My husband relies on me financially, so I have to work. I am not loved for who I am.

Dear Sisters/brothers,

What I have to say today to you I have not said before to anyone.
I have ran these thoughts in my head several times and have only said
it to ALLAH. I have been married for 14 years now. From the beginning,
I hadto work although I hated working life. I so much wanted to be a
good housewife and good mother-to-be. This was a love marriage. I
married my husband because the truth is I was never liked by anybody
else but him. My cousins my age were getting married and the truth is
I didn't think anyone like him would like me as I am not fair and not
very beautiful. Anyway, when we marriedhe made it very clear I hadto
work as he didn't earn agood salary and also we were going to live on
our own. I agreed, thinking that after my first son wasborn I could
leave, but then he also said that he didn't like a woman to sit at
home and get fat. Because he is very handsome, I didn't want him to
lose interest in me so I worked.
I always earned a better salary then him. He had an affair and I
caught him. He was very sorry and promised never to do it again. He
lost my trust completely up to today. By then I also wanted to be the
woman he wanted, so I continued to work even after I had my two kids,
which family looked after, and I sometimes think it killed a bit of
the mother in me that I could have been. I changed jobsand always
earned better than him. He used to be very happy with me whenI
worked and if I was out of a job it caused tension. When I brought it
up he would he told me he liked a working woman. I eventually stuck
at a very good job for about 8 yearsand earned very well in this time.
He lost his job and with the help of my family and me he set up his
own business. He promised that when it gotbetter I could leave but I
had to put the pressure onto eventually leave my joband stay home.
The business took care of us for a couple of good years,and then all
of a sudden last year, things began to go bad , and even worse this
year.
I don't have a good relationship with a certain family member on his
sideof the family and noticed that at times my husband is off me when
something comes up about this person. ALLAH alone is mywitness that I
have done no wrong to this person. Also my brother has helped us out
with some money and my husband needs more, gives me the guilt trip
that when my brother cannot help us again. He somehow takes out all
of this on me. I have always been the one to make things happen
forus. My personality is like that. I'm not afraid to make the calls
and pull thestrings. When I get thingsright he is so happy with me
but when things are bad he holds me responsible. I've realised itso
now if ever things do come right I don't feel anyhonesty in his love
because I feel like I spoil him with my personality of making things
happen for us.
Now when I am sitting back and he can't make it, he is taking it out
on me. I am hating my life and myself right now. I've done alot of
good for people who have turned on me and I wonder why. I have prayed
and begged ALLAH but to no avail. Please just listen to me. Maybe I
just needed to tellsomeone and I don't have the guts to bad-mouth
myhusband to anyone -- not even my own family. And now I have no one
to talk to or share my feelings with. I've always been loyal to a
lot of people butI feel like no one genuinely likes me for whom I am
-- not even my husband. I am liked for what I can do for them,not for
who I am, and thatREALLY hurts!
~Razeena

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Abused by my father, and now by my husband, and I am almost insane

assalaam alaikum to all
i am a 26 year old girl who's been married past 15 months. I am a girl
with a mental disorder because my father used toabuse me when I was
younger.
But it is only my husband now, and he does it very rarely, but when he
does, he hurts me very badly. Hepunches me, pulls my hair,but this has
been going onsince I came here. And because of this, I am, in a way,
quite twisted.
Ever since i got married my inlaws gave me a tough time. As a child
growing, I had a tough lifeas my sister got divorced when i was still
in school, my brother had heart attacks... dad is a very violent
person very strict with us... i used to obey my father always but he
isunnecessarily strict... and orders all the time.. everyone in my
family andoutside the family is scared of my dad. but i know he's the
best when he cares..
But because of my dad's excessively violent nature and restrictions i
fell into an immature and stubborn state of emotions where i got
involved with my husbandin an affair before marriage and then
forciblyconvinced my parents to allow me to marry the guyi want...
also my dad had given up on life 10 years ago when my sister got
divorced so he was not bothered if i am going to the right house...
Therefore i felt the need toget independent and the best way out was
to get married... but unfortunately i got married into a very very
very bad family.. to a guy who's lying 24x7.. as he thinks my family
is gonna shower him with money and houses... but reality is that my
dad has no money now.. we had a huge list of troubles in ourlives... i
discontinued my bds 2nd year since i got married... as i hate my
college atmosphere which has religious differences... iuse to do hijab
and they dnt like it so i was boycotted by the staff... i thought i
will be free oncei get married to the guy who loves me... but he never
loved me he loved the money which he thought we had... and when he
found no money he along with his family started to torture me.
My husband has just finished his mis(mba) fromusa... n i live with him
alone now... earlier when icame to USA as a dependent i stayed at my
husband's sister's house for a month , god... she showed me hell in 15
days... as i didnt know cooking at all... i learned cooking as fast as
i can to keep my husband happy and healthy.. we moved from her house
after a month of fights n torture.. she is 39 years ald n compares
herself with me... i hate her and alwayslaugh at her immaturity...
anyway.. now the only way out of this trouble i thought would be to
earn money myself so that i wont be a burden on my husband as he was
counting the money whichhe spends on groceries.. my husband fights
with me all the time and warns me that he will divorce men asked me to
leave and he's creating a scene each time so that i should leavehim
myself. he's been repeating about divorce for many times now.. as he
is looking for a citizen girl who has a green card...n till then he is
using me as a slave to cook for him and earn money for him and satisfy
his needs ... ya ALLAH help me... i am in such pain...
i also was forced to have an abortion after 3 months of marriage... n
my husband is not planning to keep me as hiswife as i dnt have a green
card...
imagine, i cook, i earn money, i clean the house, iwash his clothes, i
never made anything more than a cup of tea b4 marriage nnow he made me
a servant in one year of married life.. plzz give me advice on what to
do?? i am alone in USA with my husband suffering beyond tolerance..
any advice is appreciated.. may ALLAH have mercy on
all..ameen..otherwise i will commit suicide....
I am anti-social, paranoid, angry, depressed, and I have the darkest
thoughts.I involuntarily think of ways to kill people. And they're
very imaginative... Because of my parents, I believe that there is no
good in this world, and because of my husband, I hate humans. I
honestly do.
When I am severely angry or severely upset, I am dangerous. I can
seriously hurt someone. But I reach the limit of my insanity, and I'm
someone I can't even recognize. I am suicidal. I want to drug, smoke
and drink myself todeath (but I have never done any of this).i tried
it though, I harm myself, harm others, attempt suicide, scream,
shout,abuse everyone or anyone i see but inside mybrain not on their
face,slapmyself, break things, and worst of all, I i insult ALLAH and
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My husband is taking drugs, lying and not providing for us.

Salam everyone,
I have been married for 12years with two kids. I havebeen happy in my
marriage until now. Between the last few years my husband has not been
employed after he sold his business. He lost a lot of money and was
verydepressed due to this. We are both working and have been for the
last 12 years.
I have supported him in every aspect of his life, financially and
emotionally. I have alwayssaid to think of my moneyas his money. I
have helped his family numerous amounts of time with substancial
amounts of money and also I have given him money to open his business
and paid for all the household bills while he was setting himself up
and when the business was making a loss. Basically I have not saved a
penny of my money as all these years I have beenpaying all the
household bills and supporting my husband and his family financially
as I thought that was the right thing inorder to be a good wife and
daughter in law and also I love my husband very much and wanted to
help him in any way I can. Now I feel that I have made the biggest
mistake of my life by doing this.
My husband made losses in his businesses and borrowed money on
interest to recoup the losses. I have also sinned and borrowed money
to help him. We got into a lotof financial problems and in the end
lost the business and owed a lot ofmoney. He was not working for the
last three years and I was paying off all the loans and the household
bills. I did not pressure him much to get a job as I knew he was very
depressed. I allowed him to take time to get a good job. Eventually
whenhe did get a job as a self employed person he was not earning
much. He keptmaking excuses as to why he wasn't making money and kept
promising that things will get better. I amvery eager to pay off his
credit card bills as it has interest and we are comiting a grave sin.
One year later we are still in the same situation he is working day
and night and earning little or no money. I am having to payfor 90% of
the bills.
Until now he has always been a kind loving and gentle person who is
striving to be a good muslim. He always prays and read the quran and
promises that he is striving to be a better muslim and stop stop haram
things. I have been patient with him and believed him all this time
and did not pressure him about the job. Recently I have noticed that
he has become very angry and tired and does not pray allthe time and
stopped reading the quran. All he does is eat sleep and go towork.
We have no family life. I am stressed with doing allthe housework
looking after the kids and providing financially for the family. I
have told himto leave this job and get another job so that he can have
time to spend with his family. He argued with me that he will not
leave this job even if he has to do long hours and earn peanuts! He
has also insulted me and is blaming me for all his misfortunes even
though Ihave given all my money to him! He has always praised me in
the past andnow he keeps finding faults in me.
I have got his parents and my parents involved but ithas not changed
anything.Recently I have found out that he is taking drugs, but I do
not know to whatextent. I have confronted him about it but he
deniesit. I am really distressed having to do both the husband and
wife's role! I know islam teaches us to be patient. In this case am I
supposed to keep payingthe bills and wait for him to change? My family
and friends are advising me to divorce him as he will never change but
I don't want to break my marriage. I just want him to change and be a
responsible father and husband as he was a few years ago.
I am always praying day and night that he comes to his senses and
realizes his fault. I don't want my children to grow up without a
father. I would be very grateful for any advice on this and the
islamic ruling regarding this.
Thank you.
-sumaira

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My husband wants the mahr back, but he owes me the same amount!

