Fathwa, - Racism must be denounced even if it comes from parents

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my family )my parents and my brother( are racist and always think little about my husband who is from another culture )eventhough he is a Muslim also(. They didn't stop me when I married him, they agreed with the marriage and everything. But ever since afterthe marriage, they show so much racism and they put him down. My husband is a great husband and he is a wonderful father to my baby. He is a very pious man and prays 5 times and he fears Allah. He feels very hurt with the way my family treats him and I feel so hurt too. When my mom visited me after I delivered a baby )we stayed in another city from my parents(, she quickly ran back to her home because she was not able to live with our lifestyle )because we are poor( and she didn't like my husband, leaving me alone with a newborn baby. And I visited to their city and their home twice since after my baby was born )now he is 1 yr old(, and every time my husband was at their home, they were very unhappy with him even though my husband was so kind to him and didn't do anything wrong. My parents love me and they helped us a lot even financially. My parents were like watching his every move and always finding faults in him and said bad things about him to me and made me cry. And my brother doesn't like my baby because I gave my baby an Arabic name that he doesn't like and he started to call my baby some random names and I told him to only call the name I gave. That angered him so much and he told me never to come back to my parents home and never bring my baby and husband there. He said we are nothing but trouble to our parents. I feel very hurt by it. My parents are on my brother's side as always and always think I m always at fault. I would like to ask question that, if I disobey my parents in this way )by being against racism and injustice(, will I go to hell since Jannah is under my mom's feet?
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
Racism is a form of the fanaticism of the Pre-Islamic era that Islam dispraises and calls for fighting it. The people are fromAadam, andAadamis from dust and there is no superiority of anyone over another except in terms of Taqwa )piety and righteousness(. Allaah The Almighty says )what means(: }O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allaah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allaah is Knowing and Acquainted.{]Quran 49: 13[
For more benefit about racism, kindly refer to Fataawa 84769and 86205.
Having known that racism is something evil, it is obligatory to denounce it whether it comes from the parents or from anyone else. Denouncing evil has nothing to do with being undutiful to one’s parents, but kindness, leniency, wisdom and good instruction should be adopted while doing that. Also, it is not permissible to make the bad treatment of the parents an excuse to treat them badly for the children's duty to be dutiful to them and to treat them in a good way can never be waived. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 86982.
On the other hand, your brother has no right to call your son a name other than what you have called him. Also, he has no right to prevent you from visiting your family; rather, this is a call for severing ties of kinship. You should maintain ties with your kinship, even if your brother does not accept that. There is no blame on you if you take your husband and son along with you, even if your brother does not accept that. Anyway, he should be advised to fear Allaah The Almighty and renounce such hateful manners.
Allaah Knows best.







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Dought & clear, - The basic principle is that zina is a greater sin than gambling and drinking alcohol

