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Salaam,
I am very confused on what I shall do. I got married 10 months ago
tomy boyfriend, both our families were against it as I fell pregnant
before I gotmarried. After I terminatedmy pregnancy, I forced myfamily
to get me married to my husband, he left his family to marry me and my
family broke all ties with me.
My mother and one of my sisters kept in touch with me a few months
after to see if I was okay. Mine andmy husbands relationship had been
going well, apartfrom his anger issue. We started to have heated
arguments a few months after we got married but I did not tell anyone.
My husband has to go abroad every 6 months regarding his visa. This
time he is going in July and does not want to leave me home alone and
says he was worried about me.
So, he texted my sister to ask her if my mum could keep me for 6 days
till he is away and as my family still dont trust him and think he
only married me for my visa said no. He then had a heated argument
with my sister and brother, after the argument he came home and said
he is throwing me out of the house because my family doesn'tcare about
me and nor does he. After he walked out, I was really upset andtook
lots antibiotics tablets. My husband rushed me to the hospital to make
sure I was okay.
He said he was sorry for the way he spoke to me and treated me and
said he was worried and that was the cause for his behaving like that.
He alsosaid to me I am not allowed to meet my family or even speak to
them anymore. (My husbands family have started to meet him and he
works with them in their business, and is also at home with them
duringthe day.)
My family contacted me the next day and and my mum was asking me to
leave my husband and shewill support me always. She said to me that he
is only with me for the visa and as soon as he gets thepassport he
will leave me. My sister contacted me and told me to do the same
thing.
Now, I am very confused on what to do? My husband has refused to letme
go to university, I'm not allowed to meet my friends. He goes out with
his family to parties but I'm not allowed to go as his family haven't
announced our wedding, they are waiting for his sister to get married
as she is older than him.
I know my family don't want me to be with him because they don't like
him and don't trust him, but I know he loves me, he cares for me so
much. IfI leave him, I gain my family back but if I choose him then I
lose my family again. He said to me we will make it work, but I'm not
sure. I don't know what I want? or don't know what to do?
Please help me, what is right islamically.
Raihaanaa. Thanks
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