Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Her husband's desire of divorce is based on false accusations

Assalamu-alikum, married, has 2 kids, my husband accused me of I am
willing to harm him by putting some kind of shyton deeds, such as
poison him with shyton deeds. I never done any of these things he
accused me with and never willing to do, because it is shrike. I
lovemy Allah more than him and I love my Hakira (here after,) may
Allah grated me with his Janna/Haven, that is my only wish. Now he is
willing todivorce me and he already said once "I divorce you" with
something I never done. My question is I still love him and still
willing to keep our marriage for the sake of our little children. I
try to convincehim that I never comment in such sin, but still he is
not willing to accept or believe me. Even though, I have not done such
sin, I don't want him to divorce me because of this reason and I don't
want him to accuse me with it too, because it hurt me so much. Please
give me an advice on what decision Ishould take. Accept his wish or
stay fight for our marriage and make dua for me please, thank you
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad
, is His Slave and Messenger.
It is Islamically established that in principle a Muslim is innocent
of any accusations, and it is an obligation to think good of him
unless the contrary is proven against him. Allaah Says (what means): {
O you who have believed, avoidmuch [negative] assumption. Indeed, some
assumption is sin. } [Quran 49:12] For more benefit, please refer to
Fataawa 92038 and 128834 .
Therefore, if your husband accuses you of something which you
areinnocent of, then he is very wrong especially that this has led him
to being determined to divorce you. This is due to the evil of
negative assumption which mostlyresults in bad consequences.
Hence, we first advise you to supplicate Allaah to rectify your
husband and protect him from theevil of his own self and from the evil
whispers of the devil. Then, you should advise him and remind him of
Allaah andof the seriousness of sucha negative assumption. You should
be keen on showing him the contrary of what he thinks, by respecting
him and being concerned about him and being a good wife to him and so
forth. Also, you may seek the help of some rational and righteous
people if necessary.
As regards divorce, in general it leads to many disadvantages, so one
should not resort to it unless it becomes clear that it is the best
solution. For more details, please refer to Fatwa 86307 .
Finally, it should be mentioned that the saying of a husband to his
wife " I divorce you ", in the present tense, doesnot lead to divorce
unlesshe had intended.

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