It was interesting to see the Muslim women in Oprah's audience appeal
to the ideals of pluralism and civil liberties in defense of their
visibility and difference. However, when Queen Rania of Jordan
appeared via satellite, there was a murmur in the audience and some of
the Muslim women said that the Queen should be covered. Is it possible
that Muslims think it is acceptable to use civil liberties to practice
their truth, but if given the power to decide, they will coerce others
to wear and do what Muslims want? These kinds of questions are far
more pressing. We have to create internal debates about liberties,
democracy and the need for various efforts of interpretation within
the Muslim communities. Such debates should replace the non-issues of
dress codes and small edict matters in mainstream Muslim communities.
We can no longer afford to have the scarf as the core of the debateon
Islam, nor as the symbol by which the level of a Muslim woman's piety
or commitment to Islam is measured. We can no longer afford to have
every opportunity and discussion aboutIslam turn into a conversation
on dressing, nor can we afford as Muslim women, in our communities, to
be judged and awarded degrees and ranks of religiosity according to
the level ofthe dress code we abide by. The darker the color the
better, the bigger the garment the more pious. The race of ranking
morallyhigh through fabric has no end ina path where the Taliban model
seems to be the only logical conclusion. It makes more sense to judge
women on matters relating to the basic tenets of Islam: regular
prayer, fasting, paying alms. But even such things were not acceptable
to the Prophet as criteria for assessing aperson. When one of his
companions praised another companion, the Prophet said to him it was
not enough to see him going up and down in prayer at the Mosque. The
Prophet asked him: Have you traveled with him? Have you seen him
angry? Have you dealt with him in matters of money?
When people are not noble enough to resort to the Prophetic method of
assessing a person, I try to bring them back to the basic
requirements, without getting lost in juristic and historical details,
by citing the story of the Bedouin man who came to the Prophet and
asked him what makes a good Muslim. The Prophet then listed for him
the five tenets of Islam, while the Bedouin was saying, at each tenet,
he would do it, but would not do more, nor less. After the Bedouin
left, the Prophet said, "The Bedouin will succeed if he is truthful."
Interestingly, an African American woman in the "after show" segment
asked precisely about this, how the list of the basic commands and
prohibitions of Islam, which the show presented at the beginning, did
not deal with the scarf, and I guess for her,did not reflect the level
of Muslims'obsession with it. But it is not enough to have such
questions thrown at us from others. Muslim women need to start
thinking for themselves and learn the difference between a command and
what a social practice open todifferent interpretations.
The challenge, however, is that most Muslim women are not equipped to
stand up and providean alternative juristic view of the matter, and
the scholars who do are not willing to discuss it in public out of
concerns of inflaming Muslim sensitivities about an issue which they,
and rightly so, believe is not a pressingone. Even those who are brave
enough to dissent like Jamal Al-Banna face rejection and opposition
from mainstream Muslims, despite being a scholar whose views are
rooted within traditional Islam.
The centrality of the scarf reduces Islam to a piece of garment and
places Muslims perpetually on the defensive explanatory panel.
De-centralizing and de-romanticizing the scarf, I am afraid, is fast
becoming increasingly urgent and necessary. The recent fatwas are
revealing. The scholars would not ask Muslim women or men, to
compromise easily in something they believed to be a core command of
Islam. The events of the last week have, it seems, started to urge us
to rethink our priorities and what defines being Muslim. This is in
itself a big step.
However, for the moment, until those who are politically and
juristically mature and sophisticated want to discuss thismatter
openly without getting bogged down by the many implications and
problems it will raise, we will remain hostage to the centrality of
the scarf. And until something is done, we will be stuck with the rosy
and romanticized views of the sweet Muslim ladies on Oprah's show and
forever caught up in the centrality of the scarf.
For eternity the question will not be for us, Muslims, why our
youngmen are turning themselves and others into bombs, or why we do
not have democracy in Muslim societies, or whether American foreign
policy is based on principles of equality and liberty for all. The
question will be, it seems, for a long time: To veil or not to veil.
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Wednesday, May 23, 2012
ADVISE:- ~Wahb ibn al-Munabbih’s profound advice:
"O my son, do not argue with the learned ones such lest you become
lowly in their sight and thus they reject you . Do not dispute with
the foolish lest they in turn harm you and insult you. Indeed, the one
who reaches the rank of the scholars is he who bears patience and sees
their point of view . And indeed, the one who is saved from the
foolishis he who holds his tongue and remains silent from them. Don't
ever think that by arguing with the faqih (scholar), you will gain
anything except increasing his anger and making him accustomed to
that. Let it never bethe case that in your attempt to protect yourself
from small matters which you hear , you thenfall into great matters
which you dislike. Do not expose yourself for the sake of gratifying
your anger , and if an ignorant person harms you then let your
forbearance benefit you . If you are someone who does good only when
good is done to him, then what is your reward , and what is your
virtue over others ? Surely, if you wish for reward and virtue, then
do good to the one who does you harm , forgive the one who has wronged
you, benefit the one who brings you no benefit and wait for the reward
of all that from Allah , for that is surely the complete righteous
good deed which a person would not want to be merely rewarded for in
this lowly world (i.e. he would want his reward to be in the
Hereafter)."
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lowly in their sight and thus they reject you . Do not dispute with
the foolish lest they in turn harm you and insult you. Indeed, the one
who reaches the rank of the scholars is he who bears patience and sees
their point of view . And indeed, the one who is saved from the
foolishis he who holds his tongue and remains silent from them. Don't
ever think that by arguing with the faqih (scholar), you will gain
anything except increasing his anger and making him accustomed to
that. Let it never bethe case that in your attempt to protect yourself
from small matters which you hear , you thenfall into great matters
which you dislike. Do not expose yourself for the sake of gratifying
your anger , and if an ignorant person harms you then let your
forbearance benefit you . If you are someone who does good only when
good is done to him, then what is your reward , and what is your
virtue over others ? Surely, if you wish for reward and virtue, then
do good to the one who does you harm , forgive the one who has wronged
you, benefit the one who brings you no benefit and wait for the reward
of all that from Allah , for that is surely the complete righteous
good deed which a person would not want to be merely rewarded for in
this lowly world (i.e. he would want his reward to be in the
Hereafter)."
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ISLAMIC ARTICLE :- ~ The Power of Persistence
Here's a true story about the power of persistence:
Once, many years ago, I arrived in San Francisco on a warm July day
with no friends, no contacts and only a little money in my pocket. I
needed work. What I did have was confidence. I had been through some
very hard times, and had learned to fight for what I wanted, and not
to accept "no" for an answer.
I met a fellow who was a courier and he suggested that I try it. He
gave me the names of some courier companies. I visited several and
filled out applications, but there was one company in particular that
I liked. It seemed well outfitted and professionally run. I spoke to
the human resources manager and he told me that they did not need
anyone but that I should check back inseveral months. "Summertime is
slow here," he said. "Try us in fall."
I came back early the next morning. I couldn't wait until autumn, and
I wasn't interested insitting around and hoping for someone to look at
my applicationand call me. I knew they had stacks of applications in
filing drawers. I had decided where I wanted to work, and all that
remained was for them to accept my reality.
The HR manager said, "Weren't you here yesterday and I told you we
don't need anyone?" I said yes, but I thought maybe someone might call
in sick and they could use me just for the day.The HR manager gave me
an appraising look and said, "No, nothing like that. Why don't you
come back in a month?"
I came back the next day. This time the HR man smiled and said, "I'll
tell you what, come back in one week."
I came back the next day. It was a Thursday. The HR man rolled his
eyes in exasperation and said, "Listen. Come back on Monday and I'll
see what I can do."