"O you who have believed,it is not lawful for you to inherit women by
compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take
[back part of what you gave them unless they commit a
clearimmorality." (Surah Nisa, Ayah 19)
Assalam alikum,
I am a female who lives in the United States. I got married to a
gentleman last year on March 2011.
After few months, my husband was not taking care of me financially.
He was also very stubbornand was creating a lot of havoc in the house,
which was very hard for me and my kids from previous relationship. My
husband was accusing me of a lot things which were not true including
cheating on him. My husband would like to fight as soon as he comes
home and sometimes every night at 2am or even 4am.
I tried to do what he wanted but he was alwaysmaking up new stories.
After many fights, I tried to convince him to leave me and divorce me,
he would say he would but the next day he would apologize and say he
will try to do better.
I got him out of the house after many attempts of fixing our
relationship after 5 months or less (endof june) of marriage because
my kids were having nightmares and wecouldn't sleep when he was home
because of his aggressiveness! More attempts were made on my part to
get back together but he would always promise and fight after we start
talking again.
Please advise me how to get divorced from him since its been almost a
year since our seperation and he doesn't take care of me and give me
my rights. Please note that he insisted that he will never divorce me!
The other thing is that we got married in the mosqueonly and there are
no documents between us! We met with the sheikh who did our nikah to
get divorced and I agreed to give him back the dowry but when I
recalled that my husband owes me the same amount of money, the sheikh
didn't accept that and said I would haveto pay him back as agreed
upon.
How is it right that I give that money that he owes me on other
matter? Please help thank you!

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I love my husband but he wont find a job and I’m having trouble conceiving

I am a 29 year old Muslim sister facing difficulties in my marriage
life. I really love and care for my husband and I am always trying to
make him happy but a lot of times I feel that he isn't trying hard
enough to make me happy. First of all, I know that marriage is a
commitment between husband and wife, where each person listens and
respects each other's thoughts and feelings. A lot of times, I try out
of my way to give my husband all the support heneeds, but I admit,
some times out of frustration I have said hurtful things tohim because
of his behavior.
I feel a lot of times he triesto order me around and he even said that
if I did everything he says immediately, he would know that I really
love him. I feel that his thinking of what love is, isn't correct. He
has to understand that ordering me around isn't the way to talk to
one's spouse, and if he needs something, it should be said kindly and
sincerely. I am not his slave, but his wife. If he needs anything,I
would gladly do it for him, but I will not be talked down to like I am
under him or something.
My therapist (who is American) believes that what he is thinking is
cultural since I was born inAmerica and he was born in South Asia, but
I feel it is not really Islamic thinking. Even though I was born in
America, I have maintained my Islamic identity, and have avoided a lot
of things I feel in America are not in tune with Islam.
In addition, my husband puts his relatives and friends way above me. I
have no problem with himcalling his relatives and friends because it
is good to keep in contact with others, but he seems to put them WAY
above me. Ifeel like he ignores me and is more interested in being
with other people inhis life.
Also, I feel I cannot share any of my feelings with him without him
getting angry. One time, I was crying about how hurt I felt when one
of my cousins did something wrong with me, and he immediately got
angry with me and said that I always find fault with others and that I
don't likeanyone. What he is saying isn't true. I like to maintain my
family relations, but they are not more important to me than my
husband. I felt that I would get some emotional support from him, but
instead, it leads to a BIG fight and then we both say bad things to
each other.
I feel like he feels very strongly about family relations more than he
feels strongly about me. He gets mad when anything is said against
other people, like they are so important to him. I really don't
understand this thinking. He even tried to pack his suit case and
leave from the house when I tried to express myfeelings about
something that was troubling me about someone else. He said that if he
had any relatives living nearby, he would go and live with them and
leave me and this hurt me so much because he feels like they are more
important than me.
I don't know what to do. I understand he is new to America (he's only
been in this country for 7 months),but we are constantly arguing and
fighting about little things. In terms of him finding a job,that has
been a source of great difficultly in our marriage. I am doing
everything for him, but he is doing nothing. He speaks English very
well and even Americans compliment his English, but he has no
confidence in his abilities. He speaks so many languages too and he
had a good job before. However, it seems like he is scared to take the
initiative to apply for ajob. I am filling out all his job
applications and doingeverything for him! He even said to me that I am
responsible for him finding a job because he isnew to this country and
doesn't know anything. Is that fair what he is saying? I don't think
any wife has the responsibility to find a job for her husband. He has
to do thathimself!
Then he constantly gets depressed because he isn'tgetting any job
offers, but he is scared to talk on the phone to the manager or
whoever is hiring for the jobs he applies to, to market himself. He
seems to have absolutely no confidence. In fact, he received a
voicemail on hiscell phone for a job interview, and I had to callthe
company for him. Then when I gave him the phone and told him to leave
a message stating that he received their message and would be
interested in setting up aninterview, he got mad at me and hung up the
phone and started yelling at me about why I gave him the phone to
leave a message. How will anyonegive him a job if he is afraid to
speak for himself?

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Confused about my position in a happy marriage with a stingy husband

I am a completely devotedhousewife and stay at home mum of 2 kids. My
husband works 8-10 hoursa day, and when he comeshome I make sure he
has all the comforts and peaceof mind available plus hot food and a
cheerful atmosphere.
He earns roughly$3500-$4000 per month mashAllah, and we have a
comfortable house we are renting, and maintaining our own cars. From
his salary, he gives me $600 to run the household expenses which
includes all the energy bills, utilities, groceries and childrens
school dinners/sandwiches.
By the end of the month, every single penny has been used up for milk
and bread etc. I never get a single cent to spend on myself. My
parents give me $100 every month, and that too is spent on the bills
and groceries. I never ever have money to buy myself anything. Even to
buy things for the children I have to ask him over and over again to
either give me money or take us shopping on his days off, for even
basic things like school uniforms.
I have been shivering in the cold and do not have decent coat. he does
not give it any importance. I do not even have the stamina left to
tell him things I need. I buy the most economical clothes and shoes
for the children.More often it is my parentswho are buying things for
me and my children like clothes on Eid and children's seasonal
clothes.
He says we are saving up to buy a house, which I totally agree with as
we are renting at the moment. But when it comes to him spending, there
are no limits. He will book foreign trips for us, hold lavish dinners
for friends, spend whole heartedly on anything he wants to buy for the
house. But in my case, I have been constantly reminding him we need
curtains for the house, even cheap flimsy ones would do but the sun is
very disturbing sometimes, and there is no privacy even though our
house is in quite an isolated place.
I started working to fulfill my own desires, such as buying books for
my children which they love reading, sometimes my niece too who I love
dearly. My sister is not well to do, and I like to treat her to nice
things sometimes.
But unfortunately, when I started working, even though part time, my
whole household system got disturbed. Every evening I was totally
tired by the time I got home, lacking energy to give my family any
quality time at all, as I was always burdened with responsibilities ie
cooking, washing up, laundry, ironing, preparing for nextday.
Sometimes I had to stay back a bit longer due to work committments (I
am a teacher), late parents, or talking to parents, or after school
meetings and plannings , which angered my husband. He thought I
wastaking my job too seriously, whereas I was brought up in an
environment where we were taught to do everything we did with full
committment and sincerity.
As a wife, do I deserve some pocket money for myself from my husband,
knowing full well he can afford it. He hates spending money on me.
In15 years of marriage he has never bought me any presents, clothes or
Eid clothes.
My parents, God bless them end up taking care of everything. I have
told them very clearly that they should not do it anymore. He needs to
realize. But he does not give such things any importance. If I want to
buy a coat, he will say to me, Summer is approaching, you are only
wasting money. I am a hypothyroid patient, and cannot tolerate cold,
so I go out with 3-4 layers of clothes and the a skimpy jacket which I
ordered online because I seemed so odd in the cold wind standing there
in the childrens school without a coat.
I know he loves me in many other ways, he is very very dependant on me
emotionally, wants meto be around all the time, and worries if I get
angry, or cry. I just dont know how to deal with this. Our intimate
relations are perfect, we have a fabulous life Alhamdolillah, just
that I dont know if I should be getting more money from him
I have even told him the other day that I dont wantus to buy a house.
We will live in rented accomodation for as long as we have to.
His family is quite caring, and used to look after me well when they
took me as a daughter in law. My husband seperated me from them as he
wanted complete control over me and brought me to the states.
Sometimes I think he is punishing me. His parents, just like mine are
comfortably well off, but we do not recieve any help from them, which
to be honest we don't need as Alhamdolillah my husband is earning well
enough. But where do I stand?
PS: I have sat down with him on numerous occassions to explain how
much I spend and how much I need.

