Fathwa, - It is not undutifulness to let old parents cook for adult sons

Question
Salaamu Alaykum dear Shaykh, I am in urgent need of an answer for
mySituation. May Allah guide us to his truth. Ameen. I have two
Questions bi ithnillah ta ala : 1. I am 22 years old and my Parents
have reached an old age (Mother is over 60 and Father over 70, both
live seperate) and they still cook food for us (2 brothers who live
with them) when we are at their place. I dont want them to do this as
they have reached an old age ma sha Allah and I am also scared of
being accounted for it on Yawmal-Aakhir. It would be nota problem if
they dont cook anymore as I could take care of myself with the help of
Allah. What is the best do? Tell them not to cook? Eat outside? Do
anything else? Please clarify in sha Allah... 2. What is the ruling
regarding obedience to them and the way of treatment as they were born
in a muslim country,used to pray etc but now have stopped all these
acts of obedience to Allahsubhana wa ta ala... My Father doesnt want
to pray and my mother prays maybe once in 2 or 3 months as she wants
to... Please help me out with my Situation and may Allah reward you.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad
isHis slave and Messenger.
First of all, may Allaah reward you for your keenness on being kind
and dutiful to your parents and for being merciful to them.
The Sharee'ah has highlighted the right of being kind and dutiful to
the parents in all cases even if they are wrong asthis does not make
them lose this right. The best way of being kind and dutiful to your
parents is to endeavor to guide them to the straight path and teach
them the matters of their religion. Also, you should supplicate Allaah
to guide them and enable them to repent, and you should remind them of
Allaah and the bad fate of the one who dies while he is negligent of
his religion especially theprayer which is the pillar of Islam and the
link between a person and his Lord.
For more benefit on how to be kind and dutiful to the parents and how
to invite them to preserve the prayer, please refer to Fataawa 21794 ,
82254 and 19274 .
Also, you should endeavor to eliminate the causes of this dissension
between your parents as much as possible and reunite the family.
As regards cooking, then if they are able to do so, then it might be
more appropriate to let them do it as this might be useful for them
and they might feel at ease when serving their children. However, you
should help them as much as possible even by purchasing food from
restaurants sometimes and the like.
But if they, or one of them, cook with difficultyand they need help or
a servant to help them and the like, then the children are obligated
to serve them each according to his own ability. Ibn Muflih saidin
Al-Aadaab Ash-Shar'iyyah while clarifying the rights of the parents on
their children: " Among their rights is to serve them if they both or
one of them needs to be served, and honor their invitation and obey
their order as long as it is not a sin. "
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