gratitude before Allah Ta'ala as thisis indeed a great bounty of Allah
Ta'ala. This is such a boon that many people beseech Allah Ta'ala
throughout their lives for pious children but Allah Ta'ala has
destined otherwise. In fact one of the greatest Nabîes of Allah
Ta'ala, Prophet Ibrahim (Alayhis salaam) used to supplicate to Allah
Ta'ala most profoundly and frequently. Even Hadrat Zakariyya (Alayhis
salaam) used to supplicate for children most passionately and
fervently during the latter part of his life.
Hence, a Muslim woman isrequired to express her gratitude unto Allah
Ta'ala for this great bounty. Gratitude may beexpressed in the
following ways:
1. Recite the following Du'aa very frequently:
Allahummâ Lakal Hamdû Wa Lakash-Shukru
Translation: O Allah! All praises are due to You alone and I express
my gratitude unto You alone(for granting me the honour of motherhood).
2. Allocate a fixed time for two Rak'aat of Nafl Salaat. Whilst in
Sajdah, make Du'aa abundantly. Recite the following Du'aa as well:
Rabbi Hab Liy Min-Ladunka Zurriyatan-Tayyibah Innaka Sam'iud-Du'aa
Translation: O my Lord! Bless me from your side with pure children.
VerilyYou are all-hearing of theDu'aa.
3. Recite the following Du'aa as well:
Rabbi-j'alniy Muqeema-Salaati wa min Zurriyatiy Rabbanaa wa Taqabbal Du'aa
Translation: O my Lord! Render me as well as my progeny as
establishers of Salâh and accept our Du'aas.
4. Similarly, express your gratitude from the heart in such a manner
that you stay happy and try tostay happy at all times. Try to forget
all your pastsorrows. Build your dreams and keep your hopes and
spirits high. Ponder over the bountiesof Jannat.
Instead of embroiling yourself in the daily disputes with the
mother-in-law and sisters-in law and insteadof involving yourself with
the unbecoming behaviour of your husband, maintain strict silence. On
the impending happiness of the birth of your child, maintain a
friendly and trouble-free relationship with all. If you do tend tohurt
anyone, apologise immediately and try to forget about the dispute.If
you continue vexing others, the evil effects of this nature will fall
on the unborn child as well. The conditions of the mother during
pregnancy, in fact even her spirit and perceptions during this state
has a profound effect on the unborn child.
Hence, a Muslim woman should express gratitude at all times especially
during the period of her pregnancy. This gratitude should in turn
develop in her the love of Allah Ta'ala. She should ponder that since
Allah Ta'ala has blessed us with so many bounties, we should also
devote ourselves to Him. To disobey such a majestic benefactor – by
strutting about veil-less, watching television, videos, backbiting
etc. – at any time and especially during pregnancy is not acceptable.
Allah Ta'ala showers His bounties upon us and we in turn disobey Him!?
The first month of pregnancy
Remember that you are not a single entity now. Now a child is being
nourished within your own body. With a bit of precaution on your part,
this child may become healthy, intelligent, understanding, pious and
religious. However, with your negligence and indifference, the child
may turn out to be weak, sickly and incompetent.
Hence, your life should not be the same as it wasbefore you fell
pregnant. Every moment should be passed with caution and concern over
the well-being of yourself as well your child. Therefore, pay careful
attention to the following points:
1. Be careful with your diet. Chew your food thoroughly before
swallowing. Avoid over-eating and abstain from food that can cause
constipation.
2. Eat green, fresh vegetables, like salads, cucumbers etc. in
abundance. Make sure that they are clean and washed before use.
3. Drink lots of sour-milk and milk. Drink as much milk as your
digestive system can handle. Milk isa very blessed form of nutrition.
After consuming other types offood, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi
Wasallam) would utter:
Allahummâ At'imnâ Khayran-Minhu
Translation: O Allah! Grant us food better thanthis (in Jannat).
However, milk is of such a blessed nature that there is no food better
than milk since after drinking milk Rasûlullâh recited the following
Du'aa:
Allahummâ Bârik Lanâ Fîhî wa Zidnâ Minhu
Translation: O Allah! Bless us in this and increase it for us.
In other words, whilst drinking milk, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi
Wasallam) did not ask forsomething better (as he did in the case of
other foods), because there is no better food than milk.This is why he
beseechedAllah Ta'ala for Barkat (blessing) and increase init.
In short, a pregnant woman should drink lots of milk because Allah
Ta'ala has placed the vitamins and proteins required by the human body
in milk.
If pure or raw milk is detrimental to you, consume it in other forms
like Lassî (curds), sour-milk, custard, Khîr etc. This is beneficial
to the mother as well as the child.
4. Abstain from tea, coffee, Pân (betel leaf), oil, Ghee, chillies and
oilyfoods. Besides affecting the digestive system, these foods are
detrimental to the muscles and nervous system of the mother andmay
also affect the child.
5. Ensure that you refrainfrom all types of medication during
pregnancy especially pain-relievers. If you are really desperate,
consult a reliable female (or male) doctor explaining your pregnancy
and conditions to her. It should not be such that you are prescribed
medication that is injurious to pregnant women. Some medication
clearly states on the label that it is not advisable for pregnant
women. Hence, if you arereally desperate to use some medication, make
sure you scrutinize the label and make thoroughinvestigation before
use.
6. In the first three months and the last month, in fact from the
seventh month onwards, avoid sexual contact withyour husband. This at
times, adversely affects the mother and the child.
7. Avoid sleeping late. Tryto get at least eight hours of peaceful
sleep. This will ensure that yourbody and mind is well rested. This in
turn is beneficial for the child aswell and it may simplify delivery
of the child.
8. Avoid excessively hard work and picking up very heavy objects as
thismay lead to a miscarriage. If your cruel mother-in-law or
hard-hearted sister-in-law compels you to pick up heavy objects or
forces you to carry out some difficult task, then excuse yourself very
politely and explain to them that this task is beyond you and that
youwill pay a labourer to carry out this task.
However, if your cruel mother-in-law or hard-hearted sister-in-law
fails to take pity on your condition, explain your helplessnessto your
husband and with his permission, go to your mother's house to rest. If
you are a sister-in-law to another woman (your brother's wife), don't
be cruel to her as well. The moment she falls pregnant, try to make
her comfortable and relaxed at all times. Your benevolence won't be
directed to your sister-in-law alone but you will be showing mercy to
a sinless child, a priceless gem, a blossoming flower, the coolness of
your brother's eyes, a luminance of this worldlylife and a source of
perpetual reward for the hereafter. The degree of happiness and
comfort ofyour sister-in-law or daughter-in-law will, Inshâ Allah
Ta'ala, determine the well-being, health, robustness and happiness of
the new arrival.
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