last ten years, praise be to Allah. I pray and fast, butevery time I
propose to awoman, it fails…I want to fornicate! I want to fornicate!
I want to fornicate! I supplicate but there is no response,what do I
do? I cannot take it.
Praise be to Allaah.
First:
We will be frank with you just as you were frank with us; have you
written to us for permission to fornicate?!We do not have the power to
grant anyone permission to sin againstAllah; and do you want us to
issue a verdict making that major immorality permissible?! No Muslim
can do that; fornication/adultery is one of the major sins forwhich
Allah has prescribed punishment by lashing or stoning to death. There
are also other rulings such as onenot being allowed to marry a
fornicator until he repents and the perpetrator of such a sinhas been
threatened with a severe punishment in the hereafter. The Prophet (may
the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) informed us of some of
the punishments; Allah gathers the fornicators/adulterers in Hell in a
naked state and the flames of the fire reach them and the great cries
of their voices are heard.So we possess no authority to grant
permission for such an immorality nor can we issue a verdict which
would allow such an immorality.
Second:
We promised to be frankwith you as you were with us; so let's assume
that the one who reached this stage of desperation and hardship was
your sister or your mother – may Allah forbid – and she wished to do
as you do, what would your position be toward such a wish and request?
We know your response andaren't waiting for it – weare simply bringing
yourattention to the repulsiveness of what you are requesting.
Leave it and look at something else; there may be many youth out there
with the same desire to fornicate and they might be respectable like
yourself,and they are desperate and can't stand it any longer and the
woman they wish to fornicate with happens to be yoursister or your
mother (may Allah forbid); so what do you say to that?We know your
response to this as well and are not waiting for it. So know that if
we were to permit this immorality for you, we would have to permit the
very same for your sister or motherand if we were to permitthis
immorality for you, we would also have to permit others to do it with
your sister or mother and there is no way this pure Sharee'ah
(religious law) would allow such a thing. The honour of your sister
and mother is preserved by the sharee'ah and protected by the Divine
rulings. Whoever transgresses them will face the evil consequences and
punishment in this world and the next. Do you see how this pure
sharee'ah came to preserve and protect your family's honour? Sohow do
you expect us to desecrate the honour of women and say to you: "do it
and there's no objection"?
This example we have given you was given by the best and most
honourable of people and the one who was most knowledgeable of his
Lord, the Exalted; he was the Prophet (may the peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him). He said it to a youth whocame to him requesting
permission to fornicate; he said to him "Are you pleased with it for
your mother? Are you pleasedwith it for your sister?" We hope you
understand that we onlywanted to make you aware of the ugliness and
repulsiveness of what you have asked and desired. The honourof people
is not left open for people to desecrate according to their desires,
rather it is preserved by the pure sharee'ah. The previously mentioned
hadeeth (prophetic narration) along with valuable commentary onit was
mentioned in its entirety in the answer toquestion 52467 .
Third:
Dear questioner, do you think that by committingthe immoral act of
fornication – may Allah protect you from it and purify you of ever
fallinginto it – you will have satisfied your desire andbe at ease? If
you think so then you have made agrave error; rather doing that ugly,
immoralact of fornication is the beginning of bitter consequences in
this world and the next. Zina (fornication/adultery) combines the
foundations of evil; lack of religiousness, loss of scrupulousness,
corruption of chivalry, lack of self-respect, betrayal, lack of shame,
lack of self-censorship and no disdain for the unlawful. From the evil
effects is: the anger of the Lord, blackness and darkness of the face,
darkness of the heart and extinguishing of its light, tightening of
the breast and its constriction and much more. We have mentioned the
many consequences in the answer to question number 20983 so please
refer to it.
Fourth:
Dear questioner, let us ask you, why do you pray and fast? We have
agood opinion of you so we figure you will say it's because Allah
ordered you to do so and prohibited you fromleaving it. Similarly we
say to you that Allah, the Exalted, has made it an obligation for you
to protect your private partand forbade for you zina. We don't doubt
for a moment that you believe Allah is watchingyou as you pray and so
you focus during it and are calm and try to pray as your Prophet (may
the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) taught you. Similarly,
Allah, the Exalted, would be watching over you if you were to engage
in that immorality! If your belief that Allah sees youdrives you to
perfect your prayer, then we believe that same belief will drive you
to abstain from committing the immoral act of zina because we think
well ofyou. And we think you know this is not the way to thank your
Lord, the Exalted, for having bestowed upon you the favour of Islam
and for having granted you good health and well-being; this is not the
way you show gratitude for such great favours.
Fifth:
Dear questioner, you failed to realize that if you were to be patient
and anticipate reward from Allah in the face of this desperation and
difficulty you would be rewarded by Allah. This is the way believers
react in the face of difficulty and when good comes their way they are
grateful to theirLord, Mighty and Exalted.Only the believer behaves in
this way; he is patient in times of difficulty and grateful when good
comes to him. You will find the effects of all this – Allah willing –
in terms of full rewards on your scale the day you meet your Lord, the
Exalted, when you will be most in need of even one good deed. See the
answer to question number 71236 for in it you will find an explanation
of how the believer reacts to trials.
Sixth:
You also seem to fail to realize that whatever supplications you made
were not in vain and you are wrong in your claim that they were not
responded to; there are three possibilities in response to one's
supplication: Allah may grant you exactly what you request
immediately, or He may avert an evil/harm from you similar to what you
requested or He may delay that for you in the form of rewards you
willfind when you meet Him. But you thought that realizing your
supplication was only in having your desire fulfilled and so you
claimed that Allah did not answer your prayers,which is undoubtedly a
clear error. As long as one is supplicating to hisLord, he is engaging
in agreat act of worship wherein he shows his need for and humility
before his Creator. One of the most common methods employed by the
shaytan to prevent a slave from du'a (supplication) is to makehim want
immediate results and so he becomes impatient and leaves du'a.
Ibn Battal (may Allah have mercy on him) said:"Some said: A slave only
expects immediate results if his intention behind the du'a is to
attain what he is asking for. So if he does not getwhat he wants, du'a
becomes burdensome for him. A person's intention when making du'a
should be: supplication to Allah, asking of Him, always feeling in
need of Him, never parting from being subservient, feeling the essence
of servitude and being obedient." End quote
For the conditions of theanswered du'a see the answer to question
number 13506. Also see the answer to question number 5113 for those
things which are barriers to having du'a accepted. For some of the
etiquettes of du'a see the answer to question number 36902. And see
the answer to question 22438 for places and times when du'a is
accepted.
Seventh:
After all this, it is as though we hear you saying: "I do not want
tocommit zina." And that iswhat we expect of you as in reality you did
not write us to get permission to commit anact of immorality because
you know with certainty that we do not have that authority. If you
really wanted to do it, you have done so without writing us because we
are not watchers over you and you are not under our rule that you need
to take our permission if you indeed wanted to do this. We are certain
that you just wanted to complain to your brothers about some of what
you are going through and you wanted them to offer some advice and
guidance and admonishment so you would not commit an immoral act. And
here we are standing by you, encouraging you to be patient in the face
of thetrial Allah has sent your way in terms of delay in marriage. And
we congratulate you for safeguarding your religion all these years. We
also believe that you are capable of safeguarding it for longer than
that if you seek the help of your Lord, Exalted and Mighty.
We advise you not to give up hope in the Mercy of Allah, the Exalted,
and to exert an even greater effort in searching for a righteous wife
and to have a stronger connection with your Lord through acts of
obedience and righteous deeds.
We ask Allah to make faith dear to you and beautify it in your heart
and to make disbelief, corruption and sin hatedto you and to place you
among the rightly
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