I came back the next day, Friday. He gave me a job starting that day.
I worked for that company for five years and got promoted twice.
That's a true story.
I know it's harder nowadays with the economy in shambles. I'm not
guaranteeing that you can get a job by following these tips. But it
will certainly help your chances, Insha'Allah. And if you take that
same persistence and apply it to every endeavor in your life, I
believe you will find that even mountains will crumble before you.
And Allah knows best.
I'm really not a fan of Madison Avenue's ubiquitous ad messages,but
there was a Nike ad that I sawonce that really resonated for me. In
fact I tore it out of the magazine and pasted it up on the wall, right
beside my bed. It said:
All your life you are told the things you cannot do. All your life
they will say you're not goodenough or strong enough or talented
enough; they will say you're the wrong height or the wrong weight or
the wrong typeto play this or be this or achieve this. THEY WILL TELL
YOU NO, a thousand times no, until all the no's become meaningless.
All your life they will tell you no, quite firmly and very quickly.
AND YOU WILL TELL THEM YES.
May Allah help all of you and provide for you and your families.
(O Allah), Guide us to the straightpath; The path of those whom you
have favored; Not those with whom you are angry; Nor those who go
astray.
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Once, many years ago, I arrived in San Francisco on a warm July day
with no friends, no contacts and only a little money in my pocket. I
needed work. What I did have was confidence. I had been through some
very hard times, and had learned to fight for what I wanted, and not
to accept "no" for an answer.
I met a fellow who was a courier and he suggested that I try it. He
gave me the names of some courier companies. I visited several and
filled out applications, but there was one company in particular that
I liked. It seemed well outfitted and professionally run. I spoke to
the human resources manager and he told me that they did not need
anyone but that I should check back inseveral months. "Summertime is
slow here," he said. "Try us in fall."
I came back early the next morning. I couldn't wait until autumn, and
I wasn't interested insitting around and hoping for someone to look at
my applicationand call me. I knew they had stacks of applications in
filing drawers. I had decided where I wanted to work, and all that
remained was for them to accept my reality.
The HR manager said, "Weren't you here yesterday and I told you we
don't need anyone?" I said yes, but I thought maybe someone might call
in sick and they could use me just for the day.The HR manager gave me
an appraising look and said, "No, nothing like that. Why don't you
come back in a month?"
I came back the next day. This time the HR man smiled and said, "I'll
tell you what, come back in one week."
I came back the next day. It was a Thursday. The HR man rolled his
eyes in exasperation and said, "Listen. Come back on Monday and I'll
see what I can do."
I came back the next day, Friday. He gave me a job starting that day.
I worked for that company for five years and got promoted twice.
That's a true story.
I know it's harder nowadays with the economy in shambles. I'm not
guaranteeing that you can get a job by following these tips. But it
will certainly help your chances, Insha'Allah. And if you take that
same persistence and apply it to every endeavor in your life, I
believe you will find that even mountains will crumble before you.
And Allah knows best.
I'm really not a fan of Madison Avenue's ubiquitous ad messages,but
there was a Nike ad that I sawonce that really resonated for me. In
fact I tore it out of the magazine and pasted it up on the wall, right
beside my bed. It said:
All your life you are told the things you cannot do. All your life
they will say you're not goodenough or strong enough or talented
enough; they will say you're the wrong height or the wrong weight or
the wrong typeto play this or be this or achieve this. THEY WILL TELL
YOU NO, a thousand times no, until all the no's become meaningless.
All your life they will tell you no, quite firmly and very quickly.
AND YOU WILL TELL THEM YES.
May Allah help all of you and provide for you and your families.
(O Allah), Guide us to the straightpath; The path of those whom you
have favored; Not those with whom you are angry; Nor those who go
astray.
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ISLAMIC ARTICLE :- ~ What’s Your Legacy?
"Who are you? What makes you special? What is the legacy that you've
built and shared with others (self, family, community and the world)?
If we died today, what would our obituaries say? What have we done for
GOD and GOD's people lately? What is our mission and vision, and are
we living it? If we died today, what would our obituaries say?" –
Hanan K. Bilal
This is what it's all about. I heard someone say recently that only
two things can happen with the wealth you accumulate in this life:
either it leaves you, or you leave it.Wealth is not a legacy. Having
fun is not a legacy. Helping a companyto sell useless products is not
a legacy.
Making a difference in the lives of human beings, relieving the
suffering of even one person, raising righteous and happy children,
leaving behind knowledge that benefits people, making the world a
better place, those are legacies.
I have not met the sister who is quoted at the top, but I have read
some of her writings. Whenever I hear her name I think of being
responsible, taking care of my family, loving my children and bringing
them up right, making a difference in the community, following my
dreams… that is a legacy. She has already created a vital legacy.
I have another friend whose name is Ismail. He is so humble
ma-sha-Allah, and as a friend he isthe most discreet and
closed-mouthed person I know, by which I mean he never speaks badly
about anyone else, and never reveals anyone's secrets or violates
their trust. When I think of him, I am inspired to emulate him. That
is his legacy, and it's an important and valuable one.
More than twenty years ago I knew a brother named Qawiy. His life was
hard, but every time I methim he'd give me a big smile and an
enthusiastic handshake. He wore a kufi and carried a folded musalla
(prayer rug) on his shoulder, so he could pray whenever salat time
arrived, no matter where he was. Kind of quirky, but also inspiring.
All theseyears later, just the thought of Qawiy brings a smile to my
face, and reminds me of the importance of doing salat on time.That's a
legacy! SubhanAllah.
I could name many more people who have affected me in positive and
critical ways. I will always remember them, even after they are gone,
Insha'Allah. They have created lasting legacies.
Of course we don't even have to speak of the Prophets (peace be upon
them), and the Messenger ofAllah (sws), and the Sahabah (mayAllah be
pleased with them). Their legacies shine like the moon and stars and
will illuminate human history for all time.
What's your legacy? What do people say about you, and what will they
say when you're gone?
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built and shared with others (self, family, community and the world)?
If we died today, what would our obituaries say? What have we done for
GOD and GOD's people lately? What is our mission and vision, and are
we living it? If we died today, what would our obituaries say?" –
Hanan K. Bilal
This is what it's all about. I heard someone say recently that only
two things can happen with the wealth you accumulate in this life:
either it leaves you, or you leave it.Wealth is not a legacy. Having
fun is not a legacy. Helping a companyto sell useless products is not
a legacy.
Making a difference in the lives of human beings, relieving the
suffering of even one person, raising righteous and happy children,
leaving behind knowledge that benefits people, making the world a
better place, those are legacies.
I have not met the sister who is quoted at the top, but I have read
some of her writings. Whenever I hear her name I think of being
responsible, taking care of my family, loving my children and bringing
them up right, making a difference in the community, following my
dreams… that is a legacy. She has already created a vital legacy.
I have another friend whose name is Ismail. He is so humble
ma-sha-Allah, and as a friend he isthe most discreet and
closed-mouthed person I know, by which I mean he never speaks badly
about anyone else, and never reveals anyone's secrets or violates
their trust. When I think of him, I am inspired to emulate him. That
is his legacy, and it's an important and valuable one.
More than twenty years ago I knew a brother named Qawiy. His life was
hard, but every time I methim he'd give me a big smile and an
enthusiastic handshake. He wore a kufi and carried a folded musalla
(prayer rug) on his shoulder, so he could pray whenever salat time
arrived, no matter where he was. Kind of quirky, but also inspiring.
All theseyears later, just the thought of Qawiy brings a smile to my
face, and reminds me of the importance of doing salat on time.That's a
legacy! SubhanAllah.