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Could I take off my hijab when I am around my relatives?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half now,
he is from Saudi Arabia and he is Muslim. I have been reading up on
the Muslim religion and I think when women wear hijaab that its to
keep other men away from temptation. Its stated " women should cover
the specified areas of their bodies which may arouse sexual desire in
others (see Qur'an {7:26;} 33:59). I also found that indeed, many
Muslim women consider the head scarf a form of feminist expression,
because it forces people to judge them by their character rather than
their looks.
This is true I have had many Muslim women as friends, anyways back to
my point, my boyfriend has brought it up a couple times that he would
like me to convert to Muslim. The religion is not too much different
from my Christian religion and I think possibly converting and wearing
hijaab is a great idea. Now converting would be my choice but would
other Muslim people judge me for wearing hijaab or thinkI am mocking
them? The other issue is my family they like my boyfriend butdo not
want me to cover, they do not believe in it soI want to wear it but
not around them. Could I wearhijab and just not wear it when with
them?(I do notsee them that much). or would that be bad and against
religious or cultural beliefs of Muslims?
Renee.

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Stuck in my marriage, want a divorce from my emotional abusive husband

"Husband should feed his wife whenever he eats and cloth her, whenever
he cloths himself, that he not hit her in face, that he not call her
ugly and that he not boycott her except within the house" (Ibn Majah)
Assalam O Alaikum,
I have noone and nowhere to tell and ask for advices. I feel terribly
lonely and helpless. I am aconvert and married an Arab husband about
13 years ago. I do not know where to start my problem as it seems it
has been embedded for years.
We have 3 children and live in America right now. My husband is a
highly educated person but with anger issues. He is so goodin using
logic and language, there is no way that one can reason with him. He
weighs everythingon the benefit of his side. His motto is: what is in
it for me? For him, everything can be measured and there is nothing
called altruism. His assumption is people are selfish and lazy.
Everything people do has a hidden agenda and motive. His religious is
the one who can save the human from being in the stage of selfishness.
His fear of Allah is out of being sent to hell.
He did everything "right" –prays five times a day, fasts not only in
Ramadan,donate the portion that heneeds to (never more, never less),
give money to his mother monthly (out of fear that his mother willnot
pray for him). He is just so robotic and binds to the law and rules of
Islam. One thing he alwaysmentions is if he were not a Muslim, he
would have indulged in sex, drug and alcohol. He praises his religion
so much for stopping him doing such athing. I do not understand why it
has to be extreme that either he has to choose be a bad guy or good
guy.
I have so many friends from my country that theydo not have religion
but live their life fully by volunteering in the societyand living in
a happy and productive life. They surelyknow what is right or wrong
out of their consciousness and their moral/ education background.
Sometimes, I think Islam may be fit to those people who may go to an
extreme astray life, I wonder?
He belittles women in general, calling them lots of name. I do not
feel respect and love from him anymore. I feel disgusted by sleeping
next to him. I feel suffocated.
One thing I want to do is adivorce. I want to breath, Iwant freedom. I
am sorry to say that, I am reaching to the point that I hate being
married to a Muslim man and being a Muslim. I know Islam is the right
religion but I just hate seeing so many men usingit as a means to
control women mentally and physically. When my teenager daughter said
to me that she would never going to choose a Muslim man or at least
not an Arab Muslim or a "religiousone".
I know my relationship with my husband is affecting her unconsciously
already. Shewould even suggest that we should leave him behind as he
does not deserve respect from us. Unfortunately, it appears to me that
my husband's character is not an uncommon around the Arab community
where I live. But most Arab women choose to toleratethis kind of
disrespectful behavior (shouting in bad language, being confined at
home, not allowed to mingle with friends.) I cannot share with those
sisters about my situation as they will look at me as a "rebellious
one" or not religious enough to depend to Allah. Their endurance level
is so high that I do not have.
Sure, he provides food andshelter in the family. According to him,
love is abstract and cannot be measured but food and shelter can.
Other than that, he will play with the children whenever he wants and
he feels like. If he has a bad mood, he willshout and shut the
children out. He will never take the children to a parkor just walk
outside. Whenever the children do something wrong, he will shout and
say some harsh comments, like f**king idiot. He watched TV a lot and
some of them are not appropriate even for Muslim. He will just hush
the children to their room.He watched pornographic movie on the
computer. Ironically, he prays, fasts twice a week and in Ramadan. He
robotic-ally follows every steps of a Muslim should do. I have to
admit, I cannot bear seeing him praying. Even my daughter would say
that Allah would turn his face away from him.
Unfortunately, my husband thinks he makes no mistakes. He measures it
by his acts, such as he pays the bills, he does not fool around, he
does not drink or gamble, he pays his mom on time even though they
have a very bad relationship. He blamed his parents for things in the
past. He shouted at his mother in front of the children. I sawhis
mother crying all the time. He knows he cannot go to heaven if he does
not get his mom's prayer. He will suspect his own shadow. He does not
trust anyone and he is so arrogant that he thinks everyone is idiate.

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They say New York city never sleep.

Question: Have you ever seen Makkah???
INDEED There is No comparison;
New York is a Sin city,
while Makkah is a Soul City..!!
New York never sleeps intopleasing shaitan,
Makkah never sleeps into pleasing ALLAH (sw)t .
Ya ALLAH! give us all a chance to visit the holy MAKKAH & MADINAH ♥
Ameen

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Advice

How can I believe when"lie" just lies in the
centre of "believe"
How can I Love when thereis "over" in "Lover"
How can I be friends with anyone when we
know "end" is there in"friend"
How can I trust anyone when there is "rust" in
"Trust"
How can I live a life when there is "if" in "life"?
ALLAH has "ALL" in Him, therefore, I trust, love
& believe in ALLAH being the best of ALL!

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Milk fats may alter gut bacteria causing bowel diseases

The rise of inflammatory bowel diseases could be down to our shifting
diets causing a "boom in bad bacteria", according to US researchers.
Mouse experiments detailed in the journal Nature linked certain fats,
bacteria in the gut and the onset of inflammatory diseases.
The researchers said the high-fat diet changed the way food was
digested andencouraged harmful bacteria.
Microbiologists said modifying gut bacteria might treat the disease.
Inflammatory bowel diseases (IBDs), such as Crohn's and ulcerative
colitis, affect one in every 350 people in the UK. When the gut
becomes inflamed it can lead to abdominal pain and diarrhoea.
The researchers at the University of Chicago said the incidence of the
diseases was increasing rapidly.
They used genetically modified mice which were more likely to develop
IBDs. One in three developed colitis when fed either low-fat diets or
meals high in polyunsaturated fats. This jumped to nearly two in three
in those fed a diet high in saturated milk fats, which are in many
processed foods.
They also suggest an effective means of dealing with such diseases, by
simply reshaping the microbial balance of the gut"
Dr Roy Sleator
Cork Institute of Technology
These saturated fats are hard for the body to digest and it responds
by pumping more bile into the gut. This changes the gut environment
and leadsto a change in the bacteria growing there, the researchers
said.
Treatments
One bacterium in particular, Bilophila wadsworthia, was identified. It
thrives in the extra bile produced to break down the fats. It went
from being incrediblyrare to nearly 6% of all bacteria in the gut in
the high-fat diet.
Prof Eugene Chang, of the University of Chicago, said:"Unfortunately,
these can be harmful bacteria. Presented with a rich source of
sulphur, they bloom, and when they do, they are capable of activating
the immune system of genetically proneindividuals."
However, he said this couldlead to possible treatmentsas the gut
bacteria could be "reshaped" without"significantly affecting the
lifestyles of individuals who are genetically prone to these
diseases".
Commenting on the research, Dr Roy Sleator, from the Cork Institute of
Technology, said: "Not onlydo the authors provide, what is in my
opinion, the first credible explanation asto how Western diet
contributes to the unusually high incidence ininflammatory bowel
disease; they also suggest an effective means of dealing with such
diseases, by simply reshaping the microbial balance of the gut."

