Conversation – whether verbally or in writing – between men and women
is permissible inand of itself, but it may be a way of falling into
the traps of the Shaytaan. Whoever knows that he is somewhat weak, and
is afraid that he may fall into the traps of the Shaytaan, has to
refrain from such conversations, in order to save himself. Whoever is
sure that he will be able to remain steadfast, then we thinkthat it is
permissible in his case, but there are certain conditions: "]]] And
Alhamdulillah, I understand up until this part, but I became a little
confused at the next part: [[[" 1. The conversation should notbe
allowed to wander too far from the topic being discussed; or it should
be for the purposes of calling others to Islam. "]]] So my question
regarding this is: In Sharee'ah, what can be considered a permissable
topic to discuss in the first place?For example, we know that Islaam
is a permissable topic, but what other things can we discuss, if
anything?.
Praise be to Allaah.
This has been discussed in the answer to question no. 1497where it says:
Speaking with a woman to whom one is not related (i.e., not mahram)
should only be for a specific need, such as asking a question, buying
or selling, asking about the head of the household, and so on. Such
conversations should be brief, with nothing doubtful in either what is
said or how it is said.
The idea of limiting speech with women to the five instances mentioned
in the question – which are: to ask how her family is, for medical
purposes, forfinancial purposes (e.g. in a shop), to find out about
her personality for marriage suitability and to give her dawah
(Islamic knowledge) – needs to be approached with caution, because
they could be taken as examples instead of limits. One must also
adhere to the conditionsset out by the Sharee'ah even in instances
where such conversations are necessary, such as in da'wah, giving
fatwas, buying or selling, etc. And Allaah knows best.
In the answer to question no. 1121it says:
Women are not prevented from talking to non-mahram men when it is
necessary to do so, such as dealing directly with them whenbuying
things or conducting any other financial transaction, because in such
cases it is necessary for both parties to speak. A woman may also ask
a scholar about some legalIslamic matter, or a man may ask a woman
such questions, as is proven in various texts of the Qur'aan and
Sunnah. Within the guidelines described above, there isnothing wrong
with a woman speaking to a non-mahram man. It is also permissible for
men to greet women with salaam and vice versa, according to the most
correct opinion, but this greeting must be free of anything that may
provoke desire in the person in whose heart isa disease, so as to be
safe from fitnah and payattention to the regulations outlined above.
If there is fear of fitnah being provoked by this greeting, then the
woman should refrain from either initiating or returning the greeting,
because warding off fitnah by neglecting the greeting is warding off
mischief, and warding off mischief takes precedence over doing
something useful. (See al-Mufassal fi Ahkaam al-Mar'ah by 'Abd
al-Kareem Zaydaan, vol. 3/276). And Allaah knows best.
Thus it is known that we do not mean general talk for no need, or a
great deal of private talk. Rather it should be just as much as is
needed in order to reply.
Going into detail in permissible talk or in shar'i matters when there
is no need for that leads to removal of barriers between the two
parties, which may lead to negative consequences.
And Allaah knows best.
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