I could name many more people who have affected me in positive and
critical ways. I will always remember them, even after they are gone,
Insha'Allah. They have created lasting legacies.
Of course we don't even have to speak of the Prophets (peace be upon
them), and the Messenger ofAllah (sws), and the Sahabah (mayAllah be
pleased with them). Their legacies shine like the moon and stars and
will illuminate human history for all time.
What's your legacy? What do people say about you, and what will they
say when you're gone?
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ISLAMIC ARTICLE :- ~ children, and not even my freedom
children, and not even my freedom."
That was a bad time. But I had myfaith, and I used to weep to Allah,
asking Him to have mercy on me. Ithink I gave up on myself for a
while, but I never gave up on Allah. It would not even have occurred
to me to do so. I did cry to Him sometimes saying, "Why, Allah? Why?
Why am I here, suffering like this?" But it wasn't despair, only
confusion. In my heart I knew that He heard me and that an answer
would come.
Shortly after that I received a letterfrom the parole board granting
me early release. I had previously been told very clearly that I was
not eligible. It was entirely unexpected, and if you are familiar with
the American penal system, miraculous. But for Allah, nothing is
impossible or even difficult.
Within a few months I was free. I found a job a week after my
release, and I excelled. I began writing, sitting at my desk every
night after work and disciplining myself to work on poetry, stories
and articles. Eventually I went back to school and began a new career,
got married, bought a beautiful house, and one day had a child…
What can I say except Alhamdulillah! SubhanAllah! What can I do except
weep in gratitude for these blessings that I did nothing to earn, but
were given to me by my Lord who loves me and cares about me, and wants
good for me. I am so deeply touched and moved by the way Allah has
answered my prayers from the depths of darkness. If I did anything to
merit His blessings, perhaps it was only thatI directed my pleas to
Him. I knew that no one else could help me.
This is a very emotional post for me to write. I want every Muslim to
have this sense of Allah as theirfriend, as someone who cares for them
deeply. I want to put that awareness into your heart like a gift.
When I was in that cell I used to pray the same dua' over and over,
begging Allah repeatedly. If I had made such pleas to a human being
they would have stopped hearing me long ago. When we're needy with
people it pushes themaway, but when we're needy withAllah He comes
closer to us! He never tires of answering our needand forgiving us.
I know of many similar stories of people who have hit rock bottom and
have called upon Allah – or , not even knowing "Allah" by that name,
have called to the Supreme Being, saying, "I know you hear me, tell me
what I need to do, show me the way!" – and then, like a circle of
sunlight piercing a cloud, something or someone comes into their lives
to show them the way forward.
When we're out of ideas, surrounded by problems, and feeling totally
alone… we're not alone . Allah is with us. If we pray sincerely and
strive, He will put light in our hearts and help us from directions we
did not expect.
Ask Allah sincerely, open yourself to Him, and accept what He gives
you even when it goes against your own desires. The answers toyour
questions are there, with Allah, I promise you. All those terrible
questions that you ask yourself in the silence of your mind, the
answers are with Allah.
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That was a bad time. But I had myfaith, and I used to weep to Allah,
asking Him to have mercy on me. Ithink I gave up on myself for a
while, but I never gave up on Allah. It would not even have occurred
to me to do so. I did cry to Him sometimes saying, "Why, Allah? Why?
Why am I here, suffering like this?" But it wasn't despair, only
confusion. In my heart I knew that He heard me and that an answer
would come.
Shortly after that I received a letterfrom the parole board granting
me early release. I had previously been told very clearly that I was
not eligible. It was entirely unexpected, and if you are familiar with
the American penal system, miraculous. But for Allah, nothing is
impossible or even difficult.
Within a few months I was free. I found a job a week after my
release, and I excelled. I began writing, sitting at my desk every
night after work and disciplining myself to work on poetry, stories
and articles. Eventually I went back to school and began a new career,
got married, bought a beautiful house, and one day had a child…
What can I say except Alhamdulillah! SubhanAllah! What can I do except
weep in gratitude for these blessings that I did nothing to earn, but
were given to me by my Lord who loves me and cares about me, and wants
good for me. I am so deeply touched and moved by the way Allah has
answered my prayers from the depths of darkness. If I did anything to
merit His blessings, perhaps it was only thatI directed my pleas to
Him. I knew that no one else could help me.
This is a very emotional post for me to write. I want every Muslim to
have this sense of Allah as theirfriend, as someone who cares for them
deeply. I want to put that awareness into your heart like a gift.
When I was in that cell I used to pray the same dua' over and over,
begging Allah repeatedly. If I had made such pleas to a human being
they would have stopped hearing me long ago. When we're needy with
people it pushes themaway, but when we're needy withAllah He comes
closer to us! He never tires of answering our needand forgiving us.
I know of many similar stories of people who have hit rock bottom and
have called upon Allah – or , not even knowing "Allah" by that name,
have called to the Supreme Being, saying, "I know you hear me, tell me
what I need to do, show me the way!" – and then, like a circle of
sunlight piercing a cloud, something or someone comes into their lives
to show them the way forward.
When we're out of ideas, surrounded by problems, and feeling totally
alone… we're not alone . Allah is with us. If we pray sincerely and
strive, He will put light in our hearts and help us from directions we
did not expect.
Ask Allah sincerely, open yourself to Him, and accept what He gives
you even when it goes against your own desires. The answers toyour
questions are there, with Allah, I promise you. All those terrible
questions that you ask yourself in the silence of your mind, the
answers are with Allah.
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ISLAMIC ARTICLE :- ~ Wisdom: Zuhayr
I haven't delved into classical poetry for a while now, so here's one
I liked from a while back (with some basic explanations and thoughts
of my own).
It's a small excerpt from the famous mu'allaqah poem of Zuhayr ibn Abi
Sulmah . He was a poet from the Jahili period (the era before Islam)
who had his own well-celebrated mu'allaqah. Interestingly, it is said
that he would only recite and announce his poems after one complete
year had passed in which he spent perfecting it – hence he was
nicknamed 'Sahib al-Hawliyat'
He says in his poem:
سَئِمتُ تكاليف الحياة ومَن يَعِش *** ثمانين حَولاً – لا أُبا لك – يَسْأم
I have come to hate the burdens of life, and whoever lives
For eighty years will surely come to hate and tire of them
وأعْلَمُ عِلمَ اليوم والأمسِ قبله *** ولكنني عَن عِلمِ ما في غَدٍ عَمِ
I know the reality of today and that of yesterday before it
But of the realities of tomorrow, I am blind and ignorant
ومَن يَكُ ذَا فضْلٍ فَيَبْخَلْ بفَضْلِه *** على قَوْمِه يُسْتغنَ عَنه ويُذْمَمِ
Whoever possesses goodness butproves miserly to his people
Then they shall prove sufficient of him, and he shall be humiliated
The theme of 'Nasihah wal-Hikam' (Counsel and Wisdom) starts to take
shape here with Zuhayr telling people that fadhl (virtue, possessions,
wealth etc) is something that a person is gifted with and thus it's
not proper to be miserly with it, withhold it from society, or prevent
helping others by it etc. It's interesting he says على قومه ('to his
own people'), because the first benefactors of our gifts should
bethose closest to us i.e. family, community etc. By spreading one's
talents, possessions and goodness (whether materialistic and tangible
like wealth or conceptual like uprightness), a community becomes
stronger, progresses forward and allows people to live well.