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Verses in the Qur’an denoting the end times, Prophet Jesus (as) and Hazrat Mahdi (as) and their numerological analysis

WE SAID, 'HAVE NO FEAR. YOU WILL HAVE THE UPPER HAND. (Surah Taha, 68)
Numerological analysis: GREGORIAN CALENDAR: 1956
Remember when Allah made a covenant with the Prophets: 'Now that We
have given you a share of the Book and Wisdom, and then a messenger
comes to youconfirming what is with you (1) , you must have faith in
him and help him.' He asked, 'Do you agree and undertake my commission
on that condition?' They replied,'We agree.' He said, ' Bear witness,
then. I am with you as one of the witnesses.' (2) (Surah Al 'Imran,
81)
Numerological analysis (1): 1956
Numerological analysis (2): Islamic Calendar: 1416, Gregorian Calendar: 1994
We desired to show kindness to those who were oppressed (1) in the
land and to make them leaders and make them inheritors (2) (Surat
Al-Qasas, 5)
Numerological analysis (1): 1996
Numerological analysis (2): ... leaders ... and make them inheritors: 2021
We sent you only to bring good news and to give warning. (Surat Al-Furqan, 56)
Numerological analysis: 1981
(Besides: The number of the surah (25)x the number of the verse (56)=
1400 (Gregorian Calendar: 1981)
And thus We established Yusuf in the land so he could live in any
place he pleased. We grant Our grace to anyone We will and We do not
allowto go to waste the wage of any people who do good. (Surah Yusuf,
56)
Numerologic al analysis: 2017
He said, 'Go down from it, all of you, as enemies to one another! But
when guidance comes to you from Me, all those who follow My guidance
will not go astray and will not be miserable. (Surah Ta Ha, 123)
Numerological analysis: 1982
Say: 'Everyone is waitingexpectantly so wait expectantly. You will
soon know who are the Companions of the RightPath and who is is
guided.' (Surah Ta Ha, 135)
Numerological analysis: 2023
We made them leaders, guiding by Our command, and revealed to them how
to do goodactions and establish prayer and pay alms , and they
worshipped Us.(Surat Al-Anbiya, 73)
Numerological analysis: 1984
Alif Lam Mim. The Romans have been defeated. (Surat Ar-Rum, 1-2)
Numerological analysis: 1980
…in a few years' time. The affair is Allah's from beginning to end. On
that day, the believers will rejoice… (Surat Ar-Rum, 4)
Numerological analysis: 2010
We wrote down in the Zabur, after the Reminder came: 'It is My
servants who are righteous who will inherit the earth.' (Surat
Al-Anbiya, 105)
Numerological analysis: 2051
If We wished We could send down a Sign to them from heaven, before
which their headswould be bowed low in subjection. (Surat Ash-Shu'ara,
4)
Numerological analysis: 2022
This is a warning like thewarnings of old. (Surat An-Najm, 56)
Numerological analysis: 2031
Allah and His angels call down blessings on the Prophet. You who
believe! call down blessings on him and ask for complete peace and
safety for him. (SuratAl-Ahzab, 56)
Numerological analysis: 1986
We have sent you with the truth bringing good news and giving warning.
There is no community to which a warner has not come. (Surah Fatir,
24)
Numerological analysis: 1983
We placed between them and the cities We had blessed other
clearlyconspicuous cities, making them measured stages on the way:
'Travel between them in safety by night and day.' (Surah Saba, 18)
Numerological analysis: 2023
Those We have given theBook recognize it as theyrecognize their own
sons. Yet a group of them knowingly conceal the truth. (Surat
Al-Baqara, 146)
Numerological analysis: 1959
We will show them Our Signs on the horizon andwithin themselves until
it is clear to them that it is the truth. Is it not enough for your
Lord that He is a witness of everything? (Surah Fussilat, 53)
Numerological analysis: 1990
And you have seen people entering Allah's religion in droves, then
glorify your Lord's praise and ask His forgiveness. He is the
Ever-Returning.(Surat An-Nasr, 2-3)
Numerological analysis: 2016
Did We not raise your renown high? (Surat Al-Inshirah, 4)
Numerological analysis: 2009
IT IS OUR ARMY WHICH WILL BE VICTORIOUS. (Surat As-Saffat, 173)
Numerological analysis: 1994
It is He Who sent His Messenger with guidance and the religion of
Truth to exalt it over every other religion , though the associaters
hate it. (Surat As-Saff, 9)
Numerological analysis: the gemination mark is excluded 2021
The Egyptian who had bought him told his wife, 'Look after him with
honor and respect. It's possible he will be ofuse to us or perhaps we
might adopt him as a son.' And thus We established Yusuf in the land
to teach him the true meaning of events. ALLAH IS IN CONTROL OF HIS
AFFAIR . However, most of mankind do not know. (Surah Yusuf, 21)
Numerological analysis: GREGORIAN CALENDAR: 2014

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Allah is everywhere

Some people imagine thatthey themselves, matter and the world they see
all around them are all absolute beings. But they regard Allah (surely
He is beyond that) as an imagination pervading that absolute matter.
Or else, since they cannot see Him with their own eyes, they say:
"Allah must be somewhere we cannot see, in space or far away from
human eyes." (SurelyAllah is beyond that.) But these are all grave
errors.
Because Allah is everywhere, not just in the sky. As the sole absolute
being, Allah enfolds the whole universe, all people and places, the
heavens and everywhere. And Allah is manifested in the whole universe.
According to the hadith, our Prophet (saas) said that someone who said
that Allah was in the sky was telling the truth. But this account in
no wayconflicts with the fact that Allah is everywhere. Because if
someone at your location on Earth raises his hands and prays to Allah
and thinks that Allah is in the sky, while someone at the South Pole
turns to Allah in the same way, while someoneelse at the North Pole
raises his hands and yet another individual in Japan, or America or
Ecuador raises his hands tothe sky in the same way and turns to Allah,
then it is impossible to speak of any fixed direction. In the same
way, if djinn, angels and demons at various points in space and the
universe also pray toward the skies, it will again be impossible to
speak of anyfixed direction, and the situation will be one that covers
the entire universe.
We must not also forget that Allah is unfettered by time and space.
Allah's selfis something different. Butthe manifestations of Allahare
everywhere. If someone enters a room and says Allah is not there,he is
denying Allah. The manifestations of Allah arein that room and
everywhere. Wherever you may turn, manifestations of Allah arethere.
Several verses of theQur'an state that Allah pervades all places, that
He is closer to us than our own jugular veins, and that we will see
His face wherever we look. For example, in verse 255 of Surat
al-Baqara Allah says"... His Footstool encompasses the heavens and the
earth...." Verse 92 of Surah Hud says, "...But my Lord encompasses
everything that you do" meaning that Allah also pervades what people
do.
The truth revealed in the Qur'an is clear: Allah is not only in the
skies. Allah is He Who enfolds and pervades all places. This knowledge
is provided to us by way of the Qur'an. Describing the reality of the
secret behind matter will enable people to better understand these
verses. People who realizethat matter is not an absolute entity will
realizewith complete clarity that Allah is everywhere at anymoment,
that He sees and hears them at all moments, that He witnesses all
things and is closer to them than their own jugular veins, and that He
hears the prayers of those who pray.
Some verses of the Qur'an on the subject
Both East and West belong to Allah, so wherever you turn, the Face of
Allah is there. Allah is All-Encompassing, All-Knowing. (Surat
al-Baqara, 115)
Allah, there is no god but Him, the Living, the Self-Sustaining. He is
notsubject to drowsiness or sleep. Everything in the heavens and the
earth belongs to Him. Who canintercede with Him except by His
permission? He knows what is before them andwhat is behind them
butthey cannot grasp any ofHis knowledge save what He wills. His
Footstool encompasses the heavens and the earth and their preservation
does not tire Him. He is the Most High, the Magnificent. (Surat
al-Baqara, 255)
When We said to you, 'Surely your Lord encompasses the peoplewith His
knowledge.' Weonly appointed the vision We showed you and the Accursed
Tree inthe Qur'an as a trial and temptation for the people. We
frighten them, but it only increases them in their excessive
insolence. (Surat al-Isra', 60)
There is no one in the heavens and earth who will not come to the
All-Merciful as a slave. Hehas counted them and numbered them
precisely. (Surah Maryam, 93-94)
And other booty you do not yet have the power to take –Allah has
already encompassed it.Allah has power over all things. (Surat al-
Fath,21)
While Allah is encircling them from behind. (Surat al-Buruj, 20)
We created man and We know what his own self whispers to him. We are
nearer to him than his jugular vein. (Surah Qaf, 16)
If something good happens to you, it galls them. If something bad
strikes you, they rejoice at it. But if you are steadfast and have
fear of Allah, their scheming will not harm you in any way. Allah
encompasses what they do. (Surah Al 'Imran, 120)

