views his responsibility towards hisfamily as being a purely
materialistic one i.e. to provide financially for them (a house, car,
clothes, etc). This attittude is resulting in many marriages breaking
down since many husbands are seriously deficient in not spending
sufficient time with their families – in communicating and interacting
with the family and children. Islam presents a different viewof the
role of the husband, where he is made responsible for the Islamic
nurturing and development of his wife and children as well as their
psychological and moral welfare.
In actual fact the time which he spends with hisfamily is not only a
responsibility but an act of Ibaadat for which he will be rewarded.
Sad to note that despite this, many husbands become restless and seek
every opportunity to withdraw from their families by, among other
things:
*. Spending a great deal of time watching sportson TV
*. Spending many afternoons and evenings 'with the boys' at THE CLUB
*. Going off at weekends to play golf or fishing.
It also often transpires that if the wife (reluctantly) agrees to an
arrangement allowing the husband regular time'with the boys' the
opportunity is used for other purposes e.g. conducting illicit
relationships (adultery), etc.
He seeks more and more to be away from his family and should the wife
raise even the mildest objection, he usually reacts with a great
temper tantrum. Sadly, many wives endure this torture of loneliness
and neglect with a great deal of bitterness and sorrow, tolerating
their miserablecondition because they have no where else to go. How
often have you heard a tearful wife say, 'He's got more time for his
friends than for me'.
BROTHER HEED THIS WARNING:
If you are guilty of this type of behaviour then you will have no one
but yourself to blame if your marriage hits the rocks. CHANGE NOW!
There can never be a limit to the love and attention that you can give
to your wifeand children. Aside from Deeni activities and basic
business activities, devote yourselves towards your wife and children.
It will pay excellent dividends.
Allah's Messenger (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) said, 'The best of you
is he who is best to his family'. (Mishkat)
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