ومَنْ هابَ أَسْبابَ المَنايا يَنَلنَه *** وإنْ يَرْقَ أسبابَالسماء بِسُلَّمِ
Whoever fears the causes the death, shall only be met by them
Even if he ascends to the heavens upon a built stairway
Death is written for us all, even though the causes and ways may be
different for us. Courage and the act of delving into the heat of
battles, taking up challenges and defending one's tribe have
alwaysbeen seen to high calibre traits. So the more fearless a person
is, the higher of a status they occupyamong their people. This is
Zuhayr effectively saying not to fear the causes of death because
those who fear a certain cause of death will no doubt be met by it.
And there's no running away from death even if you took a staircase to
the heavens. This is a true concept and belief reflected in the
Qur'anic verse:
"Wherever you may be, death shall overtake you, even if you should be
within towers of lofty construction…" [al-Nisa: 78]
ومَن يَجعَلِ المَعْروفَ فِي غَيرِ أهله *** يَكُنْ حَمْدُه ذَمَاً عَليه ويَندَمِ
And whoever pays good duty to those who do not deserve it,
Then his act of praise becomes blameworthy and he shall come to regret
Paying good duty to people and giving them credit is a standard which
we all must live by. However there are times when our act needs to be
reviewed depending on who exactly we aredealing with. Hence it's not a
proper measure of our intellect if we give pay high credit to someone
who does not deserve itin the least, rather we should just let them be
without harming them. It is only those who deserveit that should
attain our key attention, service and goodness; otherwise we'll come
to regret the fact that we perhaps wasted our efforts on one person
when there was someone else more deserving of all that effort.
ومَن لم يَذُدْ عَن حَوضِه بِسِلاحِه *** يُهَدَّمْ ومن لا يَظلم الناس يُظلم
And whoever does not defend hiswater well with his weapon
Will be overpowered; and whoever does not oppress shall be oppressed
This poem was written in the Days of Jahiliyyah (Ignorance) andso you
can really see the nature and outlook of the people at that time.
There were no governing laws and no accountability exceptthose simple
standards set out by tribal chiefs. Effectively, it was 'each man to
his own' or 'each tribe to their own' and in the poetic lines above
you can understand what Zuhayr is alluding to. He is saying that
whoever does not protect his own possessions will lose them toothers;
and the scene he sets is that of a water well. Historically in the
desert and open fields, the tribes would usually settle aroundsources
of water and build a well which sustained them. Without this well, the
tribe will die off due to lack of water. Now what wouldhappen if
another tribe tried to take possession of that well? Yes, you got it:
Warfare (now now, don't be surprised, leading countries do it in our
times too; but it's oil rather than water!). So here, Zuhayr says that
part of wisdom is to fight for what is yours, particularly those
things which are essential to your survival. 'And whoever does not
oppress shall be oppressed' –
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I liked from a while back (with some basic explanations and thoughts
of my own).
It's a small excerpt from the famous mu'allaqah poem of Zuhayr ibn Abi
Sulmah . He was a poet from the Jahili period (the era before Islam)
who had his own well-celebrated mu'allaqah. Interestingly, it is said
that he would only recite and announce his poems after one complete
year had passed in which he spent perfecting it – hence he was
nicknamed 'Sahib al-Hawliyat'
He says in his poem:
سَئِمتُ تكاليف الحياة ومَن يَعِش *** ثمانين حَولاً – لا أُبا لك – يَسْأم
I have come to hate the burdens of life, and whoever lives
For eighty years will surely come to hate and tire of them
وأعْلَمُ عِلمَ اليوم والأمسِ قبله *** ولكنني عَن عِلمِ ما في غَدٍ عَمِ
I know the reality of today and that of yesterday before it
But of the realities of tomorrow, I am blind and ignorant
ومَن يَكُ ذَا فضْلٍ فَيَبْخَلْ بفَضْلِه *** على قَوْمِه يُسْتغنَ عَنه ويُذْمَمِ
Whoever possesses goodness butproves miserly to his people
Then they shall prove sufficient of him, and he shall be humiliated
The theme of 'Nasihah wal-Hikam' (Counsel and Wisdom) starts to take
shape here with Zuhayr telling people that fadhl (virtue, possessions,
wealth etc) is something that a person is gifted with and thus it's
not proper to be miserly with it, withhold it from society, or prevent
helping others by it etc. It's interesting he says على قومه ('to his
own people'), because the first benefactors of our gifts should
bethose closest to us i.e. family, community etc. By spreading one's
talents, possessions and goodness (whether materialistic and tangible
like wealth or conceptual like uprightness), a community becomes
stronger, progresses forward and allows people to live well.
ومَنْ هابَ أَسْبابَ المَنايا يَنَلنَه *** وإنْ يَرْقَ أسبابَالسماء بِسُلَّمِ
Whoever fears the causes the death, shall only be met by them
Even if he ascends to the heavens upon a built stairway
Death is written for us all, even though the causes and ways may be
different for us. Courage and the act of delving into the heat of
battles, taking up challenges and defending one's tribe have
alwaysbeen seen to high calibre traits. So the more fearless a person
is, the higher of a status they occupyamong their people. This is
Zuhayr effectively saying not to fear the causes of death because
those who fear a certain cause of death will no doubt be met by it.
And there's no running away from death even if you took a staircase to
the heavens. This is a true concept and belief reflected in the
Qur'anic verse:
"Wherever you may be, death shall overtake you, even if you should be
within towers of lofty construction…" [al-Nisa: 78]
ومَن يَجعَلِ المَعْروفَ فِي غَيرِ أهله *** يَكُنْ حَمْدُه ذَمَاً عَليه ويَندَمِ
And whoever pays good duty to those who do not deserve it,
Then his act of praise becomes blameworthy and he shall come to regret
Paying good duty to people and giving them credit is a standard which
we all must live by. However there are times when our act needs to be
reviewed depending on who exactly we aredealing with. Hence it's not a
proper measure of our intellect if we give pay high credit to someone
who does not deserve itin the least, rather we should just let them be
without harming them. It is only those who deserveit that should
attain our key attention, service and goodness; otherwise we'll come
to regret the fact that we perhaps wasted our efforts on one person
when there was someone else more deserving of all that effort.
ومَن لم يَذُدْ عَن حَوضِه بِسِلاحِه *** يُهَدَّمْ ومن لا يَظلم الناس يُظلم
And whoever does not defend hiswater well with his weapon
Will be overpowered; and whoever does not oppress shall be oppressed
This poem was written in the Days of Jahiliyyah (Ignorance) andso you
can really see the nature and outlook of the people at that time.
There were no governing laws and no accountability exceptthose simple
standards set out by tribal chiefs. Effectively, it was 'each man to
his own' or 'each tribe to their own' and in the poetic lines above
you can understand what Zuhayr is alluding to. He is saying that
whoever does not protect his own possessions will lose them toothers;
and the scene he sets is that of a water well. Historically in the
desert and open fields, the tribes would usually settle aroundsources
of water and build a well which sustained them. Without this well, the
tribe will die off due to lack of water. Now what wouldhappen if
another tribe tried to take possession of that well? Yes, you got it:
Warfare (now now, don't be surprised, leading countries do it in our
times too; but it's oil rather than water!). So here, Zuhayr says that
part of wisdom is to fight for what is yours, particularly those
things which are essential to your survival. 'And whoever does not
oppress shall be oppressed' –
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Story - - Remember, there is always someone else who is in more problem than you.
The Patient Old Man
When passing through a mountain pass, a bedouin (villager) once came
across an old man who was blind and who seemed to be afflicted with
various ailments all over his body. It was clear that he was wasting
away. He was even paralyzed and was constantly forced to remainin a
seated position. The Bedouin could clearly hear him say, "All praise
is for Allah, Who has kept me safe from ailments with which He has
tested many among His creation; and Hehas indeed preferred me over
many among those that He created."
