Mistakes are part of destiny

No one wants to make a mistake and do himself or others mischief.
However, making mistakes is an important part of our trial in the
life of this world. Allah created our trial in the life of this
world in this way. Anyone can make a mistake but what is important
is that he repents after his mistake and strive not to repeat this
mistake.
Allah reveals in the verses of the Qur'an that human beings are weak
creatures who can forget and be mistaken. A person can make a
mistake when he does not think something through, ignores
something, does not take the necessary precautions, is overwhelmed
by his weak points, forgets or is mistaken. This is very natural.
However the important thing is how the person reacts after this,
rather than the mistake itself. However big the mistake is, as soon
as the person decides to resign himself and begins to show the
attitude hoped to please Allah, that mistake disappears -by Allah's
leave. Almighty Allah reveals as such in Surah Al- Imran:
" Those who, when they act indecently or wrong themselves, remember
Allah and ask forgiveness for their bad actions (and who can forgive
bad actions except Allah?) and do not knowingly persist in what
they were doing." (Surah Al 'Imran, 135)
Allah Creates Everything We Do
Everything a person lives throughout his or her life, everything they
do, every situation they face, all of them are created by Allah
with all of the pros and cons. In the verses it is revealed that
not even a single leaf falls without the knowledge of Allah.
(Surah al-An'am, 59). In Surat al-Qalam, it is revealed "Everything
they did is in the Books. Everything is recorded, big or small."
(Surat al-Qamar, 52-53). This means that the person makes that
mistake because Allah wills him to do so; it is in his destiny to
make that mistake. When he acts according to the Qur'an, something
good will happen after that mistake.
For example, a person may break a vase when walking by it because he
is not careful enough or does not look ahead. Or he can bump into a
dinner plate prepared with great effort and knock it off a table. He
may cause the people waiting for him to delay their jobs because he
fell asleep. Now in all these there is a variety of reasons created
by Allah. Allah is the One Who breaks that object. Maybe that object
would have caused a conflict between its owners or broken in a
dangerous way that would harm someone. Maybe Allah will make a much
more beautiful one to be purchased instead. In the same way, Allah
is the One Who makes the food spill on the floor. Maybe there is an
bad ingredient inside that food and it would have made someone ill.
Maybe that food would have prevented that person from eating
something healthier. Also Allah is the One Who does not wake a person
who is late for a job because he fell asleep because maybe his
friends waiting for him need to be late as well. Maybe this will
protect them from some danger or maybe bring the means to carry out
a more important job.
If one does not realize these facts, when he makes a mistake he
would panic and feel anxiety and sorrow. He would feet unease and
dismay. His sadness would increase even because of the effect of
this situation on other people and his troubles increase day by day.
However, it is not in line with the moral values of the Qur'an to
feel sad, dismay and troubled because of a mistake, which took
place in his destiny by Allah's will. Muslims overthrow their
discomort and anxieties as a result of their mistakes again by
turning to Allah and acting according to the moral values of the
Qur'an. They do not fall into depression like people who do not live
by the morality of religion. They do not feel sadness, sorrow or
hopelessness by evaluating their mistakes with an emotional state
of mind. They only experinece a very deep and strong sense of
regret. However this is not an evil kind of regret; it is a Muslim
kind of regret because this feeling of regret helps them hold onto
the Qur'an even more strongly. They pray to Allah even more deeply.
Their religious enthusiasm, determination to live by the moral
values of the Qur'an, submission to Allah, faith in the hereafter
and fear of Allah increase tremendaously. They take very sincere
decisions to become better in every way and become more
enthusiastic and energetic by striving more in this way. They know
that even if they could take the time back, they would still make
the same mistakes. When they criticize themselves and feel regret
for their actions, they do not forget that all things have occured
according to destiny. Therefore they do not "live in a sense of
guilt" as irreligious people do. Allah revealed in the Qur'an as
such:
"Everything they did is in the Books. Everything is recorded, big
or small. (Surat al-Qamar, 52-53)
It is impossible to claim that a person will never make any mistakes
throughout his life and is complete and flawless because human
beings are created as weak creatures who can make mistakes. Our
Almighty Lord is the One Who is forgiving and accepts repentance.
Therefore, a believer needs to take lessons from the mistakes he
made knowingly or unknowingly or because he followed his inner
self. What he needs to do is to regret it and follow the truth and
submit to our Lord and strive not to repeat that mistake. Of course
he needs to be very careful about not making any mistakes and
commit any further sins and protecting the boundaries of our Lord.
But even if he makes a mistake it is a very good quality of faith to
ask for forgiveness from Allah. The names of Allah as "The Acceptor
of Repentance" (At-Tawwab), "The All-Forgiving" (Al-Ghaffar), "The
All-Merciful" (Ar-Rahman) are manifested on the believers who
regret their mistakes, ask for forgiveness and turn to Allah.
Believers Take Lessons From Their Mistakes
As a result of their faith and fear of Allah, mistakes help
believers become more clean morally. Maybe they make a mistake on
one thing, but they remember that mistake all their lives and avoid
making a similar mistake by taking lessons from it.
However, Allah created human beings especially in a character so
that they can use their conscience, feel regret and repent, turn to
Him and ask for His forgiveness and take decisions not to repeat
that mistake.
A person must do all he can not to make a mistake; and strive to act
in a very moral way by using his mind, will and conscience to the
end. But when there is a mistake, he needs to act in the way as
described in the Qur'an.
If that mistake has helped the person to better understand his
weakness in the face of Allah's infinite power and his need for
Allah, then this shows that person's sincere faith and fear of
Allah. If he regrets his mistake and fears to be held responsible
in the Day of Judgment, and if he submits to Allah's mercy and
forgiveness, then he is abiding by the moral values of the Qur'an by
Allah's leave. Such a person prays sincerely so Allah accepts his
repentance and forgives him. He promises to Allah with a true heart
not to repeat that mistake. In one verse, our Lord heralds that He
will accept the repentance of his sincere servants:
"But if anyone makes repentance after his wrongdoing and puts
things right, Allah will turn towards him. Allah is Ever-Forgiving,
Most Merciful." (Surat al-Ma'ida, 39)
The Qur'an is the only measure for believers, so their approach to a
person who makes a mistake is always in line with the moral values
of the Qur'an. A believer knows that every person is a human being
who is weak and who can make a mistake easily. He does not forget
that Allah is the One Who creates everything –by Allah's leave- and
he can distinguish a sincere mistake from a deliberate one. When a
person is sincere, his love or respect would not change because of a
single mistake - by Allah's leave.