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Secrets intended for believers alone are hidden in the Qur’an

When we read the Qur'an we see that the most fundamental matters that
Muslims have to know and understand are set out quite explicitly.
Allah describes His creation in the Qur'an. He describes satan,
reveals what is lawful and unlawful and tells us of the lives of the
prophets. It is revealed how the life of this world is a test and how
our true homes are inthe Hereafter. Paradise and Hell are described in
the Qur'an and people are warned against the torments in the latter.
In addition to all these basic issues, the Qur'an also contains
special signs that Allah has deliberately concealed in it for
believers. Through these signs, our Lord tells believers how they
shouldbehave toward deniers, the best way of preaching the word and
what they must do if the moral values of the Qur'an are torule the
world. These signsare only, of course, comprehensible to those
servants who can look at the Qur'an with the eyes of the heart and
good conscience, who can grasp the radiance and message of the Qur'an,
and with whom Allah is well pleased. This is just one of the hundreds
of miracles of the Qur'an.
Our Almighty Lord Makes Science Obligatory for Believers in the Qur'an
The presence in the Qur'anof scientific and mathematical miracles is
itself a miracle that confirms the sublime nature of the Qur'an, its
miraculous aspect and the fact that it is a divine scripture. But in
addition to that specific miracle, when we look at the verses of the
Qur'an we see that Allah makes science obligatory for believers. Allah
advises believers to reflect on the extraordinary creation they
witness and to learn the knowledge of the creation of the Earth and
sky. In Surah Al 'Imran our Lord says:
Those who remember Allah, standing, sitting and lying on their sides,
and reflect on the creation of the heavens and the Earth: "Our Lord,
You have not created this for nothing. Glory beto You! So safeguard us
from the punishment of the Fire." (Surah Al 'Imran, 191)
Scientific development and progress proves the sublime and
extraordinarynature of Allah's creation in the most perfect way. The
more that people of good conscience possessed of this knowledge deepen
in science, the more amazed they are by Allah's sublimeartistry. Just
a single cell, the glorious DNA within a single cell or a single
protein is enough to see the power and might of Allah. Almighty Allah
is powerful enough to createworlds within worlds, to create all things
from nothing, and gloriously shows His sublime omniscience by creating
atoms in tiny specks of space and making atoms, which themselves
consist of 99% empty space, the natural causes of matter itself.
Almighty Allah is powerful enough to bring the Earth and sky into
being through a single explosion, out of nothing, out of emptiness.
Almighty Allah reveals thissublime creation, the Big Bang miracle in
other words, in this verse:
As for heaven – We built it with great power and gave it its vast
expanse. (Surat adh-Dhariyat, 47)
Almighty Allah has made scienceessential for Muslims in order for them
to comprehend andsee His matchlessartistry and the glories in the
entities He creates. Those who deepen in science with the knowledge of
the Qur'an will also grow in faith since they will witness His
omniscience. Allah tells us in another verse:
But those of them who are firmly rooted in knowledge, and the
believers, believe in what has been sent down to you and what was sent
down before you: those who establishprayer and pay alms, and believe
in Allah and the Last Day – We will pay such people an immense wage.
(Surat an-Nisa', 162)
For that reason, Allah advises true Muslims to learn and research the
scientific facts and to become aware of what is all around them:
Have they not looked at the sky above them: how We structured it and
made it beautiful and how there are no fissures in it? And the
Earth: how We stretched it out and cast firmly embedded mountains onto
it and caused luxuriant plants of every kind to grow in it, an
instruction and a reminder for every penitent human being. (Surah Qaf,
6-8)
Have they not looked at the camel – how it was created? And at the sky
–how it was raised up? And at the mountains – how they were embedded?
And at the Earth – how it was smoothed out? So remind them! You are
only a reminder. (Surat al-Ghashiyya, 17-21)
Do they not see the things Allah has created, casting their shadows
tothe right and to the left, prostrating themselves before Allah in
complete humility? (Surat an-Nahl,48)

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Why do arabs hate Israelites so much?

Q : Is it because they occupy there homeland, the land given to them
by God? If it is Gods will then what can you do. If it is notGods will
then they will be gone. Why all the hate?
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A: even if you think jerusalem belongs to them where in the world does
haffa come in or yaffa or gaza and why are they trying to build near
my citya whole two hours away from jeruslam why do theykill people to
force them out of homes why do they kill children which have no say in
what they do where they are they kill women that cant even defend
themselves even if you do belive jerusalem belongs to them trying to
occupy every other city in palestine isnt within their rights i dont
belive it belongs to them im just making a point but you have never
seen real footage or in real life them killing somone so you cant
really understand how violent it gets at least the palestinians wage a
fair war ad refuse to kill civillians and like men theyattack real
soilders but they are dirty cheaters thatkill civillians and put kids
throwing rocks in jail my uncle was 15 when he wasin jail for throwing
a rock at least he wasent from those who were killed for sleeping in
their house at night you only see what the media puts out their when
you see it and expirence it in real life you will understand.
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ISLAMIC ARTICLE :- ~ Benefits of Dates

