I was married to my ex wife from 2008 to 2010. We then got divorced;
we have two children together.
We both never remarried and we have both been thinking about giving it
another go. We still feel the same about each otherand we have two
kids together and we wanted to give it another go for the sake of them
too.
The divorce was done in anger and was said 3 times in one sentence. I
then went to a divorce specialist who authorized the divorce with two
witnesses and signed divorce paper.
What must we both do now in order to remarry again? I am really
stressedand just want my family back. Please help.
Thank you.
W/salaam,
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One responded :
YOU NEED TO DO ONE MORE NIKAH LIKE THE 1ST ONE -BCOZ YOU DID 3 TALAQ
IN ONE SITTING AND THEN YOU WERE MISGUIDED BY SOME DEVAITED UN
AUTHORISED IGNORANT SELF APPOINTED PERSON WHO FOLLOWS SOME SECT[ALL
SECTS ARE ILLEGAL]BCOZ THEY ARE MADE ON SOME ONE WHIMSAND FANCIES [A
BLIND FOLLOWING WITHOUT EVIDENCE] AND DUE TO THAT HIS VERSION IS
ILLEGAL AND HIS PRACTICE ILLEGAL AND HIS AUTHORITY NUL AND VOID..[I
then went to a divorce specialist who authorized the divorce with two
witnesses and signed divorce paper.]
Then on a single occasion, in a burst of temper, he utters the word
"divorce" three times in a row, "talaq, talaq, talaq!" Such incidents,
which took place in the Prophet's lifetime, still take place even
today. Now the question arises as to how the would-be divorcer should
be treated. Should his three utterances of talaq be treated as only
one, and should he then be asked to extend his decision over a
three-month period? Or should his three utterances of talaq on a
single occasion be equated with the three utterances of talaq made
separately over a three-month period? There is a Hadith recorded by
Imam Abu Dawud and several other traditionists which can give us
guidance in this matter: Rukana ibn Abu Yazid said"talaq" to his wife
three times on a single occasion. Then he was extremely sad at the
step he had taken. The Prophet asked him exactlyhow he had divorced
her. He replied that he had said"talaq" to her three times in a row.
The Prophet thenobserved, "All three count as only one. If you want,
you may revoke it." Fath al-Bari, 9/275
PL NOTE STRONGLY THE 3 TALAQS IN ONE SITTING IS HARAAM AND EVEN IF
PERSON GIVES TALAQ 50 TIMES OR 100 TIMES ALSO IN ONE BREATH IT IS
EQUALTO ONE TALAQ[DIVORCE]
PL SPREAD THIS MESSAGE TO THE WORLD THAT ISLAMDOES NOT RECOGNISE
DEVIATED SCHOLARS EXCEPT THE HOLY PROPHETSALAHAUALAHAIWASLALAM- O
Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them for their
waiting-period, *1 and compute the waiting period accurately, *2 and
hold Allah, your Lord, in awe. Do not turn them out of their homes
(during the waiting period) â nor should they go away (from their
homes) *3â unless they have committed a manifestly evil deed. *4 Such
are the bounds set by Allah; and he who transgresses the bounds set by
Allah commits a wrong against himself. You do not know: maybe Allah
will cause something to happen to pave the way (for reconciliation).
*5"If you have to divorce your wives, you should divorce them till the
expiry of their waiting-period".
The intention of this verse is further explained by a few other
Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be
Allah's peace) ai d some of the major Companions. Nasa'i has related
that
The Holy Prophet was infomed that a person hadpronounced three
divorceson his wife in One sitting. HE STOOD UP IN NAGER AND SAID-:'
`Are the people playing with the Book of Allah, although I am present
among you?"Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased withthem, reported: I
divorced my wife while she was menstruating during the lifetime of
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him).
'Umar bin Al-Khattab (mayAllah be pleased with him)asked Allah's
Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's
Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin
'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she
is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is
again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so
desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before
touching her (without having an intercourse withher), for that is the
period of waiting ('Iddah) which Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, has
commanded for the divorce of women-
RE MARRIAGE EXAMPLE-
There is a common misconception that a man can say Talaq, Talaq, Talaq
to his wife in a row and it will lead to Talaq. This is totally an
unIslamic practice.
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