Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq, may Allaah be pleased with him. Also, look at
'Abdullaah ibn Mas'ood, may Allaah be pleased with him, whose pure
disposition prevented him from giving the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi
wa sallam, some of the milk entrusted to him. He told the Prophet,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, "I am a trusted boy." Ibn Mas'ood, may
Allaah be pleased with him, said,
I was herding sheep for 'Uqbah ibn Abu Mu'ayt, and one day the
Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and Abu Bakr passed by me. The
Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"O boy, do you have some
milk for us to drink?"I said, "Yes, but I am entrusted to look after
it." He said:"Do you have a ewe that has not been copulated by a ram
)i.e. does not produce milk(?"I brought him a ewe and when he rubbed
its udder, it produced milk. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, milked it and let Abu Bakr drink, then he said to the
udder:"Shrink )i.e. stop producing milk(", and it stopped. I said, "O
Messenger of Allaah, teach me the like of what you said." He wiped my
head and said:"May Allaah have mercy upon you! You are a knowledgeable
boy."]Ibn Hibbaan[
In another narration, Ibn Mas'ood, may Allaah be pleased with him, said,
I went to the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and said, "Teach
me these good words." He said:"You are a knowledgeable boy."Later on,
I learned from the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, himself
seventy Surahs that no body disputes with me on." ]Ahmad[ ]Al-Albaani:
Saheeh[
The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, took advantage of the pure
innate belief of 'Abdullaah ibn Mas'ood, may Allaah be pleased with
him, who later became the best man from whom the Quran was learnt, and
the man who brought the head of Abu Jahl the pharaoh of this Ummah
)nation( to the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam.
Thus, a child is a very white blank paper that you draw on with your
own hands. You can utilize and invest this pure disposition in raising
your child as the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, did or do
the opposite. For that reason, Imaam Al-Ghazaali, may Allaah have
mercy upon him, said,
A child is a trust with his parents, and his pure heart is an intact
jewel that has no inscriptions or drawings. The child's heart is
susceptible to every inscription and is inclined to whatever is
offered to it. If he gets used to and is taught goodness, he will grow
on goodness and his parents, teachers and those who brought him up
will be happy in this life and in the Hereafter. If he gets used to
evil and is left like animals, he will be miserable and doomed, and
the sin will be burdened on his guardian and those put in his charge.
Absence of sound upbringing affects the Fitrah
Man's pure disposition is badly affected when it lacks the appropriate
atmosphere which helps it to develop and benefit from its power and
impact on the child's upbringing. The pure disposition may be
distorted as a result of the corrupt environment in which the child
lives, the parents' negligence, and the children's integration with
the other ways of upbringing in the society.
This happens when the role model does not play his role at home as an
important means of upbringing, and thus, matters take the opposite
direction; what is right becomes wrong and what is wrong becomes
right. Nevertheless, man's pure disposition does not completely die
and it is not meant to die; it searches for a role model in another
place and a sincere source for upbringing. Once it finds that role
model and source, it returns to the right path.
Raising a single child on Islam, like raising one thousand children or
all children, requires the presence of the Muslim household, the
Muslim street, the Muslim school and the Muslim society. All these
factors together have a far-reaching impact on raising children and
shaping them in their own fashion. They raise the children either upon
constantly observing Islam or on deviation. We cannot overlook the
impact of the child's temperament as well as the new and old habits
inherited from the parents and family on forming his personality since
he was born to them and influenced by them before the house, the
street, the school or the society affected and molded him.
Once a sound upbringing is absent or the upbringing and guidance are
corrupt, deviations resulting from hereditary factors take root
instead of being corrected; and aggravate instead of being improved.
Hence, people presume that heredity is dominant and critical in
shaping the child's personality. However, it is not like that. This
presumption may only be correct when inherited habits are left without
guidance, exactly as everything aggravates and exacerbates when it is
left free. It is not because it is strongly and violently incorporated
in his nature; rather, it is because nothing hinders or trims it, and
thus, it continues its way.
Ivy has the most delicate branches because it is a climbing plant and
cannot support itself. This plant must depend on something to climb
and grow on. How does this plant look when it is fully grown, and
climbs on and intertwines with other things? It blocks the way and you
can hardly pass through its branches.
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Regards,
NAJIMUDEEN M/
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