"My brother!" exclaimed the bedouin. "What have you been saved from?
By Allah, I think that you have been afflicted with every single kind
of ailment!"
"Go away from me," said the old man, as he raised his head. "Do I not
still have a tongue with which Ican pronounce His Oneness,and with
which I can remember Him every single moment? And do I not still have
a heart with which I can know Him?"
These words of the old man were enough for the bedouin to repent to
Allah for his sins and ask Him for forgiveness.
Remember, there is always someone else who is in more problem than you.
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When passing through a mountain pass, a bedouin (villager) once came
across an old man who was blind and who seemed to be afflicted with
various ailments all over his body. It was clear that he was wasting
away. He was even paralyzed and was constantly forced to remainin a
seated position. The Bedouin could clearly hear him say, "All praise
is for Allah, Who has kept me safe from ailments with which He has
tested many among His creation; and Hehas indeed preferred me over
many among those that He created."
"My brother!" exclaimed the bedouin. "What have you been saved from?
By Allah, I think that you have been afflicted with every single kind
of ailment!"
"Go away from me," said the old man, as he raised his head. "Do I not
still have a tongue with which Ican pronounce His Oneness,and with
which I can remember Him every single moment? And do I not still have
a heart with which I can know Him?"
These words of the old man were enough for the bedouin to repent to
Allah for his sins and ask Him for forgiveness.
Remember, there is always someone else who is in more problem than you.
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HADEES & ADVISE:->-
"... He knows what goes into the earth and what emerges from it, what
descends from the heaven and what ascends therein; and He is with you
wherever you are..." [al-Hadid: 4]
One of the beauties of tawhid is knowing about the ma'iyah of Allah -
that He is with you wherever you may be, He is fully aware of you,
your circumstances, your inner and outer reality etc. For some, this
increases them in their love of Allah and closeness to Him, and for
others it increases their fear. But either way, it strengthens our
faith, so letus always remember the ma'iyah of Allah 'azza wa jall.
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descends from the heaven and what ascends therein; and He is with you
wherever you are..." [al-Hadid: 4]
One of the beauties of tawhid is knowing about the ma'iyah of Allah -
that He is with you wherever you may be, He is fully aware of you,
your circumstances, your inner and outer reality etc. For some, this
increases them in their love of Allah and closeness to Him, and for
others it increases their fear. But either way, it strengthens our
faith, so letus always remember the ma'iyah of Allah 'azza wa jall.
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HADEES:->-
Hadeeth Qudsi 15:
On the authority of Abu Harayrah(may Allah be pleased with him), who
said that the Prophet (PBUH)said: Allah the Almighty said:
I am as My servant thinks I am (1). I am with him when he makes
mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of
him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me inan assembly, I make
mention of him in an assemble better than it.And if he draws near to
Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he
comes to Me walking, I go to himat speed.
(1) Another possible rendering ofthe Arabic is: "I am as My servant
expects Me to be". The meaning is that forgiveness and acceptance of
repentance by the Almighty is subject to His servant truly believing
that He is forgivingand merciful. However, not to accompany such
belief with rightaction would be to mock the Almighty.
It was related by al-Buhkari (also by Muslim, at-Tirmidhi and Ibn-Majah).
Hadeeth Qudsi 16:
On the authority of son of Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them
both), from the Messenger of Allah (PBUH), among the sayings he
related from his Lord (glorified and exalted be He) is that He said:
Allah has written down the good deeds and the bad ones. Then
Heexplained it [by saying that] he who has intended a good deed and
has not done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good
deed, but if he has intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down
with Himself as from ten good deeds to seven hundred times, or many
times over. But if he has intended a bad deed and has not done it,
Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed, but if he has
intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down as one bad deed.
It was related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Hadeeth Qudsi 17:
On the authority of Abu Dharr al-Ghifari (may Allah be pleased with
him) from the Prophet (PBUH) is that among the sayingshe relates from
his Lord (may He be glorified) is that He said:
O My servants, I have forbidden oppression for Myself and have made it
forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another. O My servants,
all of you are astray except for those I have guided, so seek guidance
of Me and I shall guide you, O My servants, all of you are hungry
except for those I have fed, so seek food of Me and I shall feed you.
O My servants, all of you are naked except for those I have clothed,
so seek clothing of Me and I shall clothe you. O My servants, you sin
by night and by day, and I forgive all sins, so seekforgiveness of Me
and I shall forgive you. O My servants, you will not attain harming Me
so as to harm Me, and will not attain benefitting Me so as to benefit
Me. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the
human of you and the jinn of youto be as pious as the most pious heart
of any one man of you, thatwould not increase My kingdom in anything.
O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of
you and the jinn of you to be as wicked as the most wicked heart of
any one man of you, that would not decrease My kingdom in anything. O
My servants, were thefirst of you and the last of you, the human of
you and the jinn ofyou to rise up in one place and make a request of
Me, and were Ito give everyone what he requested, that would not
decrease what I have, any more that a needle decreases the sea ifput
into it. O My servants, it is butyour deeds that I reckon up for you
and then recompense you for, so let him finds good praise Allah and
let him who finds otherthat blame no one but himself.
It was related by Muslim (also by at-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah).
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On the authority of Abu Harayrah(may Allah be pleased with him), who
said that the Prophet (PBUH)said: Allah the Almighty said:
I am as My servant thinks I am (1). I am with him when he makes
mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of
him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me inan assembly, I make
mention of him in an assemble better than it.And if he draws near to
Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he
comes to Me walking, I go to himat speed.
(1) Another possible rendering ofthe Arabic is: "I am as My servant
expects Me to be". The meaning is that forgiveness and acceptance of
repentance by the Almighty is subject to His servant truly believing
that He is forgivingand merciful. However, not to accompany such
belief with rightaction would be to mock the Almighty.
It was related by al-Buhkari (also by Muslim, at-Tirmidhi and Ibn-Majah).
Hadeeth Qudsi 16:
On the authority of son of Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them
both), from the Messenger of Allah (PBUH), among the sayings he
related from his Lord (glorified and exalted be He) is that He said:
Allah has written down the good deeds and the bad ones. Then
Heexplained it [by saying that] he who has intended a good deed and
has not done it, Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good
deed, but if he has intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down
with Himself as from ten good deeds to seven hundred times, or many
times over. But if he has intended a bad deed and has not done it,
Allah writes it down with Himself as a full good deed, but if he has
intended it and has done it, Allah writes it down as one bad deed.
It was related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Hadeeth Qudsi 17:
On the authority of Abu Dharr al-Ghifari (may Allah be pleased with
him) from the Prophet (PBUH) is that among the sayingshe relates from
his Lord (may He be glorified) is that He said:
O My servants, I have forbidden oppression for Myself and have made it
forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another. O My servants,
all of you are astray except for those I have guided, so seek guidance
of Me and I shall guide you, O My servants, all of you are hungry
except for those I have fed, so seek food of Me and I shall feed you.
O My servants, all of you are naked except for those I have clothed,
so seek clothing of Me and I shall clothe you. O My servants, you sin
by night and by day, and I forgive all sins, so seekforgiveness of Me
and I shall forgive you. O My servants, you will not attain harming Me
so as to harm Me, and will not attain benefitting Me so as to benefit
Me. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the
human of you and the jinn of youto be as pious as the most pious heart
of any one man of you, thatwould not increase My kingdom in anything.