Muslims generally break their fast by eating dates. Prophet Muhammad
(Pbuh) is reported tohave said: "if anyone of you is fasting, let him
break his fast with dates. In case he does not have them, then with
water. Verily water is a purifier."
The Prophet used to break his fast by eating some dates before
offering Maghrib prayer, and if ripe dates were not available, he used
to substitute them with some dried grapes. When they too were not
available, he used to have a few sips of water, according to some
reports. Modern science has proved that dates are part of a healthy
diet. They contain sugar, fat and proteins, as well as important
vitamins. Hence the great importance attached to them by the Prophet.
Dates are also rich in natural fibres. Modern medicine has shown that
they are effective in preventing abdominal cancer. They also surpass
other fruits in the sheer variety of their constituents. They contain
oil, calcium, sulphur, iron, potassium,phosphorous, manganese, copper
and magnesium. In other words, one date is a minimum ofa balanced and
healthy diet. Arabs usually combine dates withmilk and yogurt or
bread, butter and fish. This combination indeed makes a
self-sufficient and tasty diet for both mind and body. Dates and date
palms have been mentioned in the Holy Qur'an 20 times, thus showing
their importance. The Prophet likened a good Muslim to the date palm,
saying, "Among trees, there is a tree like a Muslim. Its leaves do not
fall."
Sayyidah Mariam (the Virgin Mary) mother of Jesus (Pbuh) haddates as
her food when she felt labour pains and during confinement. They are
definitely the "crown of sweets," and ideal food which is easy to
digest, and within half an hour of taking it, the tired body regains a
renewedvigour. The reason for this is thata shortage of sugar in the
blood is the main factor that makes people feel hungry and not an
empty stomach as is often assumed. When the body absorbs the
nutritional essence of a few dates, the feeling of hunger becomes
appeased. When one breaking the fast with dates takes some other food
afterwards, he cannot eat much. It would seem that breaking the fast
with dates then helps one avoid excessive eating.
Experiments have also shown that dates contain some stimulants that
strengthen the muscles of the uterus in the last months of pregnancy.
This helps the dilation of the uterus at the time of delivery on one
hand andreduces the bleeding after delivery on the other. Dieticians
consider dates as the best food for women in confinement and those who
are breast-feeding. This is because dates contain elements that assist
in alleviating depression in mothers and enriching the breast-milk
with all the elements needed to make thechild healthy and resistant to
disease. The Prophet (Pbuh) has emphasized the importance of dates and
their effectiveness in the growth of the fetus. He has also
recommended they be givento women. Modern dietary institute now
recommend dates to be given to children suffering from a nervous
nature or hyperactivity. The Prophet (Pbuh)has also recommended dates
as a medicine for heart troubles, according to some reports. Modern
science has also proved the effectiveness of date, in preventing
diseases of the respiratory system.
Sayyidah Ayisha, (R.A.) wife of Prophet (Pbuh), used to prescribe
dates for those suffering from giddiness. It is now well known that a
fall in the level of the sugar in the blood and low blood pressure are
among the causes of giddiness. She was also reported to have used
dates combined with cucumber to treat her over-slim condition! She
said, "they've triedto fatten me giving me everything. But I did not
become fat. Then they fattened me with cucumber and ripe dates and I
gained!" Ayisha was quite correct, as we now know that one kilogram
of dates contains nearly 3,000 calories which aloneare sufficient to
supply the minimum daily requirements of an active man for one full
day.
Dates are rich in several vitamins and minerals. When the level of
trace elements falls in the body, the health of the blood vessels is
affected leading to an increased heart-rate and a consequent inability
to perform its function with normal efficiency. As dates are also rich
in calcium, they help strengthen the bones. When the calcium content
in the body decreases, children are affected with rickets and the
bones of adults become brittle and weak.
Dates are also important in keeping up the health of eyes. It is quite
effective in guarding against night-blindness. In the early years of
Islam, dates served as food for Muslim warriors.

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ISLAMIC ARTICLE :- ~ Benefits of Honey

The honey bee exhibits a combination of individual traits and social
co-operation which is unparalleled in the animal kingdom. A glimpse
into the nest makes it apparent why honey bees have fascinated us from
theearliest days of scientific observations. The infrastructure of the
nest, the perfectly uniform and functional comb, is composed of
beeswax and is constructed into a repeating series of almost perfect
hexagonal cells.
At the individual level, honey beeshave not one but three types of
colony members: queens, dronesand workers, each with their own
specialisations and place in honey bee society. The queen reigns over
the nest, surrounded by attendants and fed the rich food she requires
to perform herfew but crucial tasks in the colony. The queen produces
powerful pheromones, chemical signals to recipient workers which
control many of their behaviours and provide part of the 'social glue'
which holds honey bee life together. A highly organised social
structure exists within the colony and elaborate 'dances' are used to
communicate the location of food sources.
The products of the hive are important to the modern agricultural
system. Not only do honey bees provide us with honey, wax, propolis,
royal jelly and pollen but they also pollinate a good portion of our
crops, including such diverse agricultural plants as fruit trees,
oilseeds, small berries and foragecrops.
Honey is a remarkable viscous liquid, prepared by the bees fromthe
nectars of various plants. It has occupied a prominent place in
traditional medicines throughout world history. The ancient Egyptians,
Assyrians, Chinese, Greeks and Romans employed honey for wounds
anddiseases of the gut. When the Children of Israel were in Egypt or
journeying through the desert, their promised goal was a 'land flowing
with milk and honey' .
Both the holy Qur'an and Hadith refer to honey as a healer of disease.
'And thy Lord taught the bee to build its cells in hills, on trees
andin (men's) habitations..... there issues from within their bodies
adrink of varying colours, whereinis healing for mankind. Verily in
this is a Sign for those who give thought'.
(Translation of Quran 16:68-69)
In addition, the Prophet (PBUH) said:
'Honey is a remedy for every illness and the Qur'an is a remedy for
all illness of the mind, therefore I recommend to you both remedies,
the Qur'an and honey.'
(Bukhari)
The reader may be surprised to learn that the above quotation from the
Qur'an is mentioned in a well known encyclopedia on honey (reference
3).
In recent years, scientific supportis beginning to emerge confirming
the beneficial effects of honey on certain medical and surgical
conditions. These effectsmay be summarised as follows:
Antibacterial and antifungal properties
These properties of honey are well established. Undiluted
honeyinhibits the growth of bacteria such as Staphylococcus aureus ,
certain gut pathogens and fungi such as Candida albicans . At a
concentration of 30-50%, honey has been shown to be superior to
certain conventional antibiotics in treating urinary tract infections.
The exact mechanism of the anti-microbial effect of honey remains
obscure. Low pH, osmotic disruption of pathogens and the
presence of bactericidal substances, collectively called inhibine may
all play a part.
Anti-diarrhoeal properties
At a concentration of 40%, honeyhas a bactericidal effect on various
gut bacteria known to cause diarrhoea and dysentery such as Salmonella
, Shigella , enteropathogenic E. coli and Vibrio cholera . In one
study, honey given with oral rehydration fluid was shown to reduce the
duration of bacterial diarrhoea in infants and children.
Wound-healing and anti-inflammatory properties
Honey is of value in treating burns, infected surgical wounds and
decubitus ulcers. Honey is very viscous, enabling it to absorb water
from surrounding inflamed tissue. For example, a study in West Africa
showed that skin grafting, surgical debridement and even amputation
were avoided when local application of honey to wound promoted
healing, whereas conventional treatment failed.
In another study, wound healing was accelerated by application ofhoney
in women who had undergone radical vulvectomy forvulval cancer. Also,
it has been suggested that honey may be useful in the treatment of
chronic, foul smelling ulcers seen in leprosy.
Anti-tussive and expectorant properties
These anti-cough properties of honey are related to its capacity to
dilute bronchial secretions andimprove the function of the bronchial
epithelium.

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News - China's first female astronaut meets media

China launches spaceship with first female astronaut
2012-06-16 10:55:19 GMT 2012-06-16 18:55:19(Beijing Time) Xinhua English
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The Long March 2F rocket carrying the manned spacecraft Shenzhou IX
blasts off from the launch pad at the Jiuquan Satellite Launch Center
in Northwest China's Gansu Province on June 16, 2012.[Photo by Su Dong
/ For Chinadaily.com.cn]
JIUQUAN, June 16 (Xinhua) -- China launched SaturdayShenzhou-9
spacecraft with the country's first female astronaut aboard.
Shenzhou-9, atop an upgraded Long March-2F carrier rocket, blast off
from the Jiuquan Satellite Launch Center in northwestern China at 6:37
p.m. Saturday.
A see-off ceremony was held at the center hours before the launch. Wu
Bangguo, the country's top legislator, attended the ceremony and
extended wishes to the three astronauts.
"The country and the people are looking forward to your successful
return," he said.
The first Chinese woman in space Liu Yang, 33, is joined by commanding
officer Jing Haipeng and Liu Wang, who has been selected as an
astronaut trainee since January 1998.
Main tasks of the Shenzhou-9 mission include the manual docking
procedure conducted between the Shenzhou-9 and the orbiting space lab
module Tiangong-1.
China succeeded in the automated rendezvous and docking between
unmanned Shenzhou-8 spacecraft and Tiangong-1last year.
A successful manual docking will demonstrate a grasp of essential
space rendezvous and docking know-how, a big step in the country's
manned space program to build a space station around 2020.
Liu, a People's Liberation Army (PLA) major, was a PLA Air Force pilot
with 1,680 hours of flying experience and deputy head of a military
flight unit before being recruitedas an astronaut candidate in May
2010.
After two years of training, which shored up her astronautic skills
and adaptability to space environment, Liu excelled in testing and was
selected in March this year as a candidate for the Shenzhou-9 manned
spacemission.
"Female astronauts generally have better durability, psychological
stability and ability to dealwith loneliness," Wu Ping, spokeswoman
for China's manned space program, said.
More than 50 female astronauts from seven countries have gone into
space to date. The longest space flight by female astronauts lasted
188 days.

