mentions houses in relation to women in three occasions in His Book,
despite thefact that these houses (in most cases) belong to their
guardians. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means):
• {And remember what is recited in your houses of the verses of Allaah
and wisdom.} [Quran 33:34]
• {And abide in your houses.} [Quran 33:33]
• {Do not turn them out of their [husbands'] houses.} [Quran 65:1]
So, be eager to bring up your daughters to abide in the home, and
adhere to firmness for it is more beneficial for their religion and
more likely to bring you honor in this world and the Hereafter.
Third: Giving her shelter in a house full of Thikr (mentioning and
remembering Allaah), worship and righteous deeds. It is true that some
women do not come out of their houses, but their houses, at the same
time, are inhabited by the human devils and the jinn, where women do
not veil themselves from the men who are not their Mahrams
(unmarriageable relatives), and their sons and those of the paternal
and maternal uncles and aunts go and come and enter everywhere they
like with neither a cover nor a veil.
The same is true of the driver andthe servant, as if they have foster
relations with them, for they enter upon the women of the house with
no veil. Such a house is not fit to be a refuge, for it is a house in
which honor is violated.
Also, some women do not come out of their houses, but their houses are
filled with corruption-causing devices and channels of singing and
adultery. The girl there thus learns, listens to and sees what is
unlawful, is temptedaway from her religion and straysand gets
corrupted more than if she goes to markets.
Is this a refuge, O slaves of Allaah?
The real refuge lies in a screeningshelter that guards and maintains
your honor: "Whoever has three daughters whom he gives refuge,
provides for and shows mercy to, Paradise is inevitably guaranteed for
him."
That was the refuge; now what isintended by providing for them?
This is explained in the narration of Muslim: "Whoever looks after two
girls until they attain the ageof maturity." An-Nawawi said, "It means
to raise them andprovide them with sustenance." It is further
explained in his (the Prophet's saying: "And dresses them from what he
has."
Yes, O slaves of Allaah! To provide the woman with what she
necessarily needs of food, clothing and sustenance is among the
obligatory duties and one of the greatest acts that bring men closer
to Allaah.
Men should provide women with these things so that they would not need
to come out of the house to work and earn their living. They should
provide them with these necessities so that they would not think about
committing a sin or deviation.
The Prophet said: "To provide for them," and did not say to make them
transgress by giving them what is beyond their needs as many fathers,
may Allaah guide them, do with their daughters. They give their
daughters all that they ask for, and whenever one's daughter has a
desire for a certain thing, they hasten to buy it for her to fulfill
her desire, and whenever they request anything, they hurrywith full
power in response to her command.
This kind of indulgence destroys the girl and would shorten her
marital life. Once such a girl moves to the house of her husband and
is no longer pampered, she rebels against herhusband because she
misses what she was brought up on.
On the other extreme are other men who fall short of fulfilling the
necessities of their women, shouting at them things like,"Why do you
not come out and work like so-and-so who obtains her needs and what is
sufficient for her?" Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {And [they
are] those who, when they spend, do so not excessively or sparingly
but are ever, between that, [justly] moderate.} [Quran 25:67]
The third qualification and condition included under being kind (to
girls) lie in his statement: "And shows mercy to them." What is the
real nature of mercy? What is intended by it?
The first thing that occurs to the mind is its apparent and general
meaning; to show mercy to themis to sympathize and show pity for them,
not to beat them, and everything else included in the meaning of
mercy, which are, no doubt, true. However, the real mercy one should
show girls lies in two things:
First: to show mercy to them by earnestly seeking and seriously
working to keep them away fromthe Wretched Settlement that is the
Fire. That is to bring them up on the rituals of Islam, the
establishment of prayers, adherence to Hijaab and the maintenance of
their chastity: {O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your
families froma Fire whose fuel is people and stones.} [Quran 66:6]
The man who shows sympathy towards his daughters, pampers them and is
spiritually and materially kind to them, and, at the same time does
not command them to perform prayers, to observe fast or to adhere to
Hijaab, is in fact a tyrant and plain enemy of them, for he is not
sincere in advising them, and he does not help themand keep them away
from the Fire of Hell.
That is the real mercy, O companyof believers. The Prophet said: "My
parable in relation to that of my Ummah (nation) is like a man who
kindled a fire and when it lit all around him, moths and insects
started falling into the fire. I am there to catch hold of you (in
order to save you) from the fire. But you plunge into it and overpower
my efforts."
This is only one of many forms with which Allaah The Almighty honored
the woman and raised her esteem. Which honor and high esteem are
better than exhorting men to enter Paradise and be gathered in the
company of the Prophet and kept awayfrom the Fire of Hell, if they are
kind to the girls in their care, look after their affairs and take
care of them perfectly?
So, fear Allaah, O slave-girl of Allaah, and be proud of that honor,
and remember that the final statement of the Prophet before he left
this world was: "And I advise you to be kind and good to women."
Thus, he commanded and advised us to be good and kind to you, O woman.
So, be a good helper to your guardians to achieve that great task, and
bear in mind that your honor and glory lie in your adherence to your
religion. And, O men, be good and kind to your girls – your daughters
and sisters, and be aware of the fact that this great reward you have
been told about is qualified by these heavy qualifications, which are
easy for the person on whom Allaah The Almighty makes it easy, and
within the capacity of him who strives his utmost and is eager todo
them.
And Allaah is the guardian of success.
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