O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of
you and the jinn of you to be as wicked as the most wicked heart of
any one man of you, that would not decrease My kingdom in anything. O
My servants, were thefirst of you and the last of you, the human of
you and the jinn ofyou to rise up in one place and make a request of
Me, and were Ito give everyone what he requested, that would not
decrease what I have, any more that a needle decreases the sea ifput
into it. O My servants, it is butyour deeds that I reckon up for you
and then recompense you for, so let him finds good praise Allah and
let him who finds otherthat blame no one but himself.
It was related by Muslim (also by at-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah).
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Story - -Fill it With Al-Fatihah
Fill it With Al-Fatihah
Wounded brother, sister in belief:
pour out your cup of hurt and grief
and fill it with lavender leaf.
Fill it with sunlight seed
and the moon's reedy laugh.
Fill it with the history of grass,
and the joy of breath.
Fill it with hope
and the poetry of God.
Fill it with Quran
and the moment before dawn.
Fill it with Allah's soul-saving light,
and the power of His love
expressing in your life.
Fill it with dhikr like gold,
and Prophetic stories
that were old
a thousand years ago.
Fill your cup with beach foam
and the smell of baking bread;
with the mark of prayer
impressed upon your head;
with lemon drop soup
and the comfort of your bed.
Fill it with gratitude
for His gifts from above.
Fill your cup, and laugh,
for you are loved.
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Wounded brother, sister in belief:
pour out your cup of hurt and grief
and fill it with lavender leaf.
Fill it with sunlight seed
and the moon's reedy laugh.
Fill it with the history of grass,
and the joy of breath.
Fill it with hope
and the poetry of God.
Fill it with Quran
and the moment before dawn.
Fill it with Allah's soul-saving light,
and the power of His love
expressing in your life.
Fill it with dhikr like gold,
and Prophetic stories
that were old
a thousand years ago.
Fill your cup with beach foam
and the smell of baking bread;
with the mark of prayer
impressed upon your head;
with lemon drop soup
and the comfort of your bed.
Fill it with gratitude
for His gifts from above.
Fill your cup, and laugh,
for you are loved.
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Health:-Lemon has proved to be nature’s boon to the entire mankind. Itz benefits are:
Lemon has proved to be nature's boon to the entire mankind. Itz benefits are:
*.Good for stomach
*.Excellent for Skin Care
*.Aids in Dental Care
*. Cures Throat Infections
*.Good for Weight Loss
*.Controls High Blood Pressure
*.Assist in curing RespiratoryDiso rders.
*.Good for treating Rheumatism
*.Reduces Fever.
*. Acts as a blood purifier
*.Hair Care
*.Internal Bleeding
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*.Good for stomach
*.Excellent for Skin Care
*.Aids in Dental Care
*. Cures Throat Infections
*.Good for Weight Loss
*.Controls High Blood Pressure
*.Assist in curing RespiratoryDiso rders.
*.Good for treating Rheumatism
*.Reduces Fever.
*. Acts as a blood purifier
*.Hair Care
*.Internal Bleeding
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Health:- Artificial heart pump helps save lives of heart attack patients
An artificial heart pump driven by cutting edge technology is proving
handy in saving the lives ofpatients in near-death situations
following a massive heart attack.
The Extra Corporeal Membrane Oxygenation (ECMO) equipment can put a
patient on artificial support for as long as a month by sustaining
oxygen supply and blood circulation to the heart andother vital organs
such as brain, kidney and liver even when the patient's normal heart
is not beating. It gives much needed time for the vital organs to
recover and function normally before a primary angioplasty can bedone
on patients who havehad a debilitating heart attack.
The heart failure team at Fortis Malar Hospital told a press
conference on Tuesday that they had used ECMO to save several lives of
heart attack victimswho had suffered extensive heart muscle damage and
arterial blocksin the past few months. The ECMO machine prevented
death and provided more time to evaluate options such as angioplasty,
heart transplant or implantable artificial heart.
Doctors cited a recent case in which a 56-year-old patient was brought
in a state of circulatory collapseafter a massive heart attack. Until
recently, doctors wouldn't have given much of a chance for the patient
who had suffered extensive heart muscle damage, had low blood pressure
and diabetes-triggered elevated blood glucose levels. However, the
ECMO unit was mobilised within half an hour and the patient's blood
circulation to the vital organs restoredeven though the normal heart
was not beating. Subsequently, cardiologistsRavi Kumar and Madan Mohan
performed an angioplasty in the Cathlab to further improve blood
circulation.
Dr. K. R. Balakrishnan, chief cardiac surgeon, said massive heart
attack usually had a high mortality risk even if a patient reaches a
tertiary care centre alive. Besides, cardiogenic shock can occurany
time after a heart attack and carries a mortality rate of 90 per cent.
Even emergency angioplasty may not work in cardiogenic shock as in
most cases the heart muscle does not recover fast enough to pump
oxygen and blood to the vital organs.
Dr. K.G. Suresh Rao, chief of critical care, said the ECMO technology
could also be used in patients with badlydamaged lungs as in acute
H1N1 (swine flu) infections.
Though an ECMO intervention could cost about Rs.1.50 lakh, doctors
believe that its life-saving benefit far outweighs the cost.
The next step could be equipping select ambulances with the ECMO
machine so that more lives would not be lost to the delays in reaching
a heart attack patient to hospital, doctors said.
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handy in saving the lives ofpatients in near-death situations
following a massive heart attack.
The Extra Corporeal Membrane Oxygenation (ECMO) equipment can put a
patient on artificial support for as long as a month by sustaining
oxygen supply and blood circulation to the heart andother vital organs
such as brain, kidney and liver even when the patient's normal heart
is not beating. It gives much needed time for the vital organs to
recover and function normally before a primary angioplasty can bedone
on patients who havehad a debilitating heart attack.
The heart failure team at Fortis Malar Hospital told a press
conference on Tuesday that they had used ECMO to save several lives of
heart attack victimswho had suffered extensive heart muscle damage and
arterial blocksin the past few months. The ECMO machine prevented
death and provided more time to evaluate options such as angioplasty,
heart transplant or implantable artificial heart.
Doctors cited a recent case in which a 56-year-old patient was brought
in a state of circulatory collapseafter a massive heart attack. Until
recently, doctors wouldn't have given much of a chance for the patient
who had suffered extensive heart muscle damage, had low blood pressure
and diabetes-triggered elevated blood glucose levels. However, the
ECMO unit was mobilised within half an hour and the patient's blood
circulation to the vital organs restoredeven though the normal heart
was not beating. Subsequently, cardiologistsRavi Kumar and Madan Mohan
performed an angioplasty in the Cathlab to further improve blood
circulation.
Dr. K. R. Balakrishnan, chief cardiac surgeon, said massive heart
attack usually had a high mortality risk even if a patient reaches a
tertiary care centre alive. Besides, cardiogenic shock can occurany
time after a heart attack and carries a mortality rate of 90 per cent.
Even emergency angioplasty may not work in cardiogenic shock as in
most cases the heart muscle does not recover fast enough to pump
oxygen and blood to the vital organs.
Dr. K.G. Suresh Rao, chief of critical care, said the ECMO technology
could also be used in patients with badlydamaged lungs as in acute
H1N1 (swine flu) infections.
Though an ECMO intervention could cost about Rs.1.50 lakh, doctors
believe that its life-saving benefit far outweighs the cost.
The next step could be equipping select ambulances with the ECMO
machine so that more lives would not be lost to the delays in reaching
a heart attack patient to hospital, doctors said.
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ISLAMIC ARTICLE -:- Felicity
Felicity.
When your heart feels so free it soars in the sky.
So light and weightless, as if carried by Angels of Mercy and Glad-tidings.
