APOSTATE ?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
If a person apostated more than once, then his repentance is accepted
if he had sincerely repented. But as regards its acceptance in the
Hereafter, then there is no difference of opinion among the scholars
about its being accepted.
As regards its being accepted in this world, some scholars are of the
view that if one has apostated more than once, he is to be killed in
all cases and if he repents, his repentance is beneficial for him
between him and Allaah The Almighty.
However, the most preponderant opinion is that his repentance is
accepted in this worldly life and in the Hereafter, and that he is not
to be killed and the penalty is waived off him if he repents, even if
he apostated more than once.Ibn Qudaamahsaid inAl-Muqni': "Is the
repentance of the Zindeeq )a person who proclaims himself to be Muslim
while at the same time prescribing to kufr beliefs(and the apostate
who apostated more than once, or the one who insults Allaah or insults
His Messenger, or the magician accepted? There are two narrations
)from Imaam Ahmad( on this: One narration says that his repentance is
not accepted and that he is to be killed in all cases, and the second
narration says that his repentance is accepted like any other person."
Al-Mirdaawisaid in Al-Insaaf while clarifying that the difference of
opinion is only in regard to the ruling in this worldly life: "The
difference of opinion that has already been stated regarding their
repentance being accepted or not accepted is related to the rulings in
this world, like not killing them, and applying the rulings of Islam
to them. As regads the Hereafter, if he has sincerely repented, then
his repentance is accepted without any difference of opinion. This is
what Ibn 'Aqeel had stated." ]End of quote[
Allaah Knows best.

Fathwa, - Marrying a woman whom one's father or sontouched with desire

Question
assalamualaikum,brother...my question is a bit confusing i guess..i
want to ask that if a person touches a girl with emotion,does the girl
become haram for the person's son to marry that girl?...and if the
father in law touched that daughter in law with no emotion before the
marriage of the son and the girl..can the son marry the girl?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
If a man touches a woman with or without sexual desire, this does not
make her prohibited to his son or father for marriage. The woman only
becomes prohibited to a man )for marriage( if his son or father
married her. Prohibition takes effect upon concluding the marriage
contract, even if the marriage is not consummated.
Allaah Knows best.