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I would like to know which sin is greater and more serious: zina, drinking alcohol or gambling?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The texts of the Qur'aan and Sunnah indicate that zina, alcohol and gambling are major sins. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Intoxicants (all kinds of alcoholic drinks), and gambling, and Al‑Ansaab (stone altars for sacrifices to idols etc) and Al‑Azlaam (arrows for seeking luck or decision) are an abomination of Shaytaan’s (Satan’s) handiwork. So avoid (strictly all) that (abomination) in order that you may be successful”
[al-Maa’idah 5:90]
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah forgives him”
[al-Isra’ 17:32].
Al-Bukhaari narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing adultery; no thief is a believer at the time when he is stealing; no drinker of wine is a believer at the time when he is drinking it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5578) and Muslim (57).
Allah has made avoiding these evil deeds a condition of expiation of bad deeds and rising in status. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“If you avoid the great sinswhich you are forbidden to do, We shall expiate from you your (small) sins, and admit you to a Noble Entrance (i.e. Paradise)”
[al-Nisa’ 4:31].
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to say: “The five daily prayers, from one Jumu’ah to the next, and from one Ramadaan to the next, are an expiation for whatever (sins) come in between, so long as one avoids major sins.” Narrated by Muslim (233).
Secondly:
The most serious of these three major sins is zina, because Allah mentioned it alongside worshipping idols and murder. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse”
[al-Furqaan 25:68].
And because, in addition to its being a major sin and transgression against the rights of Allah, it is also a transgression against the dearest and noblest thing that a person can possess, which is his honour, in addition to the serious negative consequences, evils and shame that result from it, which may last for a long time and affect generation after generation -- Allah forbid.
Al-Mundhiri (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
It is true that when the one who persisted in drinking alcohol dies, he will meet Allah like one who worshipped idols, and there is no doubt that zina is worse and more serious before Allah than drinking alcohol. End quote.
Al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 3/190.
Al-Safaareeni (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Zina is the most serious of major sins after shirk and murder. End quote.
Ghidha’ al-Albaab, 2/305
Hence the hadd punishment for zina is more severe than that for drinking alcohol, especially if the person is married.
And drinking alcohol is worse than gambling. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) cursed ten with regard to alcohol: the one who squeezes it (the grapes etc), the one for whom it is squeezed, the one who drinks it, the one who carries it, the one to whom it is carried, the one who pours it, the one who sells it, the one who consumes its price, the one who buys it and the one for whom it is bought.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1259; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani.
It leads to all evil and bad attitudes, and it is the mother of all evils.
But the matter may vary, according to the evils and corruption that result from it. A man may commit zina once and then never repeat it; a man may drink alcohol and become addicted to it, so his attitude becomes bad and he commits a lot of immoral deeds, forsakes his family and does not spend on his children; his love of alcohol may tempt him to steal and keep company with bad people, and other things that some of these people may fall into. So in that case, his situation is worse and his sin is greater than the one who commits zina once and then gives up zina.
Al-Nasaa’i (5666) narrated that ‘Uthmaan (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Avoid alcohol for it is the mother of all evils. There was a man among the people who came before you who was a devoted worshipper. A seductive woman fell in love with him, and she sent her slave-woman to him to call him to bear witness. He went with the slave-woman, and every time they passed through a door, she locked it behind them, until he reached a beautiful woman with whom was a child and a vessel of wine. She said, ‘I did not call you to bear witness, rather I called you either to have intercourse with me, or to drink a cup of this wine, or to kill this child.’ He said, ‘Pour me some of this wine.’ So she poured him a cup, then he said, ‘Give me more,’ and he did not stop until he had has intercourse with her and killed the child. So avoid alcohol, for by Allaah faith and addiction to wine cannot be combined except soon one of them will be expelled.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Nasaa’i.
al-Saawi said in his commentary onal-Sharh al-Sagheer(4/500) about drinking alcohol:
Its evil consequences are worse than the evil consequences of zina because it is very common, because drinking it may lead to zina, stealing and murder, hence it was narrated that it is the mother of evils. End quote.
So the basic principle is that zina is the worst of the three, then alcohol, then gambling. But it may vary according to the evil consequences that result from it. What is required is to keep away from all of that and similar major sins and haraam actions. The one who has a problem with any of these evils at any time should conceal himself with the concealment of Allah and hasten to repent before it is too late and before a seal is placed on his heart as the result of continuing evil actions and sins.
Allah says -- after mentioning a number of major sins and immoral actions, such as associating others with Allah, murder, zina and other major sins (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse __and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful
71. And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allaah with true repentance”
[al-Furqaan 25:68-71]
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Dought & clear, - She repented from a haram relationship in which she lost her virginity. Should she marry who fornicated with her?