Mind of purity and clarity.
Vision that's clear of clouds.
No mist. No chains.
No burdens or pains.
Hands are freed up, speech flows again.
You can breathe.
Time is blessed, lands are blessed.
Days are a beauty and nights pass in serenity.
God's creatures smile as if to acknowledge the bliss.
Even the trees rustle; I can hear their tasbih.
Gratitude only increases the goodness, as if the Promise is more than just that.
It's a certainty.
It's freedom. Freedom fromthe world.
But the world's inexperienced want to define it.
They are baffled. The more the tests, the happier we become.
Freedom.
Allah gives it to some so they enter the Paradise of this world before the Next.
And some are deprived so they remain imprisoned;
Either to be released in the Hereafter and or to be sentenced.
He is the King of Kings; A Most Generous King.
And it's a felicity.
A serenity.
I found it in the places of prayer.
It's there again whenever I open the Book.
Like a magnificent robe, it gently wraps and protects.
Freedom and felicity,
They take root in the heart when the heart is watered with faith and
sustained with Islam.
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When your heart feels so free it soars in the sky.
So light and weightless, as if carried by Angels of Mercy and Glad-tidings.
Mind of purity and clarity.
Vision that's clear of clouds.
No mist. No chains.
No burdens or pains.
Hands are freed up, speech flows again.
You can breathe.
Time is blessed, lands are blessed.
Days are a beauty and nights pass in serenity.
God's creatures smile as if to acknowledge the bliss.
Even the trees rustle; I can hear their tasbih.
Gratitude only increases the goodness, as if the Promise is more than just that.
It's a certainty.
It's freedom. Freedom fromthe world.
But the world's inexperienced want to define it.
They are baffled. The more the tests, the happier we become.
Freedom.
Allah gives it to some so they enter the Paradise of this world before the Next.
And some are deprived so they remain imprisoned;
Either to be released in the Hereafter and or to be sentenced.
He is the King of Kings; A Most Generous King.
And it's a felicity.
A serenity.
I found it in the places of prayer.
It's there again whenever I open the Book.
Like a magnificent robe, it gently wraps and protects.
Freedom and felicity,
They take root in the heart when the heart is watered with faith and
sustained with Islam.
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''Advise'':-:- 20 tips to make your marriage successful
1. Trust, help each other, begood and stay positive.
2. Please your spouse and make him/her feel special always.
3. Be humorous, playful, helpful, respectful and entertaining.
4. Never bring your past mistakes in your today.
5. Encourage and give hopeto your spouse.
6. Do not compare each other even fortiny things.
7. Surprise your spouse with something new.
8. Spent time as much as you can.
9. Get ready for your spouse as they want you toget ready and look
beautiful always.
10. Listen carefully and obey sincerely.
11. Avoid fighting, ignoring, lying, doubting, misbehaving and getting angry.
12. Be open and discuss your problems/ worries to your spouse.
13. If one of you is angry, the other should be quiet.
14. Don't argue. Simply say 'Sorry' whether it's your mistake or not.
15. Always make Dua to make your marriage successful and your
relationship/ bond strong.
16. Always be thankful to your spouse.
17. Say 'I love you' to your spouse.
18. Understand each other.
19. Make eye contact while speaking.
20. Eat together, be together and pray together —
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2. Please your spouse and make him/her feel special always.
3. Be humorous, playful, helpful, respectful and entertaining.
4. Never bring your past mistakes in your today.
5. Encourage and give hopeto your spouse.
6. Do not compare each other even fortiny things.
7. Surprise your spouse with something new.
8. Spent time as much as you can.
9. Get ready for your spouse as they want you toget ready and look
beautiful always.
10. Listen carefully and obey sincerely.
11. Avoid fighting, ignoring, lying, doubting, misbehaving and getting angry.
12. Be open and discuss your problems/ worries to your spouse.
13. If one of you is angry, the other should be quiet.
14. Don't argue. Simply say 'Sorry' whether it's your mistake or not.
15. Always make Dua to make your marriage successful and your
relationship/ bond strong.
16. Always be thankful to your spouse.
17. Say 'I love you' to your spouse.
18. Understand each other.
19. Make eye contact while speaking.
20. Eat together, be together and pray together —
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Good Morning Tips
Journey of life starts with a bag filled with luck n an empty bag of
experience The goal is 2 fill d bag of experience before d bag ofluck
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Luck is not in ur hands, But work is in ur hands. Urwork can make ur
luck, But ur luck cant make ur work So always trust ur self GM
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No 1 could actually say that u deserve better cause the best thing
that udeserve, will always be your choice.. good morning
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Because the more you look for something not with you, the more you
find something wrong with what you have. Goodmorning
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Matter occupies space. Andyou can only have space, for those that
really matter. good morning.
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experience The goal is 2 fill d bag of experience before d bag ofluck
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Luck is not in ur hands, But work is in ur hands. Urwork can make ur
luck, But ur luck cant make ur work So always trust ur self GM
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No 1 could actually say that u deserve better cause the best thing
that udeserve, will always be your choice.. good morning
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Because the more you look for something not with you, the more you
find something wrong with what you have. Goodmorning
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Matter occupies space. Andyou can only have space, for those that
really matter. good morning.
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ISLAMIC ARTICLE -:- Getting Through Mini-Depressions
Many people periodically go through short depressions when they
feelnegative about everything in their lives. There are ways we can
minimize these depressions, and steps we can take to ensure we don't
sabotage our relationships when we're feeling blue.
In my case, I go through regular periods of mini-depression every few
months. My mood will be utterly black, my mind filled with
self-critical thoughts: "I'm a failure, I'ma hypocrite, I have no real
friends, I've wasted my life…" But even in the depths of depression I
know that the mood will not last. One good night's sleep will restore
me to normal, Insha'Allah. So I keep my mouth shut and do not express
those negative thoughts to family or friends, because I know I will
regret it later if I do….
Does this happen to you? Ifso, then pay attention to your own
emotional cycles so that you know what to expect. Control yourself
when you're feeling down. Speak only what is good, or stay silent.
Let's be very clear: You should not ignore genuine problems in your
life. If something is missing or making you unhappy, workon it
Insha'Allah. I'm also not saying that you should remain silent about
real issues that you face. If you've got problems in your family, it's
important to communicate to resolve them. It's also good to talk to a
therapist or counselor.
But when you are depressed, your viewpoint becomes skewed, and it's
not necessarily representative of reality. Sowhen you have those dark
thoughts that say, "My life is worthless and I hate everyone," don't
express those to anyone except your therapist or counselor.Don't call
up your best friend and say, "You're not a true friend, you don't care
about me." That's not productive and will only destroy your
relationship.
When you're depressed, hold on to your lifeline with God, eat well and
get plenty of rest, and be patient until the mood passes Insha'Allah.
Try to fill your life with good things: people you care about, work
that matters, hobbies you love, good books to read, exercise youenjoy…
these good things provide a safety net when you're feeling blue.
For example, photographerand human rights activist Asmaa-Deanna Dee
says, "When I am feeling low and downtrodden I just find a quiet place
and sit alone with my favorite book (the Quran)! When I turn each of
its miraculous pages my heart begins to feel lighter and the world
around me brighter! The love, warmth and security of each word sets in
and it is in these very moments that I know for sure in my heart how
much Allah really loves me! Alhamdulillah! Subhanallah! Allahu Akbar!"
Also remind yourself of the good things in your life, and try to be
grateful for them. Do not look to those who have more than you, but
those who have less. Think of the times in your life when God has
helped you, guided you, and savedyou. He will do so again.
