How 2 manage yourself, - How to stop thinking about something that bothers you

Why you can't get that out of your head
Do you remember that annoying word someone said to you that remained
in your head for days?
Do you remember that situation that kept replaying itself inside your
head over and over?
I am pretty sure it happened to you before that a bad thing happened
to you then you kept thinking about it all day. I am pretty sure you
also noticed that no matter how strongly you try to push that thought
away it always keeps coming back to you.
In my previous article Where do emotions come from?i said that
emotions always have a purpose. Your mind doesn't send you emotions to
bother you but it sends you emotions to motivate you to take important
actions.
When your mind keeps repeating the same situation over and over it's
simply trying to tell you that you need to handle what happened
properly so that the bad emotions go away.
No you might be asking yourself, how can you handle something that
already happened in the past?
The good news is that you can still do that well, let me tell you how
you can do it.
How to stop thinking about something that bothers you
When your mind keeps reminding you of the same thing over and over
then it wants one or both of the following things done:
*.1) Taking the right action immediately
*.2) Making sure this situation will never happen again
Now for the sake of simplicity let's suppose that this bad situation
was that someone humiliated you in the presence of others.
The first thing your mind wants you to do in such a case is to reach
out to that person and to assertively express your discontent with
their actions. See how to be assertive.
But what if you can't reach that person again?
Why is your mind reminding you of the situation over and over?
In such a case your mind just wants a promise that this situation
won't be repeated again.
This promise can't be the form of spoken words for you need serious
actions to back your promise. In such a case starting right away to
learn how to respond assertively to people who bully you will send
your subconscious mind a signal telling it that you are serious.
In my book The 5 Minute Happiness Formulai said that a promise alone
can help you change your mood instantly provided that your
subconscious mind trusts you. This is why learning how to make your
subconscious mind trust you is a very important requirement for
changing your mood instantly.
Why you must move
Your subconscious mind will never leave you alone before you resolve
the conflict that took place. The reason it keeps sending you those
images over and over is that it demands an action.
If you did the horrible advice of keeping yourself busythen your bad
mood won't change and the bad situation won't leave your mind.
The only way out of this problem is to take the proper action. Once
that is done the memory will leave your brain and the bad feelings
will stop.