catholicand that I was very ungrateful to my Rabb before Islam. Since
I was a little kid I was mischievous and often committed sin. After
one particularly grave sin, and I asked Allah Subhana wa ta'ala
(eventhought I was a kaaffir I prayed to Allah azza wa jalla and not
Jesus, peace be upon him) to have mercy on me, and I promised Him not
to marry if He forgave me. Now that I'm Muslim, Alhamdulillah, I
protect my chastity. I know the importance of marriage and the
protection it offers a sister, and I wishI could get married in the
future to a righteousbrother (insha'Allah) so I could learn from him
and also to be a comfort for him. But I don't know if I'm excused of
not fulfilling my promiseto Allah in this matter or if a woman who
used to be so wicked could aspire to marry a righteous man.
Praise be to Allah.
The best thing we can do is start by focusing onthe last part of your
question in this brief answer. That is where you wonder whether a
woman like you who had committed various kinds of sins and now wants
to marry a righteous man can do so. This is according to what you say.
We say to you that no one on the face of the earth can come betweenyou
and sincere repentance to Allah, mayHe be glorified and exalted, or
prevent the mercy and forgiveness of Allah from reaching you, or
prevent His being pleased with the new direction you are taking.
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has told us in His holy Book
of everything that fills our hearts with reassurance and hope, as He
says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Say: O My slaves who have transgressed against themselves (by
committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah,
verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving,Most
Merciful.
And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith (Islamic
Monotheism) to your Lord and submit to Him, (in Islam), before the
torment comes upon you, then you will not behelped.
And follow the best of that which is sent down to you from your Lord
(i.e. this Qur'an, do what it orders you to do and keep away from what
it forbids), before the torment comes on you suddenly while you
perceive not!
Lest a person should say:'Alas, my grief that I was undutiful to Allah
(i.e. I have not done what Allah has ordered me to do), and I was
indeed among those who mocked (at the truth! i.e.La ilaha ill-Allah
(none has the right to be worshipped but Allah), the Quran, and
Muhammad SAW and at the faithful believers, etc.)'
Or (lest) he should say: 'Ifonly Allah had guided me, I should indeed
havebeen among the Muttaqoon (pious and righteous persons).'
Or (lest) he should say when he sees the torment: 'If only I had
another chance (to return to the world) then I should indeed be among
the Muhsinoon (good-doers).'
Yes! Verily, there came toyou My Aayaat (proofs, evidences, verses,
lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and you denied them, and were proud
and were among the disbelievers.
And on the Day of Resurrection you will seethose who lied against
Allah (i.e. attributed to Him sons, partners, etc.) their faces will
be black. Is there not in Hell an abode for the arrogant ones?
And Allah will deliver those who are the Muttaqoon (pious) to their
places of success (Paradise). Evil shall touch them not, nor shallthey
grieve.
Allah is the Creator of all things, and He is the Wakeel (Trustee,
Disposer of affairs, Guardian, etc.) over all things."
[az-Zumar 39:53-62].
And our noble Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) has
told us a hadeeth that every Muslim should memoriseand keep in mind so
thathe might live in contentment, turning to his most generous Lord,
may He be glorified. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) said: "Allah, may He be glorified and exalted,said: 'O son of
Adam, so long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I shall
forgive you for what you have done,and I shall not mind. O son of
Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then
to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you and I would not mind. O
son of Adam, were you to come to Me with an earthful of sins earth and
were you thento face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would grant you
forgiveness as great as it."
Narrated by at-Tirmidhi in as-Sunan, (3540. He said: (It is) hasan
ghareeb. It was classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh
at-Tirmidhi.
What we fear most for you is that the Shaytaan may try to remind you
ofyour past sins so that you might end up despairing of the mercy of
Allah, or that he mightmake you go back to that dark past.
Rather what you must do now is turn to your Lord, may He be glorified
and think positively of Him, with great hope of His bountyand blessing
to you. You should put the past behind you and enter the world of
Islam whichencompasses lands and people with mercy and compassion, as
our Lord,may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"Allah wishes to make clear (what is lawful andwhat is unlawful) to
you,and to show you the ways of those before you, and accept your
repentance, and Allah is All-Knower, All-Wise.
Allah wishes to accept your repentance, but those who follow their
lusts, wish that you (believers) should deviate tremendously away from
the Right Path.
Allah wishes to lighten (the burden) for you; and man was created weak."
[an-Nisa' 4:26-28].
You should understand that by becoming Muslimand by leaving behind the
deeds of jaahiliyyah (ignorance) and shirk (associating partners with
Allah), by giving up the sins of the past and repenting to your Lord,
may He be glorified and exalted, you have turnedover a new leaf before
your Lord. Islam (becoming Muslim) erases everything that came before
it; all you have to do is keep that new leaf or new page clean and not
go back tothose sins that have caused you so much grief and that you
now regret.
One of the signs of Allah's mercy to us is thatHe does not accept any
pledge or promise from us that is contrary to His laws. Refraining
from getting married in an attempt to draw closer to Him is not an act
of obedience or worship; rather it is contrary to His laws. The
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) heard one of the
people say that he had chosen to be celibate and devote himself to
worship, and he had decided not to get married. But the
Prophet(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "By Allah, I
am the one who fears Allah the mostamong you and the one who the most
aware of Him, but I fast and I do not fast, I pray and I sleep, and I
marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me. Narrated
by al-Bukhaari (5063), Muslim (1401). And it was narrated that Sa'd
ibn Abi Waqqaas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messengerof
Allah (sa) forbade 'Uthmaan ibn Maz'oon be celibate; if he had given
him permission to do that, we would have gotten ourselves castrated.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5073). Ibn Hajar said: What is meant by
celibacy here is to cut oneself off from marriage and what it brings
of physical pleasure in order to focus on worship. End quote from Fath
al-Baari,9/118
Your refraining from getting married in orderto focus on worshipping
Allah, may He be exalted,is not part of the religion of Islam; rather
it is part of the religion of jaahiliyyah (ignorance), or it is one of
the things that were abrogated of the laws ofprevious nations. If a
person swears an oath or makes a promise to Allah, may He be glorified
and exalted, that he will refrain from getting married as a means of
drawing closerto Him, his oath is invalidand his promise is idle
speech that carries no weight, whether he swore that oath before
becoming Muslim or afterwards. The Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: "Whoever swears an oath to commit an act of
disobedience, that oath does not count." Narrated by Abu Dawood in
as-Sunan (2191); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
It was also narrated from 'Aa'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her)
that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
"Whoever makes a vow to do an act of obedience to Allah, let him do
it; whoever makes a vow tocommit a sin Him, let him not do it."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6696).
We congratulate you on your becoming Muslim and we congratulate you
for having been guided to the straight path. We hope that you will
have a happy marriage to a righteous man, by Allah's leave. There is
no sin on you if you break the promise that you made to Allah, may He
be exalted, because it is a promise that is blameworthy in and of
itself, so you do not have to fulfil it; the expiation for that is
feeding ten poor persons, giving each onea meal based on the people's
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