I was happy to find out your site because it's been 2 years that I
have a big problem. Indeed, two years ago I decided to wear the
hidjab. First, I have to explain you where I am from. I live in the
North of France, I am originally from Algeria and I am a Sunni muslim.
I'm 20 and I'm a student in university. When I left high school, I
began reading more and more about Islam, being regular about my
prayers, fearing Allah subhanu wata3ala and doing my best to get
closer to HIM. I made the decision to wear the hidjab. My parents
pray. They don't try to learn more science about Islam and they don't
read the Quran. My mother who is 59 doesn't wear al hidjab. When I
wanted to put the veil, they got furious, my father became
high-boiling, he had a fit of rage and there wasn't any dialogue
possible with him. He told me if you wear the veil you have to leave
my home. First, I ignored their remarks and I left the veil on my head
and then he took it off from my hair. I cried a lot, I keep on praying
Allah subhanu wata3ala every day during all the prayers. I study 30
minutes by train far from home. I come back to home every day. During
the last months, I began wearing it in the train just after leaving
home. I wear it during all the day but my parents don't know anything
about it. I want to know what should I do about that? Because I'm fed
up with having this double life. Anyway al hamdulilah, I put my trust
in Allah "Wa tawakal 3ala Allah wa kafa billahi wa kilah" Sourate al
ahzab
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
May Allah Ta'ala reward you for making this decision under very
challenging circumstances. Remember that when you take a step toward
Allah the Exalted, He reciprocates many times over.
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who
said that the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said: Allah
the Almighty said:
I am as My servant thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of
Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to
Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention
of him in an assembly better than it. And if he draws near to Me an
arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to
Me walking, I go to him at speed.
Hadith Qudsi 15. It was related by al-Bukhari (also by Muslim,
at-Tirmidhi and Ibn-Majah).
Obedience to parents is not unconditional. Therefore, if our parents
ask us to do something that contravenes Sacred Law, then we are
obliged to disobey them.
Obedience to Allah Ta'ala, however, is unconditional. That is why we
are Muslims, that is, we fully surrender to Allah the Exalted. As a
Muslim woman, one of your religious responsibilities is to wear hijab.
This is something between you and your Lord, and your parents cannot
interfere.Please remain true to your convictions, but also remain a
good daughter to your parents by emphasizing your love and respect for
them. Try to respond positively when they raise objections.
I pray that Allah Ta'ala opens their hearts and brings them around.
And Allah knows best.
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