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There are plenty of things to consider in wedding planning and
arrangement. These are afew things which are either unknown or
forgotten:
1. Invite the poor
According to one Hadith, the worst meal is the feast of a Walima in
which rich people are invited and poor people are left out.
Don't let your Walima be a class-based affair. Makesure that all
guests are welcome, regardless of their economic situation.
2. Invite a multiethnic audience
Make your wedding party more representative of the Ummah (the
worldwide Muslim community) by inviting Muslims of different ethnic
backgrounds, whether it's the local Imam and his family who are
Turkish, the African-American Muslima who accepted Islam recently or
the Lebanese family in your neighborhood.
3. Practice gender privacy at your wedding
This means providing women-only space where sisters who observe
different levels and types of Hijab feel comfortable.
Most sisters like to dress up for a wedding, but they want to enjoy
themselves without being watched by strange men. Also remember that
your other guests have nothing to lose with this kind of set up so in
the end, providing for women-only space worksout for the best for
everyone.
There are different ways to accommodate women-only space in a hall.
*. You can have separate rooms for men and women. This is the
idealsolution for maximum privacy.
*. You can have a room in which there is a curtainor a row of tall plants.
*. In larger halls, you can make two distinct areas.
If your family tradition is not to have weddings arranged in this way,
consider this: you will Insha Allah (if Allah wills) receive Allah's
blessings ifyou do so for seeking to accommodate your guests and
trying to observe an Islamic practice which has been in place for
about 1400 years.
In programs where women-only space is provided, children need to be
divided up between parents. Older boys should stay with their dads.
Older girls stay with mom. Young girls who are toilet trained can also
go with dad.
It should also be remembered that professional photographers can
violate the privacy of individuals by taking photos or videos
withouttheir consent. If you are taking photos or videos make sure not
to include non-relatives or those who do not want their picture taken.
4. Set up a hospitality line
This is a line of hosts whowill welcome guests when they arrive at the wedding.
Those who will be included in the hospitality line need to be told in
advance that they will be part of it. They should not be told once
they reach the hall for the wedding.
5. Have the hosts makerounds during dinner
When guests are digging into dinner, hosts should go around, making
sure everyone has what they need and inviting those who are finished
to take more.
6. Set the stage
It should be decided by the hall committee who will sit on stage at
the wedding and exactly where. This has to be done carefully. The
feelings of relatives and close family friends are important to
consider when making decisions about this.
7. Make sure to set up agift table
Where are you going to put all those goodies? Setup a specific gift
table near the stage with a sign saying "Please put gifts here. Thank
you."
8. Mind the bathrooms
Take into account how many guests are coming and see if the
washroomsat the hall are big enough. If it's a large gathering,
request hall administrators to have a cleaning person come in every
half hour or so to clean up quickly in between.
Also, if one of the prayersoccurs during the wedding, that means the
washrooms will be used for Wudu (ablution before prayer). Ask the hall
administrators to accommodate this by providing extra paper towels.
9. Avoid making unnecessary announcements
Avoid making unnecessary announcements of any sort during the program
and keep the microphone close by so children do not mess around with
it.
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