please be as specific in accordance to ISLAM.
Since Allah(swt) has guided me and inshallah will forgive me for my
sins. I would like to explain the scenario. I don't feel comfortable
approaching Imam or of someone with greater knowledge.
I have been married for 10years with children. Before I married my
wife, she was non-Muslim and married to an Atheist. According to her
she was living with him but no sexual relationship after gaining more
knowledge about Islam without accepting there and then, due to family
and not ready because of her situation. She did try to give him
knowledge about Islam but he refused to accept it. At the same time
they both had the shared property in their names. So, it wasn't easy
to just move out and also because of family shame.
She did marry him on her acccordance against her parents will. But
after she had accepted Islam she was still under the same roof as him
but seperate room. Thats when I meet her and we started dating and
pretty much after 3months of dating she sold the house and got
divorced. We were dating and (shaytan got both of us with weak iman
and took us on a ugly journey) had sexual intercourse after 3 months
doing our own nikah using the Quran and no witnesses (fearing my
parents won't accept her). After 2 more months my mum wasn't happy and
decided to get us married with proper Nikkah (I still stuffed up
byforcing her to have intercourse during her period). My question is:
1. Does Iddah (waiting period) apply in her scenario? With her first
marriage and with me?
2. Is our Nikkah valid or doI need to do it again?
3. I feel I have disrespected my parents and did not do the right
thing, should I tell them the full truth or just leave it as it is?
4. Any further advice?
Regards,
nisha/