• "If I did not remind him of the prayer time, he would wait until its
due time had passed."
• "My son only prays to silence my yells. Can you imagine that he does
not even perform ablution before praying?"
Dear parent, if you are among this group, I would like to invite you,
from the depth my heart, to contemplate my words; perhaps you could
find guidance in what Ihave compiled from the opinions of experts in
the field of education and parenting to makefull use of it in laying
the optimal and best foundation in your precious child [i.e,. your
beloved son] of which you are dreaming.
Before we start:
Before we start our journey on that road and go through the details,
we should adopt the following narration as our motto in the process of
teaching our children to perform prayers; the Prophet said: ~"Command
your children to pray at the age of seven and beat them for it at the
age of ten (if they do not pray)."~~ [Al-Albaani: Saheeh]
Why the age of seven in particular?
In fact, there are several issues that are related to that specific
age. At that age, the children's mental horizons broaden and they are
willing to learn essential life skills. Moreover, seven-year-old
children are more eager to seek their parents' pleasure; since they
are full of deep admiration for their parents in this phase of their
lives. In fact, children then are willing to do whatever they are
told, to get in return simple words of praise or encouragement.
Furthermore, children at that age tend to imitate adults in their
various actions and behavior; they are rather keen to go to the mosque
and pray, unlike the eleven-year-old son and older children who
believe that implementing their father's commands is a return to the
childhood phase. Therefore, children try to keep away from
implementing their orders at the age of puberty. In fact, children at
that age believe that their rejection to their father's orders is the
utmost levelof attaining the phase of youth and being a grown-up.
Let us overcome the obstacles of teaching together.
• Failing to understand the meaning of the word "obligatory" i.e.,
when your child is informed that performing prayer is obligatory;
since such abstract words are rather hard for children to comprehend
at that age as they have simpler understanding abilities at that time.
Hence, you should resort to using intelligible and simple language;
for example, you may tell him, "Prayer is obligatory; this means that
we can not neglect it and as soon as we hearthe Athaan (call to
prayer), we should immediately perform the due prayer", and so on.
• Lack of innate readiness to pray; the child may pray when he is
asked to do so.
• Lack of commitment to perform the five daily prayers at their due
times without the supervision of parents.
• Accustoming him to perform Al-Fajr (Dawn) Prayer.
• Accustoming him to perform ablution before each prayer.
Step by step … do not hasten things.
• Purification is the key to performing prayers:
A parent or teacher should first teach the child the significance
ofprayer, and the fact that it was the last advice of the Prophet
before his death. Moreover, you should inform him that the one who
wishes to be able to talk to Allaah The Exalted, can simply pray. Dear
parent and educator, you should teach your child how to perform
ablution; you can perform ablution in front of him several times, and
then ask him to perform ablution before you so that you can correct
his mistakes.
In fact, when the child masters ablution, the father should encourage
him by offering him some sort of reward, or a piece of candy as an
encouraging gesture so as to urge him to continue. However, if he
makes a mistake in performing ablution, the father should not scold or
reprimand him, instead he should correct him nicely. In fact, numerous
Companions have adopted the same method in teaching the Taabi'oon
(Followers) how to perform ablution correctly. Thus, the virtue of
ablution would take root within the child's heart. The Prophet said:
~"If the Muslim performs ablution, his sins will get out from his
ears, eyes, handsand feet; and as he finishes (i.e. performing
ablution) and sits, he will be forgiven."~~ [Al-Albaani: Saheeh]
Hence, the child would learn that whenever he wants to purify himself
physically and psychologically, he can perform ablution.
• Teach him through representation:
A parent or a teacher should startteaching his child how to pray after
he is taught how to perform ablution. The first stage in this process
is for the father topray before his child duly while observing
Khushoo' (submission);since the first stage of learning is observation
for several times before the child gets used to performing its due
movements, ifthe child has not yet reached the age of distinction.
However, when he reaches the age of sevenyears and is able to
comprehend, he should be instructed to perform the prayer with its
pillars and acts of Sunnah. Moreover, when the child performs his
first obligatory prayer correctly, the parent should offer him a big
reward; sothat prayer would be associated with reward in his heart,
and as he grows older and reaches puberty, he would come to knowthat
the real and big reward in the Hereafter is Paradise.
Moreover, when the child reachesthe age of ten, he should be made to
perform the prayers regularly, and if he is negligent, he should be
reproved, then threatened, then rebuked and reprimanded severely, then
the father can hit his child for what he has been negligent of in
termsof performing the due acts of worship. In fact, the parent should
resort to corporal punishment only after trying all other parenting
methods of punishment.
Dear parents, let us instill love forprayer into our children at an
early age by allocating a special outfit for prayers for the girl, or
allocating a prayer mat for the boy. - - ▓███▓ Translator:->
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