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Aishah bint-e-Abu Bakr [Radhiallaahu Anha]

The life of Aishah is proof that a woman can be far more learned than
men and that she can be the teacher of scholars and experts. Her life
is also proof that a woman can exert influenceover men and women and
provide them with inspiration and leadership. Her life is also proof
that the same woman can be totally feminine and be a source of
pleasure, joy and comfort to her husband.
She did not graduate from any university there were no universities as
such in her day. But still her utterances are studied in faculties of
literature, her legal pronouncements are studied in colleges of law
and her life and works are studied and researched by students and
teachers of Muslim history as they have been for over a thousand
years.
The bulk of her vast treasure of knowledge was obtained while she was
still quite young. In her early childhood she was brought up by her
father who was greatlyliked and respected for he was a man of wide
knowledge, gentle manners and an agreeable presence. Moreover he was
the closest friend of the noble Prophet who was a frequent visitor to
their home since the very early days of his mission.
In her youth, already known for her striking beauty and her formidable
memory, she came under the loving care and attention of the Prophet
[sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] himself. As his wife and close
companion, she acquired from him knowledge and insight such as no
woman has ever acquired.
Aishah became the Prophet's wife in Makkah when she was most likely in
the tenth year of her life but her wedding did not take place until
the second year after the Hijrah when she was about fourteen or
fifteen years old. Before and after her wedding she maintained a
natural jollity and innocence and did not seem at all overawed by the
thought of being wedded to him who was the Messenger of God whom all
his companions, including her own mother and father, treated with such
love and reverence as they gave to noone else.
About her wedding, she related that shortly before she was to leave
her parent's house, she slipped out into the courtyard to play with a
passing friend:
"I was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming hair was
dishevelled," she said. "They cameand took me from my play and made me
ready."
They dressed her in a wedding-dress made from fine red-striped cloth
from Bahrain and then her mother took her to the newly-built house
where some women of the Ansar werewaiting outside the door. They
greeted her with the words"For good and for happiness may all be
well!" Then, in the presence of the smiling Prophet, a bowl of milk
was brought. The Prophet drank from it himself and offered it to
Aishah. She shyly declined it butwhen he insisted she did so andthen
offered the bowl to her sister Asma who was sitting beside her. Others
also drank ofit and that was as much as there was of the simple and
solemn occasion of their wedding. There was no wedding feast.
Marriage to the Prophet did not change her playful ways. Her young
friends came regularly to visit her in her own apartment.
"I would be playing with my dolls," she said, "with the girls who were
my friends, and the Prophet would come in and they would slip out of
the house and he would go out after them and bring them back, for he
was pleased for my sake to have themthere." Sometimes he would
say"Stay where you are" before they had time to leave, and would
alsojoin in their games. Aishah said:"One day, the Prophet came in
when I was playing with the dolls and he said: 'O Aishah, whatever
game is this?' 'It is Solomon's horses,' I said and he laughed."
Sometimes as he came in he would screen himself with his cloak so as
not to disturb Aishah and her friends.
Aishah's early life in Madinah alsohad its more serious and
anxioustimes. Once her father and two companions who were staying with
him fell ill with a dangerous fever which was common in Madinah at
certain seasons. One morning Aishah went to visit himand was dismayed
to find the three men lying completely weak and exhausted. She asked
her father how he was and he answered her in verse but she did not
understand what he was saying. The two others also answered her with
lines of poetry which seemed to her to be nothing but unintelligible
babbling. She was deeply troubled and went home to the Prophet saying:
"They are raving, out of their minds, through the heat of the fever."
The Prophet asked what they had said and was somewhat reassured when
she repeated almost word for word the lines they had uttered and which
made sense although she did not fully understand them then.

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Thankfulness Towards Allah

"That is because Allah will never change the grace which He hath
bestowed on a people until they change what is in their (own) souls"
{Soorah al-Anfal (8):53}
This is one of the ways in which Allah deals with His servants, for He
made the condition of people directly related to their belief. If they
change their belief, Allaah will change their condition. Allah will
replace their security with fear, and their sustenance. And security
and sustenance are two Allah's greatest graces. Allah says in the
Quraan: "So let them worship Allah the Lord of this House (the Kaaba)
Who provides them with food against hunger and with security against
fear (of danger)" {Soorah Quraish (106:3-4)}
Suhaib ibn Sinan narrated that the Prophet said: "How remarkable is
the case of the believer! There is good for him in everything, but
this is not thecase for anyone except for the believer. When the
believer receives any good, he is thankful to Allah, and gets a
reward. And when some misfortune befalls him, he endures it patiently,
for which he is (also) rewarded." {Fiqh as-Sunnah, vol.4, p.1.}
What is Thankfulness?
In Islamic terminology, Thankfulness is the acknowledgment of the fact
that Allah is the only Grantor of graces, and full submission to Allah
in a way that assures that acknowledgment. The graces (favors) of
Allah are endless and countless. Allah says in His Book: "And if you
were to count the blessings of Allah, you will never be able to count
them." {Soorah Ibrahim (14): 34}
He, the All Mighty also says: "And whatever blessings and good you
have, it is from Allaah .." {Soorah an-Nahl, (16): 53}
How can a servant (Abd) thank Allaah? {The word 'slaves' represents
mankind, for all of mankind are expected to totally submit to the will
of Allah}The servant can thank Allaah in many ways. These include:
1. Prostrating to Allah, when theservant receives a blessing from
Allaah or when Allah saves him from a disaster. The Messenger of
Allaah (salallahu alaihi wasallam) used to prostrate to Allah whenever
he received a pleasant thing or was told good news. This prostration
is conducted for the sole purpose of giving thanks to Allaah, the
Granter of the grace and benefit that the servant received. [see Fiqh
as-Sunnah by Sayyid Sabiq (English trans.) vol.2, p.45]
Abdur-Rahman ibn 'Auf relates that the Messenger of Allah (sallaahu
alayhi wasallam) went out once and he followed him until he entered a
grove of palm trees and prostrated. His prostration was so long that
'Abdur-Rahman feared that Allah had taken his soul. 'Abdur-Rahman came
to look at him and he raised his head and said:"What is wrong,
Abdur-Rahman'?" Abdur rahman mentioned what had happened, and he
(sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "Gibra'el came to me and said:
'Shall I not give you glad tidings'? Allah says to you, Whoever prays
upon you, I prayupon him. Whoever salutes you, I salute him.'
Therefore, I prostrated to Allah in thanks." {This is related by Ahmad
and by Al-Haakim who says: "It is sahih according to the criterion of
al-Bukhari and Muslim}
2. Thanking Allah in words: The majority of the scholars agreed that
if the servant does not thankAllaah for the grace he has, then that
grace will go away and may never come back. Allah's Messenger
(sallaahu alayhi wasallam) said: "It is a fine thingwhen a believer
praises and thanks Allah if good comes to him, and praises Allah and
shows endurance if smitten by affliction. The believer is rewarded for
everything, even for the morsel he raises to his wife's mouth."
{Bayhaqi transmitted it in Shu'ab al-Iman. Sunan at-Tirmidhi no.1733
See also Saheeh Muslim (7138)}
3. Talking about the benefits Allah has granted him. This is because
concealing the benefits of Allah is ungrateful. Allaah says in the
Quraan: "Do they believe in the false deities and deny the favor of
Allaah." {Soorah an-Nahl (16):72}
Ibn Katheer commented that denying the favors of Allah means hiding
his grants and/or relating them to others than Allah.
Narrated by Zaid bin Khalid Al Juhani : The Prophet led us in theFajr
prayer at Hudaibiya after a rainy night. On completion of the prayer,
he faced the people and said, "Do you know what your Lord has said
(revealed)?" The people replied, "Allah and His Apostle know better."
He said, "Allah has said, 'In this morning some of my slaves remained
as true believers and some became non-believers; whoever said that the
rain was due to the Blessings and the Mercy of Allah had belief in Me
and he disbelieves in the stars, and whoever said that it
rainedbecause of a particular star hadno belief in Me but believes in
that star." {Saheeh al-Bukhari (1:807)}

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The Wedding of Fatima (r) An Example of How Simple the Nikah

