Friday, June 15, 2012

Wife has left me andwants to become a film actress

I am a 40 year male. Got married 10 years back. First 3 years of
unforgettable happiness and complete compatability.
Daughter born after complicated pregnancy during which wife stayed
with her parents. I visited frequently and talked daily. Another 2
years of near bliss.
Wife stayed at her parentsplace for higher studies. We would visit
each other frequently and go on vacations. Arguments and stubbornness
started. She became abusive and slightly violent. But fondness ,
understanding and openness continued. She came in touch with her
ex-boyfriends (including the one she wanted but did not marry due to
different religion) but she told me everything. She became very
materialistic and self-centered and tried to persue her dream of
becoming a film actress.
After 6 years of marriage she told me to keep my daughter and release
her from marriage. I tried to convince her. She went to her parents
place.
I talked to her parents but they only abused me. I told them some of
her very unholy habits / deeds( which cannot be written)but instead of
counselling her they abused me.
I continued to visit her at her parents place where I was almost (with
rare exceptions) regularly abused, insulted and threatened. On one
such visit, they crossed all limits- threatened to shoot me, throw me
out of the house, etc.. I stopped going to her parents place.
I loved her, cared for her like no person I have known, had dreams for
my daughter and was hoping good sense would prevail.
My in-laws are very far from Islam though they pretend otherwise. Like
they will tell others they are fasting and at home feast and laugh
about it.
I send gifts and letters to my 11 year old daughter whom I love more
than anything.
Now my wife has gone to Imam for annulment of marriage : fasak-e-nikah.
I am confused about why this happened, what should be my response,
what will happen to my daughter and other consequences.
Also why she has gone for fasak-e-nikah instead of khula.
Any frank opinions, advise,dua, guidance ?
Many thanks.