Sunday, November 25, 2012

Is it obligatory for him to migrate from the West when his mother and family need him?

I need some good advice. Praise be to Allah, I am in a situation where
it is possible for me to go to the Kingdomof Saudi Arabia and
fulfilthe obligation of Hajj. I have two master's degrees and also a
bachelor's in teaching English as a foreign language, and the Kingdom
of Saudi Arabiawill accept me as an English-language teacher, in sha
Allah. I have got some good offers and I am about to leave.
But my mother is ill with fourth stage cancer and my father travels a
great deal for his work. I have younger brothers and a sister, but
they are very young and cannot help my mother and meet herneeds. My
mother loves my wife and my child and she wants to be always near
them, but my mother does not want to live in Saudi Arabia; she wants
to complete her treatment here in the USA, and she hates "the Arab
race"! I do not want to live in the USA more than that, because I fear
for my religious commitment. If I stay I will work in a mixed high
school whichis a source of fitnah (temptation). I am very anxious
because they could prevent me from praying Jumu'ah. There is a Muslim
community very near my family (Masjid at-Tawheed in Atlanta), but I do
not want to live in the West any more. I also have a debt (student
loan) that Ihave repay and I know that it will be impossible to pay it
in this country, but in Saudi Arabia I maybe able to save money insha
Allah.
What should I do?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We ask Allah to make you and your family steadfast in adhering to
Islam and to enable you to obey Him. The one who is able to adhere to
his religion in these days– especially in the West –is like one who is
holding onto a hot coal. You have to fear Allah in secret and in
public, and hasten to do good. Ask Allah a great deal to make you
steadfast and Allah will help you and protect you.
The Muslim has to migrate for the sake of his religion from the lands
of kufr and shirk. This life is very short andno one knows when his
time will be up and death will come to him.
It was narrated that Jareer ibn 'Abdullah said:The Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "I have nothing to do
with any Muslim who settled among the mushrikeen."
Narrated by at-Tirmidhi, 1604; Abu Dawood, 2645. Classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi.
For more information onthis topic, please see the answer to question no. 27211 .
What appears to be the case is that there is nothing wrong with
youremaining in that country, at least during this period, until your
mother's treatment is over or you convince herto move with you, or
sheno longer needs to have you beside her. That will fulfil a number
of purposes, in sha Allah, namely:
1. Pleasing your mother, which is in accordance with Islamic
teachings to treat one's mother kindly, take care of her and honour
her. Allah says (interpretationof the meaning): "And your Lord has
decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you bedutiful to your
parents. If one of them or both ofthem attain old age in your life,
say not to thema word of disrespect, norshout at them but address them
in terms ofhonour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and
humility through mercy, and say: My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as
they did bring me up when I was small" [al-Isra' 17:23-24].
2. Being in charge of treatment for your mother. Perhaps you
willnot be able to find anyone who could take care of her and look
after her affairs except yourself, and perhaps your absence would make
her grief, pain andsickness even worse. This action is a kind of
jihad. It was narrated that 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said: A man came to the
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and asked him for
permission to go for jihad. He said: "Are your parents alive?" He
said: Yes. He said: "Then your jihad is with them." Narrated by
al-Bukhaari,2842; Muslim, 2549.
3. Your staying is also in the best interests of your younger
brothers and sisters, because theyneed constant care and advice. They
are far removed from temptation at present, and they need someone to
teach them to adhere to righteousness and chastity.
With regard to what yousaid about the debts thatyou owe, whoever gives
up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will compensate him with
something better than it.Allah, may He be exalted,says (interpretation
of the meaning):
"And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a
way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
3. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And
whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him"
[al-Talaaq 65:2-3].
See also the answers to questions no. 5046 , 169551
Secondly:
What matters is not the amount of money; rather it is the barakah
[blessing] that Allah instils in it. If Allah blesses a small amount,
it will suffice you, but if He takes the barakah away from a large
amount, you will be poor.
You do not have to workin a place in which thereis mixing; rather try
to find work in an Islamic centre, for example, or serving the Muslim
community, or other types of work that free of things that are not
allowed.
You should move to the Muslim community that is close to your family,
asyou mentioned. That willbe good for you and for your family.
All of this applies if it is too difficult for you to convince your
mother and father to migrate. If you can do that, then do not hesitate
to leave andmigrate, so as to protect your religious commitment,
yourself and your honour.
There is nothing wrong with your taking them for 'Umrah or Hajj; this
may open the door to good for you and for them. It may make them
change their minds about living in the country and it may change their
opinion about "the Arab race." We ask Allah to choose good for you and
to helpyou to attain it.
And Allah knows best.

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