Fatimah (RA) was the youngest daughter of our beloved Prophet (SAWS).
Out of all the children, he was the most beloved to him. He said, 'The
Queen of the ladies in Jannat is Faatimah.' He also said, 'Faatimah is
part of my body. Whoever grieves her, grieves me.'
When Faatimah (RA) reached the age of fifteen, proposals for her
marriage began to come from high and responsible families. But the
Prophet (SAWS) remainedirresponsive.
Ali (RA), who was 21 at the time, says: It occurred to me that I
should go and make a formal proposal, but then I thought, 'How could
this be accomplished,for I possess nothing.' At last, encouraged by
the Prophet's kindness, I went to him and expressed my intention to
marry Faatima (Radhiyallaahu Anha). The Prophet (SAWS) was extremely
pleased and asked, 'Ali!Do you possess anything to give her in Mahr?'
I replied, 'Apart from a horse and an armour I possess nothing.'
The Prophet (SAWS) said, 'A soldier must, of course, have his horse.
Go and sell away your armour.'
So, Ali (RA) went and sold his armour to Uthmaan (RA) for 480 Dirham
and presented it to Rasulullah (SAWS). Bilaal (RA) was ordered by the
Prophet (SAWS) tobring some perfume and a few other things and Anas
(RA) was sent to call Abu Bakr, Uthmaan, Talhah, Zubayr with some
companions from the Ansaar (Radhiallaahu Anhum).
When these men arrived and hadtaken their seats, the Prophet (SAWS)
recited the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikaah and gave Faatimah (RA) in
marriage to Ali (RA). He announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have
given my daughter Faatimah in marriage to Ali for 400 Mithqaal of
silver and Ali has accepted.' He then raised his head and made Dua
saying, 'O Allah, create love and harmony between these two. Bless
them and bestow upon them good children.' after the Nikaah, dates were
distributed.
When the time came for Faatimah (RA) to go to Ali's (RA) house, she
was sent without any clamour, hue and cry accompanied Umm Ayman (RA).
After the ةesha Salaat, the Prophet (SAWS) went to their house, took
permission and entered. He asked for a basin of water, put his blessed
hands intoit and sprinkled it on both Ali (RA) and Faatimah (RA) and
madeDua for them.
The sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved daughter a silver
bracelet, two Yemeni sheets, four mattresses, one blanket, one pillow,
one cup, one hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin and
a leather pitcher.
In this simple fashion, the wedding of the daughter of the leader of
the worlds was solemnised. In following this Sunnah method, a wedding
becomes very simple and easy to fulfill.
SOME METHODS DERIVED FROM THE ABOVEMENTIONED MARRIAGE
*. "Engagements" are contrary to the Sunnah. A verbal proposal and
answer is sufficient.
*. To unnecessarily delay Nikah ofboth the boy and the girl after
having reached the age of marriage is incorrect. (Note: But on the
other hand, some parents pray day and night endlessly for a quick
marriage to a good-looking, highly educated, well-off person who comes
from a grand family of great repute...in the case of a groom, a groom
with a high-flying job, etc. The minute we find such a groom or
bride,we jump to grab him/her. But how many of us spend sleepless
nights praying not fora speedy grand marriage but a marriage which is
filled with love, happiness, blessings and piety?)
*. There is nothing wrong in inviting one's close associates for the
occasion of Nikah. However, no special pains should be taken in
gathering the people from far off places. (Note: The money could
instead be spent in charity, to gain the blessings of the poor.)
*. It is appropriate that the bridegroom be a few years older than the
bride. (Note: TheProphet's first marriage was toKhadija, who was 15
years older than him. She was a widower and he was a virgin. They were
so happy together that he did not remarry until she passed away, even
though polygamy was widely practisedduring that time - before the
advent of Islam)
*. If the father of the girl is an Aalim or pious and capable of
performing Nikah, then he should himself solemnise the marriage.
*. It is better to give the Mahr Faatimi and one should endeavour to
do so. But if one does not have the means then there is nothing wrong
in giving less. (Note: The dowry isan obligation upon the groom's
family, not the bride's family!)
*. It is totally un-Islamic for those,who do not possess the means, to
incur debts in order to have grandiose weddings. (Note: On the
contrary, weddings are arranged on such a grand basis that often
parents cannot perform obligatory acts like Hajj for the next few
years because they lack funds, which were spent on the weddings of
their children)

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Trinity is denied in the Qur’an

People of the Book. Do not go to excess in your religion. Say nothing
butthe truth about Allah. The Messiah, Jesus son of Maryam, was only
the Messenger of Allah and His Word, which He cast into Maryam, and a
Spiritfrom Him. So believe in Allah and His Messengers. Do not
say:"Three." It is better that you stop. Allah is only One God. He is
too glorious to have a son! Everything in the heavens and in Earth
belongs to Him. Allah suffices as a Guardian. The Messiah would never
disdain to be a servant to Allah, nor would the angels near toHim. If
any disdain to worship Him and grow arrogant, He will, in any case,
gather them all to Him. (Surat an-Nisa': 171-72)
Those who say that the Messiah, son of Maryam, is Allah are
unbelievers. The Messiah said: "Tribe of Israel. Worship Allah, my
Lord and your Lord. Ifanyone associates anything with Allah, Allah has
forbidden him the Garden and his refuge will be the Fire." The
wrongdoers will have no helpers. (Surat al-Ma'ida: 72)
Those who say: "Allah is the Messiah, son of Maryam," do not
believe.Say: "Who possesses anypower at all over Allah if He desires
to destroy theMessiah, son of Mary, and his mother, and everyone else
on Earth?" The kingdom of the heavens and Earth, and everything
between them, belongs to Allah. He creates whatever He wills. Allah
has power over all things. (Surat al-Ma'ida: 17)
And when Allah asks:"Jesus son of Maryam! Did you say to people: 'Take
me and my motheras deities besides Allah?'" He will respond:"Glory be
to You! It is notfor me to say what I have no right to say! If I had
said it, You would have known it. You know what is in my self, but I
do not know what is in Your Self. You are the Knower of all
unseenthings." (Surat al-Ma'ida: 116)
He [Jesus] said: "I am theservant of Allah. He has given me the Book
and made me a Prophet. He has made me blessed wherever I am and
directed me to perform prayer and give the almsas long as I live…"
(SurahMaryam: 30-31)
It is not right for any human being that Allah should give him the
Book and Judgment and Prophethood, and then that he should say to
people: "Worship me rather than Allah." Rather, he will say: "Be
people of the Lord because of your knowledge of the Book, and because
you study." (Surah Al 'Imran: 79)
The Messiah, the son of Maryam, was only a Messenger, before whom
other Messengerscame and went. His mother was a woman of truth. Both
of them ate food. See how We make the signs clear to them! Then see
how they are perverted! (Surat al-Ma'ida, 75)
We sent no Messenger before you without revealing to him: 'There is no
god but Me, so worship Me.' They say, 'The All-Merciful has a son.'
Glory be to Him! No, they are honored servants! They do not precede
Him in speech and they act on His command. He knows what is in front
of them and what is behind them. They only intercede on behalf of
those with whom He is pleased, and even they are apprehensive out of
fear of Him. Were any of them to say, 'I am a god apart from Him,' We
would repay him with Hell. That is how We repay wrongdoers. (Surat
al-Anbiya', 25-29)

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Very old news - - BIG BAD WOLF CARTOON AD(1934)

This newspaper ad for weekend dates for the cartoon short Big Bad Wolf
(1934), the sequel to Three Little Pigs (1933), is on sale in ebay
(for 25 US drs). It's from a local US newspaper titled Bellingham
Herald and is dated June 2, 1934.
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Labels: BIG BAD WOLF (1934) , newspaper ads
Sunday, 28 August 2011

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HADEES - ~

Aisha (radi Allahu anha) asked: "O Messenger of Allah! During the
Jaahiliya, Ibn Jad'aan used to uphold the ties of kinship and feedthe
poor; will that benefit him at all?" The Messenger of Allah (sal
Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied: "It will not be of any benefit to
him, because he never said a single day, 'O Lord, forgive me my sins
on the Day of Judgement.'" [Muslim]
"And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, itwill never be
accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers."
[Quran: Surah Aal-e-Imraan, Ayat 85]
For deeds to be considered "good" by Allah, they must have been done
for Him, seeking His pleasure and fearing His punishment. Otherwise,
the world may consider those deeds as "good" but they will carry no
weight with Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala).
Suppose you employed a gardener, but the gardenerspent all his time
working for your neighbour. Your neighbour's garden bloomed while
yours overflowed with weeds. Would you feel like paying his salary at
the end of the month?

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