we were open to the idea of marriage between them, but the problem is,
we cannot take the girl's attitude. She causes a lot of drama in my
brother's life and even to us.
She makes scandalous posts on networking sites, she lacks decency in
the situation. And usually she causes trouble to people who are linked
to my brother's life like his own friends and co-workers and when you
confront her she has no remorse to what she did.
There have also been times when she utters unbearable word about my
family and my religion.She is known to have a bad reputation; she's
the cause of most fights.
So we decided to cancel the wedding, since it will only cause more
problemsand we are pretty sure they will not live a harmonious life
together.
Now here's where the problem arises: since the child is considered
illegitimate, and accordingto the law the mother has the only right to
the custody of a child, we are afraid that the baby will turn out a
non Muslim believer, since obviously, she's the one whose goingto rear
the child. We reallywanted the baby to be a Muslim.
Now her family will not allow us to have share custody of the baby
unlessmy brother will marry her,what should we do?
Do we need to let them marry for the baby's sake even though we know
first hand that she will create more trouble and problems?
Please help me.
~Misha
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