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I have a daughter who is three years old, and two sons, one of whom is nine and the other is two. These days I am having some problems with my husband because he suggested that he should bring his brother, who is homosexual and is fifty years old, to stay with us!
I adamantly refused to agree to that. I do not want any homosexual man to enter my house. I am afraid that he will bring some punishment or wrath from Allah upon us. I also fear for my nine-year-old son lest he be influenced by this man in some way.
My husband also wanted me to show respect to his brother and to speak kindly to him, and so on. How can he expect all this from me towards a man like that?!
Do you have any advice?
I hope that you can help me to resolve this problem.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If it is proven that your brother’s husband is as you describe him and that he is a homosexual and does the action of the people of Loot, then it is not permissible – in this case – for your husband to admit him to his house, let alone allow him to meet his sons. It is also not permissible for him to ask you to show respect to him, because he is not one of those who are deserving of respect; rather he is one of those who are deserving of rebuke and shunning, and he deserves to be shown hostility because of what he is, not to be respected, because what he is doing is a grave evil, immorality, and act of disobedience. The major sin that he is doing – if it is proven – is one of the most horrid and repulsive of major sins. Hence those who do it are deserving of the greatest punishment such as landslides, stoning and drowning such as no nation of disbelievers were punished with before or since.
Ibn al-Qayyim narrated – inZaad al-Ma‘aad(5/40) – from his shaykh, Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him), that the Sahaabah (companions of the Prophet) were unanimously agreed that the one who does the action of the people of Loot is to be executed; they only differed as to the manner of execution.
Regarding the serious nature of the sin of homosexuality and the punishment for the one who does it,Hence we agree with you in your stance about him entering your house, and we also agree with you about the kind of treatment that he deserves. So do not hesitate to prevent him from entering the house in the first place, let alone staying there. What your husband has to do is to take the decision himself; rather he should have taken a decision before you did, because Islam has given him the responsibility of taking care of his family, looking after them and advising them. His giving permission to his homosexual brother to enter his house and meet his sons, and asking his wife to show respect to him – all of that is contrary to the obligations that Allah has given him of protecting his family and taking care of them. It is a kind of haraam (unlawful) betrayal of his flock for whom Allah has made him responsible.
But if it so happens that this homosexual has repented sincerely before he enters your house or stays there, and he shows you that he has truly repented and mended his ways, then in that case there is nothing wrong with him entering the house, provided that the wife does not appear before him or mix with him or spend time alone with him; these actions are basically forbidden even if the person is pious. He is still the “in-law” whom Islam warns about. We have explained in more than one answer the seriousness of this problem, how widespread it is and how people are heedless concerning it. So in the case of a person like this, it is essential to deal with him, even after his repentance, with the greatest caution and to block all ways that may lead to evil and temptation.
And Allah knows best.
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