By the way, I don't get those mini-depressions as often anymore. I'm
not sure why, but it could be that I exercise every day now. Also, I
am active in the Muslim community, I write passionately about subjects
that are importantto me, and I have a daughter who I love… my life is
full of good things Alhamdulillah.
May your life also be full of good things.
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feelnegative about everything in their lives. There are ways we can
minimize these depressions, and steps we can take to ensure we don't
sabotage our relationships when we're feeling blue.
In my case, I go through regular periods of mini-depression every few
months. My mood will be utterly black, my mind filled with
self-critical thoughts: "I'm a failure, I'ma hypocrite, I have no real
friends, I've wasted my life…" But even in the depths of depression I
know that the mood will not last. One good night's sleep will restore
me to normal, Insha'Allah. So I keep my mouth shut and do not express
those negative thoughts to family or friends, because I know I will
regret it later if I do….
Does this happen to you? Ifso, then pay attention to your own
emotional cycles so that you know what to expect. Control yourself
when you're feeling down. Speak only what is good, or stay silent.
Let's be very clear: You should not ignore genuine problems in your
life. If something is missing or making you unhappy, workon it
Insha'Allah. I'm also not saying that you should remain silent about
real issues that you face. If you've got problems in your family, it's
important to communicate to resolve them. It's also good to talk to a
therapist or counselor.
But when you are depressed, your viewpoint becomes skewed, and it's
not necessarily representative of reality. Sowhen you have those dark
thoughts that say, "My life is worthless and I hate everyone," don't
express those to anyone except your therapist or counselor.Don't call
up your best friend and say, "You're not a true friend, you don't care
about me." That's not productive and will only destroy your
relationship.
When you're depressed, hold on to your lifeline with God, eat well and
get plenty of rest, and be patient until the mood passes Insha'Allah.
Try to fill your life with good things: people you care about, work
that matters, hobbies you love, good books to read, exercise youenjoy…
these good things provide a safety net when you're feeling blue.
For example, photographerand human rights activist Asmaa-Deanna Dee
says, "When I am feeling low and downtrodden I just find a quiet place
and sit alone with my favorite book (the Quran)! When I turn each of
its miraculous pages my heart begins to feel lighter and the world
around me brighter! The love, warmth and security of each word sets in
and it is in these very moments that I know for sure in my heart how
much Allah really loves me! Alhamdulillah! Subhanallah! Allahu Akbar!"
Also remind yourself of the good things in your life, and try to be
grateful for them. Do not look to those who have more than you, but
those who have less. Think of the times in your life when God has
helped you, guided you, and savedyou. He will do so again.
By the way, I don't get those mini-depressions as often anymore. I'm
not sure why, but it could be that I exercise every day now. Also, I
am active in the Muslim community, I write passionately about subjects
that are importantto me, and I have a daughter who I love… my life is
full of good things Alhamdulillah.
May your life also be full of good things.
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HADEES:->-Give Me Something Better
The Messenger of Allah (sws) said: "There is no calamity that befalls
one ofthe Muslims and he responds 'Inna Lillahi wa inna ilahi
raaji'oun, Allahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha,'
(Truly to Allah we belong & truly to Him we shall return, O Allah
reward me in this calamity & compensate mewith something better than
it), but Allah will compensate him with something better than it."
(Muslim 918)
In other words, if you've lost something precious, orif disaster has
hit you, and you respond with faith in Allah, asking Him to
replaceyour loss with something better, then Allah will surely respond
and give you something better.
SubhanAllah! What more could we ask? Allah is the only one who does
this. If your house is destroyed, the insurance company willtry to
find a way to deny your claim, and if they finally pay then they will
pay less than it's worth.
The crucial thing is that thedua' must be said in that moment of pain
and loss, when you are really hurting. You can't respond at first by
saying, "Why did you do this to me Allah, I didn't deserve this!" then
months later when you've recovered somewhat, thinkyou can say this
dua' and itwill work for you.
The whole point is that in those moments when life is most difficult
and you are totally thrown for a loop, you respond by turning to
Allah. That's the test. Those moments are the proving ground of
yoursoul. If you can face Allah inthose moments of agony and say – I
trust You, all things return to You, I know you will give me something
better – then indeed Allah will give you more than you can imagine.
May Allah give us the strength to remember Him and turn to Him
instinctively in times of calamity and times of joy as well.
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one ofthe Muslims and he responds 'Inna Lillahi wa inna ilahi
raaji'oun, Allahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha,'
(Truly to Allah we belong & truly to Him we shall return, O Allah
reward me in this calamity & compensate mewith something better than
it), but Allah will compensate him with something better than it."
(Muslim 918)
In other words, if you've lost something precious, orif disaster has
hit you, and you respond with faith in Allah, asking Him to
replaceyour loss with something better, then Allah will surely respond
and give you something better.
SubhanAllah! What more could we ask? Allah is the only one who does
this. If your house is destroyed, the insurance company willtry to
find a way to deny your claim, and if they finally pay then they will
pay less than it's worth.
The crucial thing is that thedua' must be said in that moment of pain
and loss, when you are really hurting. You can't respond at first by
saying, "Why did you do this to me Allah, I didn't deserve this!" then
months later when you've recovered somewhat, thinkyou can say this
dua' and itwill work for you.
The whole point is that in those moments when life is most difficult
and you are totally thrown for a loop, you respond by turning to
Allah. That's the test. Those moments are the proving ground of
yoursoul. If you can face Allah inthose moments of agony and say – I
trust You, all things return to You, I know you will give me something
better – then indeed Allah will give you more than you can imagine.
May Allah give us the strength to remember Him and turn to Him
instinctively in times of calamity and times of joy as well.
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HADEES:->-
1
Shaikh Uthaimeen, may Allaah have mercy on him said,
✿:• From Allah's Blessings on a servant is that he be granted
contentment, whether that be regarding his residence, his clothes, his
means of transport, or his children. For when a person is content with
what Allaah has given him, he will remain rich •:✿
[Bulughul-Maraa m, vol. 6, p. 272.]
2
''If I kept silent and you kept silent,who will teach the ignorant?"
~Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim {Rahimahullah}
3
"My Lord! Creator of the heavens and earth, You aremy protector in
this world and in the Hereafter. Cause me to die a Muslim and join me
with the righteous."
(The Du'aa of Yusuf -alyhissalam- 12:101)
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Shaikh Uthaimeen, may Allaah have mercy on him said,
✿:• From Allah's Blessings on a servant is that he be granted
contentment, whether that be regarding his residence, his clothes, his
means of transport, or his children. For when a person is content with
what Allaah has given him, he will remain rich •:✿
[Bulughul-Maraa m, vol. 6, p. 272.]
2
''If I kept silent and you kept silent,who will teach the ignorant?"
~Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim {Rahimahullah}
3
"My Lord! Creator of the heavens and earth, You aremy protector in
this world and in the Hereafter. Cause me to die a Muslim and join me
with the righteous."
(The Du'aa of Yusuf -alyhissalam- 12:101)
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HADEES:->-
Shaikh Uthaimeen, may Allaah have mercy on him said,
✿:• From Allah's Blessings on a servant is that he be granted
contentment, whether that be regarding his residence, his clothes, his
means of transport, or his children. For when a person is content with
what Allaah has given him, he will remain rich •:✿
[Bulughul-Maraa m, vol. 6, p. 272.]
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✿:• From Allah's Blessings on a servant is that he be granted
contentment, whether that be regarding his residence, his clothes, his
means of transport, or his children. For when a person is content with
what Allaah has given him, he will remain rich •:✿
[Bulughul-Maraa m, vol. 6, p. 272.]
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