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I am in a relationship with a man who took my virginity. I repented from such evil deeds and ask Allah to accept my repentance. This man proposed to me, but he is not religious, he smokes cigarettes and hashish and drinks alcohol. What should I do, he knows my matter. Or shall I leave him and have a hymen repair operation done and marry a religious man? I was pregnant and I aborted the baby. Allah knows how sincere my repentance is.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Zina (fornication or adultery) is a major sin. Allaah has forbidden doing the things that lead to it and has prescribed the hadd punishment for the one who does it, and He has warned adulterers of punishment in the Hereafter.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah forgives him”
[al-Isra’ 17:32].
Ibn Jareer al-Tabari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
“And come not near” O people
“to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin)”. Zina (translated here as “unlawful sex”) is a great sin.
“and an evil way” i.e., the way of zina is an evil way, because it is the way of the people who disobey Allaah and go against His command; what a bad way is the way that leads a person to the fire of Hell.
Tafseer al-Tabari(17/438).
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The prohibition on approaching it is more eloquent than a simple prohibition on doing it, because that includes the prohibition on all the things that lead to it and promote it, because “the one who grazes his flock around a protected areas will soon transgress upon it,” especially in a matter of this nature when the motive is very strong. Allaah describes zina as abhorrent, as He says “it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin)”, i.e., it is a sin which is abhorrent according to sharee’ah, reason and common sense, because it is a transgression against Allaah, and against the woman and her family or husband, and it leads to immorality, confusion of lineages and other evil consequences.
“and an evil way” means: what an evil way is the way of the one who dares to commit this grave sin.
Tafseer al-Sa’di(p. 457).
See also the answers to questions no. 76060, 20983and 95754.
Secondly:
With regard to the abortion, if the soul had been breathed into the foetus, then this is another crime in addition to the crime of zina. If the soul had not yet been breathed into the foetus then it is less serious.
For a detailed discussion on that, please see the answers to questions no. 11195, 13319, 13331and 90054.
Thirdly:
We praise Allaah for having enabled you to repent, and we hope that it is sincere repentance. The conditions of sincere repentance include: regretting the sins that you have committed, and immediately giving up that immoral action, and everything that leads to it such as contact, correspondence and dates. The conditions of repentance also include resolving not to return to this deed.
You also have to do a lot of righteous deeds, such as prayer, reading Qur’aan and fasting, so as to strengthen your faith and piety. Good deeds erase bad deeds and sincere repentance erases that which came before it, and turns bad deeds into good deeds. Allaah says – after mentioning the sins of shirk (associating others with Allaah), murder and zina – (interpretation of the meaning):
“Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Furqaan 25:70].
Fourthly:
With regard to marrying that criminal, you should understand that in order for the marriage of a man and woman who had committed zina to be valid, it is essential that they repent sincerely. It seems to us from your questions that he has not repented from what he did, rather he had added to the first calamity the other bad things that he is doing, such as smoking hasheesh and drinking intoxicants. What we think is that one who is like this also does not pray. If this is indeed the case, then it is definitely not permissible to accept him as a husband, because not praying is kufr that puts a person beyond the pale of Islam, and it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a kaafir.
For a more detailed discussion on the issue of marrying a zaani (one who commits fornication or adultery), please see the answers to questions no. 85335, 87894and 96460.
Fifthly:
With regard to having an operation to repair the hymen, this is haraam, because it is deceiving the one who marries you.
For a detailed discussion of this matter, please see the answer to question no. 844.
With regard to telling your future husband that you lost your virginity in this haraam relationship, that is not permissible, because it is exposing your faults, and the Muslim is required to conceal his faults. You can use double entendres in your speech. It is well known that the hymen may be broken by means of something other than intercourse in some cases, so you can make the most of that by using a double entendre.
See the answer to question no. 42992.
But if it is possible to encourage this person to repent sincerely and pray regularly, and he shows sincerity and signs of repenting and praying regularly, then there is nothing wrong with accepting him as a husband. Undoubtedly this solution would be easier for you, and more concealing for you, but how could one believe a person like that?!
We ask Allaah to accept your repentance and set your affairs straight, and to conceal our faults and yours in this world and in the Hereafter.
And Allaah knows best.











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