sin to be committed in this party, i.e. music, etc. but of course we
want it to be delightful, we do not want the guests to feel bored.
Praise be to Allaah.
Celebrating weddings is a celebration that is prescribed in sharee'ah,
because it is a great blessing from Allaah, Who has enabled the couple
to find a means of happiness and a way to achieve modesty and
chastity. People have always expressed their joy for this blessing
sinceancient times and they still do so today, and that takes various
forms and involves different customs in different societies and
countries.
The aim of Islamic sharee'ah is not to put pressure on people with
regard to their customs or try to make them follow only one custom,
rather studying sharee'ah will show that with regard to customs the
matter is broad in scope and in principle customs are permissible,
with some limits and guidelines.
The Muslim is recommended to follow the customs of his people and he
is forbidden to go against them, so long as they do not go against the
rulings of sharee'ah or cause any hardship or embarrassment to people.
The scholars ruled that it is recommended to be similar to the people
in their customs by analogywith the ruling that it is recommended to
be similar to them in dress. There is a hadeeth concerning that which
forbids being different from people in dress so that one becomes known
among people for the way he dresses. Itwas narrated that Ibn 'Umar
(may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah(peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever wears a garment of
fame and vanity, Allaah will clothe him in a garment of humiliation on
the Day of Resurrection."
Narrated by Ibn Majaah (3606); classed as hasan by Shaykh al-Albaani
inSaheeh Ibn Majaah.
Fame and vanity in clothing means wearing something that is
extraordinarily expensive or extraordinarily ragged. The salaf
disliked both kinds of standing out: wearing expensive clothing or
wearing ragged clothing.
It says something similar inMajmoo' al-Fataawaby Ibn Taymiyah (22/138).
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said inal-Sharh
al-Mumti'(6/115):
We must highlight this point, that going along with customs so long
as they are not haraam is the Sunnah, because going against customs is
a kind of vanity, and the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) forbade the dress of fame and vanity,so that which goes
against customs is also forbidden. End quote.
Hence we advise you to hold a wedding celebration and we ask Allaah to
bless it. You should do it in accordance with the custom and tradition
of people in your country, and you should not try to cast off all of
their customs. All that you have to do is reject and avoid those
customs thatare haraam, such as using music – apart fromthe daff – and
mixing between men and women. For more information please see question
no. 11446.
There are many more things that are permissible – praise be to Allaah
– than those that are haraam. Singingthat is not accompanied by music,
making food, bringing people together, wearing adornments are all
things that are permitted by sharee'ah, so use whatever of thosethings
you think is appropriate and that people like and ask Allaah to guide
you in allof that.
